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An Air Mattress, a Motorcycle, and a Flat-Screen TV: Living the dream, MGTOW-style

The good life?
The good life?

The Rubaiyat of Omar Khayyam celebrates the simple pleasures of

A Book of Verses underneath the Bough,
A Jug of Wine, a Loaf of Bread-and Thou

Reddit’s MGTOW contingent has a somewhat different notion of what constitutes the good life. It involves a motorcycle in one’s bedroom. 

Last week, one Man Going His Own Way proudly posted the photo above to the MGTOW subreddit, where it received more than 80 upvotes and pretty much universal acclaim.

“People always ask when I would leave this ‘narcissistic immature lifestyle’ behind and just man up and get married already,” he wrote. “Why would I want to wake up to anything other than this in my bedroom???”

Replacing the wine, bread, and poetry of Omar Khayyam’s little scene we have:

  • An air mattress
  • A motorcycle
  • A bigass flat-screen TV
  • A Playstation 4
  • Two video games

Replacing the tree, a Minecraft poster tacked to the wall.

Replacing “thou?” Whatever … that is on the bed, I guess.

You go, boy.

 

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Johanna Roberts
5 years ago

Is it just me or is that a really trash bike? Not something I’d want to show off and it’s in a room, lol. What, did he ride in like Fonzie or something?

NonServiam
5 years ago

I mean, if he’s happy, fair enough but that doesn’t exactly inspire universal jealousy. Maybe if he had a real bed, it would be rad?

magnesium
magnesium
5 years ago

lol MGTOWs
https://youtu.be/T1JO47zgtNU

Wait, does he live on the floor of a garage?

Erica Stratton
5 years ago

Did he ride it into his room just for the photograph?

weirwoodtreehugger
5 years ago

I’m reminded of that troll we had who doesn’t want to get married because wanting to live in a furnished home is indicative of female shallowness. If someone is happy living a very Spartan lifestyle, that’s just fine. But the attitude that women are horrible because we want to live somewhere that has a bed and a couch is just bizarre. Especially since most men want to have basic furniture too.

smitty
5 years ago

Is that a front door there on the left? This is his bedroom?

I know mature and anything-but-narcissistic people who have quite nice motorcycles in various places in their abodes.

It’s the pathetic comment that sets this fool apart from the rest.

anemonerosie
5 years ago

That Man is Going His Own Way… away from furniture. Which if you follow the evopsych train of thought, means that he’s Going His Own Way and de-evolving back into a Neanderthal?

Am I thinking this through properly? My little lady brain cannot comprehend!

Scented Fucking Hard Chairs
Scented Fucking Hard Chairs
5 years ago

… Way to break the basement-dweller stereotype by literally living in a basement, dude.

itsabeast
itsabeast
5 years ago

I’m not quite sure what the point of this post is. That the guy is poor and therefore deserves ridicule? There are zillions of examples of MGTOW’s saying terrible things to choose from–if anything it’s laudable by the extremely low bar that they’ve set when they actually talk about going their own way.

Scented Fucking Hard Chairs
Scented Fucking Hard Chairs
5 years ago

(Also, before any trolls appear to shame us for making fun of this guy’s living situation: No. Mocking him for being poor or otherwise forced to live like this would be horrible, but mocking him for choosing to and bragging about choosing to? Fair game.)

Scented Fucking Hard Chairs
Scented Fucking Hard Chairs
5 years ago

Slow posting. Itsabeast’s post wasn’t there when I typed that.

Mij
Mij
5 years ago

narcissistic immature lifestyle

Isn’t that what society says in general about people who are unmarried after the median age of marriage or married people who choose not to have children?

Johanna Roberts
5 years ago

As a poor person who HAS lived in a basement, itsabeast, you generally don’t take pictures of it to brag about. Also, not many people living in crushing poverty have motorcycles, even crap ones. Broken cars we can’t afford to repair are much more common. A great number of us also aren’t MRAs or MGTOWs.

Kimakhya
Kimakhya
5 years ago

Seriously though, it’s wrong to furniture-shame this MGTOW if he’s happy with his bedroom the way it is. And it’s wrong of his RL acquaintances to try to nag him into marriage by calling his single lifestyle “narcissistic” and “immature”.

