Today, some important information about human female sexuality, straight from human female sexuality expert Zombocom1911 in the Men Going Their Own Way subreddit.
Despite Mr. Zombocom1911’s fearsome reputation in the field of Dudes Making Pronouncements About Female Sexuality Based Only On Their Own Dudely Resentments, I’m not sure that I agree with him a hundred percent on his policework here.
Oh, ok, here’s the relevant scene from Fargo.
I had a partner for some years who was ace — and I have a libido in hyperdrive. And that is the only time that sex hasn’t mattered to me; the relationship was fulfilling without it. We eventually broke up as a romantic couple for other reasons, but he stayed my close and wonderful friend until he passed away last year.
These guys who say crap like this just don’t have a clue that women are complete people, with personalities and feelings. So of course no one who retains the least shred of self-esteem or self-protection wants to sleep with them once this become apparent.
P.S. I am over 60 and there is no wall. 🙂
had a partner for some years who was ace — and I have a libido in hyperdrive. And that is the only time that sex hasn’t mattered to me; the relationship was fulfilling without it. We eventually broke up as a romantic couple for other reasons, but he stayed my close and wonderful friend until he passed away last year.
These guys who say crap like this just don’t have a clue that women are complete people, with personalities and feelings. So of course no one who retains the least shred of self-esteem or self-protection wants to sleep with them once this become apparent.
P.S. I am over 60 and there is no wall. 🙂
Correct, Zombocom1911!
Or at least somewhat correct.
No woman wants to sleep with you. Your hatred of women turns us off. Go figure.
And I’m not gonna say that no woman wants to sleep with Chad Thundercock — but most women are pretty wary of him because he seems to have a problem with commitment.
But the rumors about Brad Pitt are true. All women want to sleep with him. And now that Angelina Jolie has kicked him to the curb — oh wait, he seems to have a problem with drinking.
To sum up, Zombocom1911, it seems as though women have standards and preferences.
TMI, but figured this would be the place to share: I actually aggravated an old leg injury the other night while masturbating. I got a little too into my plug-in wand, stretched out just a little too far, and…massive calf cramp where I tore my muscle in high school.
Ow. I also had to walk/work with the pain the next day. I was limping quite a bit.
I also ordered one of these yesterday out of amusement. (NSFW) I have named it Richard.
But nope, I, a feminine-presenting human, don’t like sex. Not me. Lies and slander.
I did not trade kink lists with Jackie the other night. Nor did I start to engage in a relationship with a fuckbuddy to see if they’d be interested in actually dating, who has never been a fuckbuddy ever, how dare.
Every woman who’s not completely asexual would rather sleep with a sex toy forever than with this bozo and others like him. They’re not GTOW, though, they’re just hanging around whining about how horrible we are and hoping that it somehow works as foreplay.
(Spoiler: it doesn’t.)
OT: I’m pretty sure that women can do anything
The sisters of Battle Road: ‘We didn’t need anyone else as children, or now’
Being evacuated and then left motherless brought the six Jarman sisters close together. Nearly 80 years on, the bond is still unbreakable
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/may/20/the-sisters-of-battle-road-we-didnt-need-anyone-else-as-children-or-now
Ha, I like how that NSFW little squeeze toy PI mentioned is in the “Home & Garden > Family Fun Toy > Squishy Toys” section. Have fun with the kids! Buy a p****-shaped toy for them today! Item Name: Dingding. Not for children under 3 years old.
Kat, that is a wonderful article!
Also, damn you PI, I did not need another cool stuff (frequently cheap) site to buy stuff from.
Oh, @Alan – I smacked my forehead when I realized you reference to “ran so far away” JUST NOW, about 8 hours later….
For a smart person I am remarkably dim at times 😀
@dreemer,
“My hair ran…it ran so far away…
@Alan, Peevee LOL! @ AFOS references. 🙂
My wife and I recently talked about what things we weren’t prepared to compromise over in a relationship, and we reckoned it ultimately came down to just three:
• shared sense of values;
• shared sense of humour;
• similar sex drive.
Anything else, we reckoned, was far less important. And in looking back on our previous relationships, we found that in most cases there was a clear incompatibility in at least one of those areas.
As for the MGTOW who kicked off this thread, while I’m obviously not in a position to speak on behalf of women, all I will say is that I’ve always gravitated towards partners who were extremely blunt and opinionated about pretty much everything else, so it would be a bit of a stretch to assume that they’d lie about enjoying sex – and fake all the physical symptoms as well.
My relationship is quite difficult. Last year i went away 20 June and did not come back until 23 January this year. It makes you very out of rythmn with the other person i think. Also you forget to know them first. I think it is important more to know and love a person first, sex and anything else will not satisfy if this is not like this first. But best thing is also not to worry.
