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Open Thread for Personal Stuff: May 2015 Dinosaurs Are Ruining My Life Edition

Those pesky dinosaurs!
Those pesky dinosaurs!

An open thread for personal stuff, continued from here. As always: No trolls, no MRAs/PUAs/MGTOWs/dinosaurs etc, be nice. Email the mods/me if shit gets weird.

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gilshalos
5 years ago

@sunny

Nope!
I remember when phones didn’t have screens. In fact I remember easily a time with no mobile phones at all.
I remember when we were the only family on the street who could recieve Channel 4 (on a portable b&w tv as old as I am that didn’t have stations, but a frequency dial)
And I remember way before video tapes 🙂

Alan Robertshaw
Alan Robertshaw
5 years ago

At the risk of turning this into the “Four Yorkshiremen” sketch….

“Channel 4”! I remember being impressed with my posh aunty because her TV could get BBC2! ironically, the only thing I was bothered about watching was ‘Doctor Who’ anyway. Same today; I’ve never bothered with having a TV but I still have to find a way to watch Dr Who.

katz
5 years ago

I remember a time when we didn’t even have BBC2 because we…er…lived in America.

But for real, when I was growing up, we didn’t have any TV reception. Which I now realize was a deliberate choice by my parents.

gilshalos
5 years ago

@alan

Our grandparents might be the same generation. I was a very late baby and my father was the youngest of 4.
His brothers fought and died in WW2, his father fought in WW1.

Most people of my generation had grandfather’s in WW2

Of course, as an Ancient Historian I regard anything post printing press as modern, and WW1&2 as current events 🙂

gilshalos
5 years ago

Also Yay for Dr Who!!

Alan Robertshaw
Alan Robertshaw
5 years ago

@ gilshalos

Yup, we’re of the same era.

Know what you mean about history; to me everything post AD410 is ‘modern’.

@ Katz

Your parents may have given you the best start ever.

gilshalos
5 years ago

@Alan In fact, my uncle arrived on Malta when they had just had the three biplanes (Faith, Hope and Charity) to defend them. Both my uncles were air force. My aunt was WRAF telephonist.

katz
5 years ago

@Alan In fact, my uncle arrived on Malta when they had just had the three biplanes (Faith, Hope and Charity) to defend them. Both my uncles were air force. My aunt was WRAF telephonist.

Suddenly I kind of want to write a novel about your family.

gilshalos
5 years ago

My mother’s mother had the ‘monacled mutineer’, Percy Topliss, turn up at her back door, and ask for food. She gave him tea cos hospitality was a sacred obligation. 😛
I should really ask my parents to write this all down, cos all I know is bits and peices.

Alan Robertshaw
Alan Robertshaw
5 years ago

@ gilshgalos & katz

The siege of Malta makes a fascinating background for a story.

And just to bring the conversation round full circle to gil’s earlier post: there were actually more than three aircraft but the names were retrospectively applied to them. The flight (1435) now operates in the Falklands and they always have three of the planes still carrying the names.

Alan Robertshaw
Alan Robertshaw
5 years ago

The Falklands Flight today. Note the Maltese Cross on the tail…

http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2013/06/05/article-2336526-1A2AA15A000005DC-594_964x766.jpg

gilshalos
5 years ago

AS I say, I only know bits and pieces.
One thing I do remember my grandmother saying.
When British places were sent to Malta, they went on a carrier.
The Med was not a friendly environment.
The carriers stopped at the very limit of the planes fuel, and said. “You fly from here”
Not all of them made it.
(OK anecdata is not history…just what I was told)

gilshalos
5 years ago

@alan – Awesome!!

gilshalos
5 years ago

For all us Uk’ers (am I mistaken that there seem to be more of us these days ?)

NMA – 51st State of America

sunnysombrera
5 years ago

My grandfather was in the merchant navy during the war, and there was a photo album in the family of him and his shipmates aboard the boat, until my mother donated it to the Portsmouth Naval Museum. :/

Anyhoo, he was a very smart man, and eventually his brains were noticed by his superiors and he was transferred to work with the code breakers in secret services.

Alan Robertshaw
Alan Robertshaw
5 years ago

@ gilshalos

Interestingly, that song is *not* an NMA original. Written by a chap called Ashley Cartwright.

Here’s the original version, see what you think..

gilshalos
5 years ago

For a more folk-emphasis – Folk/rock/pagan/green….oh I’m lousy at categories Skyclad.

gilshalos
5 years ago

@Alan

Interesting.
Not as good phrasing, weaker melody line in the music.
But still great song, and lyrics.

gilshalos
5 years ago

I also find it interesting that when I pointed the song out to an American a decade or so back they assumed it was about Puerto Rico

Alan Robertshaw
Alan Robertshaw
5 years ago

Ooh, *love* Skyclad. Their version of “Swords of a 1,000 men” even tops the (brilliant) original.

