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MRA Dean Esmay elevates the discourse with new #SpankAFeminist hashtag, gratuitous rape references

Dean Esmay
Dean Esmay wants you to know that you’re a cruel bitter bitchy hatemongering bigot harpy who needs to be spanked, metaphorically.

Dean Esmay, the Chief Operations Officer (whatever that is) of A Voice for Men, has scored a major public relations coup for the Men’s Rights movement with his aggressive promotion of an exciting new Twitter hashtag, #SpankAFeminist.

In what I can only assume is an attempt to convince the world that MRAs do indeed spend a good portion of their days fantasizing about doing physical harm to feminists, Esmay explains in a post on AVFM that the hashtag is necessary “because it’s finally time to put abusive liars over the knee.” 

In case you’re wondering, when he refers to “abusive liars” he means feminists and not, you know, people who think that publicly fantasizing about spanking feminists is 1) hilarious and 2) some kind of actual activism on the behalf of men.

Esmay is quick to assure his readers that he is only referring to metaphorical spankings over metaphorical knees.

As he sees it, feminists are pretty much all just begging to be spanked (metaphorically).

Why would you spank a feminist? Well in reality, we know a lot of them would complain but some might actually enjoy it. Who knows? Maybe they’re just shit-testing us all and waiting and feeling frustrated that we aren’t responding right.

Evidently, in Esmayland, when women challenge their male partners with so-called “shit tests” it’s because deep down they want to be physically assaulted.

Also, feminists are a bunch of meanies, anyway.

[A]ny time you meet a feminist, you should spank him or her until they cry. And do it every time they open their mouths to spew forth their hateful lies about standing for tolerance, inclusion, and equality, when there is no movement in the modern world that does more to fight against tolerance, inclusion, freedom, and equality than feminism. Not even real life fascists or communists can top them at this point.

Feminism is an intolerant, hateful, racist, anti-gay, misandrist, misogynist, gynocentric religion and hate movement.

Yep, that’s right: In Esmayland, feminists are actually worse than real Nazis.

So how is the spanking going so far? Here are a few of Esmay’s contributions to the hashtag. As always, he is a master of subtlety. CONTENT WARNING for terrible rape references. Also a WAIT, WHAT? WARNING for some of the nonsensiest nonsense I think I’ve ever seen.

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612941449810677760

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612847267972669440

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612822995396984832

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612952905218273280

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612953182319214592

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612948591808659456

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612947630042185729

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612942938646032384

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612816059138113536

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612816846811574272

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612965121149796352

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612965888615141376

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612952601131249664

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612762509620068352

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612779175095746560

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612648857277743104

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612744601368162304

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612472638317838336

You may have noticed that Esmay favors some rather colorful descriptions of feminists and feminism. Here are a few others he’s used in the hashtag over the last day or so.

  • Bitter bitchy harpies
  • Cruel violent abusive harpies
  • Hatemongering cultist[s]
  • Misandrist bigot[s]
  • Bigots and bullies
  • Hateful feminist bigot and bully
  • Bigot feminists

It’s weird that someone who complains so much about alleged feminist “bigotry” is fine with publishing articles written by a literal Holocaust denier.

Also, given how evil we feminists are, it seems a bit strange that Esmay tried to friend me on LinkedIn the other day.

Dean Esmay, man of many surprises.

While Esmay’s tweets seem to make up roughly half of the #SpankAFeminist hashtag, a handful of other terrible people have enlisted in Esmay’s (metaphorical) spanking crusade. Here are some of the most charming of the bunch, and when I say “charming” I mean CONTENT WARNING for gratuitous rape references, violent gifs, and Dan Perrins being Dan Perrins. (I’ve omitted the assorted porn pictures the #SpankAFeminist folks have posted.)

https://twitter.com/Synthovine/status/612305594595287041

https://twitter.com/rustBeltExpat/status/612326507374096384

https://twitter.com/Rob_Simple/status/612347342142967808

All of this is truly good for bitcoin Men’s Rights.

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sevenofmine
5 years ago

Really? A #spankafeminist is violent? U guys are laughable. In fact both u lot and Mras are ridiculous.

I always like to stop and marvel at the self-importance required to address a bunch of total strangers with a statement like this.

sunnysombrera
5 years ago

@SFHC
Investigative, I like it. You should work for the Feminist Secret Service. But you didn’t hear it from me, wink wink.

sunnysombrera
5 years ago

I meant the Feminist Secret Police, even.

Buttercup Q. Skullpants

“Mercurial poirot” has to be one of the most pretentious nyms I’ve ever seen.

