David Futrelle FAQ

I‘m a freelance writer and blogger living in Evanston, IL, with two awesome cats (pictured below, slightly greasy with eardrop residue).

I’ve been writing on topics ranging from gender and culture to money and technology for more than twenty years.

My writing has appeared in a wide variety of places, among them Broadly, TheCut, Salon,  HuffPost, Time.com, The American Prospect, the Washington Post, the Los Angeles Times, and the New York Times Book Review. I was a staff writer at Money magazine for a number of years.

I was also behind the blog Confused Cats Against Feminism.

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tetragami
tetragami
6 years ago

This might be of interest to you. Another school shooting where a victim refused to date the perpetrator -http://blogs.seattletimes.com/today/2014/10/shooting-reported-at-marysville-pilchuck-high-school/

alapasta
6 years ago

I love this blog to death, but on this page the link in Prospect stops before the T, and it bugs the living hell out of me. Whenever you get a free moment, could you please fix this?

Indie Lipped
6 years ago

Janet Bloomfield on the Cosby rape accusations: http://judgybitch.com/2014/11/21/lets-talk-about-bill-cosby/

grumpyoldnurse
grumpyoldnurse
6 years ago

Note to self; never ever read anything by Janet Bloomfield ever again.

grumpycatisagirl
6 years ago

I gave the same note to myself. It’s a good note.

ghilie
5 years ago

So I was perusing the interwebs this afternoon and one rabbithole led to another until I found this:
http://www.chicagoreader.com/chicago/how-about-a-bookstore-for-men-and-adults/Content?oid=915809
I read this blog every day and I read this article because–I thought–David wrote it, and it was full of stuff that I never thought he would write. Seriously, the bookstore in question sells The DaVinci Code, so it didn’t seem to be catering to the ‘man-hating feminazi’ demographic. The Andrea Dworkin reference/strawfeminist just threw me for a loop, and David describes himself as a “lapsed feminist.” So I guess I am curious–is this the same David Futrelle? If so, has David done a post about the journey from “lapsed feminist” to running a popular feminist blog? I mean, it was written in 2004, and I also have had some very fucked up views of feminism for a very long time, and it has only been recently–within the last few years, actually–that I identify as feminist, and this blog, among others, has been a part of that identification.

ghilie
5 years ago

[quote]But for what it’s worth my time as a “lapsed feminist” didn’t last much beyond the time it took to write that letter to the editor; I was mostly annoyed that the only bookstore for literally miles around (and one that is definitely not a general interest bookstore) was trying to keep other bookstores out of the neighborhood.[/quote]

To me, this sounds like: For what it’s worth, I was angry, and invoking these stereotypes felt like the surest way to hurt them, no matter if they reinforced the sexist status quo.
A couple years ago, some asshat on facebook was calling me a fat ugly spinster (not exactly those words) with a preponderance of cats so I retaliated with what I thought this conservative bro would hate the most: several gay jokes involving him and his father. At the time, I thought of myself as an LGBTQ ally. My comments were not, in any circumstance, okay. I am deeply ashamed of what I said. I hope I am a better ally today.
Privilege is a terrible thing, no?

ghilie
5 years ago

No, I wasn’t saying that you said anything as bad as what I said–I suppose I was just disappointed to find the letter and then offered what felt like an excuse. We all make mistakes; I think parsing how we react to those errors is conducive to being a better human. If that makes sense.

Anyway, I do love your blog. Thanks for talking with me; I promise I wasn’t trying to be a jerk. 🙂

scalyllama
5 years ago

David, hi! I don’t know a better way to send this to you, but have you been keeping up with the Gamergate on Wikipedia issue? Seems some eds are about to be banned from modifying that page AS WELL AS other gender issue pages. Guess what? The eds in question are all feminists.

Article here:

http://www.theguardian.com/technology/2015/jan/23/wikipedia-bans-editors-from-gender-related-articles-amid-gamergate-controversy

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
5 years ago

In case that comment above this one wasn’t perfectly, utterly, clear — Wikipedia is going to ban a handful of feminists from editing the GamerGate page and all gender related pages, for the crime of daring to refuse to sit back while the “it’s about ethics in journalism!” people made the GG page support their claim. Basically, dare to point out that this is targeting women for being women, get banned from editing anything gender related on wiki. I’m pissed.

