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The war on female speech continues: Jessica Valenti driven offline by threats

Carole Lombard as the Targeted Woman
Carole Lombard as the Targeted Woman

The war on female speech can claim another victory of sorts.

Feminist writer Jessica Valenti — the longtime target of an organized campaign of harassment and slander by Men’s Rights activists and others — has been driven off of social media by death and rape threats posted on Instagram, aimed not at her but at her five-year-old daughter.

Valenti, a Guardian columnist and the author of six books on feminism and sexuality, explained her decision in a series of tweets yesterday:

Jessica Valenti ✔ @JessicaValenti This morning I woke up to a rape and death threat directed at my 5 year old daughter. That this is part of my work life is unacceptable. 12:04 PM - 27 Jul 2016 2,780 2,780 Retweets 2,408 2,408 likes Follow Jessica Valenti ✔ @JessicaValenti I am sick of this shit. Sick of saying over and over how scary this is, sick of being told to suck it up. 12:05 PM - 27 Jul 2016 689 689 Retweets 978 978 likes Follow Jessica Valenti ✔ @JessicaValenti I should not have to fear for my kid's safety because I write about feminism. 12:06 PM - 27 Jul 2016 1,840 1,840 Retweets 2,707 2,707 likes Follow Jessica Valenti ✔ @JessicaValenti I should not have to wade through horror to get through the day. None of should have to. 12:06 PM - 27 Jul 2016 440 440 Retweets 727 727 likes Follow Jessica Valenti ✔ @JessicaValenti I can deal with a lot of things, I've taken a lot of abuse over the years. But my child? No. 12:07 PM - 27 Jul 2016 395 395 Retweets 675 675 likes Follow Jessica Valenti ✔ @JessicaValenti Law enforcement needs to get their shit together on online threats. Social media companies need to fucking do something. 12:09 PM - 27 Jul 2016jvt2jvt3At this point, does anyone other than the harassers and their apologists doubt that what we’re seeing is a free speech issue — and, beyond that, a civil rights issue?

Every woman writer knows that the moment she puts her words online she could face literally years of abuse — insults and threats and often outrageous slander — if something she says manages to offend some thin-skinned dude who doesn’t like to see any of his opinions challenged by a woman.

This is even more of a danger if the women in question writes about feminism as anything other than a “cancer,” or offers her thoughts on topics that many men seem to think their gender owns the rights to — from videogames to the Ghostbusters franchise.

If women can’t express their thoughts online without facing the very real threat that their lives and reputations will be ruined by years-long campaigns of abuse and slander that social media companies and law enforcement authorities by and large refuse to do anything about, this is a threat to the free speech of women everywhere.

It isn’t simply a matter of a few “trolls.” The abuse is often organized, sometimes quite openly. The vicious harassment of Valenti began a number of years ago after a video of hers mocking Men’s Rights “activists” caught the attention of the misogynistic hate site A Voice for Men — a site whose “social media director,” Canadian antifeminist Andrea Hardie (aka Janet Bloomfield, aka JudgyBitch), stoked the flames by making up inflammatory “quotes” and attributing them to Valenti, knowing full well that many of her followers would believe even the most outrageous lies about the American writer. (Similar smear tactics have been used against feminist cultural critic Anita Sarkeesian by her enemies, including Hardie herself.)

Valenti is hardly the only woman that AVFM has targeted for organized campaigns of hate — not by a long shot — but AVFMers are so obsessed with Valenti that at a recent AVFM “men’s retreat” the attendees, led by the obviously drunken site founder Paul Elam, shouted out creepy sexual commentary about her and fellow feminist writer Amanda Marcotte; the reason we know this is that Elam, evidently quite proud of his behavior, put video of the bizarre incident online.

The harassment that Valenti and other feminist writers have gotten isn’t just intended to intimidate them into silence. It’s also meant as a warning to other women that if they speak up they could be on the receiving end of a similarly vicious hate campaign.

The harassers are often quite open about this intention. Jack Barnes, a Twitter “activist” who’s contributed numerous articles to AVFM over the years, has repeatedly made it clear that the point of his “activism,” such as it is, is to intimidate all feminists into shutting up.