Ashley was quite happy with the cover; he still gets the royalty cheques 🙂

gilshalos
5 years ago

And I love that song!

Alan Robertshaw
Alan Robertshaw
5 years ago

The American Govt already has a 51 and 52 Star version of the Flag ready for when PR enters the fold.

The Flag thing is interesting. I was in the process of doing the American Bar Exams (but then I got diverted into military law). You have to be sworn in on the US Flag; but the rules say it can be a flag that has been at *any* time the official one.

I went with this one:

http://images.delcampe.com/img_large/auction/000/159/068/536_001.jpg

gilshalos
5 years ago

Right Tenpole Tudor as the first version that came up

gilshalos
5 years ago

OK, I seem to be going manic. I apologise in advance for multi-postins and anything I might say.

gilshalos
5 years ago

Also, there is a band playing at my local Student’s Union. I vaguely know the bassist, and other people who are going. I’m social phobic leading to agoraphobic, but..I think I’m going to try and attend.
DOn’t hate me if I fail ?

Dawn Incognito
5 years ago

@trendafilka:

I’m sorry to hear about your father! I don’t really have anywhere to distribute the links, but I hope he’s found safe. Please try to take care of yourself too in this difficult time.

@gilshalos:

I would never hate you if you fail to attend! Try not to hate yourself either if that happens.

Jedi hugs for all.

Nequam
Nequam
5 years ago

Well, it turns out my book cover anxiety was not entirely unfounded– based on a misunderstanding of instructions (and misleading experience from a previous book kit), I made the cover way too wide, so it’d have a fore-edge overhang of about 1/2″ more than needed. (Look at one of your hardback books and imagine that the cover sticks out an extra 1/2″ beyond where it already sticks out past the pages. It’d be annoying, wouldn’t it?)

But I figured this out AFTER putting all the cloth and leather on, so I can’t just trim it back. Instead, I have plenty of extra leather and board, and got a fresh piece of cloth for about a dollar thanks to coupons (I need to iron it and remount it onto some kozo paper), so I’ll just start again.

I’m glad I realized it with a certain amount of aplomb, though I admit I felt rather stupid when it all sunk in. 😛

RoscoeTCat
RoscoeTCat
5 years ago

@Mij – I don’t know if you’ll see this, but I’m sorry to hear about your cat. My girl Perry is 16. She no longer eats hard cat food. I think this may be because she doesn’t want to share the hard food with the young (neutered) tomcat who’s made himself at home.

I’m a new poster. The same as someone else on this thread mentioned, I’ve lurked, and taken secret delight in this community for years.

because reasons
because reasons
5 years ago

Welcome new posters!
And virtual hugs to anyone needing them!

Robert
Robert
5 years ago

Our younger son turns fourteen tomorrow. He’s probably got the foulest mouth of any student on his grade’s Honor Roll. It’s strange that, of the two of them, we’re more worried about his brother. He’s still hearing the voices, but it’s easier for him to tell they’re not real. But then, as I like to say, we didn’t become parents because we thought it was the soft option.

It seems unfair sometimes. Older son has always been one of those who adults describe as ‘such a great kid’, and his brain goes and turns on him like this. I am glad that we get to be his parents, though. Some people wouldn’t appreciate him the way we do – although that also applies to younger son as well.

Being a husband and father seems to be most of what I’m doing with my life right now. I’m okay with that.

Dawn Incognito
5 years ago

(TW for self-harm)

Can I erase today please? It’s been really crappy and I’ve been doing things wrong from the get-go. I tried really hard to breathe through it but I hit myself with my phone. And HAHA I used the wrong end so it left distinctive marks that people are going to notice.

I bought an apple ale and a pear cider. I’ll read and listen to tunes maybe have a bath and try to be nice to myself today. But I’m sad and I’m angry and I wish I had an instruction manual for what to do in all situations so I wouldn’t fuck up ever again. And while I’m wishing I want a pony.

Subtract Hominem, the Renegade Misandroid
Subtract Hominem, the Renegade Misandroid
5 years ago

I spent too much time performing outdoors with one of my hand drums, and now its pitch varies with temperature, and there’s a raspy edge to its timbre. That’s right: my drum caught a cold from playing outside too much. Apparently it is a child.

GhostBird
GhostBird
5 years ago

Did my message go through? I cannot find it and I’ve been having issues posting things. :/

AltoFronto
AltoFronto
5 years ago

Dawn – You can’t erase the day from the past, but tomorrow is another one.

