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Will a meme celebrating single mothers bring about the end of civilization? One Men’s Rightser says “yes.”

Men: A bunch of angry panda impersonators?
Men: A bunch of angry panda impersonators?

On Fathers Day, somewhere on the internet, the following meme was posted:

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The Men’s Rights subreddit reacted, as it so often does, with manly indignation: how dare these women take our Fathers Day from us! Even by normal Men’s Rights standards for empty outrage this seems a bit much. After all, it’s not exactly news that a lot of women raise their kids by themselves, when the fathers of their children, refuse to act as, well, fathers to their children. Indeed, “financial abortions” — that is, consequence-free child abandonment for men — is one of the central demands of the Men’s Rights movement. 

But to one anonymous commenter on the Men’s Rights subreddit, this meme could well be the final insult that transforms the men of the world into angry panda impersonators destroying everything within reach.

According to this anonymous observer,

this really scares me, enough that I wake up at night thinking about it.

Wait. You wake up in the middle of the night in a cold sweat thinking about … a meme?

No one could deny that there is open warfare on men all throughout western society. Whether or not it is deserved is somewhat irrelevant (you’ll see why in a second). There’s a minority of men who are alarmed but the vast majority just doesn’t have this on their radar…yet. This is mostly because it doesn’t affect them directly.

How can there be “open warfare” on men if most men haven’t even noticed it? Has there ever been a war in which the majority of those ostensibly affected by it don’t even know that it exists?

But never mind, because “[t]hat’s all going to change soon.”

Mixing his metaphors with wild abandon, this anonymous Men’s Rights Nostradamus predicts that

It won’t be long until the inroads that feminism has blazed start to butt up against the everyday Joe that’s just living his life.

Ah, the ever-reliable “everyday Joe,” beloved icon of reactionary grumblers since pretty much forever. In 2008, he took the form of a plumber (well, sort of). In 1970, they made a movie about him.

It appears that feminism doesn’t know when to quit and I clearly see the movement doing something that causes ‘Joe’ to not only look up from his newspaper but also impact him in a negative way.

You wouldn’t like me when I look up from my newspaper!

This lights the fuse.

Throughout history the one thing men are good at is responding to threats, whether they are real or not. I’m reminded of a video of a robbery at a convenience store I saw. The robber had a knife pointed at the clerk, demanding the contents of the register. Two random men were behind him, watching it all go down. One guy looked at the other and did the “upward head nod”. The other guy responded with the same discreet movement and they launched at the robber, taking him down. These two guys didn’t know each other at all but they, like most all men, are given to cohesive bonding when a threat is present.

Men also make up the vast majority of those robbing convenience stores, but never mind.

Feminism gives a perfect storm for this response and it’s going to be really ugly. When men get pissed, especially when they feel disenfranchised or morally wronged, they start breaking things.

Are you sure you haven’t confused men with toddlers having tantrums?

If this starts to steamroll it will make Ferguson look like a dress rehearsal.

That escalated quickly. Good old everyday Joe was just sitting there reading his newspaper, when all of a sudden he caught sight of a feminist meme on the internet. Next stop, literal rioting in the streets.

Those cops that will be asked to stop it? Those are overwhelmingly men too. Many will be sympathetic and I see lines being crossed.

A Man/Cop Alliance of Rioting Manbabies?

Yeah, it wouldn’t surprise me if this doesn’t get dealt with that it could be something on par with a major social upheaval. It’s going to be expensive, bloody, and it’s going to change everything for several generations. Once men start hammering, it ALL looks like a nail.

Yeah this bothers me a lot. I hope I’m badly wrong.

No you don’t. MRAs and other reactionary misogynists are forever airing these kinds of apocalyptic fantasies, in which the evil feminists “push men too far” and the men “finally explode” like some kind of “male bomb.” Civilization crumbles, and those evil complainy women get their final comeuppance.

Some of the men profess their deep “concern” that the women they want to shut up won’t shut up until it’s “too late.” Others can barely conceal their glee at the prospect of a bloody Manpocalypse that will put women back in their place.

Because this isn’t a warning. It’s a threat. It’s what every wife-batterer does when he “reminds” his wife that she won’t like him when he’s angry. It’s a way to control women through fear. Or at least an attempt to.

