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Men's Rightsers offer innovative new theory about rape and feminism. And by "innovative" I mean horrifying.

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Paul Elam: “Dworkin’s problem wasn’t that she was raped. Her problem, and I mean all along, was that she wasn’t.”

There’s a post on the AgainstMensRights subreddit today highlighting a comment from a  Men’s Rights Redditor that offers some, well, interesting theories about why feminists are “obsessed” with rape and abortion, even though he thinks they are very ugly.

Actually, in his mind, it’s because they are very ugly, and secretly wish someone would be attracted enough to them to rape them.

Sasha_ 3 points 1 day ago   I can't help noticing that many of these women protesting so vehemently about rape seem to be...well I don't really know how to put it; but if they're rape victims then there must be some very odd rapists in the US; because some of those women are clearly about 15+ stone in weight and there're not what one would describe as 'traditionally attractive' - unless one's particularly attracted to scary she-beasts.  It does make me wonder whether some of these women are motivated by sexuar frustration? A great many female feminists seem to be quite unhealthily obsessed with rape in a disturbingly-obsessed way.  It goes right across the board really - feminists are always banging on about rape and abortion. It's as though half the time they're obsessed with being 'ravished' - and God knows half the books women read seem to be rape-fantasises like that 'Twilight' nonsense - and the rest of the time they obsessed with killing the results.  The more I think about it, the more I think that feminist are really quite creepy.

I’m sure there are MRAs out there who would like to dismiss his posting as the ravings of a random Redditor. Sadly, it’s not. Despite the terribleness of his “explanation,” or perhaps because of it,  it seems to be a common one amongst Manosphereians and Men’s Rightsers.

Indeed, in one notorious post a couple of years ago, A Voice for Men founder and all-around garbage human Paul Elam — probably the most important person in the Men’s Rights movement today — offered a much cruder version of this argument. [TRIGGER WARNING for some primo rape apologism. I have bolded the worst bits, and archived the post here in case Elam decides to take it down, as he has been doing with some of his more repellant posts].

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Isn’t it more than just a little fascinating that underneath all this hoopla about rape is a whole lot of women who, when thinking about some guy pinning them down in a kitchen and forcing a hand up their blouse, generally tend to do so with their own hand or a vibrator between their legs? …

And isn’t it also interesting that the most rape obsessive morons on the planet also happen to be some of the ugliest morons on the planet?

Consider this. If rape awareness was a religion, Andrea Dworkin was The Fucking Pope. The 300+ lb. basilisk of man-hate had a face big enough and pockmarked enough to be used to fake a lunar landing. Her body was roughly the size and shape of a small sperm whale.

And she thought of little else in her life other than rape. The subject drove almost everything she said and did.

She even claimed to have been drugged and raped in 1999 in Paris, an accusation that was never proven and which came under a great deal of scrutiny, apparently for damned good reason.

C’mon people, Dworkin’s problem wasn’t that she was raped. Her problem, and I mean all along, was that she wasn’t.

Oh, it gets worse:

Like a corrupt televangelist who only shuts up about sexual purity and morality long enough to secure the services of a five dollar hooker, Dworkin was the poster child for “The lady doth protest too much, methinks.”

Or, in other words, she was obsessed with rape, quite possibly even creating the illusion it happened to her, precisely because her worth on the sexual market was measured in pesos.

Dworkin wanted to be raped, which in her mind meant being sexually desired, but didn’t have the goods to make that happen so she made a career of hating both the source of her rejection, men, and the source of her competition, attractive women.

In the end, the most narcissistic of all Men’s Rightsers concludes that rape is all about female narcissism:

The concept of rape has a lot of utility for women. One, it feeds their narcissistic need to feel irresistible. Two, if feeds their narcissistic need to feel irresistible. That level of irresistibility is the pinnacle of a woman’s sexual viability and worth. And for a whole lot of women, sexual worth is the only self-worth they know.

A Voice for Men’s domestic violence mascot Erin Pizzey seconded Elam’s argument during an appearance of hers last year on Reddit.

