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MRA Dean Esmay elevates the discourse with new #SpankAFeminist hashtag, gratuitous rape references

Dean Esmay
Dean Esmay wants you to know that you’re a cruel bitter bitchy hatemongering bigot harpy who needs to be spanked, metaphorically.

Dean Esmay, the Chief Operations Officer (whatever that is) of A Voice for Men, has scored a major public relations coup for the Men’s Rights movement with his aggressive promotion of an exciting new Twitter hashtag, #SpankAFeminist.

In what I can only assume is an attempt to convince the world that MRAs do indeed spend a good portion of their days fantasizing about doing physical harm to feminists, Esmay explains in a post on AVFM that the hashtag is necessary “because it’s finally time to put abusive liars over the knee.” 

In case you’re wondering, when he refers to “abusive liars” he means feminists and not, you know, people who think that publicly fantasizing about spanking feminists is 1) hilarious and 2) some kind of actual activism on the behalf of men.

Esmay is quick to assure his readers that he is only referring to metaphorical spankings over metaphorical knees.

As he sees it, feminists are pretty much all just begging to be spanked (metaphorically).

Why would you spank a feminist? Well in reality, we know a lot of them would complain but some might actually enjoy it. Who knows? Maybe they’re just shit-testing us all and waiting and feeling frustrated that we aren’t responding right.

Evidently, in Esmayland, when women challenge their male partners with so-called “shit tests” it’s because deep down they want to be physically assaulted.

Also, feminists are a bunch of meanies, anyway.

[A]ny time you meet a feminist, you should spank him or her until they cry. And do it every time they open their mouths to spew forth their hateful lies about standing for tolerance, inclusion, and equality, when there is no movement in the modern world that does more to fight against tolerance, inclusion, freedom, and equality than feminism. Not even real life fascists or communists can top them at this point.

Feminism is an intolerant, hateful, racist, anti-gay, misandrist, misogynist, gynocentric religion and hate movement.

Yep, that’s right: In Esmayland, feminists are actually worse than real Nazis.

So how is the spanking going so far? Here are a few of Esmay’s contributions to the hashtag. As always, he is a master of subtlety. CONTENT WARNING for terrible rape references. Also a WAIT, WHAT? WARNING for some of the nonsensiest nonsense I think I’ve ever seen.

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612941449810677760

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612847267972669440

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612822995396984832

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612952905218273280

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612953182319214592

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612948591808659456

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612947630042185729

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612942938646032384

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612816059138113536

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612816846811574272

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612965121149796352

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612965888615141376

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612952601131249664

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612762509620068352

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612779175095746560

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612648857277743104

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612744601368162304

https://twitter.com/deanesmay/status/612472638317838336

You may have noticed that Esmay favors some rather colorful descriptions of feminists and feminism. Here are a few others he’s used in the hashtag over the last day or so.

  • Bitter bitchy harpies
  • Cruel violent abusive harpies
  • Hatemongering cultist[s]
  • Misandrist bigot[s]
  • Bigots and bullies
  • Hateful feminist bigot and bully
  • Bigot feminists

It’s weird that someone who complains so much about alleged feminist “bigotry” is fine with publishing articles written by a literal Holocaust denier.

Also, given how evil we feminists are, it seems a bit strange that Esmay tried to friend me on LinkedIn the other day.

Dean Esmay, man of many surprises.

While Esmay’s tweets seem to make up roughly half of the #SpankAFeminist hashtag, a handful of other terrible people have enlisted in Esmay’s (metaphorical) spanking crusade. Here are some of the most charming of the bunch, and when I say “charming” I mean CONTENT WARNING for gratuitous rape references, violent gifs, and Dan Perrins being Dan Perrins. (I’ve omitted the assorted porn pictures the #SpankAFeminist folks have posted.)

https://twitter.com/Synthovine/status/612305594595287041

https://twitter.com/rustBeltExpat/status/612326507374096384

https://twitter.com/Rob_Simple/status/612347342142967808

https://twitter.com/ivanhoelaxative/status/612965848613961728

https://twitter.com/Ronakm4/status/612363912185450496

All of this is truly good for bitcoin Men’s Rights.

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roguepixie
roguepixie
9 years ago

“Shit testing”? Wow. What a handy excuse for violence.

