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Dude is pissed that his girlfriend wouldn’t hypothetically trade her vagina in for a penis

Even the inventor of penis envy would be baffled by this one

By David Futrelle

Today’s bit of weirdness comes from the online cringe warehouse known as the Am I the Asshole (AITA) subreddit. It’s a post from a woman who says her boyfriend threw a tantrum because she told him she wouldn’t (hypothetically) trade her vagina in for a penis.

Because this is the sort of thing some people argue about, I guess.

AITA for telling my boyfriend I don't want a penis? (self.AmItheAsshole)

submitted 4 months ago * by MindlessReply

This whole argument is really weird to me. Basically, I'm on my period and my boyfriend said offhand he was glad he didn't have to deal with that and said something along the lines of, "I bet you wish you had a dick." To which I responded, "no, not really."

He seemed kind of taken aback by that and pressed the issue of exactly why I did not want to have a dick and I basically told him male genitals seemed really uncomfortable and awkward to possess, like I don't want some meat and a nut sack just chillin in my britches. Hard pass. He got weirdly offended by this and said I was being sexist??? I told him that I observe him scratching his nuts or rearranging his junk multiple times a day and that it would make me crazy if I had to constantly attend to my genitals like that. He got so mad about this to the point he stormed off to let me "think about" why what I said was so upsetting.

I don't get it though? Not 5 minutes earlier he was trashing vaginas and periods, but that's okay, for reasons? Y'all help me out lmao

EDIT: It's funny y'all keep mentioning Freud. My boyfriend is studying psychology and actually obsessed with Jung. Like y'all know that post about that guy who was obsessed with Jordan Peterson to the point his girlfriend left him? He's that level obsessed with Jung.

He’s obsessed with Jung, you say? You know who else is obsessed with Jung? Jordan Peterson. I’d bet anything that Mr. Boyfriend is a secret Peterson stan. (I mean, assuming he’s real; this is Reddit, after all.)

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Lumipuna (nee Arctic Ape)
Lumipuna (nee Arctic Ape)
1 year ago

I love “Dick For A Day”, because many of the stories are either hilariously funny, or beautiful prose, or just plain weird. And no, I don’t get the point either.

The book is from 1990s and totally lacks trans women’s perspective. As for trans men, IIRC, at least Pat Califia later came out as a man.

Lumipuna (nee Arctic Ape)
Lumipuna (nee Arctic Ape)
1 year ago

I mean, just LOOK at the damned thing! If that’s not worth a laugh or two, I don’t know what is.

Speaking of hilariously funny, you all should try sometime posing a male crotch as a mock “face” with a pair of sunglasses. It’s amazing.

Rabid Rabbit
Rabid Rabbit
1 year ago

OT, but some mildly good news: A guy who wrote a bestselling “purity culture” manual has now announced that his marriage is over, he’s not really a Christian anymore, and he’s planning to withdraw the book. He also apologized to everyone who’s followed his advice in that book, and specifically to the LGBTQ+ community for having promoted hatred.

It’s always nice when they come to their senses. https://www.theguardian.com/world/2019/jul/29/author-christian-relationship-guide-joshua-harris-says-marriage-over

Victorious Parasol
1 year ago

My snarky side says that I don’t need to personally have a penis. I have a husband with one and therefore I can get the kind of access I want (with his consent, of course) to a penis.

As a person with a uterus, sure, having a period can be a pain, but that’s the great part about reaching pre-menopause. I haven’t had cramps in YEARS, and considering how often I took Motrin in my 20s, I’m happy with my current situation.

AsAboveSoBelow
AsAboveSoBelow
1 year ago

Joshua Harris withdrew I Kissed Dating Goodbye a while back. The statement he issued at that time is interesting, and this latest development is VERY interesting. From his Instagram: “I believe with my sister Julian [of Norwich] that, “All shall be well, and all manner of thing shall be well.” Sounds like he’s lost the church, but found Jesus. I wish him the best.

Moggie
Moggie
1 year ago

The thing that jumped out at me from the Joshua Harris story is that he wrote that book when he was 21 years old. Apologies to any 21-year-olds reading this, but if you’re looking for a life-changing philosophy, I think you should probably look for it from someone who has amassed a little more life experience than someone barely old enough to legally drink.

