Today in “That’s not how any of this works and also that’s not where the g-spot even is,” I present the following gif, which I found tucked away in the archives of the BadWomensAnatomy* subreddit.
Brace yourself, because this one is quite something.
Click here for the big ten-inch version of this horrible thing.
Clearly this isn’t something put together by a size queen, because a size queen would at least know the basics of her own anatomy. It’s obviously an incel thing, and I have to say I really don’t understand what compels incels to believe (and to try to convince everyone else to believe) that only hyper-endowed Chads can give women any sexual pleasure. I mean, it’s not only not true but it’s also a rather depressing way to think about the world. Incels are weird, man.
*Bad Cis Women’s Anatomy, anyway.
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I have vaginismus and I don’t think I’ve slammed shut this quickly except at the gynecologist. My god.
On a similar track to the IUD issue, a friend of mine is now running a campaign locally to help make gyno procedures less harrowing. Started off with her suing a hospital that gave her some nightmarish treatment (she has vestibulitis and her soecialist doctor instructed to do it under anaesthesia, but at the last moment the hospital decided nope, and, well, as I said, nightmarish), but she’s an activist at heart so she’s going from that to trying to help everyone else. Raising awareness, but also trying to creat better protocols and procefures, perhaps even organising training and conferences and whatnot if there ends up being money for it (might be a pipe dream, but it’s good the ideas are out there).
Anyway, I bring this up because at the moment, this managed to get to a parliament Women’s Issues committee hearing, where she and a couple of other women talked about the problems they’ve had (and those have been some heartbreaking stories), and some hospital higher-ups responded. And that was just… <sigh> I don’t think doctors are evil. I think they work hard to try to help others. But the fact that the general attitude seems to be that gyno exams are always gonna be somewhere on the spectrum between uncomfortable and extremely painful, and that’s it, that’s just how it is, deal with it – I find that harrowing. That even people (men and women) who made it their life’s goal to help women (and AFABs) can just take their pain for granted like that. I really hope that these things will change, that what my friend is doing, and what other activists are doing, can start moving that change forward. For all of us.
@Penny Psmith
If you spend any time at all in large forums dedicated to women and people AFAB, you will see a ton of heartbreaking stories about women told that they just have be troopers about pain. Endometriosis is hardly the only theme, but it seems to be the most common one. A person with endometriosis will talk about how it took 10 years and 4 OBGYNs to get diagnosed and treated, because they are told “periods hurt and you just have to live with it” and the doctor doesn’t look any further. Many of these individuals report being infertile as a result of the untreated endometriosis, and that this could have been avoided if their pain had been taken seriously years earlier.
If men experienced debilitating abdominal pain once a month, this would be taken very seriously indeed! There would be tons of research done into how to spare them, no matter how “natural” the pain is. But women and other people with uteri are just expected to deal, it’s NBD, it’s natural, it’s normal, even when it isn’t.
It’s a subtle effect of the belief that women are overemotional, overreacting hysterical wimps, who complain about nothing, while men are stoic so any complaint they make MUST be very very serious indeed.
@Dormousing_It: What kind of swimming did you do? I ask because a colleague of mine is completely blind and swam in de Paralympics back in the 90s (2 bronze medals). It does usually involve a measure of assistance, but in a pool he is familiar with he’s usually fine because he knows how many strokes it takes before he has to turn. Since you mention snorkeling that’s probably gonna be more difficult, but working with a lot of people with different visual impairments I have been amazed at what kinds of sports or hobbies they have that I would have considered impossible. It would be a pity to stop something you really enjoy when there could be measures that can help. Assuming one is comfortable with such assistance, of course, which is another matter entirely (it took me 15 years before I accepted using a cane was a good idea, for instance).
Re IUD insertion: I’m on my second IUD right now. The first insertion was horrible and apparently I went pale enough that they were nervous I was going to pass out. I barely made it from my car to my apartment afterwards – luckily I had my now husband to practically carry me back.
For the second one, I had a much better gyno who made it less horrible. But it was still a horrible experience. The worst part was definitely the dilation of the cervix and the removal of the previous one.
I think the graphic is a poor attempt at drawing the cervix moving due to arousal. But that doesn’t move the whole uterus. And 10 inches is just not anatomically realistic…
@PoM: Yeah, that’s definitely something that came up.
Also related, a friend recently shared the perhaps useful fact that Viagra is apparently very good at alleviating menstrual pain. It was found out in the tests done where they also found out it helped with ED (after initially it was meant for blood pressure), guess what they ended up going with…
It’s such a recurring theme. It’s sad and enraging that we have to deal with an attitude where our pain just does not count – and to then be called hysterical (which, considering the etymology of the word, is either appropriate or completely inappropriate) when we try to point it out. At that committee hearing, pretty much all the women talking felt the need for some kind of disclaimer about how they actually they know what pain is, they went through [insert non-gyno horrific thing] and they are not exaggerating.
Personally, I had luck with gyno issues. No painful problems, and the doctors I met have been fine. But to know that if in the future I might need to have some procedure and might be completely disregarded like that, and even just to know what others go through… Oof.
Be careful out there.
There is a really disturbing Nazi/MRA sit called Eradicate and I think I have linked it before. They are even worse than Stormfront.
(Trigger Warning-very hateful stuff about accelationism and veiled threat of violence.)
https://archive.vn/eWuWu
I have endometriosis, so a lot of stuff in there is covered with scar tissue. The big one looks so painful
@Dormousing_it
Don’t feel to envious about it. I’ve always loved swimming and was able to float on water like I was laying on a bed. This is because I had Juvenile osteoporosis that made my bones very porous. We didn’t even know I had it until much later. Its the reason my body can’t take the brunt of ballet like it use to and one of the reasons i teach it today. Swimming not only relevels the pain but ironically enough osteoporosis gave me an advantage with swimming.
@Anon-Get-It-On:
Re your warnings for the Eradicate site, I’d also note a gratuitous and extremely graphic scatological image.
Porn is weird. Particularly animated porn, unconstrained as it is by the need to follow reality. I suppose you could say that it’s a testament to the human imagination that people can get aroused by portrayals which they know are fake and impossible, but then you encounter people who appear to genuinely believe that the female body is like a D&D bag of holding, or a tardis.
@Battering Lamb: Swimming in the ocean, or in a lake, is hard for me. I’m afraid I’m going to collide with other people, or with obstacles in the water, and it’s hard to judge distances. I’m afraid I’ll go too far out. Not to mention, at the beach, it’s hard for me to find my beach towel or blanket, once I’m out of the water. I need a companion with me, pretty much at all times. Time for Lasik surgery!
Let’s not forget that there’s still a great deal of uncertainty as to whether or not the G-spot even exists. Oh sure, there’s plenty of anecdotal evidence about but nobody’s actually been able to pinpoint its location or anything that would differentiate it from the rest of the vagina.
Also, for what it’s worth I know of a few cervix-owners who say that stimulation there turns them on, but I’m led to believe they’re exceptions to the rule.