Tsaiah
Tsaiah
5 years ago

Well, at least one thing I’m happy about came from GamerGaters. If it weren’t for all that horrible, dangerous, misogynist crap (and also just plain stupid, but hey, I can deal with and counter stupid without fear), i might’ve never found your blog. Felt the need to send a donation, albeit tiny, if just for the line
“It’s true. Feminism has always been about fucking with hobbyists. Who can forget Mary Wollstonecraft’s famous A Vindication of the Rights of Women to Force Dudes to Play Sissy Facebook Games Like,You Know, Farmville or Some Shit?”
Will send more in the future. Thank you for your blog, and for being an awesome human being!
Also, now I really want to write, or at least for someone to write “AVotRoWtFDtPSFGL,YK,FoSS?” in guise of Mary Wollstonecraft and post it online.

Marie
Marie
5 years ago

I can’t get enough of your blog, thank you for taking a stand against so many uneducated, narrow minded diseases on society! I read your articles every day, and every day I’m proud that somebody isn’t afraid to take the bullets for the overly harassed men and women of feminism. I adore both your writing and your cats!

Sherman
Sherman
5 years ago

Don’t know if you are interested in following the goings of the Canuckleheaded MRAs north of the border

http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/toronto/domestic-violence-against-men-target-of-controversial-campaign-1.2989105

Robert Marks
Robert Marks
5 years ago

“Don’t know if you are interested in following the goings of the Canuckleheaded MRAs north of the border”

(Long time reader of the blog, first time commenting) I’m sorry, but I don’t see what is wrong with what’s in that article.

There are a number of studies, including from the Center for Disease Control, that show that when it comes to domestic violence, men and women are about equally capable of violence against their spouses. As I recall, one CDC study came back with results that around 50% of cases of domestic violence involved both partners being violent with each other (aka, a fight), where one partner lost and went to the hospital, and of the remainder, half of the incidents were committed by men, and the other half by women.

These are credible studies, performed by organizations that do not have a bias. And if the CDC study is correct, tailoring the approach to treatment of domestic violence situations to the “battered woman, abusive man” narrative leaves a full 75% of cases of domestic violence receiving the wrong treatment.

Domestic violence is NOT a gender issue. While there are certainly MRA groups who might abuse this issue, pointing this out and trying to get people in truly horrifying situations the help they need is NOT misogyny. And, I do feel the need to point out that the head of the organization in the article specifically acknowledges that violence against women by men happens, and is trying to draw attention to the another side that does not tend to get talked about.

thealterblog
5 years ago

Hi,
So our friend JB just posted this, thought you might be interested: http://judgybitch.com/2015/03/22/david-futrelle-used-to-be-a-mens-rights-activist-yep/

ej
ej
5 years ago

@thealterblog

Wow. That is something pretty special. Apparently, suggesting a general interest bookstore (when the only other option is targeted to women) makes you an MRA. Who knew?

thealterblog
5 years ago

Isn’t it? You learn something new everyday. And I hope you didn’t miss that post that compared you to a serial killer. You know, I think jb’s hopes of becoming a novelist may not be completely absurd. She really should dedicate her life to writing fiction!

Jarnsaxa
Jarnsaxa
5 years ago

A *lot* of feminists used to have a few stupid opinions on gender issues, so even if he had been a real MRA, I can’t really see that it would make a difference.

I know I’ve said things in the past that have made me cringe, and a lot of people here are fairly open about having once upon a time been fairly misogynistic.

thealterblog
5 years ago

I know what you mean. Our opinions and thoughts are conditioned by culture. It takes a hard look in the mirror to realise where we may be wrong. I used to buy into a lot of this victim blaming bullshit till well into my teens. I am from India, and even today, there are mainstream debates on how a woman should dress and act in public to avoid rape.
Ironically, it was a movie about a rape case- with graphic and arguably gratuitous rape scenes- that made me question my own assumptions.
The point is, we all go through phases- part of growing up is realigning your worldview every once in a while instead of stubbornly clinging to it in the face of mounting evidence to the contrary. Or as a lot of MRAs do, distorting facts to fit your own perspective.
And all this is if David even was an MRA at any point of time. Nothing jb has cited supports really proves anything. But then the woman has a penchant for lying to get attention.

ej
ej
5 years ago

I definitely agree. We all change and saying something 10 years ago does not mean that you still believe it or would say it now.

