Things may be about to get very messy for pickup artist and most-hated-man-in-the-world candidate Roosh Valizadeh.
S. Jane Gari, the author of Losing the Dollhouse, a memoir dealing with emotional abuse, writes in a recent blog post that an Icelandic woman has come to her to tell her story of being raped by Roosh.
Up until this point, as Gari notes, Roosh has responded to accusations that he is a rapist — a conclusion many have come to by simply reading his own deeply creepy and unsettling accounts of his past sexual exploits — by proudly declaring that not a single woman has come forward to accuse him of rape.
“You would think that one girl would have come forward by now and say, ‘Roosh did it. He raped me,'” Gari reports Roosh as saying during his bizarre recent press coference. “Not one has come forward. Not one.’”
“Now she has,” Gari declares.
One of Roosh’s victims read my blog back in November and reached out to me, asking for my help in exposing him. She finally agreed to be interviewed after seeing how he continues to spout his poisonous, misogynist rhetoric with sickening bravado. I hope her courage will inspire other possible Roosh victims to come forward as well.
Here’s the story of the woman Gari calls “Susan” to protect her anonymity. (You can find more details on her blog.)
When Susan left a nightclub with her friends, Roosh, approached her on the street and insisted on walking her home. She asked him to leave her alone. Later, when she became separated from her friends, she noticed he was following her.
“You have a beautiful but sad walk. I know a great place to have a drink. You can join me. It will be fun,” he said.
Susan, Gari writes, told him several more times she didn’t want his supposed help, but he continued following her anyway.
When they reached Susan’s house, Gari continues, Roosh
asked politely if he could just use the toilet. Sleepy and still drunk from her night out, she acquiesced and let him in to use the bathroom.
Up until this point, Susan’s story matches one of the stories in Roosh’s book Bang Iceland almost exactly. The disappearance of Susan’s friends, which Roosh saw as an incredible bit of luck for him; Roosh following her home despite her clear and repeated protests; his insistence on coming in to use the bathroom — all of this is in Roosh’s own account.
It’s at this point that Roosh’s and Susan’s stories diverge wildly.
In Roosh’s version of events, she thanks him for walking him home, and after heating up some soup on the stove, joins Roosh on the couch
putting her legs over mine. Her wet feet were tiny and I compared them to my hands, which were a few inches larger. I went into horny creep mode and started rubbing her legs while talking.
Yes, even in Roosh’s own account, he comes across as a creepy predator.
After a brief conversation, they start kissing; she gets up, pours herself a bowl of soup, then heads into her bedroom.
“I followed her,” Roosh writes.
It went so fast in her bedroom that even I felt weird. Clothes ripped off. “Do you have a condom?” Jam the dick inside. Barely any kissing. I was too drunk to feel anything and she was too drunk to produce much in the way of lubrication, so after five minutes we stopped having sex, if that’s what you want to call it, and lay on our backs. She fell asleep and started snoring.
The next morning, Roosh says, he got up and left while she lay there sleeping.
As Roosh tells the story, in other words, he had brief, bad sex with a woman who was so not into it she was bone dry, and so drunk she passed out shortly after he gave up. It’s not clear even from his own account whether she was lucid enough to give meaningful consent. (This, by the way, is NOT the Icelandic woman Roosh has said he had sex with even though “in America” she would have been considered too drunk to give consent; that story comes later in Roosh’s book.)
Susan’s account of what happened after Roosh emerged from her bathroom is even more troubling. As Gari tells the story, Roosh asked her if she was home alone. When she said yes,
he asked her to touch his penis. When she refused, Roosh grabbed her.
Susan started crying and said, “Why are you doing this? You’re crazy.”
He laughed and overpowered her with force, saying, “All girls like this. It’s every woman’s fantasy. You don’t even know what you’re saying. You’re drunk, but I like drunk girls.” And then, according to Susan, he raped her.
So which account is more plausible — Roosh’s story of drunken but consensual sex or Susan’s story of forcible rape? If the latter, is Roosh’s version of events a lie, or is it his attempt to convince not only his readers but himself that what happened was just bad sex, not rape?
It’s worth noting, as I did in a previous post, that Roosh has admitted elsewhere to using force to get his way during sex. In Bang Ukraine, for example, Roosh describes using “muscle” to hold a woman down after she told him she wanted to change positions when the two were having sex. “I refused and we argued,” he wrote.
She tried to squirm away while I was laying down my strokes so I had to use some muscle to prevent her from escaping. I was able to finish, but my orgasm was weak.
Afterwards I told her she was selfish and that she couldn’t call an audible so late in the game.
This, too, Roosh presents as perfectly consensual sex.
Even if Susan’s account of Roosh raping her is 100% true, it’s unlikely Roosh will ever be prosecuted for this alleged crime. “He’s an American and she lives in Iceland.,” Gari notes. “She feels she has no recourse.”
Gari ends her post by urging any woman who may have been victimized by Roosh to step forward as Susan has done.
