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Where I live, no one I know has had trouble getting an abortion, but I do someone who got told no when she wanted to get her tubes tied. People tend not to accept it when women say they want to remain child free. My dad had no trouble getting a vasectomy, but I don’t know if that’s because he’s a man or because he already had two kids.

@Spukikitty

GEEZ! Where does this woman live if EVERY doctor is an Anti-Choice idiot? I would’ve pressured the HELL out of them….

She lives in Tennessee. I think she could have probably pressured them into it, but being confrontational just really isn’t one of her strengths. But doctors should respect a patients wishes without them having to first (metaphorically) stomp their feet.

TENNESSEE! A Red State in the “Bible Belt”! That explains a lot!

I live there with my family but if I had the means, I’d move out, go back North and get a small apartment in Buffalo.

My dad had no trouble getting a vasectomy, but I don’t know if that’s because he’s a man or because he already had two kids.

I have 2 kids and I still can’t get sterilised “in case [I] meet a man who wants children” – an actual quote from a doctor.

@ej
Thanks, it’s good to be back. Was really struggling this time last year and was a lot quieter online. I’m doing better now 🙂

In off-topic news, MRAs cheer as dumpster-fire-in-chief dumps on anti-discrimination rule regarding wages… also cheer as Ivanka the Cyborg sides with discriminator-in-chief dad

… like any of THAT is new….

@WWTH I live in Canada and I still got that song and dance. Finally was able to get my tubes tied when I was 31. Best thing that ever happened to me. 🙂

Extremely glad I got a hysterectomy. I got it for other reasons (fibroids) but the sterility is a nice side benefit.

The whole ‘what if you meet a man who wants kids’ rationalization for not sterilizing grinds my gears. Has it ever occurred to people that if the man wants that, he might, oh, not be the right man for that particular woman? Then again, this is the same mindset that thinks women aren’t complete without a man, any man, even if he sucks, and that women are supposed to drop all personal identity and ambitions for said man. Feh.

I got my IUD no problem about 5 years ago (FWIW, I lived in a big city in a blue state), but in the year or so I’ve been married I’ve had several people – mostly women – all but order me to have children.

Is there a throne to fill? If not, why does it matter to you? If so, why did nobody tell me I’m a princess?

Well, the internet is a series of tubes. *sorryitsbeenalongday*

TW: [surprise sex] mention

Thanks to Berke Breathed, I will never be able to see the name “Jim Bakker” without thinking of these words (sadly, I could not find the original Sunday strip online):

“Lying… stealing… rape… homosexuality… air-conditioned-doghouses…”

@Jarnsaxa
I agree with you 100%. I didn’t bring it up this time because last time I called out policing of women’s bodies on one of his posts it got handwaved away. David, I hope you will consider the impact of this kind of female-targeted policing. Women are told they must wear heels, even if it causes them pain, even if they have balance issues, even if they just don’t like them, or else they’re not feminine enough. But then when women do wear heels it’s always comments about how the footwear is inappropriate because [insert any of the reasons women are told to ignore].

@Austin Loomis
Using “surprise sex” as a euphemism is more offensive than the word rape. If you’re worried about the word itself being a trigger, maybe use sexual assault or sexual violence?

kupo
August 30, 2017 at 2:57 pm

@Spukikitty

TENNESSEE! A Red State in the “Bible Belt”! That explains a lot!

Seriously, this would happen in the most blue state in the nation. Look, I have a lot of issues with Republicans and bible-thumpers myseld, but we need to avoid slapping a label on people to explain away behaviors that exist in abundance outside of that label. Feminist women tell me I’ll want kids one day and not to close any doors. This isn’t about politics or religion, it goes way, way deeper into how we, as a society, view women, their nature, and their desires.

Also, you’re probably seriously alienating any of our members from Tennessee and/or the bible belt with that kind of talk.

You got a point there. Sorry about that. I got to quit assuming stuff based on stereotypes.

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On darker news; I just read that news outlets got it wrong when they said that the trans-ban wasn’t going to be that bad or that Matthis was against it….
https://www.mediamatters.org/blog/2017/08/30/what-media-are-getting-wrong-about-trump-mattis-and-transgender-troop-ban/217808
….I need to know. Why can’t these outlets get their facts straight? What is going on?

….However; On lighter news….
https://www.cbsnews.com/news/trumps-transgender-military-ban-challenged-by-civil-liberties-groups/

http://www.cnn.com/2017/08/30/politics/democrats-trump-transgender-fight/index.html

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/trump-transgender-military-service-ban-republican-opposition_us_5978bbb4e4b0e201d57a65b4

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/powerpost/paloma/daily-202/2017/07/27/daily-202-growing-gop-backlash-to-transgender-troop-ban-underscores-trump-s-political-miscalculation/5979535630fb0436795432a6/?utm_term=.cc188c8e7515

http://www.towleroad.com/2017/07/mccain-transgender/
….There’s plenty of opposition, even a few from GOPers!!

Is there a throne to fill? If not, why does it matter to you?

Oh, this reminds me of when I gave birth to my youngest daughter (the only child I have by my husband) and my MIL came into my room immediately after and told me “I saw your baby girl. Now you have to try for a boy.”

Incredulous, (because sex was the last thing on my mind) I asked, “Why?!?”

“To carry on the ___________ name.”

I asked if there was a throne or an inheritance involved. “No….”

I then told her that I have no intention of being a brood mare, and she has two other sons, and she can give them the “WE NEED AN HEIR, STAT!” call of duty lecture. She tried to give me the “It’s your wifely duty” nonsense, but I nipped that shit right in the bud.