The only difference now is that the dude doing the “reminding” isn’t threatening his wife at home; he’s playing to the crowd in the Men’s Rights subreddit, and getting upvotes for it.

All over a meme.

So which gender is supposed to be the emotional one again?

H/T — r/againstmensrights

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Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
6 years ago

@PoM

Is there anyone who’s in a position of power (and on TV) that isn’t and asshole?

contrapangloss
6 years ago

Oh, dear.

Weregirraffe’s are hardcore, apparently.

Falconer
6 years ago

Well, all the werewolves snigger behind their backs, so they have street cred to maintain.

Falconer
6 years ago

Well, all the werewolves snicker behind their backs, so they have street cred to maintain.

EJ (The Other One)
EJ (The Other One)
6 years ago

@PoM:

Hah hah! I am happy to have been mistaken. Most male chefs seem to be snooty. Is that just my perception or is it reality?

From the four years I spent working in a kitchen while a student, my impression is that cooking is a very, very macho field. Especially for male chefs.

@Falconer:
This is why I’m closing down my fishing industry and abandoning the surface. It’s hazardous up there. Let’s go down below where there’s just magma and it’s safer.

@Jackie:
The weregiraffe is slain but the cost was high.

It managed to penetrate the fortress defences and cornered a mob of civilians. Tragically, by the time the soldiers could get there it had killed four and injured many more. The weregiraffe then proceeded to turn back into a human, possibly hoping to slip out. It didn’t work. The mob beat the living shit out of him so hard that I had to scroll through three pages of injuries, and then SevenOfMine turned up and proceeded to wield the hammer like John Scalzi.

RIP:
Mr Seven, soldier
Morrizaurus, cadet soldier
Mr. ej, weaponsmith
sunnysombrera, farmer
Four nameless migrants, two of which were children

Badly injured:
Kootiepatra, leatherworker
Several nameless migrants

Moderately injured:
M, mason
Bina, farmer
Several nameless migrants

AltoFronto
AltoFronto
6 years ago

I have a problem with rich parents getting their kids to do fundraising for their personal benefit, because it’s “character building” to raise the money themselves, without giving a thought to the fact that it’s not other people’s job to fund their kids’ expensive extra-curricular stuff when they are not disadvantaged, y’know? Like, what makes you assume that poorer people will just give you everything you need to live your perfect white-saviour fantasy trip abroad?

I saw another girl in Leeds with a sign that said “Send me to Africa (no country specified) to train people in… I forget what”, And ok she didn’t look rich, but it would be better to use the cost of her plane ticket to train someone living in a disadvantaged region in something useful… Because what the FUCK is a 16-year-old going to teach anyone to a competent standard?? As if there aren’t already any people with competent skills in all of Africa…
God, the well-intentioned Racism is just the fucking worst!

Sorry, more ranting. Am I out of order for finding this stuff really, viscerally irritating?
For context, I grew up working-class in the poshest town in the North, where the weekly paper’s society pages contain nothing but fundraising balls attended by well-meaning but extremely privileged white people.

Paradoxical Intention
6 years ago

Pandapool — The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me “Banana”, “Jackie” or whatever) | June 25, 2015 at 11:28 am
Can’t they just celebrate single fathers on Mother’s Day, like people are celebrating single mothers on Father’s Day, I mean, really.

I’ve seen people celebrate single dads on Mother’s Day, and I’m pretty damn cool with that. I understand single moms have it harder because of stigma, which is unfair as hell, but single dads do suffer as well, and it’s nice to give them some love where it’s deserved. Single parenting is hard enough without MRAs screeching about “unfairness” because single moms face stigma.

I celebrate my single mother on Father’s Day because anyone who I could have called “Father” either did attempt a “financial abortion”, as per the MRAs desire (and he was apparently also a neo-nazi. Mom mentioned to me he had a swastika tattoo on his hand he got blocked in so people would hire him), or a monstrous abuser who turned me into a mental wreck through every means necessary.

Mom not only was the only one who stepped up, as hard as it was, but she stood up for me and fought for me when I was told she’d abandon me (by my abuser’s mother) because of my step-father’s abuse. She also fought to get me recognized by my biological father and to get him to pay child support. He denied I was his, and still does to this day.