Sometimes, as I’ve pointed out before, Barnes forgets to put “harassment” in scare quotes.

Jack Barnes ‏@Jackbarnesmra @Shotagonist @niaudesigns @TheFirstPaige no. We harass and abuse feminists. Bigots (feminists) don't deserve to be treated with respect.

These campaigns of harassment do indeed have a chilling effect. I know female writers who refrain from writing about feminism and other such “sensitive” subjects because of the abuse they know they would get if they did. Feminist writer Leigh Alexander has stopped writing about video games because of the abuse she endured at the hands of GamerGaters and their fellow travelers, many of whom openly rejoiced at the news.

Sarkeesian, meanwhile, has made clear that she’ll be moving on from video games after she finishes the rest of her videos in the Tropes Against Women in Video Games series. “For me, the work of Feminist Frequency has become synonymous with constant daily harassment, death threats, bomb threats, intense public scrutiny and profound violations of privacy that have spilled over into the lives of my friends and family,” she wrote in a Kickstarter update.

The enormous amount of stress caused by the harassment, along with how the project unfolded, took a huge toll on my physical and emotional health. I have been dealing with depressive tendencies for the better part of my life but with my physical health declining and the added pressure of this project, my depression became quite intense. Looking back from a place of greater clarity and balance, I don’t know how I managed to survive from day to day, let alone how I continued to step into the public eye online, in newspapers and magazines, and even on national television. Many of my personal relationships were strained or collapsing, and getting out of bed every day felt like climbing up a mountain. There was no end.

And all of this because she shared her thoughts about video games with the world.

Obviously, not all the victims of this sort of harassment are women. Indeed, I’ve been targeted for abuse and slander by some of the same people who’ve harassed Valenti. Nor are men the only harassers — AVFM’s Andrea Hardie is one of the site’s most vicious attack dogs.

But the people who have been on the receiving end of the most surrealistically over-the-top campaigns of abuse — Sarkeesian, Zoe Quinn, Brianna Wu, Chanty Binx, and many others — have been women, with black women enduring some of the worst abuse. And their harassers, for the most part, seem to be male.

That’s what makes this not only a free speech issue but a civil rights issue. Women bear a disproportionate share of abuse online — amongst Guardian writers, eight of the ten who get the most abuse online are women, with Valenti taking the top spot — and women generally have more of a reason to fear the threats they get online.

But women have little recourse when it comes to actually doing anything about this abuse. Police — with only a few notable exceptionsdon’t take online abuse seriously. Social media companies are glacially slow when it comes to shutting down obvious abusers, and arguably even worse about dealing with ban evaders.

I’m no lawyer, but it seems to me pretty clear that women are being denied equal protection of the laws.

That said, it is a bit of an oversimplification to talk about this in terms of the male-female gender binary, as Soraya Chemaly has noted. LGBT folks and others “who defy rigid gender and sexuality rules” are far more likely to be harassed and threatened online (and off) than their cis counterparts. They are also, quite clearly, being denied equal protection.

Threats against women online aren’t just crimes; in many cases they are hate crimes. Unless those who abuse and threaten women online face serious legal consequences for their actions, more women, like Valenti, are going to be forced offline.

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Brett
Brett
8 years ago

That sucks so much. I’ve followed Valenti’s writings for years, and she’s good. Nobody deserves this.

I don’t know how Sarkeesian has kept it up, and I don’t blame her for wanting to move on from video games once the series is done. I just hope it doesn’t follow her into her new projects – if the whole furor over the Ghostbusters reboot is any indication, then that type of G*G stuff is bleeding out of the video game fandom into other kinds of fandoms as well.

Lea
Lea
8 years ago

And they will say it is their speech that is being strangled when they can’t threaten to rape and murder children. Though they know that they are trying desperately to silence women.

sunnysombrera
sunnysombrera
8 years ago

What Lea said. They put free speech up on a pedestal, but only if it’s reserved for them. Then somehow if anyone verbally challenges them on their BS, they’re “being denied their rights.”