My girlfriend felt bad for saying she was not interested in sex to me for first month after i was home – which is also hard because i dont want that she would feel bad about being honest when she does not want. But that is why we both have to remember to build our relationship again first and not feel guilty if it not immidately like it was before.
People who say things like this worry me because they do not understand emotional aspect of sex.
Again i am away again now for until 26 August now and my sex life at home still not fully returned to how in June 2016. But this is okay because there is no way to do things other than the honest way and let things heal slowly.
@Valentine
It’s true. Honesty is the only way to have a real relationship. I wish you and your girlfriend all the best.
@Kat
Thank you. I was little bit worry that i damage things by taking too long contract this time…
@DMW Yeah, we can thank Dan Savage for that shit. He’s been big on selling the idea that a partner “owes” their partner sex and that ace people are somehow harming allo partners if they date them. And there’s a lot of the toxic side of the sex-positive movement that’s taken that shit to heart and so get really hostile to articles about ace folks, especially about ace folk dating lives.
Also secret ace fist-bump.
@OP Ah, sexism and acephobia. Two “great” tastes that go vomitously together. And it’s part of the sexist double-trap. Have a desire to have sex with someone then you’re dismissed as a “slut” and hated by these guys, but refuse their creepy rapey advances and you’re “frigid”. There’s no state in which a woman is not despised, because these fuckers are all just abusers who are thankfully being thwarted from having a partner to abuse.
How does this dude explain lesbians and the fact they report having more orgasms than straight women?
In fact, everyone reports having more orgasms than women who have sex with men.
The reason women are less likely to have one night stands with men is because they are risking rape, abuse, various levels of disrespect, shaming, unwanted pregnancy and even death with very little chance of actually having an orgasm.
When those risks are mitigated, women are more likely to engage in casual sex.
That is why misogynists don’t want those risks mitigated.
Cerberus,
Yup, we’re all prude/sluts.
We’re also stealing men’s jobs, have the wrong kind of jobs and should be home being domestic or we’re lazy parasites who should get jobs.
We’re selfishly not having babies or we’re selfishly having babies.
We both marry men to trap them in misery and don’t marry them to trap them alone in misery.
They despise us for existing. We are a safe target for them to blame for all their failures and disappointments on.
But that’s OK. Nothing bad ever happened to anybody white, straight dudes blamed for their own discontent.
/s
I’m not convinced the double-bind is deliberate in most cases. In some cases it clearly is, but most dudes who double-bind women seem to be doing it because they don’t view women as human, and think they should be able to use their toys when they want and put them aside when they’re done. Women should be self-sufficient in the same way a toaster is self-sufficient – it just kind of happens that way and the toaster doesn’t have to get a job to do it.
They’re neither pro-abortion nor anti-abortion, but pro-male control of reproduction, which can mean either position depending on the circumstances.
Assuming that these dudes are doing this purposefully assigns a level of thought to them that I don’t think is warranted. They have simply absorbed the idea that women aren’t people and are acting accordingly, which so happens to double-bind women because no human can act like an inanimate object. The fact that these guys think that women are interchangeable with sex robots says everything to me.
PoM- Well, it’s not even they view us as toasters, because there is at least some operating mode a toaster can do that won’t be resented. It’s more that they view women as toasters in a land where toasters are the antichrist. They loathe women and they loathe that women have autonomy, but mostly they just loathe women for existing and everything else is just a post hoc justification for that feeling. Which is why you get the frequent double-blinds.
@Cerberus
I feel so lucky that my boyfriend – a bi dude – is so chill about my being asexual. He’s said repeatedly that I don’t ‘owe’ him anything like that, and he’d hate for me to feel like I did. I’ve had other guys tell me ‘what a waste!’ when I say I’m not interested in sex, with one even saying it was like having ‘a delicious-looking bowl of soup but not being allowed to eat it.’
Aah… my boyfriend and I are having some dumb fight about something completely unrelated right now, but now I’m wishing I could just give him a hug. :c
@cerberus
Do… Do demis get a secret fist bump too? I’ve only recently found out I’m on the asexuality spectrum somewhere and it’s turned out to be surprisingly nice to finally have a label for not wanting to fuck people just because I think them attractive. I’m still learning about it.
@PoM
I really like the way you phrase that, especially the pro-male control part!
@freneticferret
Why not go and do it? Perhaps it’ll help solve the fight?
@PeeVee – thank you for that!
In general, to everyone – a reminder or note that libido and sex drive also can change throughout one’s life. It’s not necessarily a thermostat set at one level that never changes.
Not that anyone implied that, just clarifying.
There you should see interesting images burnt on a toast.
(Also kudos for PoM’s analysis.)