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Newly free from A Voice for Men, Dean Esmay continues on being a douchebag

Dean Esmay's Opinions: Still Terrible
Dean Esmay’s Opinions: Still Terrible

When the lovely Dean Esmay jumped (or was pushed) off the good ship A Voice for Men last week, we were told that he intended to “take his activism in a different direction.”

So far that “new direction” looks suspiciously like the “old direction.” While Esmay has reduced the frequency of his intemperate, accusatory, free-associational Tweets from a flood to a trickle, he hasn’t stopped Tweeting — apparently his primary form of “Activism” for now — and his Tweets are as intemperate, accusatory, and free-associational as ever. 

He’s still attacking anyone even vaguely critical of the Men’s Rights movement as “lying bigots;” describing anyone even vaguely critical of him as “cyberbullies” and maybe even paid shills; and making bizarre pronouncements to no on in particular.

Here he is offering his take on the rather fraught issue of women in STEM.

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/624675217613438976

Here he is taking on the question of the Confederate flag.

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Here he is trying to convince the world that Washington Post writer Caitlin Dewey is  a “cyberbully” … by spamming her Twitter account with attacks on her. Oh, and spamming the Twitter account of a completely different and utter;y unrelated woman named Caitlyn Dewey, who spells her first name with a Y.

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https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/625724375258546176

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/625724287991836672

(He’s been pestering her for a while.)

Here he is trying to convince a feminist that he knows more about feminism than she does.

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Here he is proving that the only feminism he knows anything about is the Bizarro World feminism he dreams up in his own feverish mind.

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/625726489347117056

And here he is trying to convince another feminist that he’s a nice guy, honest.

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/625646153124614144

Take a break, dude. Take a long break and think, really think, about what you’re doing with your life.

 

 

 

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Johanna Roberts
5 years ago

The amount of self delusion that goes into calling himself a nice guy would be shocking if that wasn’t what the entire MRA actually thought of themselves. =__=

sunnysombrera
5 years ago

@Johanna
“But I’m a nice guy! How DARE she take out a restraining order on me after I threatened to burn her house down for making me pay child support! It’s totally unreasonable because child support is rape! She raped me! Women are bitches amirite lads? Nice guys like us just can’t get a break in this misandrist world.”

thierryguerrant
thierryguerrant
5 years ago

Maybe we could get him a talking mirror that would tell him how wonderful he is. Then he could just sit and gaze enraptured and leave the rest of our species alone.

EJ (The Other One)
EJ (The Other One)
5 years ago

I’ve been thinking about the charge of “bullying.” It’s a term that gets slung around a lot by MRAs in a very specific context and with a very specific meaning. In my opinion, it goes back to the playground, that place we all remember with such love and affinity.

Most geeks were not part of the popular clique, and many of us were bullied at school. Our socialisation was a matter of hiding in the library and pretending that stuff wasn’t happening. As a result, a “me against the world” sort of siege mentality tends to develop, and the archetypes of “bully” and “socially able person” easily become merged in our minds. When people who’ve gone through this process see a person who’s funny, well-liked and kind to others, they instinctively think of them as being “one of the popular clique”, which we’ve been socialised to think means “bully.”

Most of us reject this socialisation later when we get to university or work and we discover our peers and grow to like their company. However, some don’t, either due to not discovering any peers or else due to having a poisonous peer group, and it sticks.

Let’s add this one to the MRA dictionary.

Bully, n. A person who is funny, kind and smart enough that others appreciate their company and are willing to help them.

sunnysombrera
5 years ago

@EJ
I thought “bully” in MRAland meant “someone who isn’t fooled by my bullshit and calls me out on it respectfully”.

EJ (The Other One)
EJ (The Other One)
5 years ago

@sunnysombrera:
Isn’t that just “Person”?

Alan Robertshaw
Alan Robertshaw
5 years ago

@ SunnyS

Bully = Anyone show disagrees with me

Censorship = When someone disagrees with me.

Misandry = When those disagreeing with me are women

Falconer
5 years ago

@thierry guerrant:

Maybe we could get him a talking mirror that would tell him how wonderful he is. Then he could just sit and gaze enraptured and leave the rest of our species alone.

I can’t think of a single mirror I’d do that to. The problem with a talking mirror is that they all start looking like people to me.

Maybe the Mirror of Erised?

Bazia
Bazia
5 years ago

Perhaps his real problems include his health, his relationships, and his income. Trying to forget about the real problems by attacking individuals who have done nothing to him is scapegoating. It feels good because he is lashing out at someone, and he needs to lash out, but you can only end the misery you live in by doing something about your reality. Get a job, for instance.

Luzbelitx
5 years ago

Better be an asshole on land than an asshole on a sinking ship, right Esmay?
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(no, it’s not really better, and I think you’re sinking anyway… keep paddling!)

kylagb
5 years ago

I think it might be too much too ask Dean Esmay to think long and hard about anything.

yutolia
yutolia
5 years ago

@kylagb: that’s probably true about everyone at AVfM – I think having no critical thinking skills is a prerequisite to being in any way involved.

