Open Thread for Personal Stuff: June 2017 Flexicat Edition

Hi, Ami!

Hi Ami! ?

Hello Ami, and welcome!

@Vicky P Big internet hugs if you want them

@ Alan R You’re a bad example to us all – on a related note, do strawberry laces count as one of my 5-a-day?

@Hambeast -fistbump-

Thank you, opposablethumbs, Elizabeth Regina, and Ooglyboggles.

@Oogly

I just got back from my cousin’s college graduation lunch

Sounds fun!

Best of luck on the family reunion

Thanks, fam 🙂

if this facemelting summer heat would stop I’d really appreciate it

Nthed

Dad’s birthday would have been yesterday, except that he’s dead. And father’s day is tomorrow.
I’m a grumpy, prickly, cactus at the moment.

I have a nasty cold. Just had another one last month. This one is just in time to fuck with my four straight days off work. Surviving on diphenhydramine, naproxen, coffee, tissues with lotion and frozen cherries with yogurt.
On the plus side, don’t have to work while sick, and don’t have to use up PTO for a damn cold, and the big orange cat thinks this is awesome because he has a round-the-clock snuggle buddy.

@Hambeast

Chopping the nuts is the pain-in-the-ass part, but so worth it!

My trick: I put the nuts in a plastic baggie, close it up, and use the kitchen mallet to break the nuts up. Easier than chopping, IMO. And much more satisfying. The plastic bag is to keep them from flying all over the place when you whack them.

@Valentine
I would start by asking her what’s going on, listen, don’t try to fix things, just acknowledge what she’s dealing with.

I rarely post here, but I’ve been coming for years and I love reading the comments you all make.

Kind of having a hard time lately.

I’ve been separated from my ex for about a year after being married over 15 years. He decided about a month ago to cut the support he’d been sending me, even though we had previously agreed on amount and duration (yes, and I feel so stupid for not getting it in writing, though I’m not sure he would have signed anything). I’m back in school, have about 3 years to go so I can a) get a job that my less-than-abled body can do, and b) make enough at that job to not live in perpetual poverty.

So now, on top of working full time and raising kids and taking a full load of classes (8 units during summer, 16 for regular semesters), I’m having to deal with actual divorce paperwork and stuff, knowing that it’s going to go to court rather than just be something we fill out and file and get done. Oh and we work together. And our kids are old enough to see everything that’s going on. And I suffer from major depressive disorder, but I’d been doing fairly well until he decided that he didn’t need to keep up his end of our agreement.

Now…now I just want to cry, and escape from reality. I’m drinking too much, eating too much, pushing my support network away. I miss my cat Misty (yeah I named myself after her…maybe it’s time to change my name, but then how will you all remember me?), who I had to give up when we split up, because the landlord doesn’t want any pets here.

And Father’s Day is coming up, and the last time I actually talked to my dad, he threatened to come to my town and punch me in the face. I don’t think I want to call him on Sunday, but I still feel like I should, if only to keep the peace with my mother.

I know that none of you know me. Maybe that’s why it’s easier to post this here, than to actually ask for help from people who will judge me and who I’ll have to continue to see regularly and be ashamed for being broken.

I’ve posted here before, but rarely get replies. Probably because I rarely post, or because my posts get delayed. I really hope I get a reply here though, because I feel extremely alone and I’m just…I’m not okay right now and could use a shoulder.

@RosieLa
Condolences
@Ledasmom
Cold are never fun. At least you got an eager fuzzy cuddle buddy to spend time with.
@Valentine
Ask her what’s happening and listen. People in that situation tend to be very defensive if you start offering suggestions over hearing the whole story.
@CleverForAGirl
Hope you have a good time on your vacation!
@Mistyful
Your situation sounds like eight flavors of terrible, I don’t have the words. Your ex is awful human being, even though he knows what you’re going through, and instead of being sympathetic, he brings you even more problems. Hugs and sympathies if you wish for them. Feel free to post about your feelings and problems whenever you like, we’ll be here for you.

@misty I wish the best for you and your babies, I hope the courts do right by you.