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How A Voice for Men's Facebook memes inadvertently reveal the deep sexual insecurities underlying the misogyny of the Men's Rights movement

Detail of a perhaps inadertently revealing A Voice for Men meme
Detail of an unintentionally revealing A Voice for Men meme

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From time to time I like to check in on the Facebook page for A Voice for Men, to see how that eminent men’s human rights organization’s program to advance the human man rights of human men through badly designed and even more poorly conceived graphic “memes” is going.

Well, I can report that this program is going, and going, and going, a bit like a famous battery-powered bunny.

Looking through them today, I couldn’t help but notice the weird sexual undertones — and overtones — of many of the memes, and realized that, while none of the memes tell us much about the world, they do, in an altogehter accidental way, offer some pretty interesting insights into the ids of those making and “liking” them on Facebook.

You don’t have to be a trained psychoanalyst to see the not-very-well-hidden straight male sexual insecurities that lie behind a large number of AVFM’s memes — both the ones they create themselves and the others that seem to have arrived on the AVFM page after being forwarded via email from someone’s cranky misogynistic uncle. Let’s take a look at some of them.

1) AVFMers have apparently convinced themselves that the history of mankind is the story of nice guys being nice to snooty women who won’t date them.

 

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2) The straight men who make up the bulk of AVFM’s audience are pretty much terrified of women.

 

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3) A lot of these guys seem to really enjoy fantasizing about women being forced into crappy jobs and/or sex work.

 

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4) One of AVFM’s meme makers, the fellow who goes by the name of “John Galt,” has trouble distinguishing between the real world and certain (perhaps unacknowledged) sexual fetishes he appears to be a little obsessed with.

 

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5) Straight cis male AVFMers hate fat women who don’t please their boners, and are angry at feminists for convincing at least some fat women not to hate themselves.

 

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6) These AVFMers evidently prefer women who are very young, very thin, and photoshopped into anatomically implausible proportions and positions. But they simultaneously hate these women for giving them boners.

 

(Slightly censored version of the AVFM original.)
Perfect woman, or photoshop disaster? (Slightly censored version of the AVFM original.)

 

8) AVFMers really, really hate male feminists — and pretty much every man who doesn’t hate and fear women like they dO — and not-very-subtly project their own sexual insecurities onto them.

 

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9) They also really, really, really hate me.

 

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But I think that’s probably because they’re jealous that I have that second pair of arms.

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ratzilla
ratzilla
10 years ago

I thought Men Going Their Own Way were actually striving to GO THEIR OWN WAY, far from the rest of humanity. Now it seems that they are just guys who want to have sex with faceless shopped nymphets.
Is this a poster condemning prostitution? I’m confused.

skybison
skybison
10 years ago

“So I guess the point the artist is trying to make is that history tends to give leaders more credit than they deserve – leaders rarely do great deeds on their on. Many times they just surround themselves with flatterers and live a life of idle luxury while other people manage the great deeds with no recognition. That’s true enough, only I’m not sure why he thinks feminists are to blame.”

You forget, feminists are to blame for everything bad in the universe. Everything. From your bus being five minutes late to the Ordovician extinction event 450 million years ago. (seriously feminists why did you have to do that? Trilobites were so cool.)

Bina
10 years ago

Judging by the porn in his images, John Galt has yet to GHOW. And at the rate he’s wankin’ ’em out, he never will. Damn shame, that.

And how about Sir Walter Oh-Really there? Even by their standards, that meme is pitiful. Last I looked, precisely NO women were walking on men’s coats over mud puddles, anywhere, ever.

And Jaws’ hubby there isn’t exactly an impressive specimen, is he?

AVFMorons…going their own way since NEVER. And making us all wish they bloody well would, just once in their miserable pathetic lives.

Falconer
Falconer
10 years ago

@Puddleglum isn’t that one of the abilities of the Social Justice Druid?

What, riding bears? Definitely, but at each level there’s something more awesome than just a bear to ride. At first level, there’s the Crocodile of Intersectionality; at 7th level there’s the Tiger of Smashing the Oppressive Social Order; and at higher levels there are various Theropod Dinosaurs of Bodily Acceptance.

Lots of Druids don’t bother with animal companions; they’re just allies, after all.

