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By David Futrelle
So yeah, I’m going to be on Matt Binder’s podcast talking about, you know, all the sort of shit I write about on this blog. If you’re not a regular listener, you may remember Matt as the guy who sort of demolished Paul Elam in a YouTube debate a couple of years back.
Anyway, here’s the info on the podcast (though the “tomorrow” in the tweet is now today), and if you miss it LIVE you can watch/listen to it later as well:
tomorrow @ 1pm ET, i'm hosting a livestream episode of DOOMED with guest @DavidFutrelle! we'll be talking MRAs, incels, & an array of other misogynists!
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— Matt Binder (@MattBinder) May 4, 2018
idli sambar revolution:
But could they be nearly as creative as MST3K, which I remember every time Mr. Thundercock’s name appears on my screen?
Big McLargehuge always gives me a chuckle.
Also Skyboom-Rooster, which I think I saw here, is pretty giggle-worthy.
They could try an improv class
in my experience it’s very difficult to form meaningful connections with people when you’re so in your own head with social anxiety. It prevents you from actually paying attention to the person you are trying to talk to.
So yeah… my advice would be, instead of participating in a toxic and hateful online group, take an improv class to gain confidence, get out of your own head, and meet people.
I have very mixed feelings about all these “reaching out” tales, like the KKK one.
They’re heartwarming in a way. But they also set up a narrative that this would work in every case. It’s like having a documentary about someone who exercised their way out of depression. Might work for some, but that doesn’t mean everyone is obligated to try.
They’re just moral ‘rags to riches’ tales really. But they allow people to go “See, if he can do it, anyone can”.
With the implication that not only can people do this; but that people should do this.
@Alan Robertshaw
Kinda reminds me of “person with inspirational disability inspirationaly climbs mount olympus!” which then becomes “Why should I pay taxes so you to sit on your fat ass lazy cripple you can literally do anything with out any kind of help at all if you just boot strap hard enough!”
And deprogramming one person takes months of hard work which is months of radicalizing, recruiting and planning/encouraging attacks by the rest.
I am very willing to reaching out to someone who I think is just wrong and where I can think I can discus with them.
Reaching out to someone who potential wants to murder me, sorry I am not that brave or stupid.
@ Pug,
I have some thoughts for you too. I’m not sure where to start. Others have already given you much excellent advice.
You had bad things happen, don’t take this out on other people. Don’t automatically have an extreme reaction, stop and think. Don’t let these experiences define you.
Which they seem to be, right now. This seems like a huge, thick, pane of distorted glass you’re filtering your thoughts through.
Is it possible for you to get therapy? See a psychologist?
If this is not possible, try reading some better self help online. I’m nothing close to any type of counselor myself, but it’s pretty easy to see that a lot of this “manosphere” is rather toxic.
Most of them, and you can nit pick over whatever “sub category” you want, they all seem largely the same to me, most all of these people on these sites seem angry, wallowing in self pity, and blaming others for their problems.
Sure, people shit on you. No, it’s not your fault. And NO, that doesn’t mean that EVERYONE ELSE is going to shit on you too, let alone that the way to success is acting like an asshole.
Do you ever look at this stuff and think to yourself: WAT DA FUK?
It literally makes no sense. And just harms others. As well as the people “in it”, it harms them too.
You say you feel “inadequate” for a relationship?
Have you thought about why you even think this is the answer to your problems?
Maybe being a hermit might be a better choice? I’m not necessarily being sarcastic here either. Society (Capitalism) conditions people to seek a particular type of life, but that’s for their profit, not yours.
It’s another thing I’ve noticed in this “manosphere” as well as with men I have been involved with. They all want to get married, have kids, and move to suburbia.
Why?
And not that there’s anything wrong with that, but there are other things to do, and other lifestyles.
Don’t become fixated on what other people tell you is going to make you happy.
I also think you should continue to read here, and if you want to interact, just be polite. Have a question? Ask a polite question. This advice actually applies to everything.
Don’t be a jerk. Ever notice on these “manosphere” sites, that when someone does come in there acting like a jerk, he gets barked at quick. And don’t you dare disagree or even question anything.
In many places, especially more open minded ones, you can question, wonder about, and discuss things with people. You should be polite thought, that’s all.
You can change yourself.
And you can start with having a more open mind.
You can leave the hurts of the past behind too. A therapist can help with that. And you can help yourself, too. First step is to just think – hey maybe I can have a more open mind about this, and anything else too.
@ Nequam,
Sorry, but Citronella candles don’t work on Sealions 🙁
uh, in the case of this thread?
it is very MUCH his own fault. I would guess even deliberately so.
his “questions” were chock full of logical fallacies.
if it wasn’t intentional trolling, it sure as hell resembles it closely.
Carrie,
I love the avatar pic!
@Pug
We are not your therapist. Do not dump your problems here and expect us to take the time to answer you and the people who have, well you owe them one hell of a thank you because that’s not what we’re here for.
Now, kindly take the name of that Shakespearean fairy and put it back in the box where he can keep making sweet, sweet fairy love to Oberon on the story I’m writing where they have to take one of Tatiana’s kids to blow up their realm.
Oh, and if you don’t want to deal with people going “wow, Incels are shit” because you don’t think that you, yourself, are shit, do not hang out with incels. Because incels are shit. Save yourself. In this case you’re the only one who can.
Listening to the podcast right now, at the part about the book cover with the “giant woman ass”.
Really excellent so far 🙂
@ Ichthyic,
What I meant by my thought you quoted, was about abuse.
For this person, or anyone. It is not the abused person’s fault.
I hope that clarifies things.
Just finished the rest of this podcast, whole thing was great 🙂
Many good thoughts here!
apparently I need to test my avatar multiple times since this blog keeps *eating all my commmennnttsssss*
Stop making them taste so good then.
The last time I checked, Dr. Nerdlove’s advice assumed a middle-class advice-seeker with middle-class access to resources (e.g. to buy fancy clothes, attend expensive social venues, and other things of that character). The assumption that the person you referred to Dr. Nerdlove has such resources might be incorrect. If there are comparably-purposed sites for working class folks it might be worth mentioning them too (but I don’t know of one, so I can’t fill in that gap myself).
My comments are delicious because I am delicious <3
Also, all those surprised that Pug did not reply put on their surprised faces.
:I
here is mine
Did we break Pug already??
Damn, I was hoping he would at least come back once!
Dang. Matt Binder got hot, wtf.
All of you who spoke to Pug are amazing. I don’t have anything constructive to say, just that I’m impressed and hope to be that eloquent someday.
@ Godzilla Roberts:
You have my attention, but do the Mechanicals get to stage another show?
@ Imaginary Petal,
Re: Matt Binder,
I thought: He seems like a nice young man. Dang I feel old! 😀
Pug is gone! I can’t imagine why. . . .
@Kat
I know. I am disappoint.
They don’t make chew toys like they used to in my day
@Violet
Their shelf life has gotten shorter. I want a refund.