Flying Mouse
Flying Mouse
9 years ago

Wow, Esmay’s on a roll. He must have a lot more time to brainstorm scintillating social commentary since they shuffled jobs at AVfM.

@sunnysombrera – What Morrizaurus said. Gawker also did a rundown of the segment (with a few quotes) here.

Lady Mondegreen
Lady Mondegreen
9 years ago

Remove their nuts and you remove their superiority.

Only if you agree with them that testicles = superiority.

Anyway, it’s pretty obvious that these dudes’ problem is cognitive dissonance between belief in their own superiority, and the copious contrary evidence, observable to all.

Reality is a feminist bitch, isn’t it, AVfM?

DonVoyage
9 years ago

As a black male feminist, aren’t people most likely to be sexually assaulted by people of the same “race” as they are? Also, aren’t most rapists (in America) white? I also like that he assumes I inately think of other black people as “brothers” and “sisters”. Plus historical revisionism with sufferagettes and completely pointless anti-religious bigotry (and i’m an atheist).

frances
frances
9 years ago

“If you’re ever unfortunate enough to meet a black male feminist, ask him why he thinks his brothers hate his sisters.”

Wait, he’s saying that black men as a whole hate black women, and yet he thinks feminists are the ones who are racist? Crikey!

proxieme
proxieme
9 years ago

@sunny – Someone said that this works outside of the US:

https://youtu.be/FdKUfSLA3Sk

DonVoyage
9 years ago

My first comment sucks. But anyway, aren’t people statistically more likely to be sexually assaulted by people of the the same “race” anyway? But since he thinks sufferagettes didn’t exist, I guess he thinks facts that conflict with his worldview are bigoted.

Miss Andry
9 years ago

Ah, David, I was hoping you’d have something to say about this.

My official response remains:
http://media.giphy.com/media/yHUiExmU40A4U/giphy.gif

Lynn
Lynn
9 years ago

I’m sorry but I have no empathy for someone who wants to cause me harm because I believe that women deserve better.

After many years of sexual harassment and verbal abuse, I am a feminist with a heart of stone. And I hate MRAs and any men who identify with them. I only have empathy for the ones who are truly suffering.

[violent remarks deleted by DF]

ej
ej
9 years ago

John Oliver is on a roll lately. I also came across this clip where he discusses the Confederate flag being flown in SC, a Russian military theme park, and the plan to feature a woman on the $10 bill.

Be sure to watch the end for a clip of CSPAN viewers suggesting women for the $10 bill. I’m not sure how the newscaster keeps it together. You can see very tiny reactions for her, but she does a really good job keeping a straight face with some of these suggestions.

Miss Andry
9 years ago

Also, what the actual hell is “rape vinegar”?

autosoma
9 years ago

@aunt Edna & @monzach

I’ve tweeted my arsecrack to #spankafeminist…

rugbyyogi
rugbyyogi
9 years ago

@shalimar – I totally agree with you re. Esmay being the dangerous one because of his not altogether infrequent sensibleness and rationality.

Occasionally he says stuff that I even agree with (not often, but sometimes, yes). But not today…

sff9
sff9
9 years ago

@Auntie Alias
There are ‘p’ tags around your second and third paragraph, but no opening ‘p’ tag between the opening ‘blockquote’ and your first paragraph. That’s weird, WordPress should insert ‘p’ tags correctly. How did you enter your comment? Maybe you cut/pasted a closing ‘p’ tag after your first paragraph?

As for the OP, I am flabbergasted by the mix of straw feminist arguments, metaphors which sound like fantasies, bad faith arguments, and plain nonsense. Clearly, a new landmark in PR history. Also, er, what’s this about “brothers and sisters”?

Lea
Lea
9 years ago

Lynn,
At this point you should be banned. No, it isn’t OK and the abuse you have endured won’t make it OK.

Lea
Lea
9 years ago

Dark Lord summoned.

Bazia
Bazia
9 years ago

What I hear from Esmay is that he wants to assault women seeking liberation and equality, but wants to avoid responsibility for saying so by using the word “metaphor” as if it magically makes his intent disappear. As though this evidence of his general malice is mitigated in any way by that. So from now on, whenever he criticizes or verbally assaults or doxes a woman, his words here come into play. He can no longer pretend to be principled, in the sense that he might claim to be issue-oriented, balanced, objective, reliable, or able to process facts . He is simply motivated by malice.

weirwoodtreehugger
9 years ago

Kotaku in action are having a predictably funny meltdown while simultaneously declaring victory.

