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Dean Esmay, Matt Forney Trade Rape-related Accusations in Internet Douchebag Grudge Match

And in this corner, Matt Forney!
And in this corner, Matt Forney!

Two of the internet’s most terrible people are engaged in a bitter grudge match that, one can only hope, leads to the utter defeat and humiliation of both of them.

In one corner, we have the excitable Dean Esmay, the former A Voice for Men Number Two who has become a formidable Twitter activist, if by “formidable” you mean “a slanderous, slur-spewing, own-goaling nitwit who really, really needs to think about switching to decaffeinated coffee and possibly getting off the internet forever because he embarrasses himself with such regularity.”

Checking with my dictionary, I see that this is not actually what “formidable” means.

Anyhoo, you may recall from my last post on Esmay that he has been loudly denouncing what he calls the “rape hysteria” in Cologne in Tweets like this one:

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/685029810523996160

In an irony-meter-breaking twist, Esmay has drawn a great deal of flak for this stance not so much from feminists as from an assortment of alt-right racists who want the world to believe the worst about Muslim “rapefugees.”

If you poke around on Twitter you will find Esmay being denounced as a rape apologist by such unsavory characters as Matt Forney and Roosh Valizadeh, who are, as readers of this blog know, not only repugnant misogynistic PUAs and far-right racists but also rather enthusiastic rape apologists themselves.

In a blog post, Forney expanded on the accusations and asked “Why Did Dean Esmay Call the Cologne Rape Victims ‘Liars?'”

Esmay has responded to these not-really-that-far-off accusations by screaming bloody murder and making a bunch of accusations of his own. After accusing Forney and Roosh of vile slander for suggesting that he thought that each and every one of the reports of sexual assault in Cologne were false, he went on to accuse Forney and Roosh themselves of rape.

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/687417655272292353

Esmay seems far more concerned about the alleged “quote-mined lies” being spread about himself than he does about the possible victims of Forney’s and Roosh’s alleged rapes.

Esmay’s blog post on the subject is more solipsistic still:

Confessed rapist Matt Forney has recently lied in public and, using Futrellian quote-mining, made it look as if I said women in Cologne lied about being raped. He knows this isn’t true, as does his cult leader RooshV, the king of the PUA rapetards and creator of the bizarre “NeoMasculinity” secular religion. Yet despite knowing the truth, and having had ample opportunity to retract his story, he and his creepy rapetard cult members keep saying it.

I’m not quie sure why Esmay thinks he’s going to convince anyone he’s not a rape apologist by calling his accusers “rapetards” — a nasty and thankfully not too widely known little portmanteau slur that AVFMers and former AVFMers like Esmay have generally applied to feminists fighting rape.

You know, I can only think of one reason to continually make a false allegation like that: Guilty men like to virtue signal by white knighting. So it appears that Matt Forney and RooshV are trying to recover some respectability by attacking innocent men. Why else with their disgusting lies about what I said on Cologne?

Now, we’ve all seen the evidence in Roosh’s own writing that has suggested to many observers that he’s a rapist. But what evidence is there against Forney?

Esmay points to a blog post of Forney’s with the appalling title “Why Girls Rarely Mean No When They Say No.” The post, which an apparently embarrassed Forney removed from his site some months ago, is as rapey as the title suggests. In it, Forney argues that “No Means Yes/Maybe/Take Me, You Sexy Beast!” and explains that

When a girl says “no” to sex or a particular sexual act, she rarely if ever means it wholeheartedly. While girls have sexual boundaries, theirs are not nearly as strong or well-defined as yours. With the right mix of persuasion, persistence, and audaciousness, you can get a girl to do just about anything you want. I know, because I’ve done it.

He follows this little confession with a story about how he once sort-of, kind-of forced sex on a “fuckbuddy” of his even though she “was in no mood to fuck.” She explicitly told him no; he removed her clothes and had sex with her anyway. “After about ten minutes,” he writes, “she started yelping like she was having her fingernails ripped out with a pair of pliers.” He kept going, nonetheless.

The twist ending? She didn’t actually charge him with rape.

Did she yell at me? Run off to the phone to call 911? Complain about how I’d ignored her wishes and fucked her anyway even though she didn’t want me to?

No: she hugged me and told me that I was “the only man on Earth who didn’t make [her] want to throw up.”

Make of that what you will.

Forney, in a blog post defending himself against Esmay’s accusations, describes this post as

a blog post I wrote a while ago and deleted, both because it was poorly-written and in poor taste (even for me), a post that has nothing to do with rape. 

Esmay then brings up some other rape allegations that have been made against Forney by blogger Rachel Haywire. Haywire hasn’t accused Forney of raping her, instead claiming that Forney raped a female friend of his; according to one anonymous tipster Esmay quotes in his blog post, the boyfriend of the woman in question walked in on Forney raping her as she lay passed-out on the floor. According to the source, she didn’t remember any of it.

