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Incel dating tip: Make women hate themselves by asking them out

That monster … likes me! Could I be a monster too?

By David Futrelle

Guys who define themselves as “involuntarily celibate” spend rather a lot of their time trying to figure out how to make women as miserable as they are.

And so you find incels regularly advising their celibate colleagues to pointedly ignore all the attractive women in their vicinity. “If u even ACKNOWLEDGE femoids in public ur a bluepilled cuck,” one commenter on Incels.me recently declared. “Dont give them even the slightest validation, ignore them like nature intended us to.”

Most of his fellow incels agreed. “Yup,” wrote one. “Hurts their ego if nobody looks at them.”

“Giving females attention only benefits them, and not you, so I don’t see why you should,” another agreed.

But one commenter had what he thought was a better idea: Don’t ignore these women. Ask them out! They won’t say yes, obviously. but they might start to worry that they’re as ugly as you are! 

Getlooksordie Recruit - Feb 12, 2018#18 Wrong  As an unattractive guy the greatest insult you can give to a woman is by approaching her. A good pickup line is "I like you. Since we´re in the same league I think it could really work out between us."  After she tells you to fuck off she´ll immediately run to the bathroom to fix herself thinking "why is that ugly guy approaching me? Am I ugly, too???"  Had this exact same thing happen to me IRL so I know.

CHECKMATE, FEMOIDS!

Incel is weaponized self-hatred.

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Tovius
Tovius
6 years ago

I was hoping misogynistguy would at least wait until page 2 before stinking up the place. Oh well, I suppose this was inevitable.

I would like to second the call for the banhammer.

cornychips
cornychips
6 years ago

Like if I was trying to be part of a community and 90% of the commentariat disliked me and told me to leave, then I would fucking leave. Only a TROLL would stay.

The way he pretends we dont like him and push him away is creepy boundary pushing shit.

weirwoodtreehugger: chief manatee

Yeah, declaring that a violation of your stated boundary is not a boundary violation and then showing up in a different thread playing innocent is textbook manipulative asshattery.

misophistry
misophistry
6 years ago

When guys ask me out I just tell them I’m married to the scary looking guy with the beard and dark glasses (he actually has a very feminine face under the bush and suffers from light sensitivity but they don’t know that).

IgnoreSandra - Marxist in a Skirt

@Kupo & Jesalin

<3 Love to both of you. But that's kind of my point. Incels think they're ugly though they're not, I think I'm ugly though I'm not. But it's only incels who take their self-loathing, use it to destroy their interpersonal connections, and then blame others for it.

Shadowplay
6 years ago

Not my place to add to the banhammer call.

However, I will say his actions have lead me to lose any minimal tolerance. Consider him trollish in behaviour and pretty much unteachable – not that anyone is obligated to try in the first place.

Going back to ignoring him now.

Violet the Vile, Wielder of an Ideologically Weaponised Vagina
Violet the Vile, Wielder of an Ideologically Weaponised Vagina
6 years ago

When someone asks me out it totally makes my day. It doesn’t matter what they look like or whether I’m interested in them or not.

It makes me feel all like “Violet, she’s so hot right now.”

I always ask out people I’m interested in (if they aren’t in a relationship, or not interested in talking, or a stranger on a train or something) mostly because I want to share that feeling! Yo you can make everyone feel good about themselves!

Yes, incels, ask women out! They won’t go out with you, but they will go home feeling happy that someone fancied them while you crawl back to your internet hate-space defeated!

Fruitloopsie
Fruitloopsie
6 years ago
Makroth
Makroth
6 years ago

But what if she says yes? Would he consider this a good or a bad thing?

feministguy
feministguy
6 years ago

Love comes in more than the romantic form, incels can find love, never said they cant

Rabid Rabbit
Rabid Rabbit
6 years ago

I would be fine with a banhammer, mostly because he’s boring now. He hasn’t set off a genuine takedown from WWTH, Scildfreja, Alan, or Dvärghundspossen in days, so what’s the point of keeping him around?

(To all the others who also do magnificent takedowns, I love you too.)

Hippodameia
Hippodameia
6 years ago

Adding my vote for the banhammer. I’m really tired of the way he tries to make every thread about himself, and I’m getting more than a whiff of seagull.

Dr. Thang
Dr. Thang
6 years ago

@feministguy

You can’t find love when you’re so full of hate. They hate women, there’s no way around it, their massive unfulfilled sense of entitlement has turned into bile in their brains. The “incel” community is one built upon reveling in bitterness and wallowing in misery, so until they leave their little garbage society and gain a sense of humility and responsibility for their failures, they will never find love or be happy.

feministguy
feministguy
6 years ago

Agree with Dr Thang

Violet

What you are saying with regards to incels should ask women out sounds good on paper/text. But constant rejection will have a negative impact on their self esteem, so I dont reccommend they ask women out. They need to realise women make up half the population, there is an increasing number of women working in different sectors of jobs, so to have a successful career, they need to be able to respect women and be able to work with them

But incels shouldnt feel that they need to have any romantic success to live a happy fullfilling life. Intimacy/dating isnt the be all and end all of life

Alan Robertshaw
Alan Robertshaw
6 years ago

Feministguy

The only reason women don’t want anything to do with you is you’re waving more red flags than those Russian guys who captured the Reichstag.

(Not as good as Nicolaluna’s I know)

feministguy
feministguy
6 years ago

@Alan

I have women colleagues and women family members and we got along with fine. Most the people close to me are comfortable with me going without intimacy and going my own way (not fucking MGTOW – I mean living my life differently to others without being a bitter little shit about it)

Rabid Rabbit
Rabid Rabbit
6 years ago

@feministguy

We’re still waiting for evidence of the “not being a bitter little shit” part.

Alan Robertshaw
Alan Robertshaw
6 years ago

I have women colleagues and women family members and we got along with fine.

Yeah, some of my best friends are black too.

But I seriously recommend any female friends you may have invest in a copy of Gavin DeBecker.

weirwoodtreehugger: chief manatee

I have women colleagues and women family members and we got along with fine.

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Catalpa
Catalpa
6 years ago

They need to realise women make up half the population, there is an increasing number of women working in different sectors of jobs, so to have a successful career, they need to be able to respect women and be able to work with them

Cool. So hateful men shouldn’t have to treat women respectfully because, you know, we’re PEOPLE and innately deserving of basic respect, but because if they don’t, then it might be harder for them to have successful careers. Good to know your priorities.

weirwoodtreehugger: chief manatee

And the funny thing is, men like this legit don’t think the women in their orbit know what they’re like. I can guarantee his female colleagues are creeped out by him and are just bare minimum nice and friendly to be professional and avoid conflict.

Shadowplay
6 years ago

Don’t be silly, Catalpa

Respect is earn.

Capybara
Capybara
6 years ago

How does one recover from or get out of an incel-like mindset?

feministguy
feministguy
6 years ago

weirwoodtreehugger: chief manatee

Not really. Why would they be creeped out? We have each others backs and know each others boundaries.

Rabid Rabbit

Theres no evidence that I am bitter. I wish all women the best of luck and I dont believe I am entitled to anything. My words have been twisted on here.