By David Futrelle
A little over a year ago, with traffic at the preeminent Men’s Rights website A Voice for Men plunging as its old-school MRA “activism” was eclipsed by a younger and in many ways nastier breed of antifeminism, AVFM head boy Paul Elam made a dramatic announcement (which I wrote about here): AVFM had won the cultural war, so he was retiring from Men’s Rights activism altogether to take up a new life as a $90 an hour Skype life coach for bitter men.
Now, with the site’s traffic even more anemic, Elam is once again declaring victory, hailing AVFM’s alleged “profound success” in a post yesterday — and announcing that he’s coming back to take over the site he started in 2009. If at first you don’t succeed, simply declare that you have succeeded and quit. Then return a year later when things are even worse to insist again that you’re still the champ you never were.
Here’s a video from Elam explaining the new direction:
Oh, wait, that’s the scene in This is Spinal Tap in which the band, having lost one of its key members, attempts to rebrand itself as a jazz fusion jam band, declaring to a sparse festival crowd that they “are witnesses at the new birth of Spinal Tap Mark II.”
But it seems like that’s pretty much what’s going on at AVFM — right down to the belabored rebirth metaphor. The title of Elam’s announcement post is literally, I kid you not, “Welcome to the rebirth of A Voice for Men.”
Elam is truly a man beyond parody.
Anyhoo, after celebrating AVFM’s supposedly “profound success” in “changing the cultural narrative,” Elam tries his best to portray the site’s increasing irrelevance as evidence that AVFM is TOTALLY WINNING.
AVFM and a small handful of others (mainly the Honey Badger Brigade) have spawned a legion of social commentators … Feminism has rightly become a dirty word. Feminist ideologues are back on their heels trying to defend their hateful ideology to a world that has grown weary of their corrupt message. We have been so successful, in fact, that antifeminism has become a cottage industry, with the new purveyors taking in huge audiences.
He evidently forgot to add “while AVFM chokes on their dust.”
Elam’s new plan for the site? Basically, he’s taking it back for himself, seemingly hoping to use what remains of its popularity to drive traffic to his An Ear for Men ersatz male therapy site. The new tagline for AVFM: “Men’s Health – No Apologies.”
Apparently Elam is convinced that devious feminists are trying to keep him from going to the doctor. (No, dude, that’s the Republicans. And your own stubbornness.)
The unapologetic Elam explains the new direction:
With AVFM’s thousands of internet backlinks in place, assuring a permanent, healthy flow of traffic to the site, we will leverage those assets to further a message addressing men’s overall health, sans the traditional gynocentrism, and sans the unhealthy paradigm of feminist ideologues who see masculinity itself as a problem in need of correction.
He follows this with a lengthy plug for An Ear for Men, where he charges anyone deluded enough to sign up for his coaching $90/hour to talk to him on Skype even though he’s neither a doctor nor a licensed therapist. It’s Men’s Health without Apologies … and without professional training. You will, however, need a credit card.
Oh, and he also boldly declares that from now on no one will be editing the posts that go up on AVFM.
AVFM will return to a very select group of contributors, by invitation only, who will have permissions to enter articles into the WordPress editor, and with solid self-editing as a standard. No more passing articles through a series of people to get them on the site. And no more need to burden editors with the tedious (and quite thankless) job of correcting spelling and grammar. Those who can’t or won’t provide well-edited material simply won’t see their writing on these pages.
Given that the site now seems to struggle to get even poorly-written articles up, I can only assume that Elam’s new insistence on KWALITY posts will mean perhaps one or two new posts per year.
What the new non-editing procedure has to do with men’s health — with or without apology — is anyone’s guess.
Looking forward, Elam offers this bit of inspiration for the troops:
This will be a somewhat challenging phase as we downshift to crest another hill in the journey of A Voice for Men.
I suspect AVFM’s journey going forward will look something like this:
H/T —Â @TakedownMRAs
hey Paul, the (licenced, qualified) therapist I see every two weeks only charges me 25 bucks a pop. you probably think that you deserve an extra 65 bones just because you’re a dude and she’s not, though.
And when THAT marketing strategy fails, he’ll go back to AVFM Classicâ„¢!
BOINK X 5!!!!!
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“You only need to downshift going uphill if your dick (whoops, engine!) is too small.” – other MRA?
What’s that line from Spinal Tap? The popularity of AVFM is not waning, it’s just that their appeal is becoming more selective.
So he’s saying that even in cases like this women have to do most of the work?