After all, if there’s one thing we’ve learned about MGTOWs from this website, it’s that they absolutely SHOULD be “going their own way” and leaving women alone. The inevitable consequence of any MGTOW being shamed or pressured into a marriage he secretly despises or resents is an unfortunate and unhappy woman bitterly regretting that she ever agreed to marry him.

MGTOWs: we think your choice of bedroom furniture is just fine and we are happy for you to be living your dream of a woman-free lifestyle. Well done, and please carry on.

meeg
meeg
5 years ago

My TV is bigger than that. I have more games too, and an actual bed. It’s so nice having an educated, independent spouse to share the burdens of life with. It seems like this man would benefit more from a dual income than he would going his own way. 2 WHOLE PLAYSTATION GAMES, WHAT A WINNER. I do not envy you, dude. Have fun going your own way, though.

weirwoodtreehugger
5 years ago

As a poor person who HAS lived in a basement, itsabeast, you generally don’t take pictures of it to brag about. Also, not many people living in crushing poverty have motorcycles, even crap ones. Broken cars we can’t afford to repair are much more common. A great number of us also aren’t MRAs or MGTOWs.

Spot on. It takes a certain amount of privilege to boast about living like a poor person (but not really because he can afford a motorcycle and gaming console) in order to spite women. Plus, if his family and friends are getting on him for this lifestyle, chances are he comes from a more middle class socioeconomic status.

Granted, we don’t have that much information about him, but chances are he’s stubbornly sleeping on an air mattress because he’s rebelling against mommy.

Bernardo Soares
Bernardo Soares
5 years ago

hey, it’s one thing being poor and forced to live in a basement. Myself, I prefer attics. But my being poor resulted in preferring to ride an old bike instead of a motorbike, and taking over my parents’ old tube TV instead of buying a fancy-ass flatscreen. I was always a PC player, mostly because I got old PCs from friends who worked at public institutions or from my own University. Also, I got a fantastic big old mattress from a friend, and generally a lot of used furniture, often free. I buy books second hand, and have generally never spent a lot of money on furniture.

Nobody mocks him for being poor. We do mock him for being proud of an empty, materialistic lifestyle that’s clearly not one to be proud of.

Moggie
Moggie
5 years ago

Why would he need more than two games? He has Minecraft!

Jordan James Fuller
5 years ago

Well an a good air mattress can be better for your back than a regular bed. I had a rather nice one but the seam broke and I was too fat for it so the air kept slowly leaking out of it. We gave up and I now just have a Twin XL and box spring. (No frame. The cheap one we had bent, once again due to my weight. However it works for me and I kinda like it on the floor like that. Also I can’t kick things under it.) Of course I wouldn’t be bragging about it.

Mike
Mike
5 years ago

Yeah, I have to admit I don’t feel too good about this post. I mean, I guess the guy is kinda-sorta presenting his setup as some sort of awesome alternative to, uh, women, which would make it fair game for the blog, but it feels a bit too much like just making fun of a dude for the harmless stuff he has in his apartment. Kinda like itsabeast said above – I’d rather see people taken to task for what they say rather than what their bedrooms look like, you know?

Andrew Johnston
5 years ago

You know, when one boasts of his lack of possessions, he usually does so with the implication (whether true or not) that his own life is so rich and colorful that he has no need for such things. Bragging about having very low standards for your possessions doesn’t have quite the same punch to it. I remember doing things like this when I was younger, telling people that I’d gladly live in a cardboard box if it had broadband. At the time I felt that this was some sort of rejection of materialistic comforts, but really I was just telling everyone that my own materialistic demands were different than theirs, not that they were absent.

I guess what I’m saying is that this is a picture of a sad room, and I have lived in some very sad rooms and never felt the need to brag about them to the internet.

ikanreed
ikanreed
5 years ago

I feel kinda bad for them. While they’ve aligned themselves with the kinda people who spew the kinds of quotes this site mocks, I mostly see someone trying to find a way to feel good about themselves in difficult conditions.

They’ve found a community that will pat them on the back for not marrying, which is one thing other people in their life give them trouble for.

Now, if there’s awful misogynistic gargling in their post history, the schadenfreude is easier to embrace, but… barring that, it’s just kinda sad.