LG.
LG.
5 years ago

Spanking is legally considered assault. Fucktons of precedent for this – use the Google, troll. There’s even some court precedent in Canada for spanking being a form of sexual assault.

autosoma
5 years ago

If a person cannot recognise that a smack is an act of violence (I’m excluding the consensual bdsm-ers) then they have a very troubling worldview. Perhaps he could contact Deano and offer himself up for a text run… Y’know, independent verification of Deano’s capacity to spank.

autosoma
5 years ago

Test run…, doh! Not text run

th1stle
th1stle
5 years ago

Just keep collecting these things for the dossier. Batshit crazy MRAs on display for the public.

Spindrift
Spindrift
5 years ago

Just keep collecting these things for the dossier. Batshit crazy MRAs on display for the public.

Don’t call the MRAs crazy, please. There’s much better ways to describe them that don’t stigmatise the mentally ill.

autosoma
5 years ago

One of the things I do find interesting about these violence apologists is that they seem to have minimal experience of it. I cringe now-a-days when I see it on a screen. A while back I was chatting to a boxing fan and he asked me if I was going to watch the fight. I told him I used to box but now I find I can’t watch it. He got quite snotty with me. Odd.

Alan Robertshaw
Alan Robertshaw
5 years ago

@ autosoma

One of the things I do find interesting about these violence apologists is that they seem to have minimal experience of it

Dave Grossman describes violence as ‘the universal human phobia’. As ex-mil, you’ll probably understand that, for most people, the fear of killing is actually greater than the fear of being killed. No doubt you underwent all the appropriate conditioning to overcome that.

So, people may ask, how come there is so much street violence? That’s a legitimate question, to which the answer is, most street violence is ritualistic (‘the monkey dance’). It’s more about posture and submission than inflicting actual injuries. Of course people do get seriously hurt, but that’s more of an accidental by-product; the classic ‘one punch manslaughter’ cases being an obvious example.

There seems to be an overlap between these MRA types and computer gaming. Their experience with simulated violence may skew their views. Drop them in a real world situation with the visceral sensations of bones breaking and arterial blood spurting though and I think that might snap them back to reality.

th1stle
th1stle
5 years ago

Don’t call the MRAs crazy, please. There’s much better ways to describe them that don’t stigmatise the mentally ill.

Sorry, I constantly make that mistake when I’m writing in anger. I just don’t know what to call their slew of irrational hatred towards women.

Colleen Patricia Ballance

I think they believe that all women secretly have rape fantasies because the truth hurts them too much. People don’t want them, women don’t want them, their voice isn’t wanted, they’re presence isn’t wanted. These are the white guys who despite never having any serious roadblocks in their life are failing miserably. They are just human failures deceiving themselves.

Monzach
Monzach
5 years ago

@autosoma and @Alan Robertshaw

The only times I’ve experienced real, physical violence has been when a drunk stranger tried to attack me in a public place. It happened at a subway station, in broad daylight (well, it was indoors). It was such a frightening situation that I’d never want to experience it again. I only received a glancing blow to the back of the head, but it was enough for me. I’ve been threatened many other times, but I was able to avoid escalation of it all. I do feel for anyone who has been through violence in their life.

Sorry for being slightly incoherent, hopefully my point got across. 🙂

Level14Boss
Level14Boss
5 years ago

@autosama
“One of the things I do find interesting about these violence apologists is that they seem to have minimal experience of it. I cringe now-a-days when I see it on a screen. A while back I was chatting to a boxing fan and he asked me if I was going to watch the fight. I told him I used to box but now I find I can’t watch it. He got quite snotty with me. Odd.”

I think this is an interesting point. I have friends’ that do boxing training some of them even coach, and on the very rare occassion that a situation may have got violent they were the one who were likely to be the first to try and diffuse the situation peacefully*. I’ve no real experience with people that train in other martial arts. Though I wouldn’t be surprised if this wasn’t a common occurence in that people who have a concept of what violence actually means, not just physically, but the psychological toll it can put on people, would prefer to avoid it.

*This luckily hasn’t happened in a long while.

autosoma
5 years ago

@alan robertshaw
Don’t know what to say, you’ve opened up something that my bodies responding to but not my head. I will stress though I have never taken a life. As to street violence, I think there is certainly a context in which it occurres.

Many years ago dome mates of mine asked me to come along to a Bradford v Pompey match, they were Bradford supporter their reasoning was I sounded southern and if there was a ruck then they could “let me get on with it” – I’m indifferent to football (soccer).

I’m going to have to agree with you about the overlap. I thing that the violence we see niw on screens is such a choreographed pastiche that it’s closer performance art than anything else and you can’t reproduce the smell, that’s the main part of any memories I have.

