Another lively discussion, courtesy of the Incels subreddit!
In case you’re wondering what’s underneath the ink splatters — though I suspect you can probably guess — here’s a slightly less censored screenshot:
But don’t worry, folks! The author of this lovely post assures his critics in the subreddit that he is neither lonely nor sexually frustrated:
actually im none of these. since young age i was sex deprived so i learned how to live without needing a worthless females. i got used to it after a while.
Yep. He doesn’t care SO HARD that he’s spending his Friday night hanging out on the INvoluntary CELibates subreddit posting this shit — and complaining about girls on Tinder “ghosting” him.
GOSH WHY ON EARTH WOULD GIRLS NOT WANT TO MEET THIS GUY
@LindsayIrene
Thanks for the mental image. And all the rest of you.
It’s just chock full of insecurity. “I know mine is disgusting, so everybody’s has to be disgusting. I destroy everything I touch, so all men destroy everything they touch.”
It really is amazing how much these people hate themselves.
So do people who perform oral sex on cisgender women have faces that are permanently shellacked with vaginal fluid? Asking for a friend.
@EJ
Fuck it, plenty of men (and women) have had their own semen in their mouths. So, incels can’t even trust dudes who exclusively go in for vagina. Or other incels!!1!!
*ominous lightning strike*
@LindsayIrene
Stop, stop.
My lady parts can only get so aroused. :O
/Archer
@Axecalibur
How did you know? Have you been spying on me? ?
#GlazedDonutSolidarity
@Fran
Girl, please! Like you’re the only one ?
A great man once said, “The best way to deal with sexual frustration is to spread it around.”
Wait… no, nobody ever said that. I’m just being a jerk who wants others to suffer with me 😛
Fnar! 😀
Really? How does that work (asking for a friend – of course)
@Axecalibur
You speak truth, Kang-Emperor of the KMT Realm.
Also, I understand this incel dude not wanting to think about sex stuff.
I go through phases nowadays – dunno when it started, probably when my depression became chronic – when even the suggestion of sex puts me off.
For a while I thought I might have been becoming ace, but then my libido would return with a furious and mighty vengeance.
I think I might be bipolar or something. If the mental health system in America were not basically a piece of shit, I would have had myself checked already. As it is I had a terrible, lengthy time just tracking down a psychiatrist that accepts my Medicaid.
That’s no reason for him to behave like a fucking misogynist, though
Why can’t he just be honest with himself and admit he’s having a problem right now instead of blaming women and making things difficult for the rest of us?
@ Fran
I’m bipolar, and my libido is very connected to that. Sometimes I think I will never care about sex again, and sometimes it’s all I think about. I have decent insurance through my job, but I must confess that I never talk to my doctors about being manic. I’d rather deal with it myself than be put on some drug that might make me feel dead inside again.
@Fran & Lindsay
Thirding the “Sometimes don’t give a shit about sex but then suddenly can’t think of anything else” thing. I have depression and anxiety and probable undiagnosed paranoia, and I suspect I’m demisexual on top of that.
I don’t talk to doctors about any of these. I’ve experienced American therapy, I’m not going back.
@IBH
1)perhaps give your favorite bassoonist a congratulatory smooch
2)nut juice don’t just vanish once you’re done playing your own tune…
Pretty straightforward, ya know? >.>
@Fran, Lindsay, Sandra
Sounds like acute, depression onset sex aversion. Enjoy your (temporary) stay at Chateau Ace! It’s fun, innit!? 😀
LindsayIrene – I get the not wanting to feel dead inside. Not all the meds do that anymore. It took 6 years for my doctor to find the right combo of meds for me. Also, if it has been several years, there some great new meds that have less side effects.
Kitty and capybara hugs if they are welcome. 🙂
@IBH Ardepithecus
In addition to what Axe said, some people are simply extremely flexible
@Fran, Lindsay, Sandra
Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt. *hugs* and solidarity
From a very young age?
He’s complaining that he didn’t have lovers at a very young age?
The reason he can’t talk to “girls” is they avoid him like the plague and he knows it.
@ Kestrel
Capybara hugs are the chillest hugs.
I’m also still having sex issues from antidepressants. Haven’t been very interested in sex in a long time (except for cunnilingus which is really more like a hobby/lifestyle). It’s been pretty frustrating.
Bipolar absolutely affects libido, but so do other things so having a variable libido isn’t diagnostic for bipolar. Bipolar is sometimes very overt and in-your-face and sometimes it is sneaky. Sometimes the cycle occurs over days and sometimes over seasons. Sometimes manic episodes don’t feel manic at all, but like being super-irritable all the time so that another human being breathing grinds your last nerve raw. Sometimes they feel like a burst of amazing creativity where everything you touch turns to gold (and then you look at it later and you realize that this really is gold). Sometimes you never get a manic episode at all and all you have to deal with is unrelenting depression.
What I’m saying here is that bipolar is all over the place with symptoms and having a libido that isn’t rock-steady doesn’t necessarily mean anything.
It’s weird. Incels really seem to think that if they aren’t the teen movie stereotype football player with multiple girls pining after them by the first year of high school, all hope is lost. When in reality, it’s very common for people to start having sex in their late teens or early twenties and in no way unheard for people to lose their virginity later than that.
I was a month shy of 19 when I first sex. A lot of my friends were around that age when they did too.
I guess it’s a toxic combination of special snowflakeness (no one has suffered like they have suffered) and never getting past a high school mentality?
@IBH
Adding to what Axe said, there’s also the old trick of being on your back on the floor, folding your body as far as it will go, and let gravity work it out.
Here’s a diagram:
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/ …. \ …. \.
\ …….° …….
. \ …….°……
…..——-○…
Edit: IT’S A BIT UNCLEAR BUT YOU GET THE IDEA
I was 22. I have no idea about my friends, cause I don’t ask them this sort of question. It just isn’t relevant to me.
These people seem to think that their life should be a porno, and if it isn’t, someone’s discriminating against them. Ugh.
*giggles at all the silly sexual imagery on this thread*
When I was on my first antidepressant (name escapes me) I was still as horny as ever, but it would take three times as long to reach orgasm. Very frustrating. Thankfully, the Effexor is currently not impinging on that. Now, if I could only find a lover…. 🙂
IP:
Sorry, I don’t play Dwarf Fortress.
Effexor has helped make me a (mostly) functional human being who can focus and have housecleaning and art goals, but it’s kind of played hell with my libido. Which is weird to begin with, since I used to have massive crushes on fictional male characters and would go quietly go completely ‘dur’ at any male interest in me. I wonder if I was some variant on asexual, since actual RL dating was all very alien to me, and I really don’t know if that’s actually me or the drugs talking.
And yes, getting a non-Hitachi-aided orgasm while taking antidepressants? Ahahahaha! Forget that! Either it’s not enough or you go all the way into abraded and too sensitive territory and want to punch your partner! Yep, that’s GREAT!
It’s also meant that my er, married sex life isn’t all that frequent, which causes me no small amount of guilt. I’m glad the spouse is understanding about that even at the same time he’ll eventually get fed up about it. He seems to be happy with the weird noises through the doorway while we’re at our computers/ silly innuendo/ comic one liners brainfarts model of marriage, though.
I’m a sexually 21-year old autistic man who still lives with his mother and I’m not as frustrated at the incel twats over at reddit.