I find it hard to read about the Stanford rape case for more than a few minutes at a time. The whole thing is so grotesque and awful that I literally start twitching in anger and frustration and have to stop reading.
It took several tries for me to make it all the way through a three-and-a-half minute video from Buzzfeed in which a young woman read excerpts from the deeply unsettling letter the victim read to her attacker in court, and it left my stomach in knots.
Last night, a reader pointed me to what he said were some particularly egregious comments about the case he’d run across on Roosh V’s forum from a fellow who calls himself, perhaps appropriately, the Lizard of Oz. I finally forced myself to read them this morning, and found myself twitching again.
The Lizard is as angry about the case as I am. But he’s not angry at “poor wide-eyed fearful [Brock] Turner,” for violating an unconscious woman, or at the judge for giving Turner only a six month sentence (of which he will likely only serve half).
No, he’s angry at what he describes as “a society full of psychotic princesses and their despicable white-knight enablers which treats its young men as worthless roadkill.” And he’s angry at the woman who was violated for speaking up on her own behalf with what he sees as a suspicious eloquence.
Yes, that’s right. He’s mad at her in part because her letter is too well-written for his taste, complaining that the “emotionally dishonest” document “is a self-consciously literary text written in the hysterical tones of contemporary serious female fiction.” In another comment, he denounces her letter as “literary attention whoring from the first word to the last.”
His comments are worth looking at in some detail, if only as a sort of case study in the ways in which misogyny and rape culture can not only destroy a person’s basic human empathy but also their ability to see the facts right in front of them.
As The Lizard sees it, the only crime here is that a “drunk and confused teenage boy” had his “life …. destroyed” just because he failed to notice that his sex partner had passed out.
The idea that this is a “light sentence” is a tragically misplaced one. In reality, the guy’s life is ruined forever. He will be registered as a sex offender for the remainder of his life. He is an eternal pariah and outcast. All because this slut decided that a few moments of drunkenness were enough to destroy a man’s life for good.
The Lizard has somehow convinced himself, through a rather tortured reading of the victim’s letter, that she “liked” being violated by Turner.
This slut went to the party because she wanted to get drunk and cheat on her boyfriend. She obviously wanted this athlete guy to f**k her as she admits in this key passage from the “victim letter” which you need to parse correctly through its lawyerly wording.
Here’s the passage in question, in which she admits no such thing. (I’m putting quotes from her in blue to distinguish them clearly from his.)
And you’re right, maybe I was still fluttering my eyes and wasn’t completely limp yet, fine. His guilt did not depend on him knowing the exact second that I became unconscious, that is never what this was about. I was slurring, too drunk to consent way before I was on the ground. I should have never been touched in the first place
The meaning of the passage is pretty transparent. She’s not saying she consented. She’s saying that she was clearly, obviously, unquestionably “too drunk to consent.”
The Lizard has a somewhat different take.
In other words she’s admitting she was by no means unconscious when he started “fingering” her which she herself said she “liked”. This kid is now supposed to be a “rapist” because in his own drunkenness he could not figure out the exact moment when the equally drunk girl passed out? Really?
Yes, really. It doesn’t matter what “exact moment” she passed out, you stupid sack of garbage. If you stick your fingers into someone who is passed out, that is rape. If you stick your fingers into someone so drunk they’re on the verge of passing out, that is also rape.
The Lizard puts the word “liked” in quotes, as if it is a direct quote from the victim. It’s not. If you search her statement for the words “like” and “liked,” you won’t find her saying anywhere that she “liked” what Turner did to her.
Here are some of the things you will find. (I will put the words “like” and “liked” in italics.)
A paragraph in which she describes taking a shower in a hospital after several hours of being poked and prodded and examined for evidence of rape.
After a few hours of this, they let me shower. I stood there examining my body beneath the stream of water and decided, I don’t want my body anymore. I was terrified of it, I didn’t know what had been in it, if it had been contaminated, who had touched it. I wanted to take off my body like a jacket and leave it at the hospital with everything else.
A paragraph in which she describes how she learned what happened to her that night in the time between her last memory of the party she was at and when she came to hours later on a hospital gurney.
This was how I learned what happened to me, sitting at my desk reading the news at work. I learned what happened to me the same time everyone else in the world learned what happened to me. That’s when the pine needles in my hair made sense, they didn’t fall from a tree. He had taken off my underwear, his fingers had been inside of me. I don’t even know this person. I still don’t know this person. When I read about me like this, I said, this can’t be me, this can’t be me. I could not digest or accept any of this information.
