Just your typical discussion of sex on the Men Going Their Own Way subreddit, and a reminder that women won’t be missing out much if these guys really do go their own way.
I apologize for ruining your lunch with thoughts of MGTOWs actually trying to have sex.
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They think about other men’s output more than any of the gay men I’ve ever known.
So… maybe?
Can we get an official licensed WHTM set of patri-dishes?
@Alan: well, you lot don’t half think of yourselves highly, do you? 🙂
I have to say, as a woman with small hands and arthritis in them, I haven’t missed handshakes this past year AT ALL.
@Redsilk: I think you’re right about him.
I LOL a lot at the time at Lawyer Cat, and speculated that someone in his office had done that to him deliberately. Came out the next day that he’s an asshole, so probably.
I look away for a day and come back to so many fun comments! I love this site.
Battering Lamb, I’m not sure if it was sarcasm or badly-done puns/wordplay, but yes, I was trying to joke. Though as Full Metal Ox’s awesome link showed, apparently the patri-dishes DO exist!
Buttercup, thank you for the table-laying reminder. Also, on which side of the plate does the high-society feminist place the smashin’ hammer? I always forget that detail, and as you know it’s such a social faux pas; one never really recovers from the embarrassment…
@Lumipuma,
? Stealing this reason, thanks! I’m sure it will go over much better than any other reason I might offer!
Now I’m hungry for oranges.
If these chuds are so disgusted by women’s bodies, why don’t they just go their own way already?
What gets me is how many straight cis men really want to be blown and how little respect they have for women who will blow them. Even putting aside how the act is used as an insult (“cocksucker”, “suck a big pile of dicks”) when discussing fellatio it becomes very clear how many consider it degrading and dirty and a woman who would take a penis into her mouth is beneath contempt.
All that aside, what do the guys above do when they have to poop in a public bathroom? That’s basically going butt to butt with another man!
@Tabby: That, yes. ‘Oral for me but not for thee’ or something. As for the toilet seats, maybe that is why France has those squatting toilets?
@Bookworm: My guess was a joke yes, but then someone went and showed patri dshes were a thing and I got confused. No biggie. 🙂
@Batering lamb : never seen such a toilet in France. IIRC they are called turkish toilet in France, and … don’t have a good reputation either.
And indirect kiss seem much sweeter than indirect stroke or indirect B2B indeed !
@Ohlman
Seen a couple south of Lyon – one in a bar in Orange, one in a cheap hotel around there somewhere too. It were about 30 years back though. Confused the hell out of the kids.
Folks, I have a VERY O/T question for you. Sorry for the thread derail; you’re all more tech-savvy than me and I figured you’d be good to ask. I’ll try to keep it as short as possible.
I logged on to my FB last night (after weeeeeeeeks not on), and in my Activity Log saw lots of things like “Bookworm replied to [Random Name’s] comment” and “Bookworm liked [Random Name’s] post”. But…all the “Random Names” were people not in my FB friends, and who in fact I don’t even know at all. I didn’t recognize a single one of the names. I also couldn’t view any of these likes/comments.
I did the security check-thing and got FB to remove any “unusual activity”, ie all those likes/comments, and I changed my password and a bunch of passwords on other things.
So my questions are: 1. Was I hacked? But nothing else on my FB was changed, nor were any of my actual FB friends messaged/liked/replied to. And 2. Given that I changed my password, should I do any other safety measures?
Again, sorry to derail! Thanks for your patience. Technology scares me (no seriously it gives me literal anxiety attacks), and I never know if my responses are overreacting or underreacting or what. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated! ?
Oh, to add: all those likes/comments were from a couple days that I 100% definitely wasn’t on FB (lol, I’m on so rarely that I usually say I “don’t have FB”, because that’s really more accurate!)
@Bookworm
Download and run Malwarebytes on your computer. Sounds like you got malwared.
@Bookworm look like a malware using your account for advertising. So disinfect your computer. (I would reinstall it entirely, but I am both more tech savvy and paraoind than average)
If the password you use for facebook is the same as anything else, change all theses passwords too. At least if the account are at least somewhat important.
Double check if there’s no trace of strange transaction on your bank account, just in case. much easier to get reimbursed when that happen if you catch it early.
Ohlmann and Threp, thank you! I was on an iPad; I assume I can still do malware on that… I will do so asap! ?
It’s totally possible to get malwares on iPad. (I am on linux and sometime I get some linux-compatible malware send my way)
It’s also possible that someone guessed your facebook password and used the account for advertising. Albeit normally Facebook warn you when something like that happen. In which case there’s nothing more to do than change passwords
That being said, it’s adviced to consider the worse case, which is malware infection.
@Bookworm
Yep – Malwarebytes does an iOS version too. There’ll be others out there as well, but that’s the program I’m most familiar with.