Paradoxical Intention
5 years ago

I hope miss Caitlyn with a Y reports him for harassment on twitter. Because Esmay will obviously never get the name right, and even if someone did correct him, he’d never admit he was wrong. : /

MRAs: We want to harass people, but we’re too lazy to make sure we’re harassing the right person, or to make sure the target of our harassment has actually done something wrong.

weirwoodtreehugger
5 years ago

People keep wanting to feel bad for Dean and hope he’ll turn over a new leaf. I’m starting to think that’s a little bit of a pie in sky hope.

opium4themasses
5 years ago

Huh. Maybe Tub boy and Mr Tooth could do a team up.

katz
katz
5 years ago

Maybe we could get him a talking mirror that would tell him how wonderful he is. Then he could just sit and gaze enraptured and leave the rest of our species alone.

I think Eliza is about his speed.

spacelawn
5 years ago

As always, he has no self awareness at all, a requiring theme with these MRA’s i’ve noticed. Why is this the case with so many of em? I really wanna know…

Moggie
Moggie
5 years ago

Caitlin and Caitlyn are just different parts of the female hive-mind, so they’re effectively the same person anyway. I’ll just call them Katie.

loquora
5 years ago

I was ready to be furious after his comment about female programmers (considering I’m a female programmer) but then I got to the last one and I just sort of deflated. It was just so transparently pathetic I couldn’t be angry anymore. It won’t make a difference if I’m angry anyway, so it’s for the best.

NicolaLuna
NicolaLuna
5 years ago

This is my face every freaking time I read something by Esmay

http://gifrific.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/12/Blackadder-Confused-Look.gif

It’s like he’s actively *trying* to not make any sense.

katz
katz
5 years ago

Caitlin and Caitlyn are just different parts of the female hive-mind, so they’re effectively the same person anyway. I’ll just call them Katie.

I am Katie and you are Katie and you are me and we are all together.

superdangermike
5 years ago

I’m pretty sure this chap is trying to use a verbal version of the pulling-the-hair-of-a-girl-in-the-playground-and-running-away method of getting attention.

Except he’s at least in his mid 40s so he should have grown up by now.

Moggie
Moggie
5 years ago

I… I thought I was the walrus?

Ellesar
Ellesar
5 years ago

Moggie – I am the Eggman – or Eggwoman?!

porcuspinus
porcuspinus
5 years ago

So what’s this new activism called? Super-Duper-Men’s-Rights-Activism-Fuq-All-Yall?

TedBelmont
TedBelmont
5 years ago

Carry on, my wayward son.

GrumpyOldSocialJusticeMangina

I have a daughter named Caitlin, and if he spelled her name with a Y she’d hunt him down and glare him unconscious.

Falconer
5 years ago

I… I thought I was the walrus?

I am clearly the Fool on the Hill.

Tracy
Tracy
5 years ago

People keep wanting to feel bad for Dean and hope he’ll turn over a new leaf. I’m starting to think that’s a little bit of a pie in sky hope.

I’ve always had a soft spot for Dean, partly because he seemed… less frothy/unreasonable and more intelligent, and sometimes he seemed on the verge of getting it. Plus, his avatar looks like Bob Seger.

Now, however, I’ve given up. He’s frothed to the gills. He’s gone… gone.

http://i.giphy.com/IPxc4NXAkU76M.gif

Bina
Bina
5 years ago

I was told some so-called MRAs were nasty to you. If you ever want to talk to an MRA who thinks that was wrong, I’m here.

Good thing for Deano I finished my beer before I read that, or he’d owe me a keyboard. And possibly a monitor.

(Or, hell…a whole new laptop.)

Nop
Nop
5 years ago

@Moggie Koo Koo Kachoo!

Deborah Hitchens (@Deb_Hitchens)

a few days ago i noticed Esmay gave a thumbs up to a video uploaded to youtube by one of his fans showing clips of men punching women in the face,
most of the comments below it were written by various MRA applauding every punch, apparently so did Esmay.

Bina
Bina
5 years ago

a few days ago i noticed Esmay gave a thumbs up to a video uploaded to youtube by one of his fans showing clips of men punching women in the face,
most of the comments below it were written by various MRA applauding every punch, apparently so did Esmay.

I want to see that video…well, not SEE it, because it sounds awful, but do you have a link? This bears closer investigation.

Especially since Deano is apparently trying (and failing, as usual) to present himself as not-all-MRAs.

J. Schmidt
J. Schmidt
5 years ago

I’ve always had a soft spot for Dean, partly because he seemed… less frothy/unreasonable and more intelligent, and sometimes he seemed on the verge of getting it. Plus, his avatar looks like Bob Seger.

Tracy

I always thought Dean was playing the role of “the reasonable one”; he always seemed less vitriolic, less hostile, and more compassionate than the rest of them (not that this is saying much).

AndreTheFireant
AndreTheFireant
5 years ago

Why yes Dean, I would say that an entire culture based around being proud of your ignorance is a “problem.”

GrumpyOldSocialJusticeMangina

“he always seemed less vitriolic, less hostile, and more compassionate than the rest of them”
And apparently he was booted out for not living up to their standards.
And, again: What about The Tooth? Inquiring minds want to know.

painteyelash
painteyelash
5 years ago

@GrumpyOldSocialJusticeMangina

The Tooth is a reference to Dean Esmay’s tooth/teeth that had to be fixed but couldn’t afford to, and he blamed feminists for not having the money. David wrote a post about it once.

GrumpyOldSocialJusticeMangina

@painteyelash: My comment was snark. Supposedly AVfM was going to raise money to pay for getting his tooth fixed, and I was wondering whether they raised any and whether, like everything else, it ended up in Paulie’s pocket.

painteyelash
painteyelash
5 years ago

@Grumpy:

Ah. Okay 🙂