So, this Father’s day: Thanks to my biological father and step-dad for helping to make me a feminist! You’re both shitheads and deserve to rot.

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AltoFronto | June 25, 2015 at 3:40 pm
I have mixed feelings about Live Below The Line. It’s a good cause, and it might inspire empathy, but it seems a bit like poverty tourism? Trying on poverty for a week, and then being able to eat cake again…

I’ve noticed this kind of being a disturbing trend in the activism community.

People brought it up with the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge, people brought it up with white girls wearing headscarves, and some other people brought it up with the recent Rachel Dolezal incident.

It’s one thing to want to understand the struggles people go through when they’re poor/ill/black/etc, but it’s another to attempt to put on their struggles for a week or however long, go “Well that was terrible!” and then go right back to being privileged. I can see it helping, but not that much. And I can see why a lot of people are frustrated with the idea.

Which is why I really emphasize that people listen to people who are actually disadvantaged and/or oppressed, and then boost what they have to say where their voices won’t reach.

It’s kind of ignorant and bigoted to not want to listen to what an oppressed person has to say until you filter it through your privilege. Whether that be through “Oppression Tourism”, or hearing it through the mouth of someone who shares that privilege with you.

Policy of Madness
Policy of Madness
6 years ago

@Falconer

I did see an episode of the British edition of Kitchen Nightmares, in which Ramsay took the father out of the kitchen of the family-run restaurant, because he absolutely sucked at it, and moved the teenaged daughter from waitress to chef. He was really patient with her. She started out knowing effectively nothing and he worked with that. So I think he can be a nice guy when the circumstances are correct. That seems to be largely the exception, however, when it comes to male chefs. They’re not all assholes, but they seem to have a higher-than-expected proportion of assholes in their ranks.

contrapangloss
6 years ago

ej, can I just take a moment to rejoice that dwarf contrapangloss, builder of ridiculous menacing cloth spikes, is still alive?

And then mourn for the unnamed immigrant children.

Also, downloading dwarf fortress right now. Lazy Newb pack, of course, because I don’t like being totally lost.

Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
6 years ago

@Falconer

Yeah, Gordon Ramsey is actually alright, just really likes yelling and cursing. He seems like an alright guy when he’s not in the kitchen. It’s understandable in a way because you need to keep the kitchen running like a well-oiled machine when you’re serving a lot of people. Even Anne Burrell can get mean in the kitchen.

Jamie Oliver is just an ass from what I’ve seen and heard, though.

Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
6 years ago

Whoa whoa whoa.

Since when was Doctor Who on Disney?

Bernardo Soares
Bernardo Soares
6 years ago

@PoM
oops, AfK for too long. Sorry for the misunderstanding, I actually like JOHN Oliver.

Re: DF:
Oh yeah, I’ll need some time for that one. I’ve downloaded Peter Tysons tutorial and played around a bit in the lazy newb pack, but I haven’t gotten far.

EJ (The Other One)
EJ (The Other One)
6 years ago

One of the unnamed migrants the weregiraffe bit has turned into a weregiraffe and attacked people in the hospital and then the hallways outside it. This is straight-up bad.

RIP Catalpa, sparky, two nameless migrants, one child.

Robert
Robert
6 years ago

I really noticed the difference when I retired. Instead of hurtling home at the speed of trees (ninety minute commute, public transit) and getting dinner on the table within an hour, I could start whenever necessary. Curious, but all these years later I still enjoy cooking.

Washing dishes sucks great mossy boulders, though. I can console myself with the fact that I don’t have to pump the water or cut wood for heat, but that wears thin after a while.

Tracy
Tracy
6 years ago

This Dwarf game sounds hilarious and amazing. I might fire up our old XP machine – will it run on XP?

On the food topic – my family were food donation recipients when I was in high school, and as someone who has a few intolerances and gut issues I beg of you, when donating canned goods, non-bean protein is really, really appreciated. Lentils are great and all, but some folks just can’t do the legume thing without pain.

Morrizaurus
Morrizaurus
6 years ago

@EJ Summoned by socks,
on the road to a grave,
death, I find; fitting.

Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
6 years ago

@EJ

Maybe you should just lock everyone up for a bit so you can get rid of all the weregiraffe because it seems to me you’re gonna have people killing people and turning them into weregiraffes forever.

EJ (The Other One)
EJ (The Other One)
6 years ago

Overrun by weregiraffes. Fortress abandoned.

You know what’s the worst thing? You know what makes it all so unbearable? It isn’t the weregiraffes. It isn’t the galena. It isn’t even the total lack of iron. Dwarf!Falconer is partying. That smug fuck is taking the time to drink himself through the downfall of our civilisation.

Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
6 years ago

@EJ

anon
anon
6 years ago

“Throughout history the one thing men are good at is responding to threats, whether they are real or not.”

And MRAs are the undisputed equivalent of kung fu ninja masters when it comes to responded to imaginary threats.

“A Man/Cop Alliance of Rioting Manbabies?”

Don’t you remember how some officers ran to the media to whine about how oppressed they were when murderous cops were getting criticized?

It isn’t that hard to believe that those same idiots will jump on the “I’m so oppressed because of something trivial” MRA bandwagon.

Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
6 years ago

I have found something so…amazing…I want to share it with you guys.

“Amazing” in, like, “awesome, cool, cute”, “amazing” as in “awe inspiring”, and not awe inspiring as in “awesome to the max” but, like, who a plane crash is amazing. And I want to share it but I don’t know if you guys are prepared.

Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
6 years ago

I also don’t know if everyone already knows about it or not. Maybe the British peeps but I’m not sure.

contrapangloss
6 years ago

Hey, at least you succeeded in keeping Dwarf!Falconer happy? Since that was originally one of the goals…

Cyberwulf
Cyberwulf
6 years ago

You know what’s wild? How these MRAs who wring their hands about how men will be pushed too far by evil feminazis know exactly how to sound like an abusive husband… and yet don’t realise that sometimes, when you abuse your wife over and over, she fucking snaps and murders you while you’re asleep.

weirwoodtreehugger
6 years ago

Charity galas. To quote the great Daria Morgendorfer, “helping the little people while staying as far away from them as possible.”

leftwingfox
6 years ago

We were just discussing a version of this: Angel Soft Toilet paper did a “Happy Father’s Day, Single Moms!” commercial on You Tube. Apparently they’re not effective at absorbing man-tears about the destruction of men.

steampunked (@steampunked)

It appears that feminism doesn’t know when to quit and I clearly see the movement doing something that causes ‘Joe’ to not only look up from his newspaper but also impact him in a negative way.

Looking up from his newspaper, which he gets to read at breakfast while the wife makes him toast or whatever in a Leave it to Beaver 1950s fantasy?

I mean, that is supposed to be the image, right?

Tell me this man is puffing a pipe at the same time.

Level14Boss
Level14Boss
6 years ago

“Throughout history the one thing men are good at is responding to threats, whether they are real or not.”

Yeah let’s have a long hard think about what category this threat is in ya clown.

megpie71
6 years ago

As someone who has only recently (during the last three months) lost the final trappings of extreme financial hardship due to prolonged unemployment (for the first time since approximately 2002, my bank account is in the black and remaining there), I find those “live below the line for $PERIOD_LESS_THAN_1_MONTH” challenges to be downright insulting.

For a start, the things which are crippling when you’re on a low income aren’t necessarily the regular costs, like food, or even the regular bills like water, power, gas and so on. All of those can be budgeted for, and after a while you get a sense for how much you need to put aside each month to cover costs, and where you’re going to have to cut back and so on. What’s financially crippling are the occasional unexpected large expenses – things like a major appliance (fridge, washing machine) breaking down; or the car needing to be serviced; or the landlord deciding they’d rather get a different caretaker for their asset, thanks, here’s two month’s notice, bye! A one-week challenge isn’t going to see one of those crop up. A one-month challenge isn’t going to see one of them crop up. So when people are doing these poverty-camp-outs or holiday visits to Povertyland, they’re really only getting the “exotic cuisine at expensive restaurants” version of the area. They’re not seeing the genuine sights and lowlights the locals are familiar with.