I’m not terribly fond of myself at the moment, too many memories.

autosoma
5 years ago

Sorry to have derailed this
@monzach
@alan…
@level14boss
I think I’ve twigged the MRA stance on violence, they see it at their prerogative and their entitlement and that the recipient is a passive consumer and don’t empathise with what it may be like to be on the receiving end.

I’ve been thinking of it in the wrong terms, that violence is enacted amongst equals rather than there being a power imbalance, after that moment of self actualisation I think I dislike MRA and their cronies even more.

Ben
Ben
5 years ago

David, I wouldn’t read too much into the LinkedIn requests, the site has a history of spamming such invites without the ‘sender’ being aware of it.

Lea
Lea
5 years ago

autosoma ,
Alot of people have done very bad things. I have done some very bad things. I wish it weren’t so, but it is. All we can do is try to do better now that we know better.
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autosoma
5 years ago

Thank you @lea you are a most excellent person.

Alan Robertshaw
Alan Robertshaw
5 years ago

Hi autosoma

I’m really sorry if I’ve triggered anything there. Are you ok? If you don’t mind me asking, is there some PTSD in your background? I don’t mean to pry, but I do have some connections with a few associations that might be able to help; we do some work with military charities and organisations.

If you’d prefer not to discuss on the forum I completely understand. You can PM me on arobertshaw0901[at]googlemail[dot]com.

Once again my apologies if I’ve opened up any old wounds.

autosoma
5 years ago

Thank you @alan… Presently I appear to have later upon layer of PTSD and I’m getting help.

Policy of Madness
Policy of Madness
5 years ago

I just don’t know what to call their slew of irrational hatred towards women.

Looks to me like you do.

autosoma
5 years ago

@alan, sorry hit the reply button too quick. What you did was make me reframe looking over iron sights at a human being, a life. It was an interesting sensation dispassion, disassociation, intellectualising it and then that familiar stomach wrenching sensation and then bringing it together with empathy, that’s been a long time stewing. Thank you for what you did in way that became safe for me to deal with.

EJ (The Other One)
EJ (The Other One)
5 years ago

@autosoma:
I think we live in the same city, so if you need a friendly ear to listen and a friendly pint to drink, let me know.

autosoma
5 years ago

@ej ta that sounds cool

weirwoodtreehugger
5 years ago

Really? A #spankafeminist is violent? U guys are laughable. In fact both u lot and Mras are ridiculous.

“I’m not an MRA, but…” you say?

*Googles username, figuring something like “Mercurial Poirot” would be unique*

*finds YouTube account*

*75% of the liked videos are MRAs ranting about eeevil feminists*

Hmm.

You know, when you have to pretend you aren’t even a part of your own “movement,” maybe that’s a sign your movement is terrible. We constantly get these “not and MRA but…” *proceeds to repeat MRA talking points* trolls. It’s even on MRA bingo. Notice that only groups who are hateful have to do this. White supremacists do it too.

You know who doesn’t have to do this? Feminists. We have nothing to be ashamed of.

Alan Robertshaw
Alan Robertshaw
5 years ago

@ autosoma

Those feelings arise because you’re an empathic person. That’s a *good* thing!

I don’t know if you’re familiar with all the SLA Marshall and Dave Grossman work; but what you describe are the feelings that any compassionate human would have in those circumstances. Luckily for most people they never have to encounter those circumstances.

The military put in a lot of research on how to overcome those feelings. Mainly it boils down to utilising crew served weaponry as much as possible. The major difficulty is with riflemen. You describe very eloquently the issues that arise when you stare down those sights. Most non-sociopaths have some variation on those feelings.

Armies try to counter that by creating ‘distance’. That’s not just physical distance but includes other ways of de-humanising the target. That’s why there’s such heavy reliance on night vision scopes and the like; it’s harder to equate that green smudge with an other human being.

This is how the military (and it’s generally accepted that the British are the best at this) can take nice ordinary compassionate people and turn them into such effective soldiers. The price however is the high risk of PTSD.

It’s probably small comfort, but the fact you’re suffering like this is only because you’re ‘normal’. That is to say you’re a non-sociopathic human being. It’s only that 1-2% of the population who are sociopathic that aren’t at risk of PTSD.

[Sorry for any ableist language, but being technical here]

Catalpa
Catalpa
5 years ago

Feminism is an intolerant, hateful, racist, anti-gay, misandrist, misogynist, gynocentric religion and hate movement.

I’m increasingly convinced that these guys have no fecking clue what these words mean and only see them as win conditions, so to speak.

