IT’S SCIENCE: Ranting and raving at people all day on the internet isn’t good for you

Wow, that was really insightful and handy. I have been too caught up in this roosh thing. I need a break.

That’s some pretty good insight. This might useful in my emotions and anger management group at work.

This idea of venting probably irritates me more than it does many other people who didn’t grow up in the Freud dominated era. I had several friends who subscribed to the Freudian view that it was unhealthy to “repress” anger. You should express it and ‘get rid of it’.

What I noticed about these people was that, far from being rid of anger and resentments, these people Had. The. Most. Practice. at displaying and expressing anger.

A totally self-defeating strategy.

How true. I think some people are “anger junkies”. Anger seems to rev them up, and motivates them.

I’m the exact opposite. I find anger, a very uncomfortable emotion to experience. I mean, to the point where I’ve actually vomited.

@WWTH

Same here. I really do need to rant for a bit on occasion, but mostly about stuff like my online courses being full of stupid. (Like advocating that people who pass potentially fatal STDs on for murder. And claiming that people would, when talked to about safe sex, “misunderstand pregnancy advertisements” to mean they should have unsafe sex.)

How true. I think some people are “anger junkies”. Anger seems to rev them up, and motivates them.

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Apologies in advance if this unsightly pic turns out too big.

You know, whenever I see a picture of Trump with his mouth open like that, I always imagine a really loud belch coming out. Like a thunderous BRRRAAAAAAAAAPPP.

It’s probably on the level of whatever he’s actually saying in those pictures.

weirwoodtreehugger | August 12, 2015 at 8:53 pm
I think there’s a difference between frustration/irritation kind of anger and bitterness/hate kind of anger. When it’s the former, I do think maybe venting helps. At least it does for me. But frustration and irritation are temporary feelings. No amount of venting is make somebody who is miserable and hateful better. It’s not a temporary feeling with these people, anger is a personality trait with them.

I agree. I like to vent on little things, and sometimes when I “vent” about bigger things, I don’t get angry, I just cry a lot, and I feel better afterwards.

To quote an old favorite webcomic of mine: “Crying is like puking for the soul”.

Also, inb4 any MRAs come in here and try and twist this around to make the claim that “feminists are evil!”: There’s a difference between “venting” because someone (who is oppressed compared to you) makes you angry because they did something you deem to be “out of line” with your worldview and “venting” because society as a whole makes you angry because it treats you like shit based on things you have no control over (gender, race, sexual orientation, etc).

And, no, men are not one of those groups. You are not oppressed. You’re just angry.

I just wanted to say, if you ever want a good 10 hour video, this one is my favorite.

Probably the only one I could literally watch for 10 hours and still not get tired of seeing it.

I learned about this in psych 101 (about catharsis being counterproductive) and was completely unsurprised when the guy with the rage and yelling issues I worked with said he liked to do cathartic exercises.

A herd of corgis are pretty happy making, right?
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That’s really interesting. The thing about venting is that we rarely do it into an empty space. When we vent, we’re usually venting ON someone else. A burden shared (involuntarily) isn’t necessarily a burden halved, it’s a burden spread – multiplied. Making someone else feel shit doesn’t make me feel better, even if, occasionally, one might feel a moment of satisfaction, it’s a dirty satisfaction.

But I do wonder if this is about personality type. The study on ‘everyday evil’ http://www.bbc.com/future/story/20150130-the-man-who-studies-evil found that certain people enjoyed causing pain and these are our internet trolls. Or if there’s an empathy deficit…

My dickhead spouse was a chronic venter of little irritations, but the effect on me was soul crushing. Irritated by the way I folded a towel, cut a sandwich, loaded a dishwasher, told my son I loved him, etc etc etc etc – he’d let me know. He’d also relieve social anxiety by picking fights with me (just creating anxiety in me). Overall, it was abuse. (I mean there was much worse than that, but even without, it was still abusive).

Major anger venting or even little vexations – there’s usually someone on the receiving end you’ve made feel worse.

This isn’t to say you should allow ‘bad’ behaviour to continue (I’m guilty of that and not speaking up). But are you being constructive or are you using someone else to provide you a moment of short-lived tension relief?

rugbyyogi | August 13, 2015 at 12:16 am
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But are you being constructive or are you using someone else to provide you a moment of short-lived tension relief?

I usually do my venting by myself, and that’s because of my anxiety. I don’t like to talk about my feelings to other people, because I feel like I’m burdening them with my problems, and I’m pretty sure that stems from my family going “What do you mean you have problems?! Mine are so much worse than yours!” all the time. I can’t talk to them about anything, really.

And, like I said before, I just cry to myself for a while until I feel better.

Pandapool — The Species that Endangers YOU | August 12, 2015 at 11:34 pm
I am very disturbed by the lack of glittery gifs in this thread.

Is this better?