Had To Be Said
Had To Be Said
5 years ago

David:

Maybe people who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones?

You recently posted this video revealing that you are a middle-aged man who owns a futon. While that “bed” is arguably one step above an air mattress, most of us get out of the futon phase by 25. The apartment that you reveal in your video is pretty much indistinguishable from Motorcycle Man’s, except that it looks like less fun is had there.

I mean, aren’t you a MGTOW except for the voluntary part?

sn0rkmaiden
5 years ago

An air mattress on the floor, that looks really uncomfortable. I spent a few months staying with my mum trying to sleep and study on a futon, it played hell with my back.

To be fair to him, no one should be pressuring him to get married if he doesn’t want to, but why he thinks showing off his limited possessions should impress anyone is beyond me. If anything, maybe the fact he’s showing so little self care is the reason people are telling him to grow up?

mockingbird
mockingbird
5 years ago

Eh, good for him.

As long as he’s really happy with that and the rest of his posts aren’t a trail of “LOOK AT ME! LOOK AT ME, WOMEN!!! I’M IGNORING YOU!!! DON’T YOU FEEL BAD?!?…ˢᶫᵃᵗᵗᵉʳᶰˢ…”, Go Your Own Way, dude.
If you’re actually doing that and not just slinging hate, no harm, no foul.

mockingbird
mockingbird
5 years ago

I mean, hell, that’s not probably not too far off from how I’d live if I wasn’t doing the whole “adult with children” thing. It actually bears a strong resemblance to my pre-kid lifestyle, though I had a few more games, more books, and no motorcycle.

guest
guest
5 years ago

Decades ago I was considering renting warehouse space to live in, and one of the attractions was that I could display my antique motorcycle, which I rode pretty regularly, in my house, man, which would be like totally awesome and super-trendy. Until I choked to death on the petrol and motor oil fumes, or tried to cook something on a gas stove. So maybe not.

Wren O'Maoldomhnaigh
Wren O'Maoldomhnaigh
5 years ago

Nothing worth defending here, but the bike is some variety of Buell Lightning, which are generally regarded as fine bikes. (Just mentioning since the first comment calls it trash)

davidknewton
davidknewton
5 years ago

I’ve never disagreed with you on something mockworthy to post, but this one comes close! I mean, I know what you’re going for, but… if he’s happy like that and he’s not loudly declaring the superiority of himself above other people (I admit I haven’t looked at the Reddit thread yet) then he’s welcome to it.

(Also, sleeping with a motorcycle, well, I don’t judge 🙂 )

katz
katz
5 years ago

Yeah, it doesn’t seem like he’s hurting anyone with his basement-dweller bedroom, so who cares?

davidknewton
davidknewton
5 years ago

Checked the Reddit thread – the responses are far more baffling than the original post ever was!

Scented Fucking Hard Chairs
Scented Fucking Hard Chairs
5 years ago

Also, I should probably (belatedly) apologise to Itsabeast for the bad timing, since it kinda looks like I was calling them a troll. By “Troll,” I meant to allude to Femac from the Facebook icon thread or Mad Cow Sock #409213. ^^;

Johanna Roberts
5 years ago

@Wren – Harley or go home. 😛 Either way it doesn’t look like it’s in the best condition but that’s hard to judge from a picture. Either way it’s in the room he -sleeps in- which is just… yeah no.

rick
rick
5 years ago

Missing from this list is a hand gun.

Miss Andry
5 years ago

I almost felt bad for heaping scorn on the man, then I read his Reddit comments:

Not once in my life has some stupid cunt been vurnerable. Women are all actresses. Some are better at hiding behind their nature than others. Sally may seem sweet and ideal of a NAWALT. Sally just isn’t showing you the predetermined winning hand she’s been dealt. In fact, she’ll deny knowledge of the hand in entirety.
I will NEVER gamble with a woman. The odds from fucking one to just talking to one are stacked completely in their favor.
Imagine going into a casino and putting everything you own (including your sanity) into a basket just to play the slots once. Your prize? Maybe a few minutes of what others shame you into thinking is enjoyment.
Now let’s look at a woman. What could I possible gain from such a large risk that’d be worth my time?
Nothing that I can’t do myself or simply live without.
Now tell me, who’s the vurnerable Gender.

