I‘ve often pointed out, as many others have noticed as well, that the so-called Men’s Rights movement does pretty much nothing to help men in any practical way.
MRAs complain that there are no domestic violence shelters for men, but they (with literally one exception that I know of) aren’t willing to do the work necessary to actually set up such shelters. They point out the truly horrifying numbers of rapes in prison, but they don’t actually work with groups trying to stop rape and other forms of sexual abuse in prison — nor do they try to fight against “the war on drugs” and other policies that put an astounding number of young men of color in prison. I could go on and on and on with more examples, but you get the idea.
Well, it turns out that the Men’s Rights movement’s utter failure to help men in any practical way isn’t a bug; it’s a feature. At least according to PAul Elam, head cheese at A Voice for Men and probably the most visible and influential man in the movement.
In a post on AVFM earlier this week, an obviously angry Elam took aim at what he described as a “wave” of “concern trolls” — there were two of them — trying to suggest that the Men’s Rights movement needs to do more than talk.
Elam disagrees. Essentially appointing himself not just A but The Voice for Men’s Rights, he declared:
You want to know what this movement is about? It is very, very simple in my opinion. The MHRM I envision is about one simple thing. Talking without fear or capitulation.
Seriously. That is it. It is about nothing more than people talking to each other, openly and freely, in a world that does not want them to.
Huh. I’m pretty sure something like that already exists. It’s called “the internet.” As much as you enjoy doing it, Paul, you’re not the first person to come up with the idea of yelling at women on the internet.
Anyway, what about, you know, lobbying the government for redress of your grievances? Elam says no, declaring that what he perversely calls the Men’s Human Rights Movement
is not about passing a Violence Against Men Act or any other form of government reliance on justice and personal liberty. I, Paul Elam, am not running for office. I don’t give a fudgsicle or a rat’s ash who likes me and who doesn’t. I am not looking for a men’s rights parade on Men’s Rights Victory Day in Washington, D.C. …
Neither I nor AVFM has a legislative agenda, nor any politicians to endorse, nor lobbying to accomplish because none of that is of any value in a society that still refuses to accept reality.
What about the idea of setting up shelters or raising money for men’s health or something, anything, that might help troubled men? Again, Elam says no.
There are no plans to form a committee for research for testicular cancer or to build a men’s shelter. AVFM does not have a program to reform family courts.
But what about all the stuff you talk about in your mission statement? You know, like getting rid of rape shield laws, “dispens[ing] with child support except in special circumstances,” making paternity tests “mandatory on demand by any alleged father at any time.”
Sure, if you look at our mission statement you will see many items that will require political and judicial remedy to ultimately accomplish. That, however is not our job at AVFM to accomplish directly.
I suppose that’s just as well, given that most of AVFM’s demands are backwards and ridiculous.
If Elam and his followers just wanted to run an online publication rather than an activist group, that would certainly be their right. But unfortunately their idea of “talking without fear or capitulation” includes libeling and doxing and harassing their opponents.
That’s a form of “activism,” I suppose, but it has a lot more in common with the strategies of those who oppose human rights than it does with the strategies of those actually trying to protect human rights.
When the GQ article came out I asked a question of the MRAs in the comments: What work do you do to further your cause outside of blogging, engaging in debates, making youtube vids, and podcasts, etc. I then asked for links to like…actual evidence of activism (fundraising, advocating for causes that actually impact more than just white men, etc.)
After that I was told to do some searches online (Vladek Filler, Joel Kirk, Pauley Perrette, University of Toronto, Queens University) instead of say, being directed to fundraising causes for defense funds for men who they believe are being shafted by Family courts, you know, the rights they complain they don’t have.
When I said yeah…but like what do you actually do I was told that they engaged in “raising awareness” and “behind the scenes political activity”.
Point being…they really think that harassing people online is “raising awareness”
Reminds me of this article that came out yesterday: http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/relationships/leah-mclaren-are-men-really-the-victims/article23426535/
I wonder if they’re on the defensive.
Isn’t this pretty much the definition of “slacktivism”?
Y’know, when I was a kid, and I was asked to help my siblings with chores, I’d often try to (and they’d try it as well on occasion) pull a stunt where I would sit back and watch them do the work under the guise of “supervising”.
You’re not fooling anyone, Elam. You just don’t want to do the work, but you want the credit.
… Then, by definition, it’s not a bloody mission statement, is it?
“I know we said we want to do a thing, but it’s just not possible with the amount of work we actually want to put into it! So, we’ll just ‘supervise’ this until it happens, and then we can take the credit for it! Uh, I mean, celebrate in our newly-formed cis-gendered, white, straight male utopia, yeah, that’s it!”
What’s shocking about this is that he’s finally admitting to it.
Yelling at women is not a means to the end of helping men. “Helping men” is the pretext that justifies the end of yelling at women.
It is pretty clear that they are NOT pro-men – they are anti-women. Period.
Well gee, Paul, thanks for making it easy for us.
My word, what a maverick! In a society that virtually guarantees the freedom of speech Elam has boldly stepped up to his keyboard and spoken his mind. Elam is the only person who possesses the bravery and strength to go against the grain and say to society “You want me to express my opinions freely without risk of persecution? OK.” Not only is this man a rebel, but he is a genius for he has determined the formula for societal change. Too long have men and women sacrificed countless hours of their lives to work towards a brighter future, too long have the engineers of our modern society sacrificed family and lesuire to pour labour into shaping the world. Elam boldly rejects this and insists that speech alone can shift mountains. In the eyes of Elam the Industrial Revolution was achieved by the written word and it was Churchill’s rhetoric alone that saved Europe. Elam truly is a revolutionary. /s
And naturally, in the comments, anyone professing discomfort with this notion that they don’t intend to do any actual activism is banned for trolling.
But Paul’s going to need you to pay up at the next fund drive, gentleman, because doing fuck all for men is expensive.
It almost kinda seems like he just made up a fancy reason to behave like a jerk, doesn’t it?
AVFM’s motto: “We do nothing constructive, and we do it better than ANYONE!”
This is a pretty accurate description of the MR movement overall.
I think we need a new acronym for MRAs, since their leading site dropped any pretense of activism. I propose MRS, for men’s rights slacktivists.
@PPT
Nah, MRA still works. It just stands for Misogynistic Rape Apologist now.
Next post on AVFM: “Why Feminism Should Be Doing All The Men’s Rights Work That We Can’t Be Arsed To Even Start.”
On AVfM they don’t even bother to LINK to relevant NGOs or organizations…It might be too tempting to go and spend money there. Lame Paul is pretty easy to understand…
I’m glad they’ve finally outright admitted that they expect someone else to do everything for them.
Oh yeah, the sense of entitlement is endemic, every comment thread these losers came onto is full of whinging about “what has feminism done for men.” Well if you’re so big a jerk that you don’t see that making life better for half of humanity is a good thing overall…
Men’s rights is really about women’s wrongs.
In his own words, the MRM “is about nothing more than people talking to each other.”
So it’s official! Paul Elam himself has admitted that it’s about nothing at all.
Wait, so… are those things usually present when he talks? This admission could blow some holes in his image…