Throbbing pinkies, misplaced nipples, and breasts that wave: Signs she’s not a virgin?

@ redsilkphoenix

I think technically it’s the olives that are virgin rather than the oil itself; it’s something to do with how many times they go through the press to squeeze the oil out.

Speaking of virgins, here’s a story I like.

The Virgin Islands are named after what happened to Saint Ursula. As any proud Cornish person will tell you, she was a Cornish princess who went to Europe to marry some King. Before the marriage she went on a tour with her eleven thousand handmaidens. Now that’s what I call a hen do. Unfortunately they got massacred by Huns.

Now, like most Cornish tales, it’s a load of bollocks. The real Ursula appears to have been an eight year old girl, and the 11,000 virgins bit was monks reading Is and Xs in a name as numbers and mixing up the Latin for ‘thousand’ and ‘soldier’.

The more likely tale that this is based on has a sort of feminist slant. Apparently some queen went over to Europe to marry a reluctant suitor and took a bunch of soldiers with her to persuade him to change his mind.

The two places I’ve lived. New York State and Florida its considered outerwear.

Little-known factoid. In Florida nudity is legal as long as nothing sexual is occurring

I found some really bad word salad! It’s on the r / you know what color pill sub reddit, is marked “science” (LOL) and is titled something like….

I probably shouldn’t put a link.

Can I put the title of it?

C & P link?

Let me know, this is some seriously WTF??? stuff.

Go ahead and link. Now I can’t not know. If it’s something that might be upsetting, just put a content note in your post.

I begin, understand than I have tried my very best to understand females.

Off to a very good start.

The image that woman wants for herself? Well, for many, it’s a picture of themselves in a bathroom mirror.

Huh? Is this a really pretentious way of saying that women like to take bathroom selfies?

a pretty girl goes through “yea, I was just doing my own thing, and then all of a sudden, guys started paying attention to me.” While as soon as any boy goes through puberty, he has to build muscle, push through daily encounters with failure, and develop a personality that does not depend on the validation of others. And that takes time. A lot of time. So much time that a woman does not have because of her consistently declining physical features that affect her
fertility, but more importantly, her ability to retain the attention of a suitable mate that can accompany her throughout her life without the risk of becoming a single-mother due to the differences between males and females in terms of parental investment.

So much of manosphere theory really does depend on their refusal to acknowledge that non “pretty” girls and women exist, doesn’t it? Also the refusal to acknowledge that most women have interests and priorities besides finding a provider.

And for woman to want man to be in her image, is the collapse of society as we see today, with statistics that show lower marriage rates that consistently decline each year.

Too lazy to search for the stats, but I’m pretty sure that’s not true. As in, the marriage rate is lower than it used to be decades ago, but it’s not going down by a large percentage every single year or anything.

A woman with a high salary will never settle for a man that is deemed lesser to her, and so she seeks an already low pool of suitable mates.

Sigh. Yes, women of high socioeconomic status tend to partner with men of similar ses. That has always been true though. Similarly, men have always sought partners in their ses group too. The only difference is that nowadays high ses women are likely to have paid careers rather than being a socialite or managing a large estate. Seriously, why do these dudes always pretend that only women have ever sought to partner with men of their ses or higher?

And what about the ugly woman? Well, a lot of men don’t even look at them because unfortunately, she cannot control whether or not she is perceived as ugly since this is decision completely dependent upon men to deem this to be true. One may argue that woman does not need man, but that is exactly the kind of thinking that leads to a child which comes to expect a family to be devoid of wholesomeness because of an incomplete example of parental guidance. What will happen to that child? What would have happened to me if I did not have my own father in my life?

Whoa! I stand corrected. He does realize “ugly” women exist! First of all, it’s actually pretty ridiculous to assume that men’s boners are the only thing dictating beauty standards. Second of all, women who aren’t conventionally attractive get married and have kids all the fucking time. This is true now. It was true in the past. Whatever he’s trying to blame feminism for, he needs to stop.

And that is what brings me to my final point, which is that the dynamic of coding is very similar to that of war. It is about control. To gain control is to take risks of losing control. To lose control is to risk life itself. But for one to lose control, another must gain it. And if the one who gains control is not capable of maintaining prosperity and resolving conflicts before they happen, then you get a South Korean female president who listens to a “spiritual medium” that pretended to be the host of her dead mother for guidance on how to lead an entire nation that identifies itself as a global superpower. This happened in our lifetime, quite recently actually.

And there it is. Misogynist STEM guys who have never gone anywhere near a war and will never ever fight in one want to be seen as warriors and want the credit for past male warriors. How totally original!

Oh, and male leaders fancy themselves guided by supernatural power all the damn time. If Omarosa was telling the truth, one of them (Pence) is in the White House right now. Then there’s the little fact that monarchy, which tends to be very patriarchal is entirely based on kings being their by the will of God/s. And uh, hasn’t he ever heard of that obscure little powerless organization called the Roman Catholic Church?

Oh! I was so confused what coding meant in this context. And I’m a woman software developer.

“The virgin’s forehead will look slippery while women [who] are not virgin will look wrinkled and streaked like an old man’s forehead.”

Oh, wait till this innocent rube hears what Botox will do to a forehead.

I kind of assumed he meant ‘erect’ as in ‘standing erect’ i.e. standing up straight and not ‘erect’ as in ‘engorged with blood’. So having sex causes the spine to go rigid and because of over-use, it means it doesn’t work so well any more and non-virgins get all slouchy?

Yeah, it doesn’t make a single lick of sense by my reckoning either.

Do these horrible things also happen to a woman who has her first sexual experience after she is married?

Or is the evil of the male body neutralized by the sacrament of marriage?

> WWTH
In France, we had François Mitterand (president for 14 years), who was consulting an astrolog every now and then (ok, it as been proved he was not consulting her to only listen about his future. He was also reading the map of her stars…). But he was a man, so those dudes probably do not care…

@Surplus to requirements

Erm, “auto people”?

Huh, that was probable supposed to be “actual people”. I don’t use this tablet often enough to keep my eyes open for autocorrect surprises 🙁

Delurking (and I expect only one person here will even remember me), I recommend “Virgin” by Hanne Blank to anyone who wants a scholarly history of the concept.

@Katiekitten: you have already gotten lots of good advice, and I second especially the ones about poly working well for some and not for others. As to your recent post,

1. It’s good to have that clarification re: special day. To me that makes sense and is not necessarily disingenuous to be hopeful.

2. Watch out for that “I just want to make her happy” impulse! Of course you want to help her heal from the abusive relationship. But ultimately you can’t make another person be happy, and you can’t be both her therapist and her girlfriend. And many people who have been through emotional and/or physical violence do need something more (i.e. therapy) to help them heal; even a good relationship is unlikely to accomplish what needs to be done.

3. I hope you are finding some sort of support for your own anxiety. “After 48 hours I wonder if they’re dead” sounds terribly strenuous, and (please forgive me if presumptuous) I really would recommend finding someone to help you moderate it.

Best wishes to all.

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