Here’s an open thread for personal stuff, continued from here. You know the drill: No trolls, no MRAs/PUAs/MGTOWs etc, be nice. Email the mods/me if shit gets weird.
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@ hypnokitties:
I love the way the one kitty’s eyes are pointed downward, as if into the Core of Being, while the other kitty’s eyes are pointed up as to the Spirit in the Sky. So that the one kitty is looking up into the apex while the other kitty is looking downward toward the nadir, like a couple of philosophers from Gulliver’s Laputa. I call them Immanence Kitty and Transcendence Kitty and think of their owner as a lucky entity.
Thanks for posting that picture.
Hi Bad Dog
May I be the first to say welcome. I’m a newcomer here myself so I’d feel a bit presumptuous offering you the welcome package; but no doubt someone will be along shortly.
I don’t know how to assist in the world of on-line dating. i would say however that there’s a really great bunch of peeps on this site and I’m sure they’ll be more than able to assist.
What i will say though is well done on the gym thing. That’s staggering progress. I know how hard it can be to undertake that for so many reasons; so that’s something you can be rightly proud of.
Sadly, no due to UK IR35 contract laws for consultants it had to be over 2 years continuous employment, and it looks like your a permanent member if staff not a 3rd party service provider.
Hello friends! If you’ve read this far down the comments, allow me to ask you a few questions!
-Have you drank some water today?
-Did you remember to take your medication/vitamins today?
-Are you sitting up straight?
-Do you need to stretch?
-Is there anything else you’ve forgotten today?
-Do you need to go to the bathroom? Don’t worry, we’ll still be here when you get back!
Just a few friendly questions from your friendly feminist neighborhood Paradox!
Happy Easter, and I hope you all have a good day!
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Hi Bad Dog!
Alan mentioned a Welcome Package, so here it is! You can also find it by clicky-clicking on the candle in the right hand side bar. 🙂
I wish I could give you advice about online dating, but… yeah. I’m clueless. That is a road I do not walk. However, YAY for getting from 1K to 4K! That’s great progress, and I’m glad you feel awesome for it.
(Alan, you can totally offer welcome packages! If you never got one, consider this the official invite. I’ve really enjoyed some of your posts in recent threads, and I’m glad you’re around.)
@PussyPowerTantrum
Thanks for the support!
Also…it’s kind of nice to know that people enjoy me babbling about this thing that I find cool, and that folks aren’t getting to the point of “Oh, crud, not more yammering about fire training” quite yet.
🙂
@Paradoxical Intention
You are a wonderful neighborhood Paradox. Thanks for the questions! You just improved my posture by a solid 25%. I’m a sloucher.
Happy Easter to you, as well, and to any folks who celebrate it.
@Thread-at-Large
Hugs to the lot of you!
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Kittens, for whoever needs them.
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Well, my husband’s son will be here tomorrow for Spring break. His mom is actually one of those women the MRAs love to complain about. She owes my husband and I a lot of money and hasn’t had a job in five years.
So Thanksgiving before last, she asked if she could go with the kid to another state for Christmas vacation. Husband agreed and long story short, they still hadn’t returned the following May. They are still litigating; the judge should be deciding later this month. This has been costing us money we really don’t have but husband is heartbroken over the separation.
The good thing is that despite everything, the boy is great and I’m good with him living with us if the judgment goes our way. But I know the ex will be as big a pain as possible if that happens.
@Myriad: had I put up pictures of the postbound photo album I made for my mom? I don’t remember.
PussyPowerTantrum, I’m taking your advice.
And taking a few other measures. I’m actually probably doing overkill, and trying to block a pass that nothing’s actually approaching, but… better safe than sorry?
Especially since I just found out a couple hours ago that he started asking other people he knows I know (on the day after I stopped responding to messages) questions about me to try and scope out whether I was just ‘brushing him off’ because of a ‘misunderstanding’… and talking about me like we had hung out and actually know each other instead of literally just having two conversations in person. Ever.
I’m not using literally figuratively. If we had any more than two conversations, I don’t remember them.
Yeah. I don’t think he means harm, but that’s not cool bro. Also, kind of creepy.
Blocked. I really, really, really, really, really don’t freaking like this.
Hambeast, I hope it works out, and sorry about that situation…
…sounds properly awful. I also feel sorry for the poor kid.
@Nequam You may have. I do vaguely remember pictures of books made here. If that was yours, I did really admire the work. I’ve never done bookbinding myself but I do appreciate others work.
@contrapangloss, I don’t think your worries about that person are unfounded. I also think it is healthy that you are trusting your gut and blocking him. Though generally asking others about someone you like is not out of line, what concerns me is how he is acting like your interactions are more than they are (not to mention a little boundary violating). Good luck.