(The whole “Apple doesn’t get viruses/malware” thing were a marketing gimmick 20 years back – and it’s not been true for at least that long.)
Thank you so much. I ran malware-blasting stuff on myvvarious devices, so hopefully that will take care of it. No weird banking stuff, so that’s good. I have to say, the idea of someone guessing my password freaks me the fuck out, way more than malware which is at least not personal (does that make sense?)
Anyways, thank you again. I figure I’m as protected as I can be now. I really appreciate your input!
@Bookworm : it’s easier than it seem against most people, and all but impossible against people who try to avoid that.
There’s a bunch of very common passwords. Stuff like dates (people love to put birthday or marriage dates or stuff like that), common words (like “love”), and some permutations. And things like facebook mean you can get the importants date and taste of someone good enough to cut a lot of the option.
Of course, the very simple answer is to have a password who isn’t a date, and isn’t a simple word either. Mine are basically mangled sentences from lyrics of various artists, coupled to the fact I am pretty mum about my preferred songs just about everywhere. But really, sentences are ideal because they are long and easy to memorize for their lengths.
Similarly, if you want to freak out, know that more than one thousand other people have the same credit card pin than you, because there’s only 10.000 such pin and more than 10 millions credit card user. It’s why they fry cards after 3 bad pins, since else finding your pin would be rather fast.
Correct me if I’m wrong, but wouldn’t one expect copious amounts of any fluid to, like, flow back out? That’s why petri dishes have rims and are usually not upside-down when in use.
In any case, this harks back to the olden belief that sexually transmitted things were something that just sprouted into existence inside women who had sex. So logical and very STEM to disregard the germ theory.
@otrame
Well, someone ought to explain him something, but I don’t know if asexuality is it. Not all asexuals are sex-repulsed, so I’d assume that people other than asexuals can be repulsed by some sex acts.
@Masse : yes. Both of the “some people are disgusted by common sex acts” and “almost everyone are disgusted by some niche sex acts” variety exist.
@Bookworm – According to Ms. Manners, the smashin’ hammer goes on top of the plate if it’s a dessert hammer, otherwise it goes on the outside of the glass ceiling. And I hope you get your Facebook issues straightened out! That’s weird and creepy.
Speaking of weird, I love that these men spend half their time lamenting that modern masculinity has become weak and fragile, and the other half of their time making masculinity even more weak and fragile with endless, pointless rules.
Facebook, MRAs, potAYto, poTAHto…
@Bookworm: I think the smashin’ hammer goes above the plate. Because it belongs with the dessert silverware. You eat off the dishes, and then after dessert, you smash. Smashing dishes while people are still eating is rude. At a less-formal dinner, they might be distributed later. For fast food, they go next to the spork. Hope your iPad is de-virused.
@Ohlmann: Someone is working hard for less possible money to write Linux viruses!
@Ohlman: Whenever my family went to France for holidays I would encounter those ‘hole in the ground’ toilets, especially by the highway and at camping sites. Maybe my child-brain overstated their presence in my memories.
Completely OT, but it felt relevant for WHTM:
https://www.themarysue.com/septa-unella-hannah-waddingham/
One of the actors in Game of Thrones was IRL waterboarded as part of a scene (that never made it to broadcasting). She needed therapy and still has a fear of water.
I just… IDK… I spent years telling the straight people in my life that The Show About Women Being Raped seemed really creepy and unkosher, and every time they were all like: “It’s just fiction, it’s not real, stop being such a child.” And now the directors turn out to be as rapey and awful as their show, and like… I’m horrified and disappointed that I was right, but also just holy shit when will people learn. We’ve been shown over and over again that “separating the art from the artist” is a complete crock. We’ve been shown over and over again that men who write scummy men as sympathetic turn out to be scumbags themselves, that men who like to write about women getting raped turn out to be rapists and abusers themselves, etc. etc. ad nauseum. It seems to happen almost without fail. And yet just like with Donald Trump abusing his power, people are always ready with their “OMG this is such a shock!” takes.
No it isn’t. These men already showed you where their values lie, in what they decided was worth putting in writing or on screen. Stop being like Charlie Brown with the football.
(Not y’all on WHTM to be clear, you folks Get It. But just… ugh.)
@Cyborgette
Never seen more than the odd clip of it (when it first started airing I were not quite 6 months dry and it didn’t seem like a terribly good idea to watch a show where roughly every third line in the trailers were “More wine!” 😛 )
Still, not surprised. People really don’t handle any degree of power well, that shit goes to their head faster than any booze or drug. We’ve got checks and balances – of varying degrees of ineffectiveness – for a lot of power situations, but entertainment has always been given a free pass.
Which sucks.