On Fathers Day, somewhere on the internet, the following meme was posted:
The Men’s Rights subreddit reacted, as it so often does, with manly indignation: how dare these women take our Fathers Day from us! Even by normal Men’s Rights standards for empty outrage this seems a bit much. After all, it’s not exactly news that a lot of women raise their kids by themselves, when the fathers of their children, refuse to act as, well, fathers to their children. Indeed, “financial abortions” — that is, consequence-free child abandonment for men — is one of the central demands of the Men’s Rights movement.
But to one anonymous commenter on the Men’s Rights subreddit, this meme could well be the final insult that transforms the men of the world into angry panda impersonators destroying everything within reach.
According to this anonymous observer,
this really scares me, enough that I wake up at night thinking about it.
Wait. You wake up in the middle of the night in a cold sweat thinking about … a meme?
No one could deny that there is open warfare on men all throughout western society. Whether or not it is deserved is somewhat irrelevant (you’ll see why in a second). There’s a minority of men who are alarmed but the vast majority just doesn’t have this on their radar…yet. This is mostly because it doesn’t affect them directly.
How can there be “open warfare” on men if most men haven’t even noticed it? Has there ever been a war in which the majority of those ostensibly affected by it don’t even know that it exists?
But never mind, because “[t]hat’s all going to change soon.”
Mixing his metaphors with wild abandon, this anonymous Men’s Rights Nostradamus predicts that
It won’t be long until the inroads that feminism has blazed start to butt up against the everyday Joe that’s just living his life.
Ah, the ever-reliable “everyday Joe,” beloved icon of reactionary grumblers since pretty much forever. In 2008, he took the form of a plumber (well, sort of). In 1970, they made a movie about him.
It appears that feminism doesn’t know when to quit and I clearly see the movement doing something that causes ‘Joe’ to not only look up from his newspaper but also impact him in a negative way.
You wouldn’t like me when I look up from my newspaper!
This lights the fuse.
Throughout history the one thing men are good at is responding to threats, whether they are real or not. I’m reminded of a video of a robbery at a convenience store I saw. The robber had a knife pointed at the clerk, demanding the contents of the register. Two random men were behind him, watching it all go down. One guy looked at the other and did the “upward head nod”. The other guy responded with the same discreet movement and they launched at the robber, taking him down. These two guys didn’t know each other at all but they, like most all men, are given to cohesive bonding when a threat is present.
Men also make up the vast majority of those robbing convenience stores, but never mind.
Feminism gives a perfect storm for this response and it’s going to be really ugly. When men get pissed, especially when they feel disenfranchised or morally wronged, they start breaking things.
Are you sure you haven’t confused men with toddlers having tantrums?
If this starts to steamroll it will make Ferguson look like a dress rehearsal.
That escalated quickly. Good old everyday Joe was just sitting there reading his newspaper, when all of a sudden he caught sight of a feminist meme on the internet. Next stop, literal rioting in the streets.
Those cops that will be asked to stop it? Those are overwhelmingly men too. Many will be sympathetic and I see lines being crossed.
A Man/Cop Alliance of Rioting Manbabies?
Yeah, it wouldn’t surprise me if this doesn’t get dealt with that it could be something on par with a major social upheaval. It’s going to be expensive, bloody, and it’s going to change everything for several generations. Once men start hammering, it ALL looks like a nail.
Yeah this bothers me a lot. I hope I’m badly wrong.
No you don’t. MRAs and other reactionary misogynists are forever airing these kinds of apocalyptic fantasies, in which the evil feminists “push men too far” and the men “finally explode” like some kind of “male bomb.” Civilization crumbles, and those evil complainy women get their final comeuppance.
Some of the men profess their deep “concern” that the women they want to shut up won’t shut up until it’s “too late.” Others can barely conceal their glee at the prospect of a bloody Manpocalypse that will put women back in their place.
Because this isn’t a warning. It’s a threat. It’s what every wife-batterer does when he “reminds” his wife that she won’t like him when he’s angry. It’s a way to control women through fear. Or at least an attempt to.
The only difference now is that the dude doing the “reminding” isn’t threatening his wife at home; he’s playing to the crowd in the Men’s Rights subreddit, and getting upvotes for it.
All over a meme.
So which gender is supposed to be the emotional one again?
H/T — r/againstmensrights
@SFHC
I LOVE IT.
THAT IS AWESOME.
Oh God I really hope r/KotakuInAction picks up on this and throws a tantrum. That would be so much fun to watch.
*checks r/KiA*
Well, they’re not throwing a tantrum, but they’re being smug and once again struggling to understand a joke in the context of reality.