Lots of choice nuggets.

This segment is months too late anyway. We’re already at the point where AAA’s can openly come here for support against SJWs, while actually using the term SJW, and nothing happens to them. The “omg harrassment hate group blah blah” narrative is dying as much as they don’t want to admit it.

So, they’re openly admitting to the goal of propping up AAAs? Such ethics in games journalism!

It’s the whole “the comments on any article about feminism justify feminism” bullshit.

To which I usually counter with “the comments on any article about fascism justify fascism”.

What?

Hijacking the top rated post to remind people: if you decide to tweet at the show, hbo or oliver himself, please be polite and civil and point out why exactly you disagree with him. It’s fun to just call someone a piece of shit and move on, but sadly it will just send the wrong message.

He’s already portrayed people on the internet as some sociopathic trolls more than once, I wish he’d also cover that even those people have done good things and helped people with donation campaignes and whatnot.

Translation: “Don’t troll and threaten HBO or Oliver even though you would be completely justified in doing so. We need to pretend we aren’t trolls and harassers. Ethics!

After scores of comments claiming Sarkeesian and Wu don’t really get harassed we have this charming comment, which has not been getting pushback.

I’m gonna go out on a limb and say they do deserve every bit of it. You don’t go into the lions den with a stick and hope to come out unmauled.

In a meritocracy, when you’re an individual that not only doesn’t contribute to the whole, but actually actively does harm to it, you don’t get to stay, you get cut off.

That being said, I’m not going to actively look to do that, not that I have the means anyway. I’m a few seas apart from the fuckers. But let’s say one day I was to hear that those two ended up meeting their ends, I wouldn’t give a damn and would probably smile or even laugh my ass off if it were happened by accident. That just tells me the system called nature is working and finally their dumbassery catching up to them. If heaven forbid they get murdered, I would only help in the capture of the murderer just to stop them from doing it again and nothing else.

I know that sound incredibly heartless, but I’m sorry, I don’t make the rules, I only follow them.

He’s pretty much saying that he’s not going to kill them because it would be hard. But he sure hopes someone else kills them! And apparently it’s a rule that if you’re a woman and you speak up, you should expect to be murdered. A rule he’s helpless against!

And that’s not being pushed back on at all.

Okay. I’ll stop spamming the thread now. I think that was about as much time as I’m willing to spend on reddit for the whole week.
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If I had more skills, I’d change “internet” to “reddit.”

Policy of Madness
Policy of Madness
9 years ago

@Lynn

I’m sorry you’ve faced what you have, but wishing sexual violence on someone is not okay. The answer to abuse is not more abuse.

Lea
Lea
9 years ago

DonVoyage,
You’re correct. They’re racists projecting racism onto others.

autosoma,
You slay me.

Catalpa
Catalpa
9 years ago

Assuming for a moment that women really DO want to be spanked by these shitheads (they don’t, but indulge me a moment), spanking them when they do something undesirable is COMPLETELY counterproductive. Do these idiots not know how conditioning works? If you reward someone for doing things, they’ll tend to repeat that behavior. What they should be doing, since women really want to be spanked, is offer to hand out spankings when the ladies renounce feminism and take the red pill, and not a moment before then. You don’t want to reward bad behavior now, do you?

Of course, these shitheads are just covering their asses with the ‘ but she wanted it ‘ rapey bullshit, so this point is moot.

Lea
Lea
9 years ago

WWTH,
Thanks for posting that. It’s horrible, but people need to know.
The fascism thing. Whoa. How little self awareness can one person have? Also, feminism is like fascism but when women speak up they should expect to be killed?

http://cdn.meme.am/instances/57781716.jpg

Buttercup Q. Skullpants

@autosoma

I’ve tweeted my arsecrack to #spankafeminist…

Excellent work. A few goatse links would also improve that hashtag.

Funny, I thought female butts were supposed to be this implacable steel juggernaut of oppression, crushing all the helpless men in their path. So wouldn’t spanking have about the same effect as, say, whapping the 4 World Financial Center building with a hot dog bun?

NickNameNick
NickNameNick
9 years ago

when ur daughter says she wants to get a gender studies degree

Right, because axe-murdering your children over an ideological disagreement is a sign of a healthy psyche.

Jesus friggin’ Christ…