If they’re mistakes that you can learn from, then you won’t make the same mistakes twice and things can only go smoother. If they’re mistakes that are totally outside your control, then don’t worry about them. There’s really no need to be hard on yourself.

Almost everyone is muddling through life, and everyone has days when nothing seems to go quite right – so I’ll bet that in the unlikely event anyone noticed that things weren’t going totally smoothly, they’ll have just shrugged and said “Ah, these things happen”.

So I hope you have a nice night, look after yourself and get some good rest, and that tomorrow you wake up and realise that that One-Day-where-things-didn’t-go-so-well will be totally lost to history by Monday. I think I can guarantee it. 🙂

gilshalos
5 years ago

I went!
I walked 20 minutes to the Union, and didn’t panic when it had been totally rebuilt, and talked to people I hadn’t seen in 20 years since we all graduated.
And I enjoyed the music.
Then I got a taxi home and slept for 4 hours 🙂

gilshalos
5 years ago

@Dawn Incognito – I don’t know about the rest of the day, but you were supportive to me, and that was a very nice thing to have done.
Thank you.

opium4themasses
5 years ago

I have had a shitty, odd day. A little background is probably necessary though.

2 weeks ago my dad who was in the hospital went septic from a secondary infection. He became delirious, needed to be intubated due to pneumonia, lost kidney function, and came lose to going into shock.

He pulled through mostly and is on the mend, but his kidney function is still not back and he was still exhibiting some signs of delirium yesterday. He was having trouble distinguishing reality from a TV show he had watched.

Which was odd because this morning his doctor declared him of sound mind and that he had signed discharge papers and was refusing treatment. I get there and he starts talking to me about how he is really well. The doctors are only pretending to treat him. I talk to the doctor who believes my father is simply being obstinate and just lying to try to get out of the hospital. She then conducts the mental diagnostic where my father demonstrates he knows who he is, where he is, and what day it is. I ask for a psych eval, but they don’t have any psych with admitting privileges and will need to transfer him to another hospital for that. I ask if they can get a second opinion and get told that a second opinion would need to be that psych eval from the transfer.

Meanwhile, my dad is upset and getting hurtful. I try to explain the situation to him but he is unconvinced. He is getting hurtful. (I don’t hold this against him, but it makes it hard to be in the room)

I am mostly venting. We agreed to the transfer so that the hospital, he, and we all get what we want. I just feel like today was a huge waste of time.

katz
5 years ago

Opium: That really is an awful situation. Although your dad is a real trooper for pulling through such a serious condition.

gilshalos
5 years ago

Sorry, still bouncing about going to the gig last night.
Such a simple thing, but for me..like a normal person doing a marathon.
Still high on the adrenelin!

Alan Robertshaw
Alan Robertshaw
5 years ago

Glad you enjoyed it!

dhag85
5 years ago

@gilshalos

Great job! 🙂

I’ve cleaned two bathrooms and the cats’ food corner, all in one day. These are things I can do when I’m not in constant pain.

opium4themasses
5 years ago

@gilshalos Take your victories where you can. If you can’t do it the next time, that’s okay too. I find that taking the pressure of performance in these personal struggles makes it easier to keep going at them. (Not that you are me nor your struggles the same)

GhostBird
GhostBird
5 years ago

Welp, maybe the internet didst devour my comment, but here I go again; I passed my sommelier exam! It was insane, to the point that I’m still recovering physically (my sleep schedule is shot to shit). Now I get to start job hunting to get away from my current arrangement, which has some pretty awful shit in it (retail + drunken customers = hellllllll, racist, homophobic manager, the a whole bunch of other petty nonsense). The stress just never ends.

gilshalos
5 years ago

Go dhag83!
And Go ghostbird!

gilshalos
5 years ago

Opium – I hope your situation gets better for both you and your father. And thank you.

Alan Robertshaw
Alan Robertshaw
5 years ago

@ gilshalos

Been listening to the Lunaredd stuff. Quite interesting. Funnily enough I get all folky at this time of year. My pagan sensibilities come to the fore. (Normally I make a visit to my favourite local stone circles but my truck is in Land Rover hospital).

@ ghostbird

Congratulations!

gilshalos
5 years ago

I wish I had local stone circles.
Apparently there are local pictish caves but I haven’t seen them.

smithshadow
5 years ago

@Corrin

I am sorry to hear about your troubles with money and life in general. Hope everything improves for you soon. Also, I bought your book. 😉

Lanariel
Lanariel
5 years ago

Interweb hugs to everyone thats wants any