Yesterday, we took a look at some completely ridiculous “Selfish Feminist” memes, based on the premise that women adopt feminism because that way they can reap all sorts of nifty benefits without having to work as hard as men, most notably the FREE DINNERS they constantly con poor schmucks into paying for. (Allegedly.)
For some reason, half of the memes involved actress/activist Ashley Judd, who isn’t really a selfish person at all.
You may recall that one of the memes was captioned “Why I need feminism? Sounds better than ‘selfishness.'”
Well, here’s another one using that little tagline that somehow manages to be creepier and cringier than all the rest of the “selfish feminist” memes all together.
Yep. In the mind of whoever made this meme, women not shaving their armpits is somehow a … selfish act, presumably because “ew, women with hairy armpits.”
Note to dudes who think this meme is somehow clever: What someone chooses to do (or not do) with their body is really only your business if you happen to own that body. Given that, you know, slavery is illegal and all that, the only body you own is your own body.
Women don’t owe it to men in general (or to you in particular) to shave their armpits or any other part of their body, pluck their eyebrows, keep their weight within the parameters you prefer, and so on and so on.
No, dudes, you are not obliged to find women with armpit hair attractive. The flip side of this is that women aren’t obliged to give a rat’s ass what you think of their armpits, or any other part of their body.
@Kale I think there may be more than a small hint of projection when people constantly assume selfish motives in others. Oh, and keep up the fight!
I can’t say I’m surprised that JB insists that she respects her husband so he won’t hit her. Sadly, it’s not just the MRA contingent who use “respect” as a synonym for “fear.”
I respect my husband because I know he’ll never hit me. Twenty years and counting.
I don’t know exactly why I am telling this, but my house was in a fire 12 hours ago. We were inside. My parents are very hurt and in the ICU. I thought they wouldnt make it out. It was hell inside. I guess I am still in shock. Why do bad things keep happening to us?
Pray for them if you are religious, please. They would appreciate this.
Oh Chiomara! I’m so sorry. I hope things get better soon and your parents recover fully. I know I don’t comment very much, but I always enjoy your comments; you seem like a really good person who doesn’t deserve this kind of trauma.
All my good thoughts going out to you. Please keep us posted!
@Chiomara
I’m glad you’re okay and I hope your parents recover quickly. Hugs if you want them.
She might actually be insulting her husband without knowing there, and writing him into her fantasy of men being righteously violent beasts that only her deference and perfection can keep from lashing out.
Abuse is not conditional. If someone thinks they should hit a spouse or a child over disrespect, they learn to see disrespect in the smallest things, in a gaze, in a word choice, in a posture, in a creak of the floor… everywhere. They’ll always have an excuse to hit anytime they want.
@Chiomara
One thing is for sure: it’s not because you deserve them. Sending all the good thoughts, and I hope your parents recover quickly. Our hearts are with you.
Chiomara, that’s awful, so sorry! Glad you and your parents got out! I hope your parents recover quickly.
@Chiomara
Oh my god, I’m so sorry. That’s really awful.
This meme is pure projection. And it’s telling. Selfishness is a key part of the manureosphere.
MRA definition of selfishness: a woman thinking of herself instead of him.
MRA definition of self-reliance: a man thinking of himself instead of her.
@ chiomara
Words always seem so inadequate at times like this, but for what it’s worth I’m willing best wishes for you and your family.
@Chiomara
I hope you and your family have a swift and uneventful recovery from such a horrible experience.
@Dodom
There becomes no facial expression that will be the *right* one to have because the abuser has decided that *any* is a problem, and yet they don’t let their target not be there. Because who would they have available to hit if their target was allowed to leave? I am unfortunately quite familiar with such things, but my history gives me a unique position of understanding while helping others through my job.
@Chiomara
I’m lousy with words in these sorts of moments, so I shall pray for you and your family. 🙂
@Chiomara I’m so sorry. I wish you and your family a speedy recovery.
OT: CBS canned its upcoming Nancy Drew show because it was “too female.”
@Chiomara – That’s awful. I am so sorry that happened to you. Sending warm thoughts and best wishes for a quick recovery for you and your family.
I left the tab open too long while typing my message and missed Chiomara’s in the process. I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to ignore you. That’s terrible to hear I hope you and your family will be ok. 🙁
@Chiomara
Best of wishes to you, and a quick recovery for you and your family.
So sorry, Chiomara! Wishing a speedy recovery.
Maybe the universe is using up all its bad stuff on you at once, and it’ll be nothing but good from here on? We can hope.
@Chiomara
Internet hugs if desired, and all the best wishes.
So… if I keep on with not shaving my pits (or anywhere, really) I can repel MRAs and not need to deal with them? Sweet deal! Yet another reason to never shave anything ever again, with notable exception for tattoos.
I’m so glad to know that when the MRAs crash all my SA protests I just need to wear a tank top and thrust my fists in the air and watch them all cower in fear at my hirsute pits!
My very best wishes to you and your parents, and all the internet hugs in the world, Chiomara.
All the best to you Chiomara, and a safe recovery for your parents. That must have been terrifying.
Seconded what Littleknown says, too.
@Chiomara
I’m very sorry that happened to you. It is very fortunate that you and your parents got out. Wishing you and them a swift recovery; may their time in the ICU be short and uneventful.