Silly
Silly
5 years ago

If you can affort a ps4, a huge TV, a motorbike and games, you’re not poor.

But I’m sure we should totally have pity for this guy, I mean, he’s only a raging misogynist that is bragging about it. Mocking him would just be mean.

Think of the misogynists for once!

Johanna Roberts
5 years ago

@Miss Andry eeeyep, this is a man who should have nothing to do with women again ever or at all.

mockingbird
mockingbird
5 years ago

re: “a few minutes of what others shame you into thinking is enjoyment”:

Dude sounds like he’s Ace & is bitter/defensive about trying to live up to external definitions of masculinity.

As to the rest, yech.

Nitram
5 years ago

He’s calling his lifestyle “narcissistic and immature”, but proud of it, for being, er, minimal, yet women are narcissistic and immature for wanting more posh surroundings (to him), and we should be ashamed. Unless he was scare quoting his reference to himself as narcissistic? So who’s narcissistic again, and who can be proud of it?

Scented Fucking Hard Chairs
Scented Fucking Hard Chairs
5 years ago

… Wowzers. David, you need to add that gold star winner to the post, because again, wowzers.

weirwoodtreehugger
5 years ago

Maybe people who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones?

You recently posted this video revealing that you are a middle-aged man who owns a futon. While that “bed” is arguably one step above an air mattress, most of us get out of the futon phase by 25. The apartment that you reveal in your video is pretty much indistinguishable from Motorcycle Man’s, except that it looks like less fun is had there.

I mean, aren’t you a MGTOW except for the voluntary part?

David’s not boasting about his apartment while calling women cunts though.

And how do you know whether or not he’s single by choice? Maybe he is, maybe he isn’t. I don’t know, he never talks about his personal life on this site. Just the kitties.

It probably could have been clearer in the post, but I don’t think the point was to mock having a not so glamorous lifestyle. And mocking his relationship status doesn’t make you look too good here either.

kellyrtillson
5 years ago
Reply to  sn0rkmaiden

Snorkmaiden!!!!! m/ Moomin love.

kellyrtillson
5 years ago
Reply to  Nitram

NARCISSEPTION!

mockingbird
mockingbird
5 years ago

So, OT – Any Mammothers in Belgium?

There’s a fair-to-middling chance we’ll be living there (south of Brussels) before the Holidays.

We have some friends around there, I have VERY extended family around Ostend (one of my Great-Grandfathers & his family came over when it looked like the Germans were getting restless post-WWI & one of the Flemish contingent made a point of tracking down all of their decedents and making a FB group), but it’s otherwise all new to me (especially the Francophone bit).

Any suggestions?
Tips & tricks?

Oh, one question already: Our friends said that all of the clothes washers and dryers are tiny & that they go to a laundromat.
We have three kids & I might be working again once we’re there…that’s a lot of laundry. Are there…ah…”normal-sized” sounds awful, but, you know GREAT BIG OL’ ‘MURICAN washer/dryer sets to be found in rental homes?
Or should I skulk around the NATO base and see if I can find any that people have left behind when moving?

mockingbird
mockingbird
5 years ago

*looks at WWTH’s quote*

Where is that?

*lifts up cushions*

I don’t see that post.

????

Wren O'Maoldomhnaigh
Wren O'Maoldomhnaigh
5 years ago

@Johanna Roberts
I hate to say it, but Buell has been a wholly-owned subsidiary of HD since the early 2000s 😛
Aaaanyway, not my favorite bike or maker, and the owner-base might skew a little bro-ish, but not automatically worthy of contempt. And actually, it almost does look rusty in the photo, but I can’t tell for sure.

Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
5 years ago

@mockingbird

Had to Be Said said it because…it had to be said.

Robert
Robert
5 years ago

Some men seem to have valorized the idea of “not gonna live my life to please no woman, nosirree,” into an actual way of life.

Now, actually being happy and satisfied with the way you live your life is a wonderful thing. My husband told me that one of the things he found most appealing about me was that I didn’t feel the need for a boyfriend / spouse to “complete” my life, but was confident enough to share my life with him. But this guy (the OP) doesn’t really seem to have that. Look for indications in his posts that he is simply and sincerely happy with his life; I didn’t find any.

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