@Bad Dog: Here’s the official welcome package: https://artistryforfeminismandkittens.wordpress.com/the-official-man-boobz-complimentary-welcome-package/
I am very rarely hungry, and this leads to my eating issues.
When I am bored, I tend to over-eat, cos even if not hungry my tongue aches for flavours.
When I am not bored, cos I am not hungry, I fail to eat, for days.
I’d really like a happy medium, where I eat every day.
I’m currently bored. Roasted chicken yesterday, so today eating cold chicken with chips, peas (cooked in the jus from roasting), and possibly onion rings. Possibly cos boredom fights with lack of motivation.
Almost collapsing here. Arthritis getting worse and worse. Joint swelling returning to pre-cortisone levels. Fingers turning blue. Can’t do basic housework anymore. Can’t be on my feet for extended periods of time due to swollen achilles. Medication not working. Almost ready to cancel any plans I would have for work or studies next semester.
I keep filling out these forms every time I go to the hospital.
– In the last two weeks, my pains have been:
worse than normal
– In the last two weeks, the swelling in my joints has been:
worse than normal
– In the last two weeks, I have felt depressed because of my pains:
constantly
– In the last two weeks, I have felt tired or exhausted:
daily
– I feel pain from my arthritis:
always
– I have trouble sleeping because of my pains:
every night
– Walking up stairs is:
very difficult
– Walking down stairs is:
very difficult
30 years old. Can’t fucking move. At least I can read blogs and play Minecraft, so woo hoo.
/self pity
@contrapangloss
I agree with PPT – block. Whether this dude honestly doesn’t understand the hint, or he gets it but is still holding out whatever hope he thinks he has, the sooner he can move the fuck on the better for all involved. I’m inclined to think a firm no will get someone past the “maybe there’s sill hope” phase into the resentment phase, which I think really is necessary for some people.
But that might be my privilege talking, since I never have any particular reason to worry about angry dudes stalking me. This opinion is only informed by how I think I would respond if I were him – and I’m pretty sure I’ve been him a few times in my teens.
@dhag85
I’m so sorry to hear you’re having a crappy time health/pain-wise. Sending gentle hugs your way if you want them.
Here’s a cool link via Captain Awkward: Sexist Dude Social Fallacies. Not really in topic anywhere else, but it’s along the lines of Geek Social Fallacies except regarding beliefs about women and sex.
contrapangloss: I don’t think it’s overkill. Like Myriad said, acting like he has more of a relationship with you than he does is a little creepy. And you have the right to decide who you do and do not want in your life.
I hope you feel better soon, dhag85.
And that things work out for you and your husband and his son, Hambeast.
I was once diagnosed as epileptic.
Well, until the senior doc reviewed my tests.
And I /so/ was happy.
I know that sounds weird but…to have an actual physical illness that i could point to.?
It made me happy.
Then I was told nah…once more it’s all in your mind.
Also sending hugs and sympathy your way, dhag.
Day One of my “LET’S DO THIS THING!” week and it’s been a ringing success. 😀 Now to replicate it for the next five days which I’m certain I will.
I know that feeling. It’s always nice to finally have a word or a confirmation that you’re not wrong, there is a word for it, and you’re validated. I felt that way when I found out pansexuality was a thing.
Though, I wish I could have someone tell me that I’m very much depressed and have anxiety, because I know people who’ve been actually diagnosed and their symptoms very much line up with mine.
The problem is, even if I did have the money to see a doctor (which I don’t), I don’t know if I’d be able (or willing) to tell them all my symptoms out of a fear of them not taking me seriously or them brushing it off as me “needing more exercise” or some shit like that.
I’m almost 30 years diagnosed with depression and anxiety. No cost for visiting doctors in Scotland. But…there is a new test for benefits here, and people with mental health issues are being judged fit to work despite their problems.
I’m terrified.
@gilshalos
Absolutely recognize the feeling, and I felt the same way when I finally got diagnosed after almost a decade of trying to ignore it until it’s impossible to ignore, then going to see a doctor, having my bloodwork done, being told there’s nothing wrong, then being sent home and going back to ignoring it. It’s the worst.
Thanks everyone for the sympathy.
dhag, a little late, but adding to the sympathy.
Chronic and inexplicable pain sounds awful. I’m sorry you have to deal with it, and I hope your joints stop attacking you. Also, not having anything diagnose-able and being told there’s nothing wrong does sound like some sort of special hell….
Gilshalos, I’ll be sending positive thoughts your direction! I don’t really have any experience with what you’re dealing with, but I hope this bout is less awful than it could be? Sending all my best wishes that way.
Also, thanks everyone for the support.
I really appreciate it.