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Open Thread for Personal Stuff: February 2015 Cat Wearing Box in a Sink Edition
@inurashii–
So sorry to hear that. I am unemployed so I can’t contribute, but I will set a positive-intention-hippie-bullshittery for you and your family.
@MouseFarts–
I dropped you a line. I hope that’s ok!
@Everyone ever–
Thanks for the hugs and animal pictures–especially the raccoon one. I love raccoons. Not only are they my state animal, but they are super smart and OMG THEIR LITTLE RACCOON HANDS ARE SO CUTE.
All the hugs to inurashii, isidore13, and Mouse Farts !
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I got my new kitty today after Inti passed away, her name is Ifri
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I made her a cardboard box castle. . .
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@cupisnique
Whuuuuuuut? How did you even make that? Gotta make sure my cats don’t see this.
It took me two whole days and then some . . . it’s just boxes duct taped, with holes cut through the interior, windows cut out, and painted all over. She hasn’t really used it yet, just been sleeping on the window sill bed all afternoon.
Well it is adorable.
Hugs to Isidore, Mouse Farts, Inurashii, and everyone else who needs them.
In 50 Shades related news, I found this nifty campaign where you pledge to donate to a women’s/DV shelter instead of seeing the movie. I’m donating to The Network/La Red, because in addition to awesome things like being bilingual and LGBT-friendly and having pet-friendly shelters, they have made themselves available for survivors of kink-based abuse (which is obviously perfect for an anti-50-Shades donation).
Thank you so much for all the hugs. It means more than you know, seriously. Thank you. And once again, so much love and support for Inurashii and Isidore.
I feel incredibly awkward asking, but would it be okay if I posted my gofundme? If it’s not, that is totally fine! Totally! I hate asking. I just need…some help. And you guys are so wonderful.
@isidore13 My sincerest condolences ands hugs.
@MouseFarts All the hugs if you need them.
@inurashii I’m sorry to hear about your dad. I guess I should also pull up a barrel of stuffed animals, hugs, kitties, and best wishes for you and any one else who needs them.
I see I got ninja’d by grumpycatisagirl. 🙂 I too have really been missing kittehs, Cassandrakitty, and hellkell. My heart is still heavy from them leaving.
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To all feeling down, if the good wishes of a stranger on the Internet can help in any way, you have my hugs. And whilst I can’t compete with the cute cat pics, here’s some donkeys.
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^So much this.^
I find myself looking for their comments on threads all the time. It’s pretty pathetic.
I can’t speak to everyone on that list, but the Thread Of Doom made many of the radical-feminist regulars feel that they and their perspectives were not especially welcome here. I think some of them would be surprised to hear that anyone misses them, given how that thread fell out.
Oh, I did try bringing this all up with the group, and I did get some sympathetic responses, so idk. Plenty of people who left I would like to see come back, but what went down behind the scenes was a messy mess that I was really uncomfortable with. So yeah, they weren’t all jerks, but for people who claimed to be my friends, a lot of what was said hurt, a lot.
Annnnd since it came up in the newest thread and I am feeling twitchy now…
Hi my name is WatermelonSugar and I’m an alcoholic.
I don’t do a 12-step program, though. One, because when I first got sober coming up on four years ago, I was in IOP (intensive outpatient therapy, for those who don’t know–daily shrinky-time; it’s good stuff). Two, because the AA culture in my area is really not-lady-friendly (it’s full of MGTOWs for the love of holy). Three, because my dad, who is a toxic person, is a huge deal in AA–both here and nationally–and I don’t want that baggage in my recovery space; there’s no such thing as “anonymous” in AA for me.
So stuff has been rocky in WatermelonSugar-Land lately. I am dealing, slowly but surely, and I am enthusiastically sober with a great support network and loads of accountability and bbblah. I don’t want to get drunk. I know I can’t get drunk. I don’t even think about drinking.
But, sheeeeee-it. When “once an addict always an addict” shit gets thrown around, it really sends me spinning.
So. Blah. There is that.
Blah.
Hugs if you need’em, WatermelonSugar.
Oh holy eff.
Then why bring all that up? Just why?
Did you read what David said in the most recent Thread of Doom? That he was against TERF-as-a-slur?
Like seriously. Why even bring this up if you don’t want to stir the pot?
In short, I brought it up cause it fucking hurt, and y’all were talking-not-talking about it already.
Oh dear. I am just gonna…glide right on over that. Can’t deal.
But someone told me to go ahead and post my gofundme so…I’m really really really sorry if that’s inappropriate! Please don’t be mad at me.
You guys I just – sometimes I desperately want to just go to sleep and not wake up until things don’t suck anymore.
So, um. I don’t really know what’s going on. I made a wordpress account a while ago just to comment on Mammoth articles whenever I felt like it, but then I got too shy to do so. I figured, though, with the Buzzfeed article stuff getting me all hype to say what I want, and the opening of this personal thread, I might start here and just say hi? It kinda looks like everyone’s a little edgy right now though and going through tough stuff. I extend my sorry to everyone who needs it, and, uh. Yeah. (♥ó㉨ò)ﾉ <feel better everyone,,,
@MouseFarts
There’s some character in your link that shouldn’t be there. It took me to a “campaign not found” page, but it was easy enough to spot the error. I donated. Hope you can figure all this stuff out. :/ More hugs if you want them.
Thank you. I cried.
Hey Argenti, do you want to chat off-site? Little lightbulbs are going off in my head when I read what you’ve written. You’re expressing a lot of feelings I share but had no idea anyone else felt.
dhag85: I do indeed remember that episode as I love Seinfeld ‘you’re an anti dentite!’
I know little else of Maher as that was the first time I had seen him on the subject of women, and it was so offputting. I believe he is left/liberal, and that is always depressing, to hear these views from someone who may have OK views in other respects. But there always has been a lot of sexism on the left.
The anti trans stuff I literally know nothing about.
Our older son recently admitted to us that he’s stopped taking his psychiatric medication. This is happening at the same time that my relationship with my younger son is doing much better. I’ve spent the last eight years in joint therapy with him, which has been good for both of us.
Never expected to worry more about Cain than Abel – it feels strange. His psychiatrist has advised us as to when the meds should be out of his system, so we can be mindful of the schizophrenic symptoms when they recur.
I am going to try and step back from this. The last blow-up thread really spun my head. In ADHD I-Have-to-Fix-All-Problems-and-Understand-Everything mode, I lost many nights of sleep, staying up and doing so much reading and thinking and baaaah, and have come out with more questions than answers. Since all of that, I have felt like I have to be really guarded about any language I use here, and it feels pretty awful.
I have been trying to hold out until (or if) we have a community discussion about all of this. I am going to continue to try and wait.
@Ellesar
The more I see of Maher, and I have now been watching Real Time since 2008, the more convinced I am that where he happens to have good opinions, it’s by pure chance. He could just as well be on the other side, and he would be equally convinced he was in the right because he always has trufax on his side. Whenever he disagrees with the mainstream “liberal” opinion, he always thinks it’s because he “outliberals” the other liberals. He never stops to think maybe he has no fucking clue what he’s even talking about. I’m sorry I’m still raging about this, but I watched Friday’s episode like 12 hours ago and now I can’t sleep because I’m so annoyed.