Watching self-proclaimed pickup artists and Men Going Their Own Way going at each other is vaguely reminiscent of watching Trotskyist sects fight it out over the precise lessons that true revolutionaries should draw from the Russian Revolution.
The fact that, in both Trot-fights and in the interminable online squabbles between PUAs and MGTOW, combatants agree on almost everything only seems to make them madder about the things they disagree about. Freud famously called this phenomenon “the narcissism of small differences.”
The latest skirmish between the forces of pickup artistry and MGTOW-ism was inspired by a Return of Kings post, published earlier this month, declaring MGTOWs to be a bunch of bitter whiners jealous of PUAs’ success with women,
RoK contributor Corey Savage acknowledges plainly that PUAs and MGTOWs aren’t really all that different at all.
All things considered, MGTOW, ROK, and other men’s groups have more things in common than the differences. We all recognize the disease that is feminism and we are all faced with the new realities that modern society has to offer for men.
But despite having basically the right — horrifically negative — views on women and feminists, Savage complains, MGTOWs are … a bunch of pussies.
MGTOW may have started with the right intent of defying the gynocentric system that exploits men, but it has quickly turned into a congregation of young men who come together to validate each other’s bitterness and frustration. …
I can somewhat accept bitchy behavior from feminists as they’re women, but to watch these “men” throw a hissy fit over articles on attracting women or becoming a better man (none of which they were forced to read) is both hilarious and cringeworthy at the same time.
In the comments, assorted RoK readers suggested that most MGTOWs are such pathetic losers that their much ballyhooed boycott of the sexual marketplace won’t even register with most women.
As someone called Ainigmaris put it,
The worst aspect of MGTOW that I have seen is the asserted belief that men withdrawing from the sexual marketplace to go their own way will somehow force change in women over time. That is so naïve, petulant and utterly blue pill, it is laughable. …
Unless you are getting the top 20% of males to MGTOW, women won’t even *notice* you have left the sexual marketplace.
Ainigmaris finished up with some thoughts on vaginas.
Also, there are legions of blue pills who will never abandon the quest for the Holy Vag. Women will continue riding the carousel until their loins are so epically stretched out that they slide right off and tumble into some stalwart blue pill White Knight waiting to hoist their pulped roast beef snatches up onto the highest of pedestals.
Philosoraptor41, meanwhile, suggested that MGTOW is little more than a “a cop-out/denial mechanism” for guys no women want.
[I]f someone such as the comic book guy from the Simpsons goes MGTOW, then it’s a cop-out on their part.
Why? It’s very easy to say “screw game and self improvement” if someone hasn’t ever succeeded.
The MGTOWs didn’t take these insults lying down. As MGTOW defender Matthiu Ryin sees it, it is the PUAs who are the true simp manginas (probably).
Are you f*cking kidding? Mgtow is populated by highly successful men who’ve had their lives ruined in divorce court. What exactly are you bringing to the table with any of this bullsh*t anyway? … No all you’re really doing is mocking and that’s what women do.. I mean you might just be a simp mangina too its pretty hard to tell the difference online … you haven’t addressed any of the issues mgtow addresses all you did was try to infantalize the entire movement. I think your website might be run by women.. just a thought.
In a followup comment, Matthiu insisted that the MGTOW reverse-Lysistrata maneuver is the only way to truly put the ladies in their place:
Why do women act the way they do now? Because of the way men act and let them get away with it. If we stand up as men they will have to change whether it’s logical or emotional or whatever. We’re supposed to be the ones setting the precedent anyway and somehow we’ve lost it and started giving women a voice and it’s infecting our minds to where we think a woman’s point of view is more valid than our own.
Enlishbob suggested that perhaps Matthiu was a teensy bit jealous:
You can’t get laid. So you pretend that you don’t want to get laid.
Matthiu in turn accused Englishbob of being “pussy whipped and controlled” by women and their hypnotic vagina powers.
Omg the you can’t get laid card.. please dude.. you’re showing your hand that you totally use pussy for validation.. and so you are pussy whipped and controlled. … You’re putting pussy on a pedestal and worshipping it for self validation and eventually when it gets pregnant you’ll just get mopped up in court and maybe even go to jail over it.