Falconer
Falconer
10 years ago

And anyway with mud puddles, couldn’t you just walk around them?

ratzilla
ratzilla
10 years ago

I definitely want to be perched atop a mastodon while brandishing a pair of knitting needles, beagle wearing badass armour at my feet. A pterodactyl will fly above my head clutching a banner reading “What fresh hell is this?”. Light saber-enhanced land-narwhal in the foreground winning a staring contest with a giant snail.
Please let the National Portrait Gallery know what to expect when they commission my likeness for posterity.

Bina
10 years ago

And anyway with mud puddles, couldn’t you just walk around them?

Funny how that idea never occurs to these bozos.

Or the simple fact that an Elizabethan-era, unwaterproofed coat in a mud puddle will only get soaked through with mud, and won’t protect anyone’s feet for very long.

Drew
Drew
10 years ago

I still don’t get their fat shaming given that Dean Esmay works for them. Do they inform him regularly of his potential health problems? And their complaints that women only want handsome jerks.

AltoFronto
AltoFronto
10 years ago

Lolololololol. 😀 Freudian indeed, especially #4 and #2.
I notice the “Feminazi” is wearing a Soviet uniform. Is this an intentional “cultural Marxistm” dig, or do they just fail at Geopolitical History? Judging from #1, they’re not that good at the factual stuff.

Can’t make sense of #1 at all, at least not the “feminist history” image. Are they saying we embellish the biographies of US presidents for some reason?
I like that for “actual history” they picked an anecdote of C16th English court toadyism that almost certainly never really happened, either then or since.

I actually encountered a RedPiller in the wild today (BTL on a Facebook group’s post) saying he couldn’t wait for the artificial uterus, because women expect men to pay for everything. Dude was faaar down the Men’s Rights rabbithole.

kirbywarp
kirbywarp
10 years ago

I feel like the story about Raleigh and the mud puddle was always just a joke about Raleigh… “Oh, he’s so chivalrous he’d even lay down his own coat to prevent Elizabeth’s dainty shoes from getting dirty.” And then it’s just continued to be a joke ever since.

MRAs, being jokes themselves, thus immediately assume this was a real thing and totes misandry.

M. the Social Justice Ranger
M. the Social Justice Ranger
10 years ago

If we’re all claiming our epic mounts of epic justice, I want the Amphicoelias of Marriage Equality.

kirbywarp
kirbywarp
10 years ago

@AltoFronto:

I actually encountered a RedPiller in the wild today (BTL on a Facebook group’s post) saying he couldn’t wait for the artificial uterus, because women expect men to pay for everything. Dude was faaar down the Men’s Rights rabbithole.

Waaaiiitt a sec… So, the problem is that women expect men to pay for everything, and the solution would be to have babies with an artificial uterus so the man can pay for everything? How is that suppose to work?

Falconer
Falconer
10 years ago

You can keep your giant snail. For myself, the giant mollusc of choice is the flail snail!
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@Bina:

Or the simple fact that an Elizabethan-era, unwaterproofed coat in a mud puddle will only get soaked through with mud, and won’t protect anyone’s feet for very long.

See, I thought that was the core of the MRA claim, that men are expected to sacrifice, financially and sartorially, a significant amount for a minimal benefit to women, and so the cloak and mud puddle was, for once, concise and exact.

Scarlettathena
10 years ago

What strikes me whenever I see these memes is how little these dudes understand the underlying concepts they are ostensibly critiquing.

#3: is it only “women’s studies” majors that have trouble getting jobs? Anyway, as a college professor, I have troubling believing that students that go into what we usually call gender and sexuality studies (used to be women’s studies) think they will get a specific job related to that field. Many also do literature, psych, some business or communications related discipline. The gender studies field gives insight into various aspects of being human as well as media, business and so on.
I guess the sex worker trying to go to MIT is actually supposed to mean “wimminz is only good for teh sex; durr stoopid wimminz thinking they iz good at science”.

#4: where to start with all those male identities. Are “jail” and “alimony” identities? Anyway, I just love that there seems to be some Feminazi out there handing out these negative identities. It really shows that they can’t conceive of feminists who actually like men and have positive experiences. Yes, there are all sorts of douchey dudes like there are all kinds of women who are jerks.