If you’re referring to Paul’s statement that many or most women fantasize about being taken, I’m sorry but that’s the truth. That doesn’t mean they want to be raped, but it’s a fantasy I think almost all women have. And I think he went on to say that feminists like Andrea Dworkin who were and are so obsessed with rape are really projecting their own unconscious sexual frustration because men don’t give them enough attention. Andrea was a very sad lonely woman like this

This is an “insight” that many other manosphereians keep reinventing and announcing to the world. In a 2013 post, for example, the “Red Pill” blogger and sometime Return of Kings contributor who calls himself TheMaskAndRose offered a very similar take on the subject.

Feminists are ugly women. They are fat, old, masculine, aggressive, hateful, sociopathic, unattractive, or any combination of those things. Attractive women tend not to be Feminists, so I encourage you to think about why that’s the case. So keeping in mind that they’re not the type of women who normal men desire or pay any attention to, here’s my theory:

Rape culture is the ugly woman’s rape fantasy.

I think the true heart of a rape fantasy is narcissism.

I think it’s about the idea of saying NO to a man, over and over, but he throws caution to the wind and gives into the animal instinct to just overtake you–because you’re so attractive, so beautiful, so alluring, so irresistible that he just can’t help himself.

It’s about being wanted, more than anything else. Wanted so badly that a man would risk throwing his whole life away just for the chance to put his penis in you.

So, since Feminists and unattractive women generally don’t have men paying any attention to them at all–at least not the sexual kind of attention they crave but won’t admit to … they instead cast themselves in the role of heroine in a cultural narrative whereby men think they’re just so fucking deliciously hot that they can’t wait for the chance to rape them.

They project that insanity onto the world around them, and voila–“rape culture.” A world full of scary men so overtaken with lust and desire for these fat, ugly, manly cow-beasts that you never know when one of them is going to risk his career, family, money, and life outside of prison just to have sex with you.

There is, of course, a much simpler explanation for why feminists tend to be “obsessed” with rape: because it happens all the fucking time.

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ParadoxicalIntention
9 years ago

sunnysombrera

Paradoxical: I get the feeling that to those guys the compliments were not intended as actually telling her that they think she’s pretty, but Panty Dropping Trick #317 in their Big Book of Alpha Moves, and when she actually agreed with them their brains went “shit she has too much self esteem! Abort abort!”

It’s sickening how many men feel like they can dictate how a woman should feel and when she should feel it, yes?

“You’re not allowed to be confident or happy unless I give it to you!”

“Confident and happy! We can’t have that! Slurs!”

Some people are never happy unless they’re making someone else miserable, and that’s just sad.

M. the Social Justice Ranger
M. the Social Justice Ranger
9 years ago

I know it should go without saying by now, but don’t read the comments on the article about Schlafly. Instead of “She’s wrong because she’s wrong,” they’re all “She’s wrong because she’s old and ugly.” Like her appearance matters more than how disgusting her opinions are. Ugh.

weirwoodtreehugger
9 years ago

It’s hilarious how often MRAs commit ad hominem by saying an opinion can’t be taken seriously if that person isn’t sufficiently attractive. Yet, if you tell them they’re being an idiot and an asshole they’ll cry “ad hominem!” Even though that’s not actually ad hominem.

Cyberwulf
Cyberwulf
9 years ago

@Chie – awesome remix. It’s too bad it can’t quite erase Buffy mooning over Spike in seasons 6 and 7. :'(

Lea
Lea
9 years ago

Calling rape a concept, as if it isn’t a reality. Sounds like something a rapist would say to excuse raping, wouldn’t it? I wonder why?

ParadoxicalIntention
9 years ago

To help lighten the mood (and to appease the Furrunati), I humbly offer this video:

GrumpyOldMan
9 years ago

Ah, yes,Phyllis Schlafly — the married mother who ran all over the country giving speeches to the effect that women should shut up and stay home to take care of their husbands and children. I believe she had her sense of irony surgically excised when she was in grad school. She was the Hoff Sommers of her generation — a woman with a MS and JD who thinks too many women are going to college.