When “it” gets pregnant?
You put up with women’s head games and maybe are even a little bit of a bitch around women. … our whole society has been under mind control in the media for a long time to turn women into nasty people and make men subservient to them. … You have this vision of yourself as a man who does this and that woo woo but the reality is you just pick up after your women and they sit back and collect your money.
And so on and so on and so on.
This sort of internecine warfare amongst the internet’s biggest misogynists is such a pleasure to behold. Whoever “wins” this round in this interminable argument, we can rest assured that all the combatants are total and utter losers.
Penises don’t weigh 7 lbs and have a circumference of 13.5 inches…which are the average newborn stats. Most women can pass one through their vagina and within a couple weeks be back to the same tightness they’d had before.
Babies don’t stretch anything out permanently, so why would a much, much tinier penis do so, no matter how often you had it, or however many different ones you chose to have? They have NO CLUE about biology.
I love it when they fight.
The idea that sex irrevocably “taints” a woman is a pretty common one among MGTOW/MRA/PUA/OMGWTFBBQ types. It’s likely a holdover from the olden days, when women were considered the property of their fathers and later husbands.
I’ve long said that the only difference between all the various strains of e-misogyny is how they self-justify. Their beliefs about women are indistinguishable from each other; they just have different means of convincing themselves that they’re not terrible people.
@AAAtheist
Chihuahuas are adorable.
Skweek! toys are fun.
MRAs, on the other hand, are neither adorable nor fun.
Two nutrias in quicksand fighting each other over a deflated balloon?
Popcorn, anyone?
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And my personal favorites (because they suit this situation perfectly):
and
Sorry, I couldn’t pick which one I liked better. Jeannie for the misandry of a woman having fun and daring to eat something that will make her *GASP* fat, or Dean Ambrose nonchalantly watching two dudes fight with a little extra misandry points because I’m a woman who likes watching WWE, and I really like Ambrose.
Six from Column A and half-a-dozen from Column B, I suppose.
Isn’t popcorn mostly air? Seems kind of hard to gain any real weight off that.
@PI
The greatest moment in wrestling history:
Hogan lifting Andre? No
Austin 3:16 says I just whooped you’re ass? No
The NWO forms? No
Kenta Kohashi’s retirement? No
The greatest moment in wrestling history is Dean Ambrose just up and leaving in the middle of a fuckin promo and hopping on the goddamn subway. Genius ?
@Axecalibur
The second passage I’ll cop to, but in regards to the first, well, truth is an absolute defense against libel:
http://www.returnofkings.com/65305/women-in-their-prime-prefer-sex-with-damaged-men
That’s Roosh in his own words, on the subject of the unfortunate necessity of approximating the behavior diagnostic of psychopathy in order to get women to have sex with you.
http://www.returnofkings.com/47494/more-ways-you-can-live-life-like-a-villain
That’s “Donovan Sharpe” writing about how living the Red Pill life means recognizing that the path to success lies in developing the “dark triad” traits, including psychopathy.
https://therationalmale.com/2012/04/10/the-bitter-taste-of-the-red-pill/
That’s Rollo Tomassi arguing that identifying some aspects of PUA practice as “dark” because they take advantage of the fact that adopting “dark triad” traits makes it easier to succeed in life (specifically in matters of sex) is to miss the point. After all, the idea that men have some sort of responsibility to use their superior intelligence to the benefit of women is a product of distorted “Feminine-primary” thought.
https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2012/11/13/cultivate-your-inner-dark-triad/
And that, well, you can read a URL as well as I can.
All this to say that the most prominent members of the PUA scene, and the people most often “tracked and mocked” on this site, all advocate imitating the behaviors diagnostic of psychopathy in order to be more successful in all areas of life. That is, as a “lifestyle choice”.
Good. Let them eat each other.
It’s mostly the butter and salt that’s “bad” for you, at least in large servings. A single bag isn’t going to do much. Of course, that’s also dependent on your metabolism and the like. All bodies are different and all that.