Unbelievable.

sunnysombrera
sunnysombrera
8 years ago

@Brett
I do have to wonder if there is anything dudebros WON’T try to claim for themselves as a male only thing. Some of them have tried to do it with My Little Pony for fucks’ sake.

Fabe
Fabe
8 years ago

I do have to wonder if there is anything dudebros WON’T try to claim for themselves as a male only thing. Some of them have tried to do it with My Little Pony for fucks’ sake.

I know,I’m A guy who likes MLP but I avoid the ‘brony’ community due to the toxicity.

ViolinlessHoax
ViolinlessHoax
8 years ago

This is a really good article! Thanks for this. I will put it in my favorites folder so I can later share this with some of my friends who are still “on the fence”, as the colloquialism goes.

LindsayIrene
8 years ago

And, of course, in the replies to her tweets are dudes saying it was just one little itsy bitsy threat and she’s a little speshul snoflake if she can’t take it and it was just on the internet and internet threats aren’t real gosh why are intersectionals such babies yadda yadda yadda blahblahblahblaaaaaaaaaaaah

EJ (The Other One)
8 years ago

That’s a powerful article, David. Thank you for that; I hope it wasn’t too painful to write.

As always whenever Lea posts, I can only say one thing: “What Lea said.”

Fabe
Fabe
8 years ago

@Lindsaylrene

Yet they still consider the harassment of ‘gamergate’ to be a rational response to simple criticism and a free to play game about depression

Victorious Parasol
Victorious Parasol
8 years ago

I don’t think any of the GG attack squad could put up with one-tenth of the abuse they’ve directed at other people.

dlouwe
dlouwe
8 years ago

What Lea said. They put free speech up on a pedestal, but only if it’s reserved for them. Then somehow if anyone verbally challenges them on their BS, they’re “being denied their rights.”

Well like, it’s not as if they’re telling Valenti she shouldn’t be able to say those things – just that they’ll harass and abuse her until she stops! It’s way different! /s

Seriously though, I feel like that’s at least very close to their thoughts on the matter. If you ask someone to not say something, you’re infringing on the concept of “free speech” – despite being completely benign and unenforceable, it’s the principle of the thing. But if you hurl abuse at someone for something they said, that’s just everybody free-speeching all over the place, and if someone elects to stop speaking, that’s just the free-speech-market at work.

Freemage
Freemage
8 years ago

Some day, I’d like to see one of the victims of online abuse streams like this sue Twitter or Facebook for breach of contract (for obviously failing to enforce their own ToS on the abusers unless the target is high-profile enough to have clout).

The issue, I think (IANAL), would be damages–those tend to be hard to demonstrate in a case like this, since there’s no money being paid to social media sites by the users in the first place. But even a finding of breach with no damages attached (if such a thing is something the courts would do) might be useful and embarrassing to the company, forcing a more aggressive enforcement policy.

And if there was a finding and no change, the company could end up facing punitive damages further down the road, since failing to account for prior findings is something that gets weighed in punitive rulings.

Axecalibur: Middle Name Danger
Axecalibur: Middle Name Danger
8 years ago

Something bad is gonna happen. Singularly bad, I mean. Something that can’t be blamed on anything else. Something big. There’s gonna be a ‘dogs and hoses’ moment. Nothing’s gonna happen until then, and, because nothing’s gonna happen, that something bad is gonna happen. Thinking about this makes me feel all kinds of gross…

Michael P
Michael P
8 years ago

Brett, I’d say that Gomergate-style behaviors and views aren’t bleeding out into other fandoms so much as coming to the surface. The reactionary shitlords in comics or science fiction fandom, for instance, may have been emboldened by GG, but I can attest that they’ve been present for a long time.

lkeke35
8 years ago

My mind likes to attach patterns to everything and has attached this to the general acting out of, lets be extra clear about this, mostly White men, because they are primarily the ones desperately trying to re-establish authority, (they never had in the first place), by trying to bully everyone into submission.

This is the end result of fifty years of social and racial progress, this whole massive toxic masculinity meltdown. There have always been pockets of this but it seems to have reached some kind of peak, where White men are so incensed at the idea of other people living freely without their say-so, that they seem to be having some kind of mass collective howl of bitterness.

