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Men Going Their Own Way tell Paul Elam to go away. BONUS: The terrible new MGTOW anthem

Men Going Their Own Way can't decide which way to go.
Men Going Their Own Way can’t figure out which way to go.

Oh dear. Paul Elam’s attempt to anoint himself King of the MGTOWs doesn’t seem to be going terribly well, mainly due to the fact that the overwhelming majority of those who call themselves Men Going Their Own Way would prefer it if he went his own way off a short pier.

His new ebook on MGTOW — despite receiving rave reviews from people who work for him at A Voice for Men — has not done quite as well amongst the MGTOW masses, many of whom are posting one-star reviews on Amazon.

Their complaints are a mixture of the reasonable and the ridiculous. On the one hand, they accuse him of being a con artist trying to cash in on their little movement with an ebook made up mostly of stuff that’s already been posted on the internet. On the other, well, they think he’s some kind of quasi-feminist supplicator to women who’s committed a sort of treason against his fellow men by not banning all women from AVFM. No, really:

 43 of 62 people found the following review helpful 1.0 out of 5 stars Story of a Shill, January 2, 2015 By  Brad P. - See all my reviews This review is from: Go Your Own Way: Understanding MGTOW (Kindle Edition) Paul Elam is almost universally hated in the MGTOW community and this book is his attempt to hijack and appropriate a fledgeling philosophy in order to make a cheap buck at best, or at worst subvert and pervert it.  MGTOW began as a direct reaction for men to be aware the risks of marriage and relationships with women, including the conception of children, and to either mitigate the risks on their own terms or protect themselves completely by practicing abstinence from sex, relationships and economic engagement in the face of a gynocentric structured tax system that unfairly transfers benefit and subsidy to women at the expense of men.  But Paul Elam is a known supplicator to Feminists as a means of getting a pass as a moderate and promoting his AVFM network and profiting from male suffering. Feminists are the direct culprit responsible for creating a toxic society that is extremely hostile towards men. Paul Elam advocates for traditionalism and insists that married men can be MGTOW too when that is the exact antithesis of MGTOW. In Western developed nations, traditionalism and marriage only serve to compromise male sovereignty, savings, sanity, and safety. Paul Elam's general conduct has alienated the best thinkers and contributors previously at his misguided website, as well as many other former subscribers.  MGTOW is about liberating men without any reservation, apology, or reverence to political correctness.  Between VAWA and divorce law, married men can only think they are going their own way. Only up until Princess Cupcake becomes unsatisfied and calls in Big Daddy Government to rough him up and take him away.  Save your money and time and PASS.

On their own websites, Elam’s MGTOW haters are even more blunt. Here’s what one commenter on MGTOWHQ had to say:

Re: reviews on paul's mgtow book aren't looking too nice  Postby comedian » Sun Jan 04, 2015 5:49 pm Personally, I always thought Elam was an agent of the plantation. Call himself a MGTOW leader, get a bunch of guys under his wing and gradually suck up to the twats towing his supposed MGTOW brigade behind him. That's what happens when you allow twats into your forum. I think it was a deliberate move on his part. To sum up, water down MGTOW to the point where it isn't MGTOW, it's men going Elam's way; back into the grinder.  His book isn't even worth the price of a McHappy Meal.

But my favorite response so far comes from a Youtuber who calls himself TheMadShangi. A few months ago, Mr. Shangi was a loyal AVFMer; indeed, he contributed a post to Elam’s site gleefully recounting how he’d been such a royal pain in the ass to me on Twitter that I stopped responding to him. (Or, as he put it, How I made David Futrelle cry and ragequit on Twitter.)

Well, these days he’s singing a different tune. Literally. Here’s his musical critique of Mr. Elam and his book.(The bit at the beginning is from a video Elam made baiting his MGTOW haters.)

Both sides in this MGTOW civil war are so thoroughly terrible I can only hope that they both go down in ignominious defeat, leaving us, the amused spectators, the only real winners.

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cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
9 years ago

Fig Newtons the branded version are crap, imo, but in the Bay Area you get lots of similar fruit bars that are made with local fruit (as we’re a fruit growing region) and wholewheat flour and so on, so basically the hippie version, that are awesome. Best ones I ever tasted were bought at a roadside stand selling local berries in Marin.

contrapangloss
9 years ago

Sea monkeys! They still sell those, everywhere. Poster child for (lack of) honest advertising, they are… I still loved them.

Also, peanut butter bars are amazing. My mom makes them with a kind of crispy peanut butter base and a semi sweet chocolate top.

I need to get that recipe, one of these days.

Also, my station had the assistant chief of volunteers over to dinner. He made us (us being me and the area ‘non-live in but legit firefighters instead of my EMS/firefighter in training self’) moose-burgers and helped with detailed rig/station checks. We have the best chief.

Moose-burgers are really tasty.

gilshalos
9 years ago

Allons-y!