Buttercup Q. Skullpants
Buttercup Q. Skullpants
9 years ago

If you look at an opinion in isolation, you can’t tell a damn thing about the attractiveness of the person who said it. But you can guess pretty accurately whether they’re an idiot and/or an asshole.

Nequam
Nequam
9 years ago

Like her appearance matters more than how disgusting her opinions are. Ugh.

Frank Zappa said it best:

Buttercup Q. Skullpants
Buttercup Q. Skullpants
9 years ago

Another reason they spew this crap about ugly women secretly wanting to be raped is so that they can discredit victims who don’t happen to resemble a supermodel. If the victim isn’t young, thin, white, and conventionally pretty, rape couldn’t possibly have taken place.

If someone says they’ve been raped, all they have to do is sneer, “You? You must be out of your mind. Who would want to have sex with you, you fat hag?” Paint the accuser as desperate and delusional, and her credibility is tarnished.

These skidmarks are despicable beyond belief.

Chie Satonaka
Chie Satonaka
9 years ago

@Cyberwulf, yeah, season six was a huge letdown on many fronts. I think Whedon did bring it back in season seven. But part of me will never forgive him for killing Tara.

Jarnsaxa
Jarnsaxa
9 years ago

Not to be all “what about the mennnnnn,” but what ABOUT the men? What a kick in the face to male rape victims. “A Voice for Men” indeed!

Honestly, what is wrong with these people?

lkeke35
lkeke35
9 years ago

Buttercup: I don’t think it’s particularly ironic that they describe themselves, if I take your meaning correctly. These are people who are pathologically narcissistic. The only thing they can see is themselves, even when looking at other people. It’s all they can see or know, as everything in the world is nothing more than a reflection of their wants, needs and desires.

So, it is perfectly in keeping, with that degree of narcissism, that when they describe the world and people around them, they can only describe themselves. They are the end all and be all of everything. ( not sure if I’m saying this correctly,) but essentially, it’s all they can describe.

Buttercup Q. Skullpants
Buttercup Q. Skullpants
9 years ago

@Ikeke Yeah, it’s the irony of Dunning-Kreuger. They think they’re such rational observers of human nature, with all their charts and graphs and evo-psych nonsense. From their fuzzy, unfocused, terrible notions about what women think springs a crystal clear portrait of themselves. It isn’t surprising, given that they all think they’re the One True Human, but it is unintentional on their part and therefore hilarious, in a Nelson-pointing-and-going-“HAW haw!” kind of way.

lkeke35
lkeke35
9 years ago

ParadoxicalIntention: I think what probably happens is that she goes off script. When a man calls a woman beautiful ,you’re not supposed to say, “I know!” No, see, you’re supposed to refute it, be demure and bashful and blushing or spmething.

See, that’s what guys like that think is cute. That’s the way they think a woman is supposed to behave. She went off script by agreeing and they don’t have anything to say to that.

thebewilderness
thebewilderness
9 years ago

I am inclined to quibble over that Ikeke. I think gratitude is the expected response in most cases.

thebewilderness
thebewilderness
9 years ago

Generally speaking when people share their judgment of you they expect you to express gratitude. It is one of the most bizarre class enforcement social traditions ever invented.

deniseeliza
deniseeliza
9 years ago

“You don’t know you’re beautiful
That’s what makes you beautiful”

– Noted philosophers, One Direction

wordsp1nner
wordsp1nner
9 years ago

This calls for moar brainbleach:

Also, here is a charity calendar I found for a New York rescue charity, featuring good-looking men and their rescued pets. Including bunnies.

http://www.rescuemen.org/what-s-inside.html

ParadoxicalIntention
9 years ago

Jarnsaxa

Not to be all “what about the mennnnnn,” but what ABOUT the men? What a kick in the face to male rape victims. “A Voice for Men” indeed!

