There’s a post on the AgainstMensRights subreddit today highlighting a comment from a Men’s Rights Redditor that offers some, well, interesting theories about why feminists are “obsessed” with rape and abortion, even though he thinks they are very ugly.
Actually, in his mind, it’s because they are very ugly, and secretly wish someone would be attracted enough to them to rape them.
I’m sure there are MRAs out there who would like to dismiss his posting as the ravings of a random Redditor. Sadly, it’s not. Despite the terribleness of his “explanation,” or perhaps because of it, it seems to be a common one amongst Manosphereians and Men’s Rightsers.
Indeed, in one notorious post a couple of years ago, A Voice for Men founder and all-around garbage human Paul Elam — probably the most important person in the Men’s Rights movement today — offered a much cruder version of this argument. [TRIGGER WARNING for some primo rape apologism. I have bolded the worst bits, and archived the post here in case Elam decides to take it down, as he has been doing with some of his more repellant posts].
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Isn’t it more than just a little fascinating that underneath all this hoopla about rape is a whole lot of women who, when thinking about some guy pinning them down in a kitchen and forcing a hand up their blouse, generally tend to do so with their own hand or a vibrator between their legs? …
And isn’t it also interesting that the most rape obsessive morons on the planet also happen to be some of the ugliest morons on the planet?
Consider this. If rape awareness was a religion, Andrea Dworkin was The Fucking Pope. The 300+ lb. basilisk of man-hate had a face big enough and pockmarked enough to be used to fake a lunar landing. Her body was roughly the size and shape of a small sperm whale.
And she thought of little else in her life other than rape. The subject drove almost everything she said and did.
She even claimed to have been drugged and raped in 1999 in Paris, an accusation that was never proven and which came under a great deal of scrutiny, apparently for damned good reason.
C’mon people, Dworkin’s problem wasn’t that she was raped. Her problem, and I mean all along, was that she wasn’t.
Oh, it gets worse:
Like a corrupt televangelist who only shuts up about sexual purity and morality long enough to secure the services of a five dollar hooker, Dworkin was the poster child for “The lady doth protest too much, methinks.”
Or, in other words, she was obsessed with rape, quite possibly even creating the illusion it happened to her, precisely because her worth on the sexual market was measured in pesos.
Dworkin wanted to be raped, which in her mind meant being sexually desired, but didn’t have the goods to make that happen so she made a career of hating both the source of her rejection, men, and the source of her competition, attractive women.
In the end, the most narcissistic of all Men’s Rightsers concludes that rape is all about female narcissism:
The concept of rape has a lot of utility for women. One, it feeds their narcissistic need to feel irresistible. Two, if feeds their narcissistic need to feel irresistible. That level of irresistibility is the pinnacle of a woman’s sexual viability and worth. And for a whole lot of women, sexual worth is the only self-worth they know.
A Voice for Men’s domestic violence mascot Erin Pizzey seconded Elam’s argument during an appearance of hers last year on Reddit.
If you’re referring to Paul’s statement that many or most women fantasize about being taken, I’m sorry but that’s the truth. That doesn’t mean they want to be raped, but it’s a fantasy I think almost all women have. And I think he went on to say that feminists like Andrea Dworkin who were and are so obsessed with rape are really projecting their own unconscious sexual frustration because men don’t give them enough attention. Andrea was a very sad lonely woman like this
This is an “insight” that many other manosphereians keep reinventing and announcing to the world. In a 2013 post, for example, the “Red Pill” blogger and sometime Return of Kings contributor who calls himself TheMaskAndRose offered a very similar take on the subject.
Feminists are ugly women. They are fat, old, masculine, aggressive, hateful, sociopathic, unattractive, or any combination of those things. Attractive women tend not to be Feminists, so I encourage you to think about why that’s the case. So keeping in mind that they’re not the type of women who normal men desire or pay any attention to, here’s my theory:
Rape culture is the ugly woman’s rape fantasy. …
I think the true heart of a rape fantasy is narcissism.
I think it’s about the idea of saying NO to a man, over and over, but he throws caution to the wind and gives into the animal instinct to just overtake you–because you’re so attractive, so beautiful, so alluring, so irresistible that he just can’t help himself.
It’s about being wanted, more than anything else. Wanted so badly that a man would risk throwing his whole life away just for the chance to put his penis in you.
So, since Feminists and unattractive women generally don’t have men paying any attention to them at all–at least not the sexual kind of attention they crave but won’t admit to … they instead cast themselves in the role of heroine in a cultural narrative whereby men think they’re just so fucking deliciously hot that they can’t wait for the chance to rape them.
They project that insanity onto the world around them, and voila–“rape culture.” A world full of scary men so overtaken with lust and desire for these fat, ugly, manly cow-beasts that you never know when one of them is going to risk his career, family, money, and life outside of prison just to have sex with you.
There is, of course, a much simpler explanation for why feminists tend to be “obsessed” with rape: because it happens all the fucking time.
No, Paulie. No, it is NOT. Because I have never fucking done that! And I’d wager that most other women don’t, either.
My God, the thing that shocks me most about this is my own lack of reaction. Nothing these guys write surprises me any more. Could that mean the misogynists have hit Peak Shitfulness?
I wish I knew how to put a picture in here. I can think of several reaction gifs that are just made for this filth.
It’s really creepy how these MRA types always try to set rape up as something the victim benefits from and even outright wants (wants enough to lie about it happening, no less), while the poor innocent rapist is the one who unfairly suffers judgement for, you know, raping someone.
Oh god, I can hear him fapping.
