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Dude is pissed that his girlfriend wouldn’t hypothetically trade her vagina in for a penis

Even the inventor of penis envy would be baffled by this one

By David Futrelle

Today’s bit of weirdness comes from the online cringe warehouse known as the Am I the Asshole (AITA) subreddit. It’s a post from a woman who says her boyfriend threw a tantrum because she told him she wouldn’t (hypothetically) trade her vagina in for a penis.

Because this is the sort of thing some people argue about, I guess.

AITA for telling my boyfriend I don't want a penis? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 4 months ago * by MindlessReply

This whole argument is really weird to me. Basically, I'm on my period and my boyfriend said offhand he was glad he didn't have to deal with that and said something along the lines of, "I bet you wish you had a dick." To which I responded, "no, not really."

He seemed kind of taken aback by that and pressed the issue of exactly why I did not want to have a dick and I basically told him male genitals seemed really uncomfortable and awkward to possess, like I don't want some meat and a nut sack just chillin in my britches. Hard pass. He got weirdly offended by this and said I was being sexist??? I told him that I observe him scratching his nuts or rearranging his junk multiple times a day and that it would make me crazy if I had to constantly attend to my genitals like that. He got so mad about this to the point he stormed off to let me "think about" why what I said was so upsetting.

I don't get it though? Not 5 minutes earlier he was trashing vaginas and periods, but that's okay, for reasons? Y'all help me out lmao

EDIT: It's funny y'all keep mentioning Freud. My boyfriend is studying psychology and actually obsessed with Jung. Like y'all know that post about that guy who was obsessed with Jordan Peterson to the point his girlfriend left him? He's that level obsessed with Jung.

He’s obsessed with Jung, you say? You know who else is obsessed with Jung? Jordan Peterson. I’d bet anything that Mr. Boyfriend is a secret Peterson stan. (I mean, assuming he’s real; this is Reddit, after all.)

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theluckyfrog
theluckyfrog
5 years ago

Vaginas don’t cause periods, uteruses cause periods. If I could trade that for a less problematic organ I might do it.

Nequam
Nequam
5 years ago

There are times when for urinating purposes I think it’d be an advantage, but that’s about it.

KindaSortaHarmless
KindaSortaHarmless
5 years ago

Well, if she had a penis, he’s probably leave her, so that’s another plus.

Naglfar
Naglfar
5 years ago

This doesn’t belong on AITA. It belongs on a new subreddit called IMBTA (Is My Boyfriend The Asshole) to which the answer is almost always yes. Of course, it would be mostly full of those unfortunate enough to date Jordan Peterson fans. Or Jung fans, but I haven’t heard as much about those.

Mexican Hot Chocolate
Mexican Hot Chocolate
5 years ago

So, basically he took what should have been a lighthearted conversation really seriously and had a hissy fit about it. And they say women are overly emotional ones.

Anonymouse
Anonymouse
5 years ago

Men get so emotional over the smallest thing. I’m not offended when dudes say they don’t want vaginas. Big deal.

Handsome :Punkle Stan: Jack

i think cis people need to read more than freud and jung just my opinion

Weird (and tired of trumplings) Eddie
Weird (and tired of trumplings) Eddie
5 years ago

I liked the part where O.P. said “you know this whole argument is really weird…”

Moggie
Moggie
5 years ago

Don’t disrespect the mighty peen!

Snowberry
Snowberry
5 years ago

Psst, dude, strapons.

Or, I suppose, futanari erotica/porn. Just stay away from the more problematic elements. She still has every right to refuse, to be involved with either of those, or you, though.

(Disclaimer: Yes, I know it isn’t necessarily a repressed fetish thing, and if anything it’s more likely to be a insecurity-about-masculinity thing which came out weird.)

Silly-bollocks
Silly-bollocks
5 years ago

Man, people are weird. Oof.