It would be fascinating to watch if it wasn’t so terrifying to the rest of us.

So this is what they’ve come to now, threatening to kill and rape children, to make women and other marginalized people shut up?

Axecaliber: You and I are in agreement on this. Thinking about it makes me feel stones in the pit of my stomach. Something bad is gonna happen. Their behavior will get worse.

Sinkable John : Pansy Ass Pinko
Sinkable John : Pansy Ass Pinko
8 years ago

… that’s it, I’m out. If I’m needed, I’ll be in the corner drinking whisky, smoking weed and trying to rip a hole in the ground to crawl into forever.

Before that though. Is there anywhere support messages could be sent ? Seems like Jessica Valenti could use them right now.

Bazia
Bazia
8 years ago

As a woman who has received threats too, I would like to thank you, David, for your passion for justice and excellent journalism. You deserve a Pultitzer for your work.

Joel
Joel
8 years ago

I’m sure these scum are celebrating their “win” and all it took was threatening to rape a five year old. “It’s about ethics in child rape”
I’ve been threatened on Twitter (by followers of Elam and Barnes after getting into a Twitter fight)
But if they went to threatening my kids I’d be calling the cops.

KafkaNoMore
KafkaNoMore
8 years ago

I don’t know if she already did, but if not, JV should involve the police/courts into this.

Threatening to rape a kid is the lowest of the low these human garbage sacks have pulled by now.

It should not pass without consequences, both for them and for social media that is allowing such abuse in the first place!

It makes me sick to my stomach to watch this meltdown of toxic masculinity. Yuk yuk yuk!

KafkaNoMore
KafkaNoMore
8 years ago

On a side note, I remember when the toxic branch of youtube atheists organized “Everybody draw Mohammad day”, to insult Muslims, and how they then cried around when some of the organizers got death threats. How the evil Muslims are taking away they freedom of speech and freedom of expression by threatening everybody that attacks the Prophet Mohammad and forcing people into hiding.

Basically, MRA/MGTOW/PUA and other losers behave towards women like the most fanatic Muslims behave towards blasphemy.

It is also ironic, how these very same MRA/MGTOW/PUA and similar losers will be the first to jump on the hate-speech (ups I mean free speach) wagon to call Muslims terrorists.

Toxic masculinity knows no irony when it melts.

Loquora
Loquora
8 years ago

Where can these horrible excuses for people go from here? When you’ve threatened to rape and murder a child for what her mother says, how can you possibly get worse? What new low is there to reach? The only thing I can think of is action on these threats and the possibility chills me to the bone.

ViolinlessHoax
ViolinlessHoax
8 years ago

mostly White men, because they are primarily the ones desperately trying to re-establish authority, (they never had in the first place)

This is true (imo). On top of that, they have learned throughout their lives that there are virtually no consequences for their actions, no matter how stupid or cruel. They can get away with it, hell, they have for years now. And when some dudebro somehow does face sudden unexpected consequences (like lose his job or get arrested) for something he did or say, it’s excuses here and conspiracies there and “it’s all the OTHER’s fault!” everywhere.

leftwingfox
leftwingfox
8 years ago

The level of compartmentalization from her haters is detestable as well. They try and portray her as being weak for withdrawing after “One mean tweet” while ignoring the massive shit-mountain she receives that goes unaddressed, unacknowledged, and unpunished.

Sinkable John : Pansy Ass Pinko
Sinkable John : Pansy Ass Pinko
8 years ago

@ViolinlessHoax

excuses here and conspiracies there and “it’s all the OTHER’s fault!” everywhere.

“And I would’ve gotten away with it, if not for those meddling OTHERS !”

TiredTexan
TiredTexan
8 years ago

And remember how vicious us feminists were when we dared to criticize a European scientist’s shirt with half nude women all over it? We were terrorizing that poor guy by pointing out that his shirt was sexist, destroying his life.

It’s about who gets to have an opinion, and only white males are allowed. If anyone else has an opinion that is contrary to theirs, terrorism is just fine with credible threats of rape, murder etc. all fair game, and complainers just be weak, whiners.

But complain about a shirt, and all of a sudden, we’re terrorizing a poor man.

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