If you’re wanting to do one of these sorts of things, here’s a suggestion: set your duration to be a minimum of 6+1d6 months; get someone else to set the start and end dates of your “tour”, and spring the start date on you with a notice period of anything from four weeks down to one hour (typical notice periods for a job). During your “tour”, you’ll be required to keep up the standard routine of visits to the unemployment bureaucracy in your country, complying with all their requirements, and looking for work and attending job interviews. You won’t know when your “tour” is going to end, or how long it’s going to be. You will thus get a far more genuine taste of what it’s like to live in Povertyland, and how damn wearing it gets to be after about the first month or so.

Shalimar
Shalimar
6 years ago

Charity galas seriously piss me off and they’re one of the reasons I quit a charity donation coordinator job last year. I wanted to help people who needed help, not be a party planner for selfish asshole rich people.

welp
welp
6 years ago

I noticed that several people posted about porn and I wanted to get this off of my chest because it’s been bothering me for some time, but I’m really afraid of how mainstream porn is becoming. I’m afraid that pornographic sex acts will become so normalized that girls will be pressured to conform to them much like they are pressured to shave. Sure, a woman can “choose” not to shave but in reality there is no choice if she wants to be accepted.

Everyone on this site sounds old so I don’t know if anyone will have similar experiences as me, but people including my friends think porn is how sex is because that’s all they know about it and that’s all they see. If a girl can’t conform to it she’s seen as sexually inadequate. There’s so much pressure on teenage girls to do certain things in bed or at least try it if she doesn’t want to be seen as lame.

I’m sorry if I’m off-topic but I just feel so saddened by the normalization of porn sometimes. I talk to my friends about it, but they are teen girls like me and they are subjected to the same pressures even though they agree with me.

Lea
Lea
6 years ago

Do it for a year. Then you’ll have a better idea of what it’s like to live that way.

Exactly.

rubyyogi,
I’m so sorry. Things sound very rough for you and your son.

Lea
Lea
6 years ago

Pandapool,
Oh, I’m ready. Lay it on me.

Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
6 years ago

@Lea

Be prepared.

It’s available on YouTube. I saw the first 10-12 minutes of it. It’s pretty much just The Honeymooners/I Love Lucy but…yeah…If you guys are interested, I can post the episode.

Scented Fucking Hard Chairs
Scented Fucking Hard Chairs
6 years ago

You know what’s wild? How these MRAs who wring their hands about how men will be pushed too far by evil feminazis know exactly how to sound like an abusive husband… and yet don’t realise that sometimes, when you abuse your wife over and over, she fucking snaps and murders you while you’re asleep.

No violent threats. Jeez.

Being an asshole is not a death penalty offense.

Catalpa
Catalpa
6 years ago

@EJ

Yay, I was a dwarf! Aw, but I died.

Well, I’ll just assume that dwarf!Catalpa was the lynchpin holding the whole fortress together and since I died, all was lost.

Leisha Young
Leisha Young
6 years ago

Do these guys even realise that there are men out there that actively champion a matriarchy?

Honestly, these guy are so confused they don’t know what they want. Or perhaps that it’s basically just a case of, they want what they want when they want it and when they don’t want it, it has to stop…and women need to be able to read all of these wants and needs and respond accordingly.

…and you know what? Eventually even that wouldn’t make them happy.

Catalpa
Catalpa
6 years ago

Oh God, can you imagine Sam Vimes having to deal with a Mens’ Righters group in Ankh-Morpork? I haven’t been through all of Pratchett’s books, but he didn’t do something like this, did he?

While they’re not technically MRAs, the Unique and Supreme Lodge of the Elucidated Brethren from Guards! Guards! are at least spiritually MRAs. They’d be a part of the manosphere if they were modern-day dudes, I’d be willing to bet.

They’re a group of surly, entitled dudes who think that the world owes them everything, and that everyone is out to get them, and they’re being led by a grifter who is taking advantage of them for entirely his own benefit. Here, a quote:

“Let the other societies take the skilled, the hopefuls, the ambitious, the self-confident. He’d take the whining resentful ones, the ones will a bellyful of spite and bile, the ones who knew they could ake it big if only they’d been given the chance. Give him the ones in which the floods of venom and vindictiveness were damned up behind thin walls of ineptitude and lowgrade paranoia.”

Sound like anyone we know?

Catalpa
Catalpa
6 years ago

Gah, this is what I get for typing from the book and not proofreading before I hit submit
*with, not will
**make, not ake.

