Dean Esmay, the Chief Operations Officer (whatever that is) of A Voice for Men, has scored a major public relations coup for the Men’s Rights movement with his aggressive promotion of an exciting new Twitter hashtag, #SpankAFeminist.
In what I can only assume is an attempt to convince the world that MRAs do indeed spend a good portion of their days fantasizing about doing physical harm to feminists, Esmay explains in a post on AVFM that the hashtag is necessary “because it’s finally time to put abusive liars over the knee.”
In case you’re wondering, when he refers to “abusive liars” he means feminists and not, you know, people who think that publicly fantasizing about spanking feminists is 1) hilarious and 2) some kind of actual activism on the behalf of men.
Esmay is quick to assure his readers that he is only referring to metaphorical spankings over metaphorical knees.
As he sees it, feminists are pretty much all just begging to be spanked (metaphorically).
Why would you spank a feminist? Well in reality, we know a lot of them would complain but some might actually enjoy it. Who knows? Maybe they’re just shit-testing us all and waiting and feeling frustrated that we aren’t responding right.
Evidently, in Esmayland, when women challenge their male partners with so-called “shit tests” it’s because deep down they want to be physically assaulted.
Also, feminists are a bunch of meanies, anyway.
[A]ny time you meet a feminist, you should spank him or her until they cry. And do it every time they open their mouths to spew forth their hateful lies about standing for tolerance, inclusion, and equality, when there is no movement in the modern world that does more to fight against tolerance, inclusion, freedom, and equality than feminism. Not even real life fascists or communists can top them at this point.
Feminism is an intolerant, hateful, racist, anti-gay, misandrist, misogynist, gynocentric religion and hate movement.
Yep, that’s right: In Esmayland, feminists are actually worse than real Nazis.
So how is the spanking going so far? Here are a few of Esmay’s contributions to the hashtag. As always, he is a master of subtlety. CONTENT WARNING for terrible rape references. Also a WAIT, WHAT? WARNING for some of the nonsensiest nonsense I think I’ve ever seen.
https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612941449810677760
https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612847267972669440
https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612822995396984832
https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612952905218273280
https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612953182319214592
https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612948591808659456
https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612947630042185729
https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612942938646032384
https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612816059138113536
https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612816846811574272
https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612965121149796352
https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612965888615141376
https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612952601131249664
https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612762509620068352
https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612779175095746560
https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612648857277743104
https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612744601368162304
https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612472638317838336
You may have noticed that Esmay favors some rather colorful descriptions of feminists and feminism. Here are a few others he’s used in the hashtag over the last day or so.
- Bitter bitchy harpies
- Cruel violent abusive harpies
- Hatemongering cultist[s]
- Misandrist bigot[s]
- Bigots and bullies
- Hateful feminist bigot and bully
- Bigot feminists
It’s weird that someone who complains so much about alleged feminist “bigotry” is fine with publishing articles written by a literal Holocaust denier.
Also, given how evil we feminists are, it seems a bit strange that Esmay tried to friend me on LinkedIn the other day.
First Paul Elam, now Dean Esmay wants to be my LinkedIn buddy.#ThatWouldBeANo #AVFMersCantInternet pic.twitter.com/jSEaxllpKT
— David Futrelle (@DavidFutrelle) June 18, 2015
Dean Esmay, man of many surprises.
While Esmay’s tweets seem to make up roughly half of the #SpankAFeminist hashtag, a handful of other terrible people have enlisted in Esmay’s (metaphorical) spanking crusade. Here are some of the most charming of the bunch, and when I say “charming” I mean CONTENT WARNING for gratuitous rape references, violent gifs, and Dan Perrins being Dan Perrins. (I’ve omitted the assorted porn pictures the #SpankAFeminist folks have posted.)
https://twitter.com/Synthovine/status/612305594595287041
https://twitter.com/rustBeltExpat/status/612326507374096384
https://twitter.com/Rob_Simple/status/612347342142967808
Feminists want to be pampered like children? Well, in that case it's only natural that some daddy is gonna #SpankAFeminist.
— Manninist (@Manninist) June 22, 2015
https://twitter.com/ivanhoelaxative/status/612965848613961728
https://twitter.com/Ronakm4/status/612363912185450496
My hands aren't big enough to spank most blue haired feminists. Maybe if I had a pizza paddle? #SpankAFeminist
— BaconManLives 🐻🏈 (@baconmanlives) June 21, 2015
Insecure, ignorant, lack of self esteem boiled in victim-hood genduh studies voila inter-sexual feminist bigot @deanesmay #SpankAFeminist
— Dan Perrins (@BlackBeard20096) June 22, 2015
All of this is truly good for bitcoin Men’s Rights.
I always like to stop and marvel at the self-importance required to address a bunch of total strangers with a statement like this.
@SFHC
Investigative, I like it. You should work for the Feminist Secret Service. But you didn’t hear it from me, wink wink.
I meant the Feminist Secret Police, even.
“Mercurial poirot” has to be one of the most pretentious nyms I’ve ever seen.
Spanking is legally considered assault. Fucktons of precedent for this – use the Google, troll. There’s even some court precedent in Canada for spanking being a form of sexual assault.
If a person cannot recognise that a smack is an act of violence (I’m excluding the consensual bdsm-ers) then they have a very troubling worldview. Perhaps he could contact Deano and offer himself up for a text run… Y’know, independent verification of Deano’s capacity to spank.