A paragraph in which she addresses Turner for trying to excuse his actions by claiming he was too drunk to know what he was doing. An excerpt:
Sipping fireball is not your crime. Peeling off and discarding my underwear like a candy wrapper to insert your finger into my body, is where you went wrong. Why am I still explaining this.
A paragraph in which she discusses one way in which the sexual assault has affected her:
I can’t sleep alone at night without having a light on, like a five year old, because I have nightmares of being touched where I cannot wake up, I did this thing where I waited until the sun came up and I felt safe enough to sleep. For three months, I went to bed at six o’clock in the morning.
So where does the idea she “liked it” come from? Not from her, but from Turner. In her letter, she recalls reading a news account of the evening’s events:
In the next paragraph, I read something that I will never forgive; I read that according to him, I liked it. I liked it. Again, I do not have words for these feelings.
Speaking of the word “like,” The Lizard’s comment received fifty “likes” from Roosh V forum users. Here they all are:
MiscBrah, Horus, n/a, BallsDeep, GlobalMan, KidA, Samseau, Captainstabbin, spokepoker, Genghis Khan, RoastBeefCurtains4Me, Burt Gummer, Tokyo Joe, bigrich, gajf77, Comte De St. Germain, Mr. Scumbag, getdownonit, Renton1875, H1N1, Benoit, Chevalier De Seingalt, J. Spice, DJ-Matt, debeguiled, Neo2, Grodin, PUA_Rachacha, VincentVinturi, arafat scarf, Professor Fox, godzilla, Roadrunner, UroboricForms, B TAHKE, MMX2010, yfc4, Grizzles, Ocelot, TooFineAPoint, Polo, DeltaSmelt, Dismal Operator, Gmac, Geomann180, mpr, tradman, Avarence, dies irae, Matrixdude
In a followup comment, The Lizard begs a fellow forum member who actually sees the incident as”obviously a real case of rape” to have some empathy — for Turner.
Please try to think about this in actual human terms and understand what happened here. The idea that a young kid’s life should be ruined forever because of this incident is disgraceful.
It’s not long before The Lizard sets forth a conspiracy theory to explain just why the victim’s letter went viral. Weirdly, it involves Donald Trump.
I can tell you why it went viral:
1. They need this to make up for the loss they took on lyin’ Jackie [last name redacted –DF] in the UVa case — a loss they’re still smarting from.
2. It’s needed as payback for TRUMP — pretty much the fact that he still dares to exist.
Unbelievable. The Lizard concludes:
There is serious evil afoot here. But it’s not in the actions of one drunk confused kid — the evil is in our society and the hysterical extremes it has reached in pandering to female lies.
In a series of followup comments, The Lizard informs us that white men can’t rape:
“Rape” victims are few and far between, and real rapes, violent drag into the bushes rapes, are vanishingly rare on college campuses, and not committed by young white male college students.
That women apparently love — no, LOVE — having sex behind dumpsters:
What I know for sure is that women go to parties and get drunk because they want to f**k; and women, especially when they are drunk and horny, LOVE the idea and the excitement of having sex in public locations to an extent that most prudish men and white-knights can never understand.
That he’s pretty sure the victim didn’t write her letter, because reasons:
I did not believe when I saw it, and I believe less now, that it was written in full by “Emily Doe”. It bears all the marks of a far more experienced, ideological, and nastier hand.
I cannot prove, but strongly suspect, that this document was written in part or in full by Michele Dauber, the Stanford Law professor who has been primarily responsible for coordinating the propaganda campaign in this case.
Several commenters on Roosh’s forum, to their credit, take issue with The Lizard’s arguments, such as they are.
And then there is the odious piece of human garbage who calls himself GlobalMan — who may be a man we have met many times before, since“GlobalMan” was for years the internet moniker used by the extremely odd and terrible person better known as Peter-Andrew: Nolan(c).
Here is his take on the situation:
Wow. If [Turner’s] account is indeed accurate and true, not only is this the furthest thing from rape there could ever be, but it is also quite scary that men have to now worry about roving pairs of violent white knights intruding on any public lustful escapades with a willing and enthusiastic lover because they’ve been trained to view all males with natural virility as a threat to public safety.
What you have is in fact actually a sweet and beautiful scene, two young drunk kids slipping and falling and going at it right where they fell. Not too long ago in history someone would have walked by these kids and smirked, passing by with a smile at the thought of young lust. Now such a scene is cause to use violence to restrain the male and send him off to the gulag for societal castration.
A disgusting and sad outcome if there ever was one.
A “sweet and beautiful scene.” That comment got more than a dozen “likes” from the Roosh V Forum crowd.
I’m twitching again.
I didn’t realize just how terrible this whole story is until yesterday. Even several Roosh readers agree that it was rape and the guy is a gross rapist, which I’m pretty sure has never happened before (in the case of a white perpetrator).