But you know these types of dudes: If a woman eats anything other than a few leaves of lettuce a day, she’s an unrepentant Fatty McFatterson who isn’t worthy of respect or their penis and needs to put down the cheeseburgers.
“A congregation of young men who come together to validate each other’s bitterness and frustration” might as well be ROK’s About Us page.
Excuse me for doubting that.
As opposed to MGTOWs, who are engaged in extremely productive activities such as [error: NullPointerException]
Didn’t you just establish mockery is bad because icky females do it?
Well, I’m at a loss about what he means. He can’t be talking about whining about how much women suck, because RoK clearly does address that.
Not exactly difficult, you are infantile.
Oh, hey, some more of that mockery MGTOWs don’t engage in.
@runsinbackground:
It is true that some PUA literature encourages them to behave in a manner which copies (and mythologises) some of the symptoms of a personality disorder, but this is not the same thing as having that disorder. Walking with a cane does not mean one has a broken leg.
The majority of people who suffer from personality disorders, including antisocial disorders, are not pickup artists. The majority of those sufferers try really hard to be good people and to be kind to those around them, despite their disorder.
Statements like yours, which equate PUAdom to suffering from antisocial personality disorder, are very hurtful to those sufferers who try to live a harmless life. As such, we ask you to please not make them.
Does that make sense?
There is a clinical term for PUAs and their ilk, but it isn’t antisocial personality disorder. It’s “asshole”, and as M reminds us, asshole is not a mental illness.
Now, now, boys, calm down. You’re both right. MGTOW and PUAs are both total losers.
@EJ – Well said, and you put your finger on something that bothers me about these guys. I really dislike the way they appropriate/mimic the language and personality traits of marginalized groups, such as people who suffer from personality disorders, people with autism, SJWs, rape survivors, etc. They think these traits are cheat codes that can be deployed to instantly win an argument or get laid (but are also ripe for mockery when it suits them). Asshole is too kind a word for them. They’re hollow to the core.
@ Kat
Duly noted.
How about two Komodo dragons in elephant shit fighting over deer offal?
@AAAtheist
All animals are amazing, especially Komodo dragons. MRAs are not.
Maybe something in a Donald Trump wrestles with his doppelganger on astroturf meme?
…Oooooooooooooorrrrrrrrrrrrr…
PUAs and MGTOWs griping and whining at each other over which is the biggest bunch of losers. (Hint: THEY BOTH ARE THE BIGGEST LOSERS…it’s a tie! And I love ellipses!…)
Well, here is a sentence I’m surprised to find myself typing:
I’d love to read Terrance’s thoughts on this.
On a Terrance- related note, has anybody here read Lois McMaster Bujold’s “Ethan of Athos”? It has been popping into my mind all day as a fascinating exploration of the evolution of a society founded by M who actually did GTOW. I now realise that aside from the apropos ‘all male society turns out not to look much like what it’s founders envisaged’ aspect, the name Terrance is another reason it keeps popping into my mind – I hope our own Terrance meets an Ellie and an Ethan, and migrates to Athos to live happily ever after himself some day.
I’ll use any any excuse to use this .jpg but:
http://rampantgames.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/let-them-fight.jpg
@calmdown
The arrogance of manosphereans is thinking that their fragile egos are within their control and not the other way around…
These MGTOW vs PUA fights are nothing like Trotsyists sect fights.
Trotskyist sects have principles, history and perspectives.
Whilst there has certainly been a lot of falling out amongst the older guys, (the patriarchy?) the younger generation are a lot less sectarian. We are fighting for the same thing after all, fairer politics for a better world.
MGTOW vs PUA fights are more like two year olds squabbling over who wants to play with a He Man doll at kindergarten. All red faces, tear stained eyes, dribbly bibs and temper tantrums.
@ Croquembouche of patriarchy
I’ve also read Ethan of Athos. Now that was a group of men who really did go their own way.
I’m happy to see them attacking each other instead going after women.
I’m totally blaming this site for my current addiction to real-life popocorn. I have nothing else to say except “Ewwwww”. I’m a lesbian and I think I know more about the effects heterosexual sex has on a woman’s body than these people.