In a sort of rebuke to men who complain that they’re “too big” to wear condoms, one Swedish gal pulled a condom over her leg and up nearly to her knee, and posted a pic documenting this feat to Instagram. This pic:
Naturally, some men have reacted with outrage. When the pic was posted recently on WomensRightsNews, a host of dudes popped up in the comments to point out that not all men are comfortable in regular sized condoms. (Uh, I’m pretty sure that’s why they make bigger sizes, dudes.)
And then there was this guy.
Yes, this is his response to a picture of a woman’s leg with a condom stretched over it.
But as it turns out, he was just getting started. Responding to one commenter who took issue with his, er, analysis, he spat forth these giant gobs of text. I won’t summarize them, because, honestly, my eyes glazed over after about the third word in ALL CAPS.
Another commenter raised an interesting point:
Huh. That must be a reference to the legendary Agent Orange files. I guess Jayme is a reader of A Voice for Men?
He then moved on to some, er, art criticism, I guess?
For what it’s worth, dude, Andy Warhol made a painting using his own semen, as did Marcel Duchamp. And this guy made a portrait of Justin Bieber out of other people’s pubic hair. So go wild, dude, stick wool up your urethra in the name of dude art!
Jayme then went on to address the wage gap issue, and then that whole “turning men into nothing more than egg fertilizers” thing that is apparently the grand aim of feminism.
I just have a couple of questions.
How exactly did Jayme Crandall become a “Top Commenter?” I think something might have gone wrong with the selection process here.
Also, why are so many angry dudes reading something called WomensRightsNews?
Ok, that’s last question was a joke. OF COURSE angry dudes are reading WomensRightsNews. Hell, there’s probably no more effective way to reel in the angry dude demographic than to mention feminism online. They are drawn to articles about feminism with the same powerful mystical force that draws cats to paper bags:
H/T — Sunnysombrera, who posted a link to this whole wondrous discussion in the comments here. Thanks!
To clarify: when I say “unaware of his male privilege” what I mean is at some point I might have to explain to him the kind of things that women experience or have to live with e.g rape culture. We’ve never talked about this stuff as its never come up, and I think he’s said some things before to suggest he’s not that clued in about women’s experiences, but he’s still kind of young and who better to talk to him than his big sister.
Yeeeah, when marketing to people who are hoping to avoid pregnancy and STDs, it’s probably not the best idea to evoke images of a stealthy army hidden inside a thing, and waiting till the thing gets taken inside the city walls so they can spill out and roam around freely under cover of darkness. Trojans might be all alpha and shit cause they wear helmets, but in the end Troy got sacked.
I reckon the person who came up with the Trojan name had grown up with the expression “worked like a Trojan” as showing admiration for people who worked really hard …
… and nobody else said, “Now just waaaaaaait a minute. There’s the unreliable, deceptive, treacherous Trojan horse to consider here.”
Some TMI:
Yeah, see, guys like this made my first tries at sex much worse than it needed to be. Not because they pulled anything like this, but because I was so paranoid that they would. You wanna talk about uncomfortable? Try the dread that grips you when you can’t remember whether they had a condom on that one time, not being able to relax until you get your period again (which, chances are, will be delayed by the stress), coming up with plans for worst case scenarios until then. If I wasn’t sure about no kids before, that brief time of uncertainty settled the matter. It was all “I-can’t-have-a-kid-I’d-make-a-miserable-single-mother-I-just-freaking-got-this-job-dear-god-if-you-can-hear-me-please-don’t-let-me-be-pregnant-especially-not-with-that-douchebag’s-kid-if-I-am-I’m-gonna-have-to-get-an-abortion-what-if-there’s-somebody-I-know-at-the-clinic-should-I-go-to-a-different-city-I-don’t-have-the-money-for-this-either-way-I-couldn’t-even-ask-my-pro-life-family-for-help-is-this-the-nausea-I-usually-get-before-my-period-or-could-this-be-morning-sickness-fuck-fuck-FUCK” on a loop in my head for over a week.
Finally figuring out that I didn’t get enjoyment out of either romantic relationships or casual hook-ups was a relief, actually. I never want to relive that kind of uncertainty. Asexuality for the win!
On a side note (more TMI), I’m curious about something. How do those of us on the vaginal side of PIV sex not get some sort of infection (not STD, just yeast or similar) the first time? Both me and my sister had that happen after our respective first times. Just wondering how common it was, if there’s any good way to prevent it besides the usual hygiene, and how the hell did I go over twenty three years without hearing about it as a very possible consequence of sex?
@Amnesia
Yeah, my pro-life mom cottoned on that I was having Teh Forbidden Sexytimes (good lord was that ever a traumatic time) when I started getting yeast infections and didn’t know what they were. Clearly that must be pretty common, but it isn’t something you really hear about.
These days (TMI yay!) when I’m celibate for a while and start having sex again, I’m more likely to get BV. I hate BV; it makes me feel gross and dirty. I know you can help prevent UTIs by peeing right after sex, but I dunno about yeast and BV, except like probiotics.
Amnesia,
I believe it is recommended to urinate immediately after PIV. Maybe before too.
ninja’d. and I forgot and only answered for UTIs (those were the ones I used to get).
I didn’t get one after my first time (purely by luck), but I did after we started experimenting. Despite how fun TV and magazines make it look, chocolate body paint does not go down there! X_X Ahh, the joys of zero sex education…
And if you have delicate chemistry, those fancy sugar scrubs require extreme caution.
Things nobody tells you, man.
Speaking of things women joke about, let’s add “Meninism” to the mix!
https://twitter.com/YesMeninism
I got yeast infections long before ever having sex. Other than good hygiene and comfy cotton underwear, eating lots of yogurt helps.