Forney’s defense against these accusations is similar to the one he used in his blog post — noting that the alleged victim isn’t the one making the accusations and that she’s still a friend of his. On Twitter, he’s posted photos of the two of them together, smiling. Make of that what you will.

Could the grudge match between Esmay and Forney get any uglier? I think it could, and probably will.

 

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dhag85
dhag85
4 years ago

@Alan

I was sleeping. 🙂

We have something like 21 hours of darkness/day here right now, so I’m gonna have to do this measuring a few months from now. Just remind me later!

Alan Robertshaw
Alan Robertshaw
4 years ago

Ooh, be careful of the darkness. I saw a film the other night. It was about a town that had 30 Days of Darkness, and during that 30 Days of Darkness some creatures attacked everybody and the townspeople had to survive and hang on until those 30 days of Darkness were over.

I think it was called “Arctic Bitey Monsters”

(Yeah I know, ripping off Homer Simpson, but hey)

dhag85
dhag85
4 years ago

@Alan

30 days of no sun at all is pretty much exactly what happens here every winter. Not sure about the bitey creatures though!

Also, I was wrong about the 21 hours. It’s more like 23. Sunrise at 11:21, sunset at 12:26.

Kat
Kat
4 years ago

@dhag85
My hair stylist moved to Alaska and then had to move back because she got there and then WINTER HAPPENED.

Do you get depressed?

She sure did.

dhag85
dhag85
4 years ago

@Kat

No, I actually like it. It doesn’t get this extreme where we live, but for me it’s normal in mid-winter to have decent daylight from 9 or 10 in the morning to 3 or 4 in the afternoon. I wouldn’t mind slightly more light than that, put I prefer evenings and especially nights to be dark. I get frustrated around midsummer here when you have a window of about 2 hours to get to sleep or you might as well just get out of bed.

Kat
Kat
4 years ago

@dhag85
Huh! I guess that you’re used to it.

EJ (The Other One)
EJ (The Other One)
4 years ago

@dhag85:
I suppose if you can’t get to sleep you might as well go somewhere and do something; and that’s why the Rurikid dynasty and Gustavus Adolphus’s empire happened.

dhag85
dhag85
4 years ago

@EJ

In my case it usually leads to potato chips and Harvest Moon. No dynasties or empires so far. :/

Arctic Ape
Arctic Ape
4 years ago

30 days of no sun at all is pretty much exactly what happens here every winter. Not sure about the bitey creatures though!

The bitey creature mass attack, called räkkä in northern Finland, occurs in summer when the mires breed huge numbers of mosquitoes, gnats etc.

My hair stylist moved to Alaska and then had to move back because she got there and then WINTER HAPPENED.

I suppose the combination of high latitude and maritime climate, like in Norway or coastal Alaska, makes the most miserable winters. There’s usually a constant cloud cover eating away what daylight you have, plus lots of wind and rain between occasional cold snaps. Most of the time there’s either no snow, or lots of snow that thaws, freezes again and makes everything icy and slippery.

Do you get depressed?

I do, although here (southern Finland) the winter doesn’t get as bad as some other places. Then again, I love the summer here.

Kat
Kat
4 years ago

@Arctic Ape
Thanks for the info. I’m in Northern California and so I’m really spoiled. When it rains a lot, I hate to use public transit. Can’t the rain stop when I’m waiting for the bus? I don’t think that’s too much to ask.

Arctic Ape
Arctic Ape
4 years ago

Recently, one Finnish public health expert argued that people living up north really, really shouldn’t have to go to work early, either in winter or summer. (personally, I already have the privilege of mostly setting my own work schedule btw)

In winter, it’s obviously difficult for most people to get out at dark o’clock. What’s less obvious is how it wrecks your health in the long term. If the day’s shorter than your workday, it’s important to see some light in the morning rather than in the afternoon or not at all.

In summer, it’s best to go to sleep late at night during the brief darkness. Most people can then fairly easily continue sleeping several hours into daylight, and there’s still enough day left for both work and evening activities. Daylight saving is actually really counterproductive at these latitudes.

kupo
kupo
4 years ago

@Arctic Ape

Where I live it’s not that bad, but around mid-winter I go to work in the dark and drive home in the dark, and in the summer if I’m working an earlier shift it’s hard to get to sleep early enough for a full night’s sleep. I believe I have SAD and it gets really, really hard in the winter. It’s so much harder when I have to shift everything by an hour because some guy centuries ago decided he wanted to be more frugal about candle wax. What really gets me is that this is a know health risk and most businesses set their own hours, so why do we even go along with it anymore?

Miss Andry
4 years ago

Looks like Bernard Chapin got in on the fight too. No links to the video, anyone can find it, but he calls AVFM “A Voice for Manginas” and calls Dean Esmay a “cuck” and a “pussy.” Things are heating up.

TheLulzWatch
TheLulzWatch
4 years ago

Oh, this is delicious!