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Yeah, Paulie, it totally is. And you are about as rape-obsessive a moron as I have ever seen.
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You know how we in the reality-observant community often suggest that the more absurd ‘theories’ MRAs come up with are just a form of projection: they think women/male feminists have [horrible quality x] because they possess [horrible quality x] and can’t imagine others being different?
Why that springs to mind I’m really not sure.
I mean, yes, some people do have rape fantasies, or even participate in consensual roleplay involving pretend rape. That isn’t the same thing as secretly wanting to be raped in reality, because a fantasy/roleplay is something you control. Even with the fantasy/roleplay of having control and consent forcibly taken from you, you’re still the one in control of the fantasy/roleplay and can end it at any time. From what I’ve read, it’s about relinquishing control in a safe and respectful environment, which is the opposite to actual rape.
Regardless of what Elam thinks, there’s nothing flattering about a man finding you ‘so irresistible’ that he ignores your expressed wishes to have your boundaries respected. And not every woman wants sexual or even romantic attention from men – indeed, some do not want it from anybody at all for various reasons.
Because healing from rape never caused anyone to turn to feminism, amirite?
What these guys are doing is giving each other permission to rape women who aren’t conventionally attractive. Because “ugly” women desire rape.
At this point the entire mens rights “Movement” seems like the worst people in the world just competing to come up with the most vile thing possible for some horrible prize.
The nail is now concussed from being hit on the head by weirwoodhugger so precisely.
I’m used to them erasing the existence of lesbians, asexuals, children and conventionally-attractive feminists by omission, but I still had to raise an eyebrow at them flat-out admitting their erasure of that last one.
It’s a pity none of these crapwits theorizing about Dworkin never bother to do any actual research on her. But I suppose facts get in the way of a good story; or in this case, an utterly shit fantasy by a bunch of rape apologists.
@contrapangloss
That gif is amazing. This post, however, was slightly ill-timed, since I was recently talking about the abusive relationship/sexual harassment I went through. It’s okay, though, that gif was exactly the brain bleach I needed. : D
This is an ancient myth that has been passed down from one generation of misogynists to the next. If you read project unbreakable you will see the result of this myth is men telling the children they are raping that they need to stop crying because everyone knows they wanted to be raped.
Are we to conclude that gamers who obsess over first person shooters are yearning to become mass murderers? Cuz logic.
I am getting insecure site warnings when I try to sign in to this web site. Anyone else?
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That’s certainly not the reason I’m here. [/sarcasm]
But, seriously, that whole thing. There aren’t enough tables for me to flip in my anger. Time for a CONVEYER BELT.
{TRIGGER WARNING FOR THIS NEXT BIT. I talk about some very personal shit.}
I wasn’t raped because I was “conventionally attractive”, I was raped because I was a small child in the custody of a rapist who knew that if I told, no one would believe me, knew that he could also condition me not to tell in the first place because I was afraid of him because he beat me and my siblings on a regular basis for every minor infraction, and convinced me that I was a lowly, ugly piece of human garbage who could do no better and wasn’t worth respect, love, or care.
I don’t WANT to be held down and violated again and again for two years with no shits given towards my comfort or consent. I didn’t want it then, and I certainly don’t want it now. Or ever again, thanks.
But you know what? It was thanks to feminism that I was able to see that it wasn’t my fault. I was a victim, yes, but I survived my ordeal. It was thanks to feminism I was able to accept what happened to me and that I could go on. I won’t ever be the same, sure, but I could still go on and live my life.
And that’s really fucking important.
P.S. To that redditor – Twilight is fucking garbage. So is Fifty Shades of Grey. A lot of women who read that don’t know that what’s going on in all that “romance” is abuse, and many women, myself included, constantly speak out about it.
They’re not “bestsellers” because they’re about abuse, they’re “bestsellers” because society has convinced women that abuse is romance. This is a lie all women have believed at some point or another, and I am no exception.
Don’t believe me? The authors of these books are women. Their target audience is women. Simple as that.
I know this is OT, but do any pictures of Paul Elam exist where he doesn’t look coked to the gills?
I’m sure they have created, out of their own shit, an argument for raping conventionally attractive women too. I’m not sure what it is exactly but it probably goes something like this: if a hot woman gives you a boner but says no to sex, she’s oppressing you but secretly wants sex because she’s a hot woman, and hot women are sluts.
ParadoxicalIntention, I would hug you if I could, and if I were not such a “touch me not” and if you wanted hugs from strangers on the interwebs.
@seraph4377 – right? He’s always got that wild, wide-eyed look like he’s two seconds away from a full-on rage meltdown.
@thebewliderness: I’m very much a hugger, but if you don’t want me in your personal space, I will nod at you respectfully from a distance.
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Thanks for this post, David. Elam is such a calculating cruel fuck. Pizzey isn’t an independent person any more, she’s a handmaiden. A lot more could be said about this lady.
Elam doesn’t believe women are human. They have no credibility, can’t speak as witnesses, and are assumed to be unreliable. If they say “I was raped”; it’s a lie. That’s monstrousness. He thinks he’s being provocative, but he’s monstrous. He’s monstrous, let me repeat his modus operandi, and what he says is monstrous.
Dworkin’s words will stand long after Elam goes into the landfill as a piece of shit somebody dumped into the trash.
Sunny,
I’m sure their logic for conventionally attractive women wanting rape is as follows.
Attractive women do boner pleasing things like wear makeup, stay thin, have long hair and wear nice clothes. Also attractive women are Hypergamous sluts. Also, cock carousel.