Talonknife
Talonknife
5 years ago

I mean, I personally prefer my male reproductive system to a female one, but that’s probably because I’m a cis dude and prefer my anatomy to match my gender identity? I think both are roughly equally impractical, just in different ways. One isn’t really better than the other.

Amy E
Amy E
5 years ago

I would actually be intrigued to know why the boyfriend was so offended by that. Unless he’s just gaslighting her and creating drama for the sake of making her feel bad…yeah, that’s probably it.

Rabid Rabbit
Rabid Rabbit
5 years ago

You know, I can believe in the existence of penis envy. It’s just that it has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with penis-havers having a bit of an easier time peeing in the bushes or avoiding contact with public toilets*. And, of course, as one non-penis-haver friend of mine once told me, being able to aim without doing acrobatics if you want to pee on someone’s car without climbing onto it.

* Assuming you’re just urinating, of course. If you actually have to sit down, the odds of contact get much higher if you have dangly bits.

Julie
Julie
5 years ago

I mean yikes…

Being a girl with a penis is kinda awful for me. I mean mileage may vary but this guy sounds like the kind to leave a trans woman if she dares to have bottom surgery.

KindaSortaHarmless
KindaSortaHarmless
5 years ago

@Talonknife

On the one hand, the female system has everything inside, so it’s less unwieldy, but mine’s pretty small anyway, so I basically have that benefit without having the monthly blood and cramps and nausea.

Naglfar
Naglfar
5 years ago

Or maybe his current girlfriend (the OP) could dump his sexist, insecure ass and he could date a trans woman that has a penis. Then she’s happy because she doesn’t have a relationship with a sexist idiot and he’s happy because he has a girlfriend with a penis.
Actually disregard all that, he’s a Peterson stan. I believe I recall Peterson being transphobic, so I guess this guy can’t date trans women either. Well then, he could always date cis men. Oh wait, Jordan Peterson is a homophobe too. Damnit Jordan, you keep cockblocking this random guy!

Bina
Bina
5 years ago

Been having periods for nearly 40 years now; still don’t want a dong instead. Also been reading psychology for over 30 years. Jung wasn’t a penis-envy proponent; that was Freud, with whom Jung broke ranks for reasons rather understandable.

And why would she want a dick? She’s got HIM, hasn’t she?

Axecalibur: Middle Name Danger
Axecalibur: Middle Name Danger
5 years ago

Guarantee if the question were reversed, he wouldn’t be nearly as chill about it as homegirl here. No matter the circumstance either. Just kicked in the dangles, worked up some thigh grime, prostate starts acting up, that terrible post ejaculatory trip to the lil bois room…

GF: ‘Oof, must be a pain. Dontcha wish you could trade in your plug for a socket?’
BF: *reflexively grabs fedora while melting down into colossal mantrum*

Moggie
Moggie
5 years ago

Makes me wonder whether the fragility of the male ego is related to the fragility of the dangly bits. Maybe we should evolve armoured junk.

Naglfar
Naglfar
5 years ago

@Moggie
Or be like cetaceans and retract it into genital slits.

Phaos
5 years ago

While sometimes fun to, um, engage with, personally I kinda find my own penis pretty unwelcome (to the point that I try very, very hard to be nude as little as possible lest I see it). 1/10 would trade in for its converse.

Silly-bollocks
Silly-bollocks
5 years ago

I would totally trade my penis in for a pair of Converse. Maybe a pair of vintage pre 1970’s. ☺️

anon
anon
5 years ago

I dont want a dick but often when the ol vulva is itchy or something I do envy how freely men can itch and adjust.

Robert
Robert
5 years ago

While I don’t have a lot of fondness for “A Course in Miracles*”, there was one bit that seemed useful that I’ve held onto. The gentle admonition, ‘beware of the temptation to believe yourself unfairly treated’. The aggrieved penis-haver in the OP would certainly benefit from that.

*It entered my life courtesy of my first husband.

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