Like seriously, it’s flown right over their heads.
@SFCH
ah, but they don’t want a solution to these things they’re complaining about. What they want is women being obliged to jump in bed with them after they held open a door. And sex can’t be two people having consensual fun together – because what else is that complaint about sex having to be “on your terms” supposed to mean? Uärks. (sorry, can’t think of appropriate English expression of disgust).
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I am sitting in a puddle of my own piss omg.
The issues I face with pornography is that it is a representation and a fiction. Add in the increased availability of it if ends up creating a distorted reality. Throw into the mix poor sex education for young people and a decrease in empathy and self awareness that mass (porn) media is creating, is why we are increasingly seeing rape denial-ists and PUA types who have little understanding of consent, because there is less guidance, models and frameworks for them to understand even the basic definition of consent. Sadly, I feel this trend we’re seeing now will just get worse.
Another issue I have is failing censorship, it was there for good reason, these freedom of speech arguments and deregulated censorship that places the onus on self censorship is failing, mainly, I feel, because of mantrums along the lines of “I want to see it, therefore I’m entitled to see it, because I want to see” and if Fox or HBO show a throat grabbing rough sex scene then it must be OK because its on TV, therefore its permissible (I tend to apply the same for Alcohol abuse, drug use and violence – how often do you see one doctor punching out another doctor).
I guess the final thing I’d like to add is that sex is a fun, happy intimate thing where both people come away from it with a smile on their faces and with laughter in their hearts, cos they both enjoyed something together.
Where in porn do you actually see happy people having fun?
They also suddenly don’t know what “based” means, even though they have a “base mom” and “base dad”. They’re “confusing” it with “basic”.
It’s like they are literally avoiding the elephant in the room. They see the elephant, they feel the trunk on their head, they smell the shit, but there’s no elephant in the room. In fact, what is an elephant? Is that the opposite of relevant? You’re stupid.
This is just amazing.
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Dude just flat out invalidated his whole MRA worldview in one fell sentence.
Nice work! XD
If misogynists didn’t spend so much time and effort being deliberately obtuse and rage-hatey, I wonder what they could achieve?
Who is telling this man he can’t wear heels and make-up? Who is telling him that not having all the sex he wants makes him desperate? That would be other men buying into toxic masculinity, not feminists.
Ladies Nights are bars making money off of men who come around hoping there are drunk women to take advantage of. Of course and MRA would see that as someone being mean to him.
The “sympathy” bit is gaslighting.
http://www.rawstory.com/2015/06/two-horrifying-tales-of-gas-lighting-courtesy-of-the-internet/
It is women who are most often blamed and shamed for the things other people do to them.
I’m better with it since I mastered the orders screen, but that’s not available from the very beginning.
Yeah, there’s a whole new “Gelding” job now.
Cats are useful to have around the fortress. They hunt vermin and clean up after themselves. Any fortress should have a refuse stockpile somewhere outside, and your cats will drag the remains of their kills out there. I have, though, seen a cat walk right past the remains of a rat and ignore it, even though the cat’s icon was blinking the blue ? that means “No Job.”
Wait, WHUT? I’m an ex-farmer?! Just when I thought I was outstanding in my field…
And whew, I’m so relieved I’m not the only one here who’s bugged by creeping (nonconsensual) kinkification in porn and the spillover effect it has on real life. After reading pieces like this, it’s horrifying to see that the peer pressure I faced as a teen (and pre-teen) has gotten this much worse for girls nowadays. I wasn’t even ready to kiss a guy at that age. I never even knew what bikini waxing was until I was in my 20s (and that was 20-plus years ago!), and now it’s expected that you’ll not only slash and burn all your pubes forevermore from the moment they sprout, but make the sight of your denuded little-girl nether regions available on demand? Anal sex (and worse) at puberty? Uh, that’s a HUGE effing NOPE. That is ALL THE NOPE.
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And speaking of nope:
No, boyz, of COURSE you don’t discriminate against boobs. You just grab them indiscriminately, amirite? Big or small, you grope ’em all. I know. I’ve been there, done that, and fished umpteen pairs of uninvited, masculine hands out of the crappy t-shirt. THAT’s why we have women-only facilities…at least in SOME places. Not everywhere. Not even in MANY places, actually. There are still plenty of places where you can grab an unwilling woman with both hands. But thanks for whining and moaning about a problem YOU created!