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
9 years ago

What does moose taste like? Venison?

kittehserf - MOD
9 years ago

The chocolate combination that always got me was how all the chocolate biscuits I bought in England had hazelnuts in them. Didn’t matter what brand or type, hazelnuts seemed to be mandatory.

weirwoodtreehugger
9 years ago

Is Ben and Jerry’s hard to get outside of the US? That’s a shame. I just got some that is half hazelnut and half chocolate with a core of hazelnut fudge in the middle. It’s so delicious. I also love their coffee ice cream mixed with heath bar pieces.

Nutty bars, btw are wafers with peanut butter and chocolate. I think my love of peanut butter might be the only extremely American thing about me.

contrapangloss
9 years ago

Never had venison, so I’m not sure on that front.

It’s pretty similar to beef, only leaner and has a kind of subtle spice even when it’s unseasoned. It’s kind of like a really sneaky peppery thread with some other flavor I can’t quite put a name to.

It’s good, but easy to overpower with other seasonings. Add enough extra stuff and all you end up with is something that just tastes like really lean beef.

kittehserf - MOD
9 years ago

Ben and Jerry’s is available here.

contrapangloss
9 years ago

Also, flavor is kind of time of hunt dependent. Fall moose is more high end grass-fed beef flavored, and winter/spring has more of the pepper-something spice. I’m tempted to think it’s a willow tree eating thing.

Gilshalos! Have fun watching the Doctor at his cheesiest (for ten)! Beware the host.

…I just realized how often doctor who makes angels terrifying…

… Still, have fun!

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
9 years ago

Hazelnut with chocolate is awesome, but the combination I wish happened more often is walnuts with chocolate. If anyone is ever in the Bay Area there’s a place called Cafe Tibet in Berkeley where the owner is a French-trained pastry chef, and the chocolate cake with a walnut base that she makes is pretty much my favorite cake of all time.

Also, sounds like I’d like moose!

pallygirl
pallygirl
9 years ago

I made two coffee cakes this weekend. 🙂

kittehserf - MOD
9 years ago

I like nuts of whatever variety in a milk chocolate bar (Cadbury’s Fruit and Nut, yum), but not in biscuits. I like my chocolate biscuits just plain dark chocolate.

kittehserf - MOD
9 years ago

Coffee cakes! Yum!

marinerachel
marinerachel
9 years ago

I find winter/spring moose literally tastes like willow (obvs because they’re munching on willow at the time) which is nice. Definitely not as beef-like.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
9 years ago

Interesting that it tastes more like beef than venison, since moose pretty much look like giant deer.

marinerachel
marinerachel
9 years ago

Moose are deer. They’re just a huge cervid with a unique face. It’s accurate to refer to their meat as venison.

A. Noyd
A. Noyd
9 years ago

This comment thread has definitely gone its own way. Maybe it should write a book.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
9 years ago

Women (and a few men) Going Towards The Kitchen, maybe?

pallygirl
pallygirl
9 years ago

The kahlua icing is now on the coffee cake.

contrapangloss
9 years ago

A book by this thread would be… interesting. Way more interesting than the standard MGTOW book of “How to Go Your Own Way While Never Actually Going Your Own Way”

HTGYOWWNAGYOW?

I mean, brine shrimp marketed as monkeys. 10th doctor in the voyage of the damned. Tasty moose. Fire chiefs.

The cover could be the 10th doctor wielding a Frying Pan of Doom, riding on a moose, fleeing from gold gilded angels in bunker gear.

While a bunch of brine shrimp in monkey suits sit around and laugh.

Arctic Ape
Arctic Ape
9 years ago

Moose are deer. They’re just a huge cervid with a unique face. It’s accurate to refer to their meat as venison.

BTW, apparently male and female moose are called bull and cow, respectively. Can you apply stag and doe to reindeer/caribou?

contrapangloss
9 years ago

Nope. Bull and cow is how I always hear people (at least in AK) refer to caribou.

It might just be an Alaska thing though.

kittehserf - MOD
9 years ago

I think that’s how I’ve always heard reindeer described, too – bulls, cows and calves.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
9 years ago

Totally random but did people see this? These guys decided to protest gay marriage by walking around shirtless with slogans written on their bare chests, because apparently FEMEN was an inspiration. Can we get them to make friends with the MRAs? I feel that a conversation between these two groups would provide much amusement for everyone else.

http://m.thelocal.com/20130403/hommen-gay-marriage-femen

Buttercup Q. Skullpants
Buttercup Q. Skullpants
9 years ago

Good lawd, what did Fleetwood Mac ever do to deserve this? MY EARS

Oh, no, they didn’t. Did they?

When I was a kid, for some reason, I thought they were singing “You can comb your own hair” instead of “You can go your own way”. Which is probably a more practical anthem for a certain segment of the MGTOW population.

Sea monkeys! I’d totally forgotten about those. The ad made it look like you could teach them to play baseball and gin rummy. I think they do respond to light. In theory, you could train them to follow a flashlight and…I dunno, have a synchronized swimming team?