I don’t even know what more to say about this. It’s just so wrong and horrible. I hope the victim can eventually get back to some kind of normal and happy life, and I hope it’s a long life which won’t contain anything like this ever again.
All of the hugs and support to all our readers and commenters who may have had similar crimes committed against them. I will never have any sympathy for rapists and abusers. Fuck them forever.
@ryeash
That was a beautiful image in amid all this rest of this, which just fills me with sadness, frustration and fury. Spiky edges FTW.
Which is why Turner sweetly and beautifully got up and ran when the two Swedish bikers approached. Because there’s nothing more sweet or beautiful than frantically ditching your
victimpartner to save your own sorry hide.@Buttercup
I’ve never been proud of Swedish biker dudes before. This is confusing.
The grossest reaction to this I’ve seen has been constant macros going, basically, “FEMINISTS Outraged he only got six months? Why? He’s getting the same sentence as female rapists. Equality!” and I just want to spit and swear and tear and just fuck you dipshits, there is not a single serious feminist who would excuse a short sentence for rape just because the rapist is a woman.
Further and also, douchebags, you don’t care about male victims unless it allows you to bludgeon female victims into silence.
This entire situation just exhausts me.
@ buttercup
I’ll lay any money that the MRAs will eventually make a reference to “cock blocking” :-/
Of course, MRAs consider the Swedish bicyclists who stopped Brock as the villains, along with the victim. Sigh.
And White males can never rape. Really dudes? One of the silliest things I’ve ever read.
@patricia
Yea, apparently we are supposed to be grateful for the attention, and enjoy their violation, especially if it follows with pregnancy and the birth of a good White specimen to carry on their Alpha seed line.
I will never and have never endorsed the use of violence to make a point, unless that point is I am a fucking neanderthal.
But am I the only one getting the urge to knee one of these rape-endorsing fuckskulls in the teeth?
@ I blame myself
There’s nothing to suggest Neanderthals were any more violent than cro magnons. In fact the evidence of people surviving for years after debilitating injuries would suggest they were a caring bunch.
I see your frustration but there’s understandable house rules on not raising that sort of issue. Let’s not cause any problems for David.
@Banananana dakry
Glad it could make someone feel better 🙂 Spiky edges are helpful when I can use them for good, but I wish I was better about that.
Besides the horrible grossness of the rape apologia, I find it pretty ridiculous that these guys are so surprised that a woman who’s a student at the most prestigious university in the western US is articulate and writes well. Apparently they’re really committed to the theory that all women have nothing in their heads besides celebrity gossip, marrying a rich husband, cucking innocent white nationalists, rationalization hamsters, and of course, shoes. It’s easier for them to believe in a conspiracy theory than it is them for them to believe that a woman might be eloquent.
Well Brock has been banned for life from USA swimming. Not that it really makes up for what he did.
A short break with some Tamarin monkeys:
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So I just read her entire account of what happened. I won’t go into the details, what struck me the most was how personal the prosecution aggressively questioned her and Brock is just a despicable human being who intentionally lied about the events of that night in order to get out of blame.
@WWTH
And yet, at the same time, apparently literature and humanities is the domain of ‘women’ stuff and totally inferior to ‘man’ stuff like STEM.
It’s like “uh, what? communication and literature is actually cool and important? Um, just kidding! Males are naturally good at that too and this proves women are just children!”
@Snork Maiden
And speaking of damned if you do damned if you don’t, seconding what you wrote.
A while back I sarcastically suggested that misogynists would claim that unless the perpetrator literally jumped out of a bush, then it’s clearly not rape. I didn’t realize how close their actual argument would be to that absurd hyperbole.
I’m sick. Nothing serious, just allergies. I should be lying down. I was lying down. Now I’m not. Now I’m pacing around my living room. I’m walking way too fucking fast. I’m finding it hard to stay still. This is the first time something from this blog has brought me this close to crying. And I don’t cry. Not since I was little
I sometimes say that some people are bad people, but they don’t have to be bad forever. They’ll figure it out, quit fucking up, and eventually we can forgive (not forget) and move on. No. My fingers want to write things. I’m gritting my teeth. If my mom heard I’d raped someone…
I need a gif. Someone please find me a gif. I need to see a revolving image of what I’m feeling. I can’t fucking deal with image search right now. I’m not even mad at the dude. I’m not even mad at the forum guys. Fuck them, but I’m not mad about that. The judge, and the dad, and the whole goddamn world! She doesn’t get out of this in 6 months. Nothing makes this better, does it?
Fuck it, I’m not editing any of this
Axe: I got you.