I actually wrote a short letter to the editor in my college newspaper (about 10 years ago), part of which was about having the choice to have or not have sex. Looking back on it, I can now see how much I was slut-shaming. I blame part of that on abstinence only sex ed, but most of it is on me for not respecting other people’s choices. I bought into the bullshit I was taught without thinking about it for myself. Thankfully, I’ve grown up since then and no longer accept things at face value.

Nothing jb has cited supports really proves anything.

This is the really important thing. Nothing stated there really identifies Davidas an MRA. She’s looking for clicks. So, here’s a DoNotLink for anyone who wants to read the post without helping her.
http://www.donotlink.com/e7z8

thealterblog
5 years ago

Also it just occurred to me that this post of hers comes close in the heels of David’s recent article where he lashes on one of her crackpot solutions.

thealterblog
5 years ago

@david I understand, and I’m sure your regular readers all do. You’re not the one we’re judging here.

Inger Hellstrom
5 years ago

David, Do you still love people who cook up “theories that will provide a schema for eradicating every last atom of patriarchy from the planet by any means necessary?” Which is what I read on your website a few years ago and told myself I had to follow up.
If you do, I’d love to know if you’ve found any such schema or part of one.

I much appreciate your work and its purpose.

All the best,
Inger

Alan Robertshaw
Alan Robertshaw
5 years ago

^^^^^^

#notallsmallpoxviruses

if4dancers
5 years ago

More goodies!

Huff Post blogger writes awesome open letter to Rooshus Vhrist.

Comments section is like idiot ping pong with 1000 balls simultaneously in play.

Rooshus had apparently also responded on his page saying the auther wrote it out of a primal desire for him. Vomit.

http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/lauren-messervey/roosh-v_b_7104250.html

Vix
Vix
5 years ago

I recently saw these stickers where I live https://twitter.com/BlackBeard20096/status/589110702301913088
Why do they link to antimisandry .com?
There’s also this http://www.cmhahamilton.ca/ ( which mentions Dan Perrins and links directly to the Cafe website). Something just bugs me about spreading hatred and misogyny under the guise of supporting mental health . . . seems exploitative.

sunnysombrera
5 years ago

@Vix
It’s not below them to do that. After all, AVFM are still trying to imitate the White Ribbon charity, with the hopes of usurping it, by claiming that the original is a fraud and THEY are the One True Anti-Violence Charity.

MRAs since then have denied that AVFM is trying to steal funds by posing as the genuine White Ribbon charity, but it’s pretty clear they’re trying to muscle the real deal out of the way when you have a look at their banner:
http://www.avoiceformen.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2014/10/whiteribbonorg-468×60.gif

“There is only ONE whiteribbon.org.”

Vix
Vix
5 years ago

@sunnysombrera
Thanks for your response. I guess I really shouldn’t be surprised. It’s disgusting that they are doing that with the white ribbon. Just ugh… no. I face-palmed so hard I think I broke something in my hand.

As for the stickers, I think a distress centre (e.g COAST) number or suicide prevention line would have been logical and helpful . . . but of course, we aren’t dealing with people who are logical or helpful. It’s just another example of them trying to blame women and not actually caring about the mental health of men. Pathetic.
I just wonder if CMHA looked into this dude. My guess is probably not….

Quartzok-43
Quartzok-43
5 years ago

I for one am thankful for all the lulz your blog exposes to us viewers.

Hamzah
Hamzah
5 years ago

Loving your work! Gonna tell all friends confused about feminism to come visit this blog!

Robert Marks
Robert Marks
5 years ago

How about some good news when it comes to gender relations, for a change? I recently took a look at women in magic (not the card game) for my Fooling Garwulf column at The Escapist. When I interviewed some established, active professional female magicians to see if there was still gender discrimination, to my surprise and delight, the answer came back as “No, and there hasn’t been for at least a generation.”

So, magic has its act together: http://www.escapistmagazine.com/articles/view/moviesandtv/columns/foolinggarwulf/14305-Penn-Teller-Fool-Us-Episode-2-Review-Recap.2

Stace
Stace
5 years ago

Just found your blog today. I look forward to catching up on articles and sending you snack donations (to mock the badgers) when I’m on my home computer. Well done.

