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“Dudes too macho to wipe their asses” is apparently a thing

Cats are also absurdly hostile to toilet paper (but at least they do clean their butts on a regular basis)

By David Futrelle

I thought I’d take a moment this Friday evening to signal-boost a very important tweet from film producer Keith Calder on the subject of dudes so wrapped up in their own supposed machoness that they can’t “poop properly” or, even worse, clean up afterwards.

Here’s the tweet.

https://twitter.com/keithcalder/status/918598272243126272

Let us consider each of the three screenshots in turn.

The first one is almost poignant in its innocence, from a Reddit dude who’s been perching on the toilet rim to poop his whole life because he somehow grew up believing that toilet seats are meant only for girls.

The other two (also from Reddit) are a little more disturbing — and disgusting — partly because they involve massive failures in butt hygiene and partly because they feature posts from women who have apparently been putting up with these massive butt hygiene failures from their dudes for a long time.

Also both of the dudes in question refuse to change their ways.

Brace yourself!

I have a number of questions here, not least: how exactly did the author of this post not realize this unpleasant fact about her angry stinky dude BEFORE THEY GOT MARRIED? I’m not trying to blame the victim here but I simply don’t understand how this would even be possible.

Also I hope she has managed to get this abusive shitstain out of her life.

The next story is similarly puzzling:

YES IT IS YES YES AND AGAIN YES.

I can only hope that at least one of these posts is a troll job, if not all of them, but given what I have learned about my fellow men in my years writing this blog I have to admit that they could very well all be true.

DUDES, WIPE YOUR DAMN ASSES.

H/T — Thanks to   on Twitter for alerting me to Calder’s tweet

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opposablethumbs
opposablethumbs
7 years ago

Re off-the-chart-macho-and-mayunly-etc. … I would hazard a guess that the SAS, for example, (and I think the US equivalent would be Seals, maybe?) who notoriously learn to survive in the wilderness with nothing but half a penknife and the outside tube of a ballpoint pen or something like that, are rigorously taught to look after personal hygiene as much as humanly possible under the circs.

Being literally scared to touch your own arse in the context of going to the loo is … surprising (it’s disgusting too, but that goes without saying). How does anyone get that insecure about their sexuality/their body/their sense of self/whatever the fuck is going on here?????

Alan Robertshaw
7 years ago

@ opposablethumbs

SAS…are rigorously taught to look after personal hygiene

TMI Warning

Here’s the drill. Get mate to hold plastic bag whilst you poo into it. Take one sheet of toilet paper. Tear off corner. Insert finger through middle of sheet. Have a good scrape around. Hold sheet whilst withdrawing finger so everything gets scooped up and finger is wiped clean. Use corner to clean nail. Put paper in poo bag and put poo bag in your bergen* and take away with you.

So on balance having a whole roll to play with and a sink doesn’t seem that arduous.

(* or better still, someone else’s bergen)

C.S.Strowbridge
C.S.Strowbridge
7 years ago

I can only imagine how they’d feel about me having installed a bidet attachment on my toilet. Cost about $40-$50, take half an hour to install…

What? Really? Where can you get them that cheap. I would definitely spend $50 on a bidet attachment.

Although I can guarantee it will take more than 30 minutes to install.

TheKND
TheKND
7 years ago

As for the butt thing; I guess it’s the “Being dirty & smelly is primal and manly!” thing.

That is so stupid! Vikings washed themselfes often and with ash. Romans had bath houses. The Gauls loved to play together in rivers.
How much more manly can you get than those people? (and yes, I only mentioned European civilizations because those people would probably start rolling in pig’s feces when I told them how much the Persians loved to be clean)

Robert Walker-Smith
Robert Walker-Smith
7 years ago

Our younger son made it to five years old without having learned proper perianal procedures, due entirely to a truly lamentable foster care situation. He got better; fortunately, he had the example of two fathers and an older brother.

Regardless of any other issues he may have should he ever live on his own, at least that will not be among them.

Just remembered – on my last doctor’s visit, he performed what he referred to as a ‘rectal Pap smear’, and apologized in advance for any discomfort. I remarked, “Doctor, if this is the worst thing that happens to me today, I’m doing better than a lot of people.” He had to pause until he stopped laughing; apparently, few of his male patients are that cavalier about it.

Arctic Ape
Arctic Ape
7 years ago

Dormousing:

I now have a new respect for the gentleman I saw on YouTube who admitted using clippers to trim the hair around his anus, and in his butt crack. When I first saw his video, I thought that was a bit much. Wouldn’t it be sufficient, I reasoned, to simply trim that hair with a pair of scissors?

I maybe should trim my butt hair for hygienic reasons, but I imagine using scissors for that would be actually extremely difficult. A razor would be likely easier, but I’m afraid of getting small cuts that would be then exposed to fecal bacteria.

