Today, some important information about human female sexuality, straight from human female sexuality expert Zombocom1911 in the Men Going Their Own Way subreddit.
Despite Mr. Zombocom1911’s fearsome reputation in the field of Dudes Making Pronouncements About Female Sexuality Based Only On Their Own Dudely Resentments, I’m not sure that I agree with him a hundred percent on his policework here.
Oh, ok, here’s the relevant scene from Fargo.
@EJ
Funny enough (not actually funny, but eh), I’m still working my way through getting over a breakup with someone where we were mostly sexually compatible and had varying levels of compatibility everywhere else.
Things probably would’ve gone much better overall had emotions allowed us to just be friends-with-benefits, really.
@dslucia:
I’ve been there, and you have my full sympathies. I hope you manage to move forward as an individual; salvaging a friendship is often harder in those circumstances.
@PoM:
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@zaunfink: secret ace-fist bump with a demi explosion at the end. 😀
I agree about it being nice to have words and concepts that help explain things.
@EJ
Yeah. We haven’t even spoken in two and a half months or so now, so I’m not really expecting much. I’ve been going to see a therapist at my university fairly regularly since the split, though, so at least there’s that.
That sounds like you’re having trouble getting away from it. Again, my sympathies. Going to a therapist is a good thing and I’d always recommend it; let me know if you need a nonjudgmental stranger to talk to.
@EJ:
Well, the frame around it is that the person in question was someone I’ve known for ten years and we’ve been off and on in that time but weren’t ever really serious until a little over a year and a half ago. So yeah, it’s been pretty tough. Thanks for the offer, I might take you up on it at some point.
zaunfink- I don’t see why not! 😀 *secret ace-spec fist bump*
dreemr- And that sexuality can be fluid over a lifetime in some individuals in the same way that someone can be genderfluid.
Rhuu- *continues ace-spec fist bump your way, but sadly lacking cool demi explosions* (queer-romantics just get little rainbows)
freneticferret- Yeah, I’ve got two great partners too with one of them being allo. She actually has much nastier things to say about Dan Savage and that whole “allo people must be being deprived by their ace partners” shit than I do. She is very much not a fan of that messed-up construction.
@Rhuu
*scratches head awkwardly* I kinda gave up tryna figure out which specific acespec thing I am. Gray’s pretty vague, demi don’t quite fit, etc etc. Eventually just decided aroace was perfectly sufficient, and anyone who’d need to know particulars could ask 🙂
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FUCK YEAH CHAMPIONS OF THE WORLD
*ducks in case any Canucks are around*
@PoM: Yes to all of that. I think the imagined effortless self-sufficiency of women-as-objects extends to childcare as well. Men shouldn’t have to pay child support, because keeping children alive is just part of what a woman-object does. That’s part of why you get one.
@IP: D: You beat us at a sports! Congrats.
That was one of the things that made me giggle really hard about it.
I’ll be sure to take pictures and some video of Richard when he gets here, and I will share them with interested parties for amusement.
@PI
That reminds me; I’ve got to refresh and tidy up my own kink lists.
Do you use any of the popular sites to catalogue them or is it just a document on your HDD/cloud storage?
@Axe
oh baymax
yes
@Troubelle
Baymax is everything 🙂
And here was me assuming that it was nobody’s business but the asexual person and their partner(s) to negotiate how sex in their relationship works. Clearly I was mistaken.
[Spoiler?] But Baymax is not Big Hero 6
But…but…what happened to the Cock Carousel that we women so enjoy riding every day of our slut-tastic lives?
Also, if he’s going his own way, why the hell should he care whether women have any interest in sex, or cock carousels?
So many intriguing questions!
Ah, yes, views like these were what kept me from actually recognizing I was ace for a while. Cause, you know, women weren’t supposed to really like sex anyways, amirite?
Claiming this stuff about women is like claiming that they can’t have orgasms. It’s really just embarrassing to watch.
Also, online dating is shit (about 50% of the time; it works for some people) because lots of the people who aren’t looking for hookups or for athletic Republican marriage material are usually introverts who don’t want to make the first move or actually start dating offline, in my experience.
@ mattie
Theres a tweet going around that i saw about how female orgasm is a myth and another how its not important. Strange ways to tell all that you cannot/will not please your lover. ))))
@ Mattie I so agree about online dating, idk your age or how long you’ve tried it but it’s wearing. I’ve been doing it nine years on and off and I need to take breaks. The guys I meet are either as you describe or all about how desperate they are to be in love and aren’t interested in you as a person, they’re just selling themselves as perfect boyfriend / husband material.
And I agree with all previous comments, so true women aren’t keen on thirty seconds of foreplay and two minutes of humping with someone who sees them purely as a convenient cumbucket.
“No women have expressed interest in having sex with me!” isn’t quite the statement about women this yahoo seems to think.
Can I join the ace-spec club? It started with perimenopause and menopause just clinched it. I like to get myself off every now and then, but sexing with a partner is just more than I want to deal with. I thought I might get back to having some sort of libido* after quitting work and not having the stress of taking care of my dad long distance anymore, but the dormancy seems even deeper now.
*changed from “get better” but reconsidered the phrasing because it doesn’t make me sick or defective!
@ Damian
Haha! Yes, that’s always what I think. They literally admit to being utterly unattractive when they express these kinds of complaints. They think they’re saying a lot about all women they encounter, but really it is basically an admission of repulsiveness.
Not that people unlucky in love are unattractive or whatever, of course, but in these cases they are admitting that they are responsible for their own failures here.
@Sandra
As usual you are correct. The Fran signal is most likely a giant penis projected onto a cloud or something.
And now I’m visualizing a 60’s style Batman intro, except it’s BAT-FRAN.
I wonder who is the Robin in this scenario.