Like so “huh, someone called me racist and then everyone turned against me. Clearly this has nothing to do with my behavior and the word is just magic. If I call sometime else that, I will automatically win the argument! In fact, let’s use a the magic, meaningless words that I’ve heard mentioned, like misogynistic and homophobic! And use the magic shield phrases of ‘ out of context!’ and ‘ statirical’ to prevent them from criticizing me! This plan cannot fail! “

Auntie Alias
Auntie Alias
5 years ago

@sff9

Thanks for responding. I copied text in my browser and pasted it between two blockquote tags. I’m gonna try typing manually:

First paragraph.

Second paragraph.

Auntie Alias
Auntie Alias
5 years ago

Hm. It’s a mystery.

Stazia DiMarca (@St0dad)

I’ve made like 2 ironic spankafeminist tweets and Dean Esmay and the “Spank a Feminist” account both favorited/retweeted them. I don’t know if they don’t realize I’m using their hashtag intentionally wrong, or if they don’t care as long as it’s being used…

EJ (The Other One)
EJ (The Other One)
5 years ago

I posted something here earlier at autosoma with my contact email addy. I’m hoping it’s stuck with the moderation mammoth.

autosoma
5 years ago

@alan… Thank you

Paradoxical Intention
5 years ago

I’m just sitting here thinking about Dean being in a dark room arguing with little straw dolls he’s dressed up in “women’s” clothing.

And when they disobey, he puts them on his knee and “spanks” them all while muttering to himself about “stupid feminists”.

It’s creepy, and kind of sad in a way.

sff9
sff9
5 years ago

@Auntie Alias, I guess you simply have forgotten to offer a sacrifice to the WordPress gods, then.

AnAndrejaPejicBlog (@Lindsay_Irene)

Through this hashtag, I learned that Alison Moyet is a feminist, so there’s that, at least.

autosoma
5 years ago

I know British irony and sarcasm bypass septics in the main, but having my arsecrack retweeted by Deano is… Beggars belief

Paradoxical Intention
5 years ago

autosoma | June 24, 2015 at 1:28 am
I know British irony and sarcasm bypass septics in the main, but having my arsecrack retweeted by Deano is… Beggars belief

Oh…my….Goddess.

He did? He really, truly did?!
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It’s like he doesn’t care what goes into the hashtag, as long as people put stuff in there. Good lord.

I kinda wanna spam it now with stuff like “#SpankAFeminist, but get their consent first! Consent is kinky!” just to wait and see him finally get the message that we’re fucking with him.

Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
5 years ago

@autosama

I need to see this, but I’m afraid to look into the tag.

Moocow
Moocow
5 years ago

@Paradoxical Intention

I reaaaaaaaally want to spam their hashtag with loving consentual BDSM but I hate twitter. XD The dilemna!

Just got a new paddle to try out <3
#SpankAFeminist

So I told her "I mark reaaaaally easily ;)"
#SpankAFeminist

I saw this double-handed flogging tutorial on youtube!
#SpankAFeminist

We both looked at the spatula, then each other, then at the spatula again
#SpankAFeminist

Now you're all tied up with your ass exposed
#SpankAFeminist

I lost count, so naturally she had to start over.
#SpankAFeminist

Gotta think of an excuse to explain why I'm standing at my desk all day.
#SpankAFeminist

sunnysombrera
5 years ago

@Moocow
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE TWEET THOSE THINGS!

THEY ARE GLORIOUS.

YOU’RE HILARIOUS.

Have I flattered you enough to make you tweet them yet? 😉

Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
Pandapool -- The Species that Endangers YOU (aka Banana Jackie Cake, for those who still want to call me "Banana", "Jackie" or whatever)
5 years ago

#TakeOverSpankAFeminist

EJ (The Other One)
EJ (The Other One)
5 years ago

I’ll put this on fetlife. Hopefully the hordes of SJW BDSMers will find this as funny as we do.

autosoma
5 years ago

Aaaaaaactuallly, it doesn’t beggar belief, it just shows up rank thoughtless stupidity of it.

Perhaps we could get a world tour going for him #spankablokewhoendevourstosupportfeminismdeanoworldtour

proxieme
proxieme
5 years ago

Drive-by Sparklemuffin:

tessietura
5 years ago

I’m starting #SpankAnMRA, everyone join in!

proxieme
proxieme
5 years ago

I went scrolling through Deano’s Twitter page to see if I could find auto’s bum, but I gave up.

There was just…so…much…crap.

Like, is this all this guy does?

But I’ll admit that I’m not a Twitter-person. (I was nice and didn’t say, “Twit.”)

There’s not enough coffee in the world to make a slog through a feed like his worthwhile.

David’s a better, more patient person than I’ll ever be.

creepy cupcake
creepy cupcake
5 years ago

Feminist or not, if I had to pick a man to spank me it wouldn’t be him.

Policy of Madness
Policy of Madness
5 years ago

I’m starting #SpankAnMRA, everyone join in!

The motive for that being … ???