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Dear rape apologists:
I will admit to never having been raped myself, but I’ve been traumatized in other ways. I’ve also had really unpleasant sex with a guy who didn’t care about me as anything more than a notch on his bedpost. Put the two together and I have a pretty good idea of the kind of awfulness that the victim is going through and will continue to go through for quite some time.
Meanwhile, I cannot imagine wanting to have sex with anyone who is too drunk to be very responsive, much less passed out. Or sober but clearly not wanting to participate. Not even if I were drunk myself, because there’s no way to lose control of urges that I don’t even have. And if it somehow happened anyway, I would be appropriately horrified at my own actions and do whatever I could to make amends. Even if that meant spending years in prison. So I don’t emphasize with a rapist’s mindset at all.
So I must apologize for having absolutely zero fucks to give about how poor lil’ Brocky-boy’s life is all ruined and such. Not because he’s a man. Or white. Or rich. Or an athlete. But because he committed a terrible crime against someone and believes he did nothing wrong. He is thus a proven danger to society. You know, the very heart of the matter which you are trying to gloss over by smearing irrelevant bullshit all over it.
So if the only empathy you can muster is for a proven danger to society… maybe you ought to take a good look in the mirror and question whether you yourself might also be a danger to society, even if only indirectly.
Disrespectfully yours,
Snowberry
@Snowberry Who cares about society and people who may be a danger to it? Enjoy the Decline, baby!
I’ve been trying to analyse why I’m so riled by this; I think it’s because of the ‘perfect storm’ of rape culture phenomena.
Turner – callous indifference and entitlement. Not seeing a woman as a person or even human; just an object and a means to an end.
The father – all of the above plus not even acknowledging the existence of a victim except to tacitly blame her. Complete lack of empathy. Bewilderingly skewed priorities. Seeing perpetrator as victim.
The judge – oh FFS, no one was asking you to throw away the key but at least sentence vaguely in accordance with the guidelines.
The MRA commentariat – these are the ones that really get my goat. It’s the sheet pro-activness with which they jump on this. They’re actually glad this happened. It’s the perfect opportunity to further bully the victim and spout their abuse. What pushes me to anger though is their cowardice. I despise them for that. They spew vileness behind a cloak of anonymity and safety in numbers and they have the audacity to criticise the victim. She’s shown courage and bravery that these wankers couldn’t match if they lived to be a thousand.
Men – Want to live a simple, successful, carefree life unburdened by women’s and the state’s forced wealth, power and life transfer from men to women? Don’t (1) get married, (2) give women any legal, social, psychological, physical, financial or spiritual power over your life and (3) enlist in war to have your body parts blown across the battlefield for women. Let the little female snowflakes fight off the foreign aggressors themselves. Don’t build anything for them. Don’t sacrifice on their behalf. Women love it when men sacrifice of their life, health and wealth for women. Just stop doing these things and women’s power declines precipitously.
It’s all so simple. Women use and manipulate men for transfer of power, wealth and control from men to women. All you need do to have a great life is to not participate in their game. All you need do is cut them off from their normal, every day pipelines of wealth and power transfer.
“A prince proposed to a princess. The princess refused. The prince lived happily ever after.” This is how it really works. Never give a woman any power over your life and you’ve solved 99% of your potential life problems. Be happy. Be free of women’s power and control. For every man that opts out, another man is freed from the slavery of women’s hatred and envy of men.
The best thing to happen to men is feminism.
Bag of knives is one of my favorite rage gifs.
http://i1089.photobucket.com/albums/i342/buffyfan84/Gifs2011/Buffy/tumblr_lowilxqbRn1qihsweo1_500.gif
Not all anger is dramatic and loud. Some of us have more of a seething kind of rage!
@I Blame Myself: No, though I doubt I’d be that gentle. I tended more towards “20 minutes of action” with a suitable set of tools– and more than that would be tasteless and unproductive to mention here.
Look at a bunch of dachshunds in hot dog costumes instead, even if it’s ultimately for an ad for Heinz:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aNN9nL2vppM
I mean, c’mon, even if you think ketchup should never go on hot dogs, that’s adorable.
https://mic.com/articles/145898/in-response-to-brock-turner-the-porn-site-x-hamster-is-cracking-down-on-rape?utm_source=newsletter&utm_medium=miccheck
“In Response to Brock Turner, the Porn Site xHamster Is Cracking Down on Rape”
This seems oddly miraculous. It’s not going to change the world overnight, but damn, the creepsters who get off on this sort of wank material are being tacitly told that this is not really all right.
@Axecalibur
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Have four. If you’re feeling the same feel I’ve been feeling, these should be accurate.