Naglfar
Naglfar
1 year ago

@Moggie
My guess would be that the kind of person who buys this book is not looking for a new philosophy. Rather, they’re looking for support and instructions on a very old philosophy.

Catalpa
Catalpa
1 year ago

I’d certainly love to get rid of my uterus, but I don’t want a penis in trade. Is ‘no genitals whatsoever’ an option on the table? I’d jump at that deal.

Mabret the Virile Maiden
Mabret the Virile Maiden
1 year ago

I’d trade my penis in for a vagina, with or without an attached uterus. Dysphoria, yaaay.

Ledasmom
Ledasmom
1 year ago

As I recall from the last time I read it, “Dick For a Day” is decidedly uneven but there’s some good stuff in there. It’s kind of like the “Alien Sex” collection of short SF – sometimes trivial, sometimes excellent and always damned uncomfortable to read on public transportation.

Lainy
Lainy
1 year ago

This is kind of a funny story but the first time I saw a penis is when I was 14. I laughed a bit because they were not what I was a expecting a penis to look like at all. I’m sure that really helped the ego of the 14 year old boy who’s penis I saw. That’s exactly what everyone wants I’m sure. For the first girl that see’s your dick is to laugh. I did explain to him wants I stopped that there was nothing wrong with it. I just wasn’t expecting a penis to look like a red arrow from a tutorial on video games. I don’t think I hurt his feelings because he didn’t seem upset or said anything. That’s why its a funny story.

Rabid Rabbit
Rabid Rabbit
1 year ago

@Lainy:

Any sensible dude understands the laughter. How could we not? Dicks are objectively ridiculous. They just plain look silly.

Naglfar
Naglfar
1 year ago

@Rabid Rabbit
All body parts are funny if you have the right frame of mind and sense of humor. Though genitals are especially so for societal reasons.

Moon_custafer
Moon_custafer
1 year ago

For several years during my childhood, owing to perusal of many art-history books, I was under the impression that at least *some*penises were leaf-shaped, and it creeped me out.

Skye
Skye
1 year ago

I’m sorry @Moon_custafer, but

For several years during my childhood, owing to perusal of many art-history books, I was under the impression that at least *some*penises were leaf-shaped, and it creeped me out.

is hilarious 😊

I think @Buttercupskullpants got the boyfriend’s mindset right though. Dude can’t accept that penises aren’t istantly acknowledged by everyone as superior to vaginas. No understanding that a person might hate cramps and still be fine with having a vagina

ObSidJag
ObSidJag
1 year ago

Coming a little late 2 this discussion (but absolutely loving the commentary) 2 share my own, er, uhm, TMI memory.

As soon as I figured out my parents were serious about the whole puberty thing (no, really, I thought all that was a decidedly unfunny joke my parents were trying 2 play on me), I wanted 2 stay flat all over: flat like a boy in the chest area & flat like a girl below the waist.

I couldn’t imagine having genitals that might take it upon themselves 2 get hard at the worst possible time, & I damn sure didn’t want breasts.

Essentially, I wanted 2 remain as inconspicuous as possible–yeah, that didn’t happen. I might also add that, sadly, like a lot of posters on this site, I was sexually abused by someone I’d known & trusted since I was about 5. The abuse started just before I turned 11, tragically coincidentally right about the same time Aunt Flo came 2 visit 4 the 1st time, & lasted 4 almost a year.

Me? Issues? Naw, perish the thought! Well, not as many after 6 years of good therapy.

But I feel Buttercup got this 1 spot on: dude thinks his tackle is God’s gift & everyone should realize that.

Now, pardon me, while I go laugh hysterically at his hubris.

BlueNinja
BlueNinja
1 year ago

This sounds like the sort of guy who was entirely convinced that maleness is best and superior and special, a thing to be envied…and then got his feelings hurt when he found out it isn’t true. lol

The same sort as those guys in video games that get upset when a female player corrects him that she’s a SHE, not a he, and then reacts as if he’s insulted at her not wanting to be referred to as a guy.

Side note, sure, periods suck, but getting to “borrow” and enjoy the fun part of his genitals from this side kinda makes up for it. lol

Kelly L.
Kelly L.
1 year ago

For several years during my childhood, owing to perusal of many art-history books, I was under the impression that at least *some*penises were leaf-shaped, and it creeped me out.

Me too! I knew a small amount about how PiV intercourse worked, and thought that must hurt terribly.