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Rape culture deniers: Genuinely confused or just pretending?

Rape Culture deniers: Genuinely confused or just pretending?
Rape Culture deniers: Are they this confused about everything?

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So yesterday I posted about the repulsive, rapey banners that some frat guys hung from the balcony of their frat at Old Dominion University in Virginia. Banners that were so obviously problematic that the school administration immediately suspended the frat to investigate.

Here. as a reminder, are the banners in question:

They ruined three bedsheets for this?
House of Rape Culture

I also quoted Amanda Marcotte, who noted that, when faced with clear evidence of rape culture like these banners, rape apologists like to

suddenly pretend they are aliens from another planet and only learned human language last week and therefore are incapable of picking up on humor, implication, non-verbal communication and nuanced language. They pretend to ascribe to a form of communication so literal that even the slightest bit of metaphor or implication, to hear them talk, sends them spinning into a state of confusion.

After I put up my post yesterday, several rape culture deniers wandered into my Twitter mentions, as if to prove Marcotte’s point, posting pictures of banners put up by sorority women  at the school and demanding to know why I wasn’t attacking these women for their alleged promotion of rape culture as well.

https://twitter.com/WoolyBumblebee/status/636343927914786817

I suspect most of you are as nonplussed by this as I was. Because these banners don’t actually promote rape culture. And not because the people holding them up are women, not men.

The frat’s banners have a creepy, predatory edge to them. They are addressed not to the incoming freshmen women, but to the fathers of these women. They strongly suggest that any woman who walks through their doors — or is “dropped off” by dad — is going to be shown a “rowdy … good time” whether she’s “ready” for it or not.

They don’t explicitly use the word “rape” but given how completely they erase the agency of the young women in question they might as well just do that.

The rape threat is implicit, not explicit, but it is clear enough that most people seeing these banners can understand in an instant what they “really mean” and what the problem is.

The banners held up by the sorority women are a different thing entirely. They don’t put forth the message: “we are going to do things to you (whether you like it or not).” They are playful, not threatening, and tell prospective dates “we like sex, and if you get with us you might even get to do ‘butt stuff.'”

The first banner only asks that men pull out before they come; no one wants any babies. The second tells men they are “welcome” to use the back door, nudge nudge. Instead of saying “we will do things to you,” they say “you can do things to us.” Presumably in the context of consensual sex.

Just as rape =/= sex, talking about sex =/= talking about rape.

Is it creepy that when new freshmen men arrive on the campus they’re greeted with giant banners aimed at them and laden with sexual innuendo? Maybe, but it’s nowhere near as creepy as banners greeting freshman women (and their mothers) with not-very-subtle threats of rape.

I tried to get this point across to one of my Twitter interlocutors, the antifeminist Youtube gadfly WoolyBumblebee; it didn’t take. Some excerpts of the ensuing “discussion.”

wb1

Rape threats, even implicit ones, are rape culture. Mentions of sex aren’t. You’d think this wouldn’t be hard to understand.

wb2

 

Does WoolyBumblebee really not understand that if someone says “you can put it in my butt” they are not threatening to rape you?

It might not be the appropriate thing to bring up at, say, a dinner party. And if you say it repeatedly to someone not interested in sex with you, it would be sexual harassment.

But it wouldn’t be a rape threat.

WoolyBumblebee more or less conceded this point shortly afterwards. And returned to claiming (or pretending) she didn’t see the threat in the banners posted by the frat guys.

wb3

Around and around we go!

Or we would have if I hadn’t gotten off the internet to watch an episode of Mr. Robot.

The question I am left with, as I generally am in the wake of “discussions” with those who seem to be incapable of understanding the basics of human language, is this: Are these people really this literal-minded and obtuse, or are they just pretending? 

If the former, how exactly do they manage to even work a computer? Did they make bird noises at their laptop or into their phone for weeks on end before someone explained that’s not how Twitter works? Do they understand the difference between filing their nails and filing their taxes?

It’s gotta be an act, right?

 

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Alan Robertshaw
Alan Robertshaw
5 years ago

Didn’t we have some other troll who kept trying to get us to go to his blog?

I think it’s outrageous when people try to link to their blogs; even if their latest post has a kitty in it.

https://challengesandtraining.com/in-for-a-long-stretch/

darrensball
5 years ago

I’ll leave you all to your echo chamber. Good night all.

Scented Fucking Hard Chairs
Scented Fucking Hard Chairs
5 years ago

Christopher Allman and John Allman also shilled their blogs like their boners lives depended on it. Seems to be a pretty common thread with anti-feminists.

kirbywarp
kirbywarp
5 years ago

Heh, “confrontational mode.” Musn’t dare to be confrontational… especially when my patience is wearing thin trying to explain something when I really shouldn’t be the one doing the explaining.

My tone is going to vary from “helpful explanation” to “derision at an absurdity.” If that relatively small tonal shift is going to prevent you from seeing the points I’m making and taking them seriously, then you might be the kind of person who only cares to confront his mistaken worldview when it’s personally comfortable. Not someone actually interested in learning.

Gaebolga
Gaebolga
5 years ago

MISOGYNY…

Misogyny…

misogyny…

msgni…

Gaebolga
Gaebolga
5 years ago

Bets on whether he’ll stick the flounce?

darrensball
5 years ago

Kirby

I’ll make one last point. I changed my view following the good arguments that you made, which pretty much proves your last paragraph wrong, does it not. I learnt something. Thank you. good night!

kirbywarp
kirbywarp
5 years ago

G’night, darrensball. Here’s hoping you’ll follow through and start reading some feminist women.

weirwoodtreehugger
5 years ago

I’m still confused as to what view he’s actually changed, but he’s flounced, so whatever.

Scented Fucking Hard Chairs
Scented Fucking Hard Chairs
5 years ago

Ahahaha. I’ll take that to mean “No bets,” then.

Gaebolga
Gaebolga
5 years ago

Well, that was some awesome timing….

kirbywarp
kirbywarp
5 years ago

@Gaebolga

Sure was.

@WWTH:

He was talking about how his views of what “rape culture” was had changed. I hope they’ve become broader and less strawman-y, but who knows.

Alan Robertshaw
Alan Robertshaw
5 years ago

Sorry for getting the Necronomicon out yet again, but this seems relevant:

http://www.theguardian.com/education/2015/sep/06/government-inquiry-violence-against-women-at-universities

Mandy (@kawaiidictator)

They really believe this shit. Active participants in rape culture… believe the lies of rape culture. The people that defend this shit are the type of people that slut shame, believe that men wanting to have sex with a friend isn’t a crime, and believe that women make up rape claims for attention. They are delusional and live in a world where straw feminists say crazy shit and then they sit in an echo chamber and drink in the praise. People who spread MRA gospel are misogynists, they hate women and believe them inferior. They aren’t pretending shit. They don’t see a father handing a woman off at a wedding romantic and see “drop off mom too” as cheeky. They’re bigots, LOL.

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