As Gari is careful to point out, Susan’s allegations against Roosh “have not been brought formally, nor has he been found guilty of a crime in court.” And I should note as well that I have not spoken to Susan myself; I am simply relaying what Gari has written. You can draw your own conclusions from the story she tells. I know I have.
I’ll be reading this more carefully in the morning. Sigh. Fucking Doosh.
It was only a matter of time. Also, even with a consenting partner, he sounds like the world’s worst lay.
He belongs in a prison.
I believe her, not least because this is exactly what I expect of Roosh. He is exactly this bad, if not worse.
Also… only two comments on that post, and they are utterly terrible. It may need a critical mass of commenters posting in support of S. Jane Gari and “Susan”… if anyone’s up to it.
(ETA: bless the ability to edit comments… I’m on my third edit of this one, and it’s short.)
What on earth does “call an audible” mean? Do I want to know?
Wait, is she being called Susan or Sarah? I’m a bit confused.
Even his account makes it sound like she never consented. I’m glad for her that she came forward. I hope she gets justice if she wants it, but completely understand if she doesn’t want the hassle.
Speaking of which, why is it so hard for some people to believe rape happened if there aren’t legal charges? Like with other forms of assault, sometimes it’s not worth the effort. Do these people bring charges against anyone who gets in a physical altercation with them? Somehow, I doubt it.
It’s an American football reference.
I think we can all predict the response of the Roosh fan boys.
Something along the lines of “she didn’t immediately report it to the police, therefore she’s just making it up to get attention and ruin Roosh’s reputation.”
The goal posts will keep shifting and even if he is ever actually convicted of rape, they will still say he is not a rapist and doesn’t endorse rape.
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You switched from Susan to Sarah.
I think its just any excuse to discredit victims. Even if there are charges, it becomes “bitch was lying” or “what did she expect for looking/acting/existing like that.” Excuses, nothing more…
Happy Valentine’s Day, Roosh, you disgusting motherfucker. I hope they shred your ass in court.
Didn’t Roosh also say in one of his crappy books that men should say they need to go to the bathroom to get access to a woman’s house if she doesn’t invite him in for sex, then, once inside, proceed as if she had?
I seem to remember that being a pro tip in one or another of the Bang series; guess it’s a trusted play for Roosh.
“Susan” came forward because he’s still out there running his mouth and though he might not have opportunities like those he brags about in his dumb e-bang-books anymore, he doesn’t have a problem with what he did nor would he do anything differently in the situation were it in the present day.
For the morons who support this toilet sludge and don’t see anything wrong with his actions past or present, who will undoubtedly be showing up to whinge…..What, U mad bros?
Too bad, cupcakes.
Ugh… well, if there’s any silver lining to this shitty, shitty story, it’s that Roosh might be given his long overdue stay in prison over it. I hope “Susan” gets the love and support she needs now.
I was hoping someone would come forward one day, maybe now his notoriety is spreading some other women will come forward. If they can give a time line of events that matches Roosh’s presence in their city (something they couldn’t know just from reading his accounts), then they should be believed. I doubt Roosh will ever be charged, but it’s good for their stories to be heard.
I always thought it weird that not one woman has ever admitted to being with Roosh, not to accuse or even defend him. I figured he was a man most women would want to forget.
Roosh wanted to be famous, now he gets to deal with his skeletons coming out of the closet.
From the descriptions, he sounds like a rapist AND a lousy lay. Guess the bar for “hero” in PUA-land is pretty low.
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Srsly, I hope Iceland CAN drag his ass to court over this. Even if they have to get an extradition. Or Interpol involved. Let’s see how macho and internationally renowned he feels THEN.
I’ve always rather hoped Roosh’s yarns are fantasies – or as we also say, lies. But I realised that I was being a bit too hopeful. And also that it didn’t matter very much, so long as there are fools reading his stuff who were liable to think it was true and might actually be conduct to emulate.
Really, very horrible. I hope his accuser and the blogger are safe, too. And anyone else who’s out there with similar experiences.
Oh, and what the hell is wrong with someone who hurts another person bad enough to make them cry while telling them it’s what every woman wants and it’s what they want and that they don’t know what they’re saying?
I hope she can find peace someday.
And I hope that day will be when Roosh lands his unwiped ass in prison, where he belongs.
Good luck preaching “game” when you’re locked in a 5′ by 7′, Rooshy.
And if they Icelandic authorities can do nothing else, may they declare him persona non grata.
And may all other countries follow suit.
@Bina: And let’s hope that Susan’s courage inspires other victims to come forward.
Not that I have hope in the system. 30 women came forward to call Cosby a rapist, and people still deny it.
Even if this Woman does not go ahead and file charges Her just coming forward might give rooshs other victims the courage to come forward as well. Just look at what happened to Bill Cosby .first one victim stood up and others followed.
Reading her account made me feel sick.
To elaborate further it’s when the team with the ball changes the play they are going to run after having already lined up, based on how the defense is arranged.
“We were going to do this, but based on the situation, we should actually do that instead”.