Why is it worse for women to cheat than for men? “Because Penis,” Redditor explains

Guy I lost my virg too had a massive cock like a cucumber. Terribly unsexy sex, and the rubber kept pinging off even though he bought jumbo size ones. He needed a woman with a cavernous vagina.

favourite pub game with the girls was filling a sheet of A4 with drawings of penises I have “experienced”. The one shaped like a parsnip always got a laugh.

my vagina is still as tight as a drum.

Clearly the copulins are a defensive adaption produced by the vagina in order to neutralize the flesh-stealing properties of the penis. It’s why only the first time with any given dick is the damaging one, like producing antibodies after being exposed to a virus.

Edit- oh god why does this have to be the first post of a new page I regret my life choices

@NateHevens

An off-topic question… is there a way to log in as a commenter here, or do I just have to keep filling out the little form? I swear I remember being logged in as a commenter back when I was slightly more active…

I think your nym/email/whatever gets stored in a cookie after you post something, so unless your browser is deleting WHTM cookies it should be appearing for you (and if it is deleting them, I have no idea how you’d stop it).

@Paradoxical Intention: Resident Cheeseburger Slut

Don’t get me wrong: I’ve identified myself as a “size queen” before, but that’s what dildos are for. If I care about my partner, I’m not really going to care about their genitalia specs, yanno?

Thats the thing that always cracks me up about guys obsessed with their dick size not only can I replace them with a piece of silicone that wont demean me in any way, I have toys outclass any human when it comes to size,
a kind and considerate personality is something I can not replicate with toys.

@Ooglyboggles:
This might be a longer-term piece of advice, but there is salvation to be found in routine.

If you’re used to going to bed when you’re tired, eating when you’re hungry, and so on, then that’s going to be difficult because your signals for those things will be messed up by your brain chemistry going wonky. Instead, try getting used to saying to yourself “I am eating because it’s lunchtime”, “I am going to bed because it’s bedtime” and so on.

Also, it’s the hardest thing when you’re depressed but exercise really, really does help.

@EJ (The Other One)
Routine sounds good, and so does exercise. I’ll try saying those things out loud to reaffirm my routines.

@Shadowplay
I did run out, I got my old med but I’m not going to risk it.

I’ll try to take your advice on avoiding brooding over the meds.

@ Oogly

Depending on your circumstances, and since it’s going to be just one challenging week and doesn’t have to work as a long term solution, I might recommend an opposite approach from EJ.

If it was my meds that had run out, I’d take next week as if I had the flu. Doesn’t matter if I’m not up to the usual demands of my life, take sick leave if necessary and possible, just put my own comfort and wellbeing first at every turn and mostly spend time distracting myself by binge watching the most hygge thing I can find. Throw all routines, worries and expectations to the bottom of the laundry basket until I’m better again and, crucially, not have a guilty conscience about it.
If I was worried specifically about insomnia, I’d maximize time spent outdoors, preferably in the bush. It helps for both sleeping better and keeping my mind together if I haven’t managed to sleep. If being outdoors comes combined with exercise, that’s great, but even just being outdoors can help a lot.

Here’s hoping it’ll turn out your meds have already helped you recover and build resilience, and everything will go better than expected. <:

@Bakunin,

Just saw your post on the previous page, re your appointment snafu. Were you able to re-schedule?

Or he’s heard about ladyboners and is now even more confused.

@Ooglyboggles:

I’ve done that a few times – run out of antidepressants. I get weird “zaps” after a few days without them. It’s as if I lose consciousness for a split second. It’s startling. I probably shouldn’t be telling you about it – I don’t wish to scare you.

I’m on a low dose of Zoloft. The last time I ran out, I took some Lexapros I had.

Exercise does help.

<3 Oogly

Your antidepressants (in general) all just increase the availability of chemicals your brain already has. Eat well to ensure that you keep getting those chemicals in you. I imagine your particular antidepressant is about increasing the amount ofserotonin available, so make sure to eat food with tryptophan in it. Tryptophan is the precursor amino acid to serotonin. You can get it in chocolate, milk, fish, other stuff. Do yourself a google and make sure you’re getting foods with tryptophan. Don’t worry, it won’t make you sleepy – that’s just a myth. It’ll give your body what it needs to cope with the biological methods it has.

Also, eat enough to give your brain lots of glucose to work with. Your happy-making areas in the brain are glucose hungry. It can be hard to eat when you’re not feeling well, but you gotta do it.

Exercise will get your blood flowing, pumping fresh glucose in and clearing out waste products. It’ll clear out your anxiety-epinephrines and cortisols a little quicker, helping to reduce that unease a bit. That’s your autonomic system telling your body that something’s wrong out there and you need to be ready to run. Doing the running/exercise will help convince it that you’re safe, and will decrease autonomic activity. Doing so before eating will help your digestive system turn on, which will make eating further reduce the general stress response.

Don’t stare at a computer screen for at least a half hour before bed. I suggest more an hour. Read a book instead. Dim the lights a little. Light shining down from on high activates certain ganglion cells in the retina which are connected to a brain region responsible for timing your circadian rhythm. The high brightness of monitors blasts these cells, convincing that brain region that it’s daytime and you shoudln’t be asleep. So, dim lights, reading, no computers. Lamp beside you instead of overhead lights, if you have one available.

Be gentle with yourself. Follow routines – EJ’s advice is great – and forgive yourself if you fall out of them. Sometimes just living is challenging. You’ve got enough obstacles, so don’t turn yourself into one, too. Forgive yourself.

And, when you end up not forgiving yourself? Forgive yourself for that, too.

Change what you can, accept what you can’t change. You’ll get through it fine, my duck. It’s ’till Wednesday, that’s not so bad. You have my permission to go eat as much chocolate as you want.

@Oogly
I don’t have any advice on the meds, but you mentioned insomnia, which I do have experience with. Antihistamines knock me out pretty well when I’m having a hard time falling asleep. They don’t always keep me asleep, but it’s enough to get in a REM cycle or two. Chamomile tea can help some, too. At the very least, it gives you something warm and relaxing to drink. Assuming you like the flavor of chamomile.

If you’re finding yourself checking the click every few minutes and getting stressed about how little time you have left to sleep, get up and do something else for a while. Something relaxing for you, like reading or drawing.