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Put the Oxygen Mask on Yourself First: Dealing with the new realities of Trump’s America

Take care or yourself, or else you wont be able to take care of others
Take care or yourself, or else you wont be able to take care of others

When I finally went to bed late last night, there was a small part of me that hoped I would wake up this morning to find that Donald Trump’s improbable victory had been nothing more than a very bad dream.

Barring that, which I knew was a bit of a long shot, I hoped that I would at least wake up with the inklings of a plan for what to do about this catastrophe. I hoped I could write a rousing blog post sketching out my thoughts on the road ahead– for this blog and for the anti-Trump movement as a whole.

Alas, that didn’t happen either. I’m still processing the bad news, emotionally and intellectually. And I know a lot of you are doing the same.

And that’s ok. Trump will not take office until the end of January. There will be plenty of time to come up with ways to fight back against the orange one.

Right now the important thing is to take care of ourselves and those around us. Give yourself however much time you need. Avoid stress. Don’t beat yourself up for what happened, and don’t take out your anger on others on our side. Turn off the news if need be. Do whatever you need to do to clear your head and keep yourself safe.

In the comments here, feel free to continue the discussion that started in the “VOTE” post yesterday. And please share any self-help and self-care strategies you have — even if all you’ve got at the moment is pictures of cats and videos of hedgehogs.

If trolls show up, or if there is anything else that pops up in the thread that I should know about, please send me an email about it.

We can fight this thing. We can beat this thing. But first we need to get ourselves centered.

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Mish of the Catlady Ascendancy
Mish of the Catlady Ascendancy
8 years ago

Strong reading comprehension here.

Nobody here considered that the info i posted realtes to DIFFERENT topics, but yeah thibk what you can.

*raises hand cautiously*
I did try to point out that the Argentinian videos were not about matriarchy or jobs for women … an example of trolling, I think they were meant to be?

Handsome "Punkle Stan" Jack

Nobody here considered that the info i posted realtes to DIFFERENT topics, but yeah thibk what you can.

I don’t know how you think conversations work but usually you tackle one topic at a time before moving onto the next one.

What different topics were there?

Croquembouche of patriarchy
Croquembouche of patriarchy
8 years ago

Post partum psychosis? ha! nice one, i bet planned parenhood could profit from that shit too!
I’m done here.

Oh no, Joaquin! Please don’t leave, or throw in another new non sequitur. I wanted to hear more about your privelege-less white male law student life in that country you live in but won’t name, in case people dispute your claims about it, like they did your claims about Sweden.
Tell us how you really feel about quotas to encourage women to run for political positions. Is 30% of political nominations what you meant when you said all the jobs were for women only?

Axecalibur: Middle Name Danger
Axecalibur: Middle Name Danger
8 years ago

@Belladonna

Do you think it’s mental illness in general that he doesn’t believe in or just postpartum psychosis?

Probably the latter. Fuck it, I’d never heard of postpartum psychosis until today. That he brought it up outta the blue and already has Planned Parenthood in on the conspiracy probably means [slurs] killing their kids and walking 100% free is his white whale. I seriously doubt he gives this much skepticism to less girly diseases

kupo
kupo
8 years ago

Oh, I’m sure PMDD and PCOS are probably made up in his world, too.

Handsome "Punkle Stan" Jack

Probably the latter. Fuck it, I’d never heard of postpartum psychosis until today.

I hadn’t either. I knew of postpartum depression, though. The whole process seems traumatizing enough to have all sorts of postpartum shit happen.

EDIT: Wait, I think I have heard of it before, when I was watching someone LP The Park.

The lady in it went through therapy and had electroshock therapy and stuff after her kid was born.

Axecalibur: Middle Name Danger
Axecalibur: Middle Name Danger
8 years ago

@kupo

Oh, I’m sure PMDD and PCOS are probably made up in his world, too

*googles initialisms* Ha! He totally does think they’re fake…

Belladonna
Belladonna
8 years ago

@Axe
I had to google those, too. Very funny, though.

@Croquembouche
Your comment still has me laughing after 40 minutes. Thanks.

Now, though, my brain is turning to serious matters. Like, you know, what possible way could there be for Planned Parenthood to profit from postpartum psychosis? I’ve been trying really hard to come up with any ideas, but I just can’t. The fact that Planned Parenthood is a nonprofit organization may be complicating things for me.

Croquembouche of patriarchy
Croquembouche of patriarchy
8 years ago

@ Belladonna, you’re welcome.
Planned Parenthood-> post partum psychosis – something something something -> profit:
Just a wild guess, but I think “Big Pharma” may be involved. +/- chemtrails.

Kylo Ronin
Kylo Ronin
8 years ago

@Ooglyboggles
@Scildfreja Unnýðnes

Thanks for your extremely kind words. They help a lot. Thank you.

weirwoodtreehugger: communist bonobo
weirwoodtreehugger: communist bonobo
8 years ago

The answer is obvious. Katie pays Planned Parenthood a generous bonus every time a woman is granted and insanity ruling for a murder. It’s not just PP that profits though. All of us feminists get a bonus check from the CIA whenever a woman gets away with murder.