Test run…, doh! Not text run
Just keep collecting these things for the dossier. Batshit crazy MRAs on display for the public.
Don’t call the MRAs crazy, please. There’s much better ways to describe them that don’t stigmatise the mentally ill.
One of the things I do find interesting about these violence apologists is that they seem to have minimal experience of it. I cringe now-a-days when I see it on a screen. A while back I was chatting to a boxing fan and he asked me if I was going to watch the fight. I told him I used to box but now I find I can’t watch it. He got quite snotty with me. Odd.
@ autosoma
Dave Grossman describes violence as ‘the universal human phobia’. As ex-mil, you’ll probably understand that, for most people, the fear of killing is actually greater than the fear of being killed. No doubt you underwent all the appropriate conditioning to overcome that.
So, people may ask, how come there is so much street violence? That’s a legitimate question, to which the answer is, most street violence is ritualistic (‘the monkey dance’). It’s more about posture and submission than inflicting actual injuries. Of course people do get seriously hurt, but that’s more of an accidental by-product; the classic ‘one punch manslaughter’ cases being an obvious example.
There seems to be an overlap between these MRA types and computer gaming. Their experience with simulated violence may skew their views. Drop them in a real world situation with the visceral sensations of bones breaking and arterial blood spurting though and I think that might snap them back to reality.
Sorry, I constantly make that mistake when I’m writing in anger. I just don’t know what to call their slew of irrational hatred towards women.
I think they believe that all women secretly have rape fantasies because the truth hurts them too much. People don’t want them, women don’t want them, their voice isn’t wanted, they’re presence isn’t wanted. These are the white guys who despite never having any serious roadblocks in their life are failing miserably. They are just human failures deceiving themselves.
@autosoma and @Alan Robertshaw
The only times I’ve experienced real, physical violence has been when a drunk stranger tried to attack me in a public place. It happened at a subway station, in broad daylight (well, it was indoors). It was such a frightening situation that I’d never want to experience it again. I only received a glancing blow to the back of the head, but it was enough for me. I’ve been threatened many other times, but I was able to avoid escalation of it all. I do feel for anyone who has been through violence in their life.
Sorry for being slightly incoherent, hopefully my point got across. 🙂
@autosama
“One of the things I do find interesting about these violence apologists is that they seem to have minimal experience of it. I cringe now-a-days when I see it on a screen. A while back I was chatting to a boxing fan and he asked me if I was going to watch the fight. I told him I used to box but now I find I can’t watch it. He got quite snotty with me. Odd.”
I think this is an interesting point. I have friends’ that do boxing training some of them even coach, and on the very rare occassion that a situation may have got violent they were the one who were likely to be the first to try and diffuse the situation peacefully*. I’ve no real experience with people that train in other martial arts. Though I wouldn’t be surprised if this wasn’t a common occurence in that people who have a concept of what violence actually means, not just physically, but the psychological toll it can put on people, would prefer to avoid it.
*This luckily hasn’t happened in a long while.
@alan robertshaw
Don’t know what to say, you’ve opened up something that my bodies responding to but not my head. I will stress though I have never taken a life. As to street violence, I think there is certainly a context in which it occurres.
Many years ago dome mates of mine asked me to come along to a Bradford v Pompey match, they were Bradford supporter their reasoning was I sounded southern and if there was a ruck then they could “let me get on with it” – I’m indifferent to football (soccer).
I’m going to have to agree with you about the overlap. I thing that the violence we see niw on screens is such a choreographed pastiche that it’s closer performance art than anything else and you can’t reproduce the smell, that’s the main part of any memories I have.
I’m not terribly fond of myself at the moment, too many memories.
Sorry to have derailed this
@monzach
@alan…
@level14boss
I think I’ve twigged the MRA stance on violence, they see it at their prerogative and their entitlement and that the recipient is a passive consumer and don’t empathise with what it may be like to be on the receiving end.
I’ve been thinking of it in the wrong terms, that violence is enacted amongst equals rather than there being a power imbalance, after that moment of self actualisation I think I dislike MRA and their cronies even more.
David, I wouldn’t read too much into the LinkedIn requests, the site has a history of spamming such invites without the ‘sender’ being aware of it.
autosoma ,
Alot of people have done very bad things. I have done some very bad things. I wish it weren’t so, but it is. All we can do is try to do better now that we know better.
Thank you @lea you are a most excellent person.
Hi autosoma
I’m really sorry if I’ve triggered anything there. Are you ok? If you don’t mind me asking, is there some PTSD in your background? I don’t mean to pry, but I do have some connections with a few associations that might be able to help; we do some work with military charities and organisations.
If you’d prefer not to discuss on the forum I completely understand. You can PM me on arobertshaw0901[at]googlemail[dot]com.
Once again my apologies if I’ve opened up any old wounds.
Thank you @alan… Presently I appear to have later upon layer of PTSD and I’m getting help.
Looks to me like you do.
@alan, sorry hit the reply button too quick. What you did was make me reframe looking over iron sights at a human being, a life. It was an interesting sensation dispassion, disassociation, intellectualising it and then that familiar stomach wrenching sensation and then bringing it together with empathy, that’s been a long time stewing. Thank you for what you did in way that became safe for me to deal with.
@autosoma:
I think we live in the same city, so if you need a friendly ear to listen and a friendly pint to drink, let me know.