“IncelExit” is a small subreddit devoted to helping those who’ve fallen into the incel rabbit hole and who are looking for “support and help with a pathway out.” It brings together “normies” who want to help with incels actually willing to listen to advice — a rarity in most incel communities, where every proposed solution is denounced as a “cope” or worse.
Some of the most inspiring posts and comments in IncelExit come from incels or almost-incels who have managed to figure out their own way out. I ran across this one during a recent visit to the subreddit:
I think he’s on to something here. There’s no better cure for either the “red pill” and the “black pill” than an understanding of what life is really like for women in our society — paying attention to what women say about their lives rather than giving yourself over to red pill fantasies in which every women is riding the “cock carousel” and having sex with a different Chad every night. Those fantasies are only convincing to people who’ve trapped themselves within the thought bubble of the manosphere, where all knowledge or supposed knowledge about women comes from the mouths of other men (and a miniscule number of red pill women.)
The way for men to learn about the real lives of women is to listen to women, not bitter men. And if you listen carefully enough and long enough, you’ll develop empathy — the same empathy that xSeyoo credits for pulling out of the incel morass. Men have problems just as women do, but they are hardly the most persecuted creatures on planet earth.
Looking through his comment history on Reddit, I see that in the month since he posted this comment he’s actually found himself a girlfriend, so he’s no longer even an “incel by definition.” Indeed, his rejection of incel logic has enabled to do what most incels would consider impossible at his age. I wish him the best.
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