I’ve got MRAs all up in my mentions and it’s making me nostalgic for WHTM. Paul Elam’s “deferred success” is chicken soup for the soul.
An Ear for Men is really nothing new. MRA’s have been involved in “alternative” self-help/life advice counseling since the 1980’s. It’s basically a bunch of traditionalist platitudes mixed with anti-feminist and anti-civil rights sentiments.
Feminist is a dirty word now?
Right.
I keep hearing that, but I’ve noticed that younger celebrities and celebrities that young people look up to call themselves feminists and it’s the older female celebrities that are more likely to be reluctant to identify as feminist. They’re the ones who pull the “I’m for equal rights for women, but I love men too!”
I’m not saying that female celebrities represent feminism perfectly or anything. Beyonce and Taylor Swift also represent capitalism and consumerism which are both pretty kyriarchal.
I’m just saying that pop culture is a pretty good indicator of the national mood. Particularly the mood of younger people. Feminism has Beyonce. Anti-feminism has who? Adam Baldwin? I think he’s had acting jobs since Firefly but that’s been the last thing he’s done that anyone gave a shit about it. There are certainly plenty of young angry men in anti-feminism and the alt-right, but they’re a vocal minority among the 18-35 demographic. I’m not seeing evidence of some big nationwide shift towards anti-feminism. If anything it seems like the stereotype of the man hating feminist is very slowly dying out and more young women are identifying as feminist or are at least friendly towards feminist ideology, even if they don’t think to call themselves that.
Maybe I’m being overly optimistic in the age of Trumpism to still believe in the whole moral arc of the universe is long but it bends towards justice thing. But the huge and diverse resistance towards Trumpism tells me otherwise.
I hope I’m making sense here. Feeling like that might have been a big ramble without much of a point.
Katz is back!?
Hope you’ve been well!
Mission Accomplished 2: ACCOMPLISHEDER
Haha, you can fuck right off with that Paul. “Gynocentrism” in medicine where women’s self-reported pain is routinely treated as less severe than men’s? Where for years nobody figured out that the supposed signs of a heart attack are actually the typical signs in AMAB folks and AFAB folks tend to have completely different symptoms? Where many drugs were only tested on adult cis men before being approved for use by everyone? Where the medical decisions of pregnant people are under constant attack?
Edit: Katz! Hi! I’m so glad you got nostalgic and decided to stop by!
“I do not, for one, think that the problem was that ‘the band was down’. I think that the problem may have been, that there was a Stonehenge monument on the stage that was in danger of being crushed by a dwarf. Alright? That tended to understate the hugeness of the object.”
So, taking a cue from Theodore Beale (Vox NOT Day-o), and our Orangutan-in-Chief… Whatever happens to your plans (success or failure), declare victory after what was clearly a success to anyone really paying attention. Those people who thought it was a failure were wrong, because you were really playing 4-dimensional chess quality politics, and everyone else is playing tic-tac-toe. Because you successfully succeeded in winning exactly what you really intended to win all along, even if that was a loss.
I just want to comment on every post by Vox Day and now Paul Elam, “I see exactly what you did there.”
Hi Katz! Welcome back! (I have also made your chicken recipe a few more times, and it keeps turning out great! Last time I cut chicken breasts into smaller chunks and served it over pasta! :9)
Hey, Katz, it’s been a while!
The people I know who support Trump are not really anti-feminist. They’re against what they erroneously think feminism is and they think all the mainstream Democrats and Republicans are lizard people or something.
It’s confirmation bias at work. The fact that someone dislikes Trump is proof that he or she is either a communist, a globalist shill, or “sheeple.”
Hi everyone!
@Katz is back!?
Ooookay, I think Paul’s well past the point where he just says these things to convince himself more than anyone else.
“Feminism is a dirty word. Right? Right? You cool YouTube kids get me, right? … I’m cold and there are wolves after me….”
Welcome back, Katz!
@Katz
Hi again
@History Nerd
Yes, they really are. The genuinely support rolling back the legal and social achievements of feminism. You can tell by the way they keep voting for, donating to, and otherwise supporting politicians who run on explicitly racist and misogynist platforms.
@Paul Elam:
Cool story, bro.
Good to see you again, Katz.
I’m gonna go out on a limb and say just about everyone is against the straw feminism that the likes of Mr. Elam et al like to prop up as valid. So, uh, bravo?
Also, Honey Badgers are still a thing? I would have thought they were all retired and living it up on the beaches of Bali with that sweet sweet lawsuit money they were getting…