Honestly, what is wrong with these people?

Men can’t be raped because all men like sex all the time. Biotruth. [/sarcasm]

The sad thing is, I’m sure an MRA would take my sarcasm seriously. If they didn’t know I was a feeeeemale, they’d agree with me. *shudder*

If it’s not “women are lying about rape to get attention!”, it’s “women are trying to jack my sperm to have my baby and make me pay child support!”.

If it’s not “All men like sex all the time!”, it’s “Men shouldn’t want to sleep with a [sexual slur here] who’s ridden on “n” dicks!”

They’re a never ending well of contradictions.

deniseeliza

“You don’t know you’re beautiful
That’s what makes you beautiful”

– Noted philosophers, One Direction

All I could think about was that segment Colbert did on that specific line.

[…] [I snipped a part that was pretty offensive.]
Second: the lyrics are incredibly complex! You see, the boys are singing “You don’t know you’re beautiful, that’s what makes you beautiful.” But they’ve just told the girl she’s beautiful. So since she now knows it, she’s no longer beautiful!

But – stick with me, stick with me, oh it goes deeper! – but she’s listening to the song, too. So she knows she’s not beautiful. Therefore, following the syllogism of the song, she’s instantly beautiful again!

It’s like an infinite fractal recursion, a flickering quantum state of both hot and not. I mean, this lyric as iterated algorithm could lead to a whole new musical genre. I call it Mobius pop, which would include One Direction and of course the rapper MC Escher.

weirwoodtreehugger
9 years ago

There was an article on Gawker about a teacher charged with having sex with more than one of her teenage boy students. I had to nope out of the comments pretty fast because there were too many people (almost all of whom seemed to be men) saying that the boys were lucky, it couldn’t have been rape, etc.

I don’t know why MRAs don’t spend their time arguing with those guys instead of complaining about feminism not caring about male victims when we’re often the only ones sticking up for them.

Just kidding! I know why! It’s because they don’t give two shits about male rape victims. They just hate women and feminism.

thebewilderness
9 years ago

OMG! The rapper MC Escher. Out loud with hissing and spitting.

ParadoxicalIntention
9 years ago

WWTH

There was an article on Gawker about a teacher charged with having sex with more than one of her teenage boy students. I had to nope out of the comments pretty fast because there were too many people (almost all of whom seemed to be men) saying that the boys were lucky, it couldn’t have been rape, etc.

I don’t know why MRAs don’t spend their time arguing with those guys instead of complaining about feminism not caring about male victims when we’re often the only ones sticking up for them.

Just kidding! I know why! It’s because they don’t give two shits about male rape victims. They just hate women and feminism.

THIS. ALL OF THIS.

But nope, we feminists don’t give two flying fucks about male rape victims. Nope-edy nope nope.

I also saw that article. The comments were disgusting. (Also, the rapist had the bun and the glasses from the buns thread. How fucking ironic.)

kittehserf - MOD
kittehserf - MOD
9 years ago

Chie – love that remix!

Am I the only person who looks at Edward and thinks, “Dude. Eyebrows. Trim.” I know it’s the contrast with his pasty white makeup, but all I can look at is the woolly bear caterpillars on his forehead.

PI, love that puppy’s body language! XD

wordsp1nner LOOKIT THE LITTLE PADDY-PAWS AAAWWWWWW and yay for the guys and their rescue pets!

WWTH:

I don’t know why MRAs don’t spend their time arguing with those guys instead of complaining about feminism not caring about male victims when we’re often the only ones sticking up for them.

Just kidding! I know why! It’s because they don’t give two shits about male rape victims. They just hate women and feminism.

More than that: MRAs and PUAs are permanent members of that chorus. They’re the ones who say the boys not preyed on (only by “hot” teachers of course) are the ones suffering.

https://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2012/10/09/spearheader-the-real-victims-of-predatory-female-teachers-are-the-guys-hot-teachers-arent-having-sex-with/

wordsp1nner
wordsp1nner
9 years ago

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