Falconer
6 years ago

Dwarf!Falconer is partying. That smug fuck is taking the time to drink himself through the downfall of our civilisation.

Hey now, I’m holding a wake. Pretty soon I’m going to wander into the wine cellar and continue drinking in there, as the weregiraffes close in.

And then, when they’re good and truly inside the room, that’s when I blow us all to hell.

Policy of Madness
Policy of Madness
6 years ago

I almost went to download this game, but then read on the wiki about the various methods to prevent/deal with a catsplosion, and I can’t even. I would never be able to have fun with that game.

Bina
Bina
6 years ago

One of the things I’ve often noted about the consumption of porn, is that few people realise that it is a performance undertaken by people who are acting. It’s very much choreographed and then cut and edited and at that point we, the consumer, get to see it.

I do find it bothering that the gunk pumped out of screens is altering people’s worldview and its distorting and amplifying bad behaviours that ends up creating the undercurrent that allows MRA’s, PUA’s, White Supremacists to think it’s permissible to behave the way they do because they actually can see a representation of their internal mindset and it’s an easy buy in.

This is my problem with it, too. That, and the fact that quasi-kinky details (like sudden, out of the blue butt-slaps, hair-pulls, rough pounding, etc., all mainly directed by men at women) keep appearing in non-BDSM porn, unasked for and very jarring. Even the home-made sex tape stuff is full of it. It’s gotten to the point where it’s too upsetting for me to even watch, because you never know when some numbskull is gonna throw that in there just to “spice things up”. If some guy did that to me in the middle of sex, I think I’d have to stop and ask him what he did that for. And I’d definitely not feel like continuing.

And no, I’m not a prude…this sort of thing just seems a totally unnecessary interruption of the mood to me, not “hot” as it’s currently being promoted/purported to be. I can’t help wondering if this is the sort of thing that gave Jian Ghomeshi the mistaken idea that “all women like it when you dominate them”, or if he’s just a born asshole using that (very false) idea as an excuse to act out his ugly, hateful side.

(PS: Lea’s definition of jackhammering is exactly what I meant, too. Ugh, HIGHLY uncomfortable even just to watch.)

(PPS: I’m a farmer! Yay!)

Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
6 years ago

@Bina

Of course you’re not a prude. It’s a violation of trust, consent and waaay too presumptuous to just do something to someone during sex. You should always ask if you can do something in bed that isn’t vanilla…well, I guess people wouldn’t know slapping isn’t vanilla if they watch mainstream porn, so maybe things should probably be talked about before hand, regardless.

Lea
Lea
6 years ago

I think I’d have to stop and ask him what he did that for. And I’d definitely not feel like continuing.

Yeah, that’s not prudish. That’s completely reasonable. I’d be done. That sort of thing is bullshit. I think I’d be all:

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EJ (The Other One)
EJ (The Other One)
6 years ago

@Bina:
I don’t think it’s prudishness and I definitely agree with you. The bit that makes me uncomfortable is that as Jackie says, people don’t realise that it isn’t vanilla. For example, I’ve had someone apologise profusely to me because she disliked anal sex and wanted to not have it; but she saw that as something wrong with her because of the extent to which it’s become normalised.

You *were* a farmer. Note the tense.

Moocow
Moocow
6 years ago

You are all making me wanna read Terry Pratchett again. I sadly didn’t get very far into Discworld but he’s as imaginative as he is funny.

EJ (The Other One)
EJ (The Other One)
6 years ago

@Tracy: It’ll run fine on an XP machine. The limiting factor is going to be the CPU. If it’s an older computer then I would reduce the size of the embark area and the world, and reduce the maximum population.

@PolicyOfMadness:
Catsplosions are mostly a thing of the past now, since the feature of neutering animals has been added. Still, it is not a game for those who do not like maddening complexity and who are not patient with horrendously bad UI.

Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
6 years ago

@EJ

Cats exploded…if you didn’t neuter them? Did they explode because too many babies? O.o

Policy of Madness
Policy of Madness
6 years ago

@the other EJ

If neutering cats is an option, then maybe I will play it. Need to think about that first. I already have a couple of things going and may not want to get sucked into something new.