Is your love life lacking acronyms and made-up words?
In love, as in every other aspect of life (except perhaps talking to cats), it pays to increase your word power. Happily for all of us I have discovered a wondrous Red Pill Glossary on Black Dragon Blog (tagline: “Love Women While Staying Free”), which includes a wide assortment of terms that will be new even to the most advanced Alpha.
Most would-be PUAs (Pickup Artists) can tell an AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) from a DHV (Demonstration of Higher Value). But here are few other acronyms you may not have encountered:
CTF – Cheating Time Frame. The amount of time you have installed in your brain before you will cheat on a monogamous partner. …
EFA – Early Frame Announcement. The strongly conveyed but unspoken overall message to a woman non-verbally conveying who you are and why you’re there. …LSNFTE – Long Soft Next For Temporary Exclusivity.
I didn’t make this one up, seriously. What all that apprently means:
A common occurrence with Alphas in nonmonogamous relationships where a woman leaves the Alpha, who will not give her monogamy, so she can get a traditional boyfriend or husband who will.
Huh. Maybe she’s leaving you because you’re the sort of person who goes around talking about CTF and LSNFTE, OK?
TEP – Three Exchange Process. Pitching a first date to a woman on the third or fourth email exchange with her on a dating site.
WHY DO YOU NEED AN ACRONYM FOR THIS? How many spammy messages are you sending out on OK Cupid anyway?
VYW – Very Young Woman, a woman between the age of consent (usually 18) and 23. VYW have the lowest ASD of any age group, by far.
Oh, whoops, I forgot: ASD is “Anti Slut Defense,” which Mr. Black Dragon defines as:
A condition created by societal programming experienced by women wherein they attempt to avoid sex, even if they want it, so as to not look or feel like a “slut” or “inappropriate” or not like “a lady”.
I think this is his complicated way of saying that no means yes.
There are three different types of VYW’s by the way. You can look them up yourself.
Now that you’ve mastered some of the most useful acronyms, let’s give acronyms a Hard Next and move onto actual words. And made-up words.
I might as well start with Hard Next, huh?
Hard Next – A permanent breakup. Where a man leaves a woman, never contacts her again, and literally never sees her again (or at least never again in a sexual context). …
This is not to be confused with a Soft Next, which is apparently a synonym for “acting like a douchebag.”
Soft Next – When a man removes a woman from his life for a short period of time, usually three to seven days, during which he completely ignores all communication from her, because of drama she gave him. At the end of the soft next, the relationship resumes as normal.
Or she tells him to go fuck himself because he’s being an immature asshole.
The Soft Next is not to be confused with the Stinky Next, which is when a man leaves a woman after letting out a fart so noxious that he’s too embarrassed to ever speak to her again.
Ok, I made that one up. But these are all real:
Betaization – The slow process by which a woman transforms a man she’s in a relationship with from an Alpha to a beta, usually by means of drama, demands, rules, sex (giving or withholding), or threats. Betaization is a completely natural part of a woman’s biological makeup … .
Comfort Bombardment – A process by which you get a woman comfortable about you after the first date is scheduled via online dating but prior to actually meeting her in real life. Comfort Bombardment raises the odds of sex considerably and reduces the odds of flaking. …
This is also useful if you’re planning to start a cult; you can use it alongside “love bombing.”
Disney – Any thought derived from societal programming that monogamy, child rearing, or traditional marriage is pleasant and/or permanent in the modern era. …
And for the fellas:
Guy-Disney – The incorrect thought men have that somewhere out there is a girl who will love you forever, never cheat on you, never get bored with you, and never break up with you.
This is not to be confused with:
Hanna-Barbera — In which someone plays a bongo drum very quickly every time you run.
Ok, I made that one up too.
There are more, but I think