Belladonna
Belladonna
8 years ago

All of us feminists get a bonus check from the CIA whenever a woman gets away with murder.

So that’s what those checks I get in the mail are for? I was afraid to mention them to anyone and have been cashing them very slowly, in case they were a mistake. I guess I’ll go pull the others out of my mattress and buy that yacht I’ve been wanting.

Laugher at Bigots, Mincing Betaboy
Laugher at Bigots, Mincing Betaboy
8 years ago

All of us feminists get a bonus check from the CIA whenever a woman gets away with murder.

Really? I’ve been missing out! Those damn feminist overlords (overladies?) have been stiffing me! Off to /r/RedPill I go!

opposablethumbs
opposablethumbs
8 years ago

Joaquín

most of the graduates in my country are females, and most of the jobs aplications are FOR females ONLY

Pero querido (or should I say creído …) whoever would have thought it! And under Macri, too! You seem very sure of this, so I presume you’d have absolutely no problem in providing some evidence? Of course it wouldn’t be the first time that someone has come bumbling in here whose only stock in trade is puro verso.
PS the plural noun you’re looking for is “women”. You’re welcome.

JoaquinRL1
JoaquinRL1
8 years ago

@opposablethumbs

Please, next time you visit Facultad de Derecho (college of law) University of Buenos Aires check the jobs applications, you will find that most are for WOMEN.

Well, what they REALLY mean is: HOT, COMPLACENT WOMEN.

But hey, a job is a job.

[inappropriate stuff deleted by DF; JoaquinRL1 is also banned –DF]

Good night and God Bless America!

Scildfreja Unnýðnes
Scildfreja Unnýðnes
8 years ago

Please, next time you visit Facultad de Derecho (college of law) University of Buenos Aires check the jobs applications, you will find that most are for WOMEN.

Well, what they REALLY mean is: HOT, COMPLACENT WOMEN.

Sexism isn’t real! Look at all the positions available for harassment-recipient! Women only! Also, lol, as if women could ever lawyer! They don’t have enough brains!

That’s you, that’s what you sound like.

Ah regarding planned parenthood (A.K.A. “I killed my own child because i f*cking felt like it”) i mentioned because it seem to be unmatched in helping psychopathic women get rid of their children (A.K.A. fetus, “clump of cells”, “just a parasyte”, “not even human”, etc).

You don’t know what Planned Parenthood does. It’s a vital resource for women’s health. The vast majority of its work is in cancer screening and preventative care.

Also, fuck you.

David, can you drop an orbital banhammer on this raging dumpster fire please?

Viscaria
Viscaria
8 years ago

Hey asshole, how much bone marrow you got? How much blood and plasma? How many kidneys? There are people out there who could die without your donations. Is it your stance that you should be forced to give up your bodily autonomy to save those lives? Or is it only those capable of pregnancy whose bodies are public property?

JoaquinRL1
JoaquinRL1
8 years ago

This guy summed it better than anyone:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q8TE_QMa3fw

It’s in english.

Laugher at Bigots, Mincing Betaboy
Laugher at Bigots, Mincing Betaboy
8 years ago

@Joaquin: Are you seriously citing Carl Benjamin to us? He’s a jackass. Your contribution, such as it is, to this thread would be more salient if you had linked to Rick Astley.

Axecalibur: Middle Name Danger
Axecalibur: Middle Name Danger
8 years ago

Come now, folks. @Jorge is just ‘participating in the discussion’. That makes his sexist bulshittery OK /s

But yeah, drop the hammer
http://gifrific.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/Thor-Hammer-Slam-to-Ground.gif

Also, who was the troll that argued over taxation and kept tryna get us to look at what this roving band of evil Jewish feminists were doing? Cos Juan sounds a lot like that asshole

Belladonna
Belladonna
8 years ago

At least Joaquin finally really, truly shows his true colors. Not reasonable. Not “wanting to contribute.” Not at all really willing to listen. Just another black and white, only-fetuses-lives-matter troll. And only hot, complacent women need apply is female privilege because a job is a job.

Oh, wait, maybe my reading comprehension is bad and he was really speaking to different topics. /s

Laugher at Bigots, Mincing Betaboy
Laugher at Bigots, Mincing Betaboy
8 years ago

Also, it’s hilarious that Carl’s video linked by the latest troll is subtitled “Death of Social Justice Special”, as if the election (against the will of the people) of the Trigger-Happy Orange Groper has permanently demoralized us and not actually enraged and emboldened us, and as if social justice is bad.

Let’s ban this ass-hat.

Imaginary Petal
Imaginary Petal
8 years ago

Yup, time to ban. The shark has been jumped.

Ooglyboggles
8 years ago

Drop the ban hammer, he’s outlived his entertainment value and now shown his disgusting true self.