Humberto
Humberto
5 years ago

So far I like your posts David. They’re funny and show some heart. Keep up the good work.

matthewcardierMatt Cardier

You seem to have inspired me. On this Australian edition of the Guardian I found this article http://www.theguardian.com/australia-news/2015/aug/26/facebook-blocks-australian-feminist-anne-summers-from-boosting-post?CMP=ema_632 … and then this comment:

“I think it’s fair enough to ban it on those grounds. I find the bigotry and mental gymnastics required to be a feminist very offensive, although that’s rarely enough to get any feminist ‘speech’ banned unless they use profanity such as in this case. On the other hand, feminists are always pushing (successfully most of the time) to get things *completely* banned e.g. Roosh V’s Canadian tour, Project Harpoon Facebook page etc with or without profanity.

By looking at who generally wins these arguments you’d have to conclude that feminists are firmly part of the establishment, are largely authoritarian, and completely intolerant of any alternative viewpoints.”

To which I replied (and I hope I got my facts right!!)…

“That’s because Roosh and his infantile followers are virtually rape apologists and certainly misogynist grubs. About 30 people turned up to the Canadian fiasco (which was proclaimed as some sort of victory for Roosh) and apparently most of those sad people were ashamed to show their faces. The illogical and infantile denigration of women by Roosh, Elam and other apologists for domestic violence rape that infests certain sewers of Reddit and elsewhere have no place in sane or civilised society. An academic book about the harsh realities of convict era Australia, on the other hand, is probably essential to promote these days. Lack of swearing does not necessarily make something not obscene…”

I’m probably a bit irrational in my response but I have zero tolerance for this crap and even less after recent news from a friend. It’s a toss-up between this and Islamaphobia at the moment, which is rife here at the moment..

alternatesteve90
5 years ago

Hi Dave. Are you going to cover the upcoming GG blitz attack on Sarah Butts? I’m afraid that that dirtbag Milo Yiannopoulos and crew are about to go all out on this…..=(

Joel
Joel
5 years ago

Over at the NY Times, there’s a story on the Afghan army raping young boys. The comments section has a ton of MRA taking points being spouted. I saw words like Feminazi and Misandry being thrown around. The comments section is closed but still is all there. http://mobile.nytimes.com/2015/09/21/world/asia/us-soldiers-told-to-ignore-afghan-allies-abuse-of-boys.html?referrer=

ignorantianescia
ignorantianescia
5 years ago

David, have you seen you have had a probable impersonator (since banned) on Wikipedia?

Vdot
Vdot
5 years ago

Hot tip: Toronto coffee shop is showing really terrible, political ‘art’ from a guy on trial for harassment and stalking (and if he’s not an MRA he sure references them a lot and is on their side).

The best part is their response is so terrible and coded misogyny. Plus their supporters are all in the UK and Australia – whereas the women who have the problem (the same ones who saw the Jian Ghomeshi affair play out last year, with much of the same rhetoric) are actual patrons or potential patrons.

https://www.facebook.com/permalink.php?story_fbid=1000896516599062&id=111819535506769&pnref=story

sterre
sterre
5 years ago

I don’t know how to submit suggestions, but this guy and his ideas about women are pretty repellent and maybe worth covering. For example, here’s an article about how a husband can enjoy sex with his wife after he’s pressured her into having sex with him and she won’t even fake enthusiasm: http://biblicalgenderroles.com/2015/10/18/how-a-husband-can-enjoy-sex-that-is-grudgingly-given-by-his-wife/

Covered In Cat Hair
Covered In Cat Hair
2 months ago

Why, why are all the comments in the palest of pale gray type? I literally cannot read them! The same font in black would be readable, though one size up might make things easier.

Alan Robertshaw
Alan Robertshaw
2 months ago

@ covered in cat hair

I had the same thing, but ‘dark mode’ sorted it. Try clicking the little crescent moon button thingy.

(Although shouldn’t that then turn into the Sun or something as it’s now a light mode button?)

weirwoodtreehugger: chief manatee
weirwoodtreehugger: chief manatee
15 days ago

I’m not David, but yes, incels are definitely part of the manosphere. There’s a ton of overlap between incels and those other groups.