Maybe some kind of electric safety razor? Any tips from the other gentlemen here?

Shadowplay
7 years ago

@Arctic Ape

The eyebrow attachment on a cheapo nose and ear trimmer works just fine. No cuts or scrapes. Obvs, buy one JUST for that trimming 😛

Arctic Ape
Arctic Ape
7 years ago

Opposablethumbs:

Being literally scared to touch your own arse in the context of going to the loo is … surprising (it’s disgusting too, but that goes without saying). How does anyone get that insecure about their sexuality/their body/their sense of self/whatever the fuck is going on here?????

Maybe it’s possible he’s just reflexively resistant to even considering changing any of his habits, so he cooked up some ad hoc excuse?

Maybe he’s long ago decided it’s easiest to use the “real men do this” retort for ANY random habit he doesn’t want questioned.

Arctic Ape
Arctic Ape
7 years ago

Shadowplay: OK, maybe I’ll first get one for my nose and see how it works.

authorialAlchemy
authorialAlchemy
7 years ago

Imagine being so homophobic you can’t wipe your own ass.

Also I feel sorry for straight men who just wanna be pegged by their wife, girlfriend, or casual woman sex partners, but hate themselves for it because they think it would make them gay.

How would you even try to comfort someone like that and get them to change?

Moggie
Moggie
7 years ago

If I ever get round to getting a new bathroom (I keep saying “maybe next year”), I’m thinking of having one of those hi-tech Toto “washlets” from Japan. Toilet plus bidet plus warm air plus heated seat: expensive, but pooping has never been more luxurious!

Alan Robertshaw
7 years ago

@ moggie

but pooping has never been more luxurious!

Wasn’t it Neil in Inbetweeners who found some toilet so nice “Sometimes I save it just so I can go there, you know, as a treat”?

kupo
kupo
7 years ago

@Kaitlin

It’s not often one could say that Roosh is ahead of the times but he was whining about the misandry of butt hygiene years ago.

No, he wasn’t. Why do you always have to lie, just because you don’t like him?

He did, though. He complained that if he wants to date women he has to wipe his ass thoroughly and brush his teeth, among other things.
https://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2014/10/02/why-pickup-guru-roosh-v-resents-women-for-forcing-him-to-clip-his-fingernails-and-wipe-his-own-ass/

Alan Robertshaw
7 years ago

@ kupo

Nice rebuttal

Moggie
Moggie
7 years ago

OT: if you’re wondering what kind of “values” might be on display at the “values voter summit”, here’s cartoon villain Gorka to enlighten you:

https://twitter.com/ABCPolitics/status/919221080945856512

weirwoodtreehugger: chief manatee

No, he wasn’t. Why do you always have to lie, just because you don’t like him?

Why do you always have to lie about me lying? Do you just not like me?

Policy of Madness
Policy of Madness
7 years ago

Who is Kaitlin, and why did this person drop by just to make an unfounded and easily-disproved accusation of lying about Roosh of all people?

Kaitlin
Kaitlin
7 years ago

To say Roosh was whining about having to wipe his ass misrepresents his point. He was just making a list of hygiene tasks, and you people focused on that item only.

Also, yes, I’m his sister.

Shadowplay
7 years ago

Who is Kaitlin, – An idiot. Or Roosh, which doesn’t invalidate the first answer.

and why did this person drop by just to make an unfounded and easily-disproved accusation of lying about Roosh of all people? – obsessive self googling.

weirwoodtreehugger: chief manatee

It’s pretty common for drive by trolls with female names to drop in and defend Roosh. I’m pretty sure they’re not women and are RoK forum members. Women aren’t allowed to post there so they probably think that men aren’t allowed to post here.

kupo
kupo
7 years ago

@WWTH
Or they think that feminists have to listen to women and won’t listen to men.

Hippodameia
Hippodameia
7 years ago

He was whining about having to wipe his ass. Why don’t you stop lying?

weirwoodtreehugger: chief manatee

To say Roosh was whining about having to wipe his ass misrepresents his point. He was just making a list of hygiene tasks, and you people focused on that item only.

He was making a list of hygiene tasks that he resents doing because women don’t want to fuck someone smelly, dirty and greasy. The ass wiping thing was focused on because it’s hilarious that he’s like a toddler in potty training mad that mommy no longer wants to change his dirty diaper and wipe his poopy butt. He’s just a smidge less cute than a toddler though.

Also, yes, I’m his sister.

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latsot
latsot
7 years ago

Hey, Buttercup, your excellent “septic masculinity” joke was shamelessly stolen by Boing Boing. So you’re kind of famous.

https://boingboing.net/2017/10/14/skidmarks-for-everyone.html

Alan Robertshaw
7 years ago

@ kaitlin

To say Roosh was whining about having to wipe his ass misrepresents his point.

Forgive me please because I must have missed something, but what was his point then?