#5: I like that they can’t distinguish between cruelty to animals and self-determination. I know this is supposed to be “stoopid fat bitches don’t deserve to live because they iz unattractive to me”, but this shows that they conceive of women as objects whose primary function is to make men happy and give them boners. They totally miss the “empowering” part, that women should feel good about themselves no matter what size they are. For all we know, that woman has some illness that makes her gain weight. She might not care about her size but be healthy. Is she any less deserving of common decency? Should she not be able to make decisions for herself.

Okay, ‘nuf said. The memes are mind-boggling stupid but they do give us a glimpse at how poorly these guys perceive reality.

Falconer
Falconer
10 years ago

@AltoFronto:

I notice the “Feminazi” is wearing a Soviet uniform.

To be nitpicky, she’s wearing just the peaked cap, and for all I know it’s not even all that accurate. What I know of Soviet uniforms doesn’t amount to a hill of the People’s Beans.

Aunt Edna
Aunt Edna
10 years ago

@stardustfalling:

Ugh. Sorry about your experiences. Yes, they about sum up the “courage and strength” of MGTOW.

weirwoodtreehugger
weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

Kirbywrap,

They think porn, 50 shades of gray, King of Queens, evo psych, and twitter bots are real. So why not that?

Aunt Edna
Aunt Edna
10 years ago

@Scarlettathena:

“I guess the sex worker trying to go to MIT is actually supposed to mean “wimminz is only good for teh sex; durr stoopid wimminz thinking they iz good at science”.”

You and I’z know it. 😉

“The memes are mind-boggling stupid but they do give us a glimpse at how poorly these guys perceive reality.”

Yep.

ej
ej
10 years ago

My typical response to puddles is to leap over them and if someone were attempting lay their coat over the puddle, I would probably end up kicking them in the head.

@kirbywarp
I attempted to find a picture of Rosalind Franklin riding a dinosaur, but no such luck. I did come across this video and thought I would share.

AltoFronto
AltoFronto
10 years ago

@Falconer – Let’s face it, she’s dressed for Burlesque, rather than a Living History exhibit.
I don’t know if her political affiliations are even relevant, but if I were a burlesque star, my stage persona would be The Filthy Commie, making soviet sex puns and seductively peeling back an Iron Curtain to reveal myself in a skimpy uniform. Sure would cause a few uprisings, if you know what I mean. 😉
Nobody steal my idea, I might yet actually try to make a living out of this.

weirwoodtreehugger
weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

I actually encountered a RedPiller in the wild today (BTL on a Facebook group’s post) saying he couldn’t wait for the artificial uterus, because women expect men to pay for everything. Dude was faaar down the Men’s Rights rabbithole.

Waaaiiitt a sec… So, the problem is that women expect men to pay for everything, and the solution would be to have babies with an artificial uterus so the man can pay for everything? How is that suppose to work?

Who knew? Every man’s dream is to be a single father. Part of me also looks forward to the artificial uterus so that they can get a taste of how difficult single parenting is. A larger part of me knows that no child deserves an MRA/red piller for a parent. Particularly if he is the sole caregiver.

I suppose what they really want though is to have a child that is biologically and legally all theirs because they like the idea of ownership over their children and they like the idea of their DNA being propagated. But not liking the idea of the work and obligation involved with child rearing, they will probably try and find vulnerable and easy to exploit women to marry who will raise their kids but have no rights in the event of a divorce.

The irony of this being so similar to their laments about women supposedly getting pregnant with alpha male’s babies and tricking some poor beta sap into helping her raise the child will be entirely lost on them.

grumpyoldnurse
10 years ago

@ stardustfalling – Well, crap. I am so sorry that you went through that! Internet hugs, if you want them.

AltoFronto
AltoFronto
10 years ago

@ stardustfalling – I am so glad that you are now rid of that disgusting scumbag, and on to better things. Sorry he was ever in your life in the first place. Yuk!
Internet hugs.

Puddleglum
10 years ago

@Puddleglum isn’t that one of the abilities of the Social Justice Druid?

Clearly, I am going to have to multiclass.

Tabby
Tabby
10 years ago

2) The straight men who make up the bulk of AVFM’s audience are pretty much terrified of women.

There is a game just for them, “Gynophobia” http://creashock-studios.com/?p=772
Yes. This is an actual game. No, I have not played it.