Maybe that’s why commercials are so adamant that yogurt is GIRL FOOD DAMMIT.
I never got an infection after my first time. Or any other time. I guess some people are prone to YI and BV and some aren’t? I had some sort of infection when I was 13. Before I even started my period. But I was too embarrassed to tell my mom and it went away on its own.
I can’t even remember if I first saw this here or not, but here’s a massively encouraging and clear post on Buzzfeed’s Tumblr:
http://buzzfeed.tumblr.com/post/108874060812/hey-buzzfeed-i-like-a-lot-of-the-stuff-you-guys
The best part is that even though he (and yes, I’m going out on a limb and guessing it’s a ‘he’) tries to sound all concerned about some specific evil feminist movement, he slips up and outright says “women” earlier. Women?! On the Internet?! Enjoying Buzzfeed articles instead of just being background decoration for me?! Tosser.
@ Mouse farts
I didn’t get one either after my first time, and honestly I’ve never had one (lucky). I think some ppl are just more (or less) prone to them. So I don’t know if it’s common, or just… well common if you’re prone to getting them in the first place.
Been getting UTIs since long before sex. I’ve been doing well for a few years but between about eighteen and twenty-four it was two or three a year. Never had them associated with sex.
I’ve had a handful of yeast infections, one I’m overcoming now. I used the wrong soap to wash my menstrual cup and, two days later, was a very uncomfortable girl. I’m never traditionally symptomatic with the fucking things so it took me a while to figure out this is a yeast infection and requires anti-fungal treatment. Hard to tell when your vulva is burning and the skin’s breaking but there’s no candida build up to indicate a cause. I just thought my skin was really dry the first time. I usually get them after a period when my vadge pH has been slightly altered by flow.
I had BV once. Had been celibate for many months. Had a LOT of sex with someone over a short period of time. My cooter began smelling strongly of salmon. It was humiliating.
🙁 marinerachel!
I only ever got UTI’s from sex and usually during that “honeymoon phase” of a new relationship. But I think the latter of what Tracy said is true: some people are more prone to them.
I had a lot of bladder/kidney problems when I was young that just went away as I got older.
Of course, I haven’t had any PIV in almost a decade, so the pee precaution would still be employed if I decided to resume. Once I got more experienced and was getting more pleasure out of sex, I needed to pee when I was done anyway (and sometimes during!) 🙂
But to get back to what WWTH was saying, letting women know that these are risks associated with sexual activity is important. It’s not just STD’s and pregnancy and once I was aware of these risks and that I was in a high-risk group, that had a big impact on some of the decisions I was making. (Sort of like Elaine from Seinfeld and her “Is he Sponge-worthy?”) I think I learned a lot about these issues from Glamour magazine in the early 90s. Of course, I had been sexually active since the mid-80s.
@friday jones
I second this. Like Mouse Farts, I was raised by my mom on all sorts of stories about how awful my biological father was. She liked to compare me to him as well, once telling me I was “evil like him”. I was about 8 at the time. I hit 21, and biodad tracks me down on fricken MySpace and sends me a friend request–no accompanying message–because if you’re going to be an abandoning douche, may as well try to reunite with your child in a manner which reflects that douchiness.
He shows up to the coffee shop we’re supposed to meet in for the first time in two decades two hours late in a Porsche, really hammering home that douche status as hard as possible. Spends a couple hours telling me sex stories about him and my mother, because I guess he was trying to be more subtle about his chart-topping levels of doucheism.
Year-long story short, he bragged about how rich he was, told me I was a waste who should just join the military, tried to hook up with my mother even though he had a wife, and I eventually told him that I’d gone twenty years without him and would be happy to repeat the experience in perpetuity. He abandoned his third family shortly after, because why the fuck not with that track record. Inexplicably sent my mother a pic of him and some woman three years later, told her at one point he had brain cancer, said he’d given up his “fortune” to wander the world, other random weird shit.
My mom wasn’t much better raising me–I always carried the stigma with her and her family of being that man’s daughter. She also saw it as some huge sacrifice to actually keep me instead of giving me up like he did. Because of Parent Issues(TM), during the time biodad was in the picture, I actually thought one might be better than the other in being a parent to me, but I eventually had to admit to myself that it was never going to happen because they both really suck. It explained why I really related to Roald Dahl’s Matilda, though. WHY CAN’T ABUSE SURVIVORS HAVE SUPERPOWERS DAMMIT IT’S ONLY FAIR.
“Top commenter” just means runs their mouth a lot. After you post a certain number of comments on a certain number of sites that are all affiliated together you become a “top commenter” no matter how shite your comments are.
Also…why is he equating condoms with male oppression? Does he not know that condoms do things other then prevent pregnancy? Beh. I hope he gets exploding penis syphilisitisosis.
Ok last comment on this (swear!) am I the only one that thinks that whole “losing” a condom because they slipped it off on purpose thing is rape?
Why do I think of PJ Harvey when I see this article?
People are so biased towards their own political side. I’m a guy, but part of the reason I deliberately do not engage in casual sex is because I don’t want to damage a girl’s body.
Also, a condom does not chemically alter a man’s physiology the way an IUD or birth control pills alter a girl’s. It’s not a fair comparison.
But all this stuff can fail. Using girls for random sex is mean and selfish. I’ve only had sex twice in my life, and I try to avoid porn as much as I can when I do get sexually frustrated, (until I meet the right girl and can finally have healthy sex with her).
I guess somewhere in my childhood I learned not to hate women (probably from my mother). I don’t know what’s wrong with these other psychotic men. Maybe their mothers mistreated or abandoned them when they were young, and now they take it out on all women. (Actually, my mom wasn’t even perfect, but I still must have learned something during my very early formative years.)
He just keeps getting creepier. But I approve of him staying away from women.