“Short men don’t have heels”? Then how do they walk using only the balls of their feet? Ugh, you can tell this idiot has never seen a portrait of Louis XIV. Or a recent photo of Prince, whose trademark is the color purple…and who routinely wears heels because dang, dudebro is SHORT. Also: Ever hear of elevator shoes? Concealed heels, fella. Look ’em up.
“Ugly men don’t have makeup”? Sure they do. Ever cover up a zit? Ever put on a painted face for Halloween? Congrats, you’ve used makeup! Actors use makeup — and not all of THEM are handsome. Some even use makeup to make themselves…drumroll please…UGLY!
“Stupid men can’t be blonde”? No, but they can be BLOND, no E. They can also be dark-haired, ginger, or even black. Stupid men come in all colors! Ain’t teh stoopid grand?
(PS: Dude, what color is YOUR hair?)
Not sure why “bullshit” is in quotes, but I’m guessing it’s because it’s not true, and he knows it.
As for the rest: I don’t WANT “free” drinks, because usually sex is expected to follow…or those drinks are given with the express purpose of setting women so drunk that they no longer have the strength to say no. (Assuming there are no roofies in ’em, which is a very likely possibility.)
“Free” entry? Ditto. “Ladies’ Night” is usually an excuse for pulling in the men who are desperate to hook up, and getting women drunk, again, is the objective. Ugh, NO THANK YOU.
You don’t get sympathy? Well boo fucking hoo, neither do women. Ever have a PMS joke directed at you, bubba? Ever get asked if you’re “on the rag” when you’re legitimately mad about some bullshit unfair treatment you got? No? Then stop complaining about how you have it so hard just because you’re a man. You have it BETTER, not worse.
Well, uh, yeah. That would be nice, considering how many “sexual experiences” I’ve had that were most certainly NOT on my terms. I’ve seen what all too many men’s terms are. It’s made a veritable Nopetopus out of me.
And yeah, MRAs are sexually desperate. That much is so obvious, it’s fairly reeking off them. Why else spend so much time and energy pissing and moaning about women and how bitchy and frigid and awful they are? Why so much “But I’m a nice guyyyyyy” when you’re anything BUT nice, and this shitty meme proves it to a T?
Please. Men in general get sympathy. This guy is just mad that when he’s a misogynistic asshole he gets called out for her. Someone doesn’t care about his boner one time and suddenly the men are all oppressed.
Dwarf!Bina was bitten by a weregiraffe and hospitalised. One of the other dwarves who was bitten transformed into a weregiraffe and went on a rampage, killing several dwarves including Dwarf!Bina.
Next time weregiraffes show up, I’m building my hospital to zombie apocalypse standards: each bed separated from the others by stone walls and a lockable door.
SCOTUS just ruled that gay marriage is legal in all states under the 14th amendment. Fuck yeah! Come on over Dublin double rainbow!
This must be what it feels like to be a rapist. The fact that this guy doesn’t understand the fourth line is quite terrifying. I’ve never actually sat down and considered this, and…. ugh. Yuck. My brain feels dirty.
@WWTH
WAIT WHAT. HOLY SHIT YES.
They’d been putting it off for so long I was convinced they were going to vote against it…
FUCK YOU BIGOTS, WE WIN.
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MARRIAGE EQUALITY
The manosphere is going to throw a major tantrum and I can’t wait.
https://twitter.com/CEABetsey/status/614447951046250497
Marriage Equality finally here in the States. 🙂
There’s still lots of work to do in the LGBTQA+ community. We still have discrimination to deal with, scary levels of homelessness and suicide with queer youth, oh, and convincing low-key bigots that this doesn’t mean that homophobia is forever over now because we can get married to the person we love. (Y’know, like how racism didn’t end with slavery).
Oh, and there’s apparently a pastor who has vowed to set himself on fire over this, so can we get him some help please? He’s a danger to himself and others.
But, for today: FUCK YEAAAAAAHHHHHHHH~
From twitter:
@EJ: Truly, this has been an historic week.
Congrats, US friends! You are now where we Canadians were ten years ago. I can promise you that nothing bad will happen, aside from the usual pee-pants tantrums from the Religious Reich (the same who also think the Stars and Bars are about “heritage”. Yeah, a heritage of SLAVERY, reinforced to this day by fire ‘n’ brimstone theology that hates everyone except straight white Christian males.)
You’ve still got a long slog ahead of you as everyone in Bigotville is sure to be soiling themselves for years to come. But…congrats just the same!
(And SUCK IT, Religious Reich!)
Apparently county clerks in TX are already refusing to issue marriage licenses. Because apparently some people don’t understand that if you work for the government, a condition of employment is holding up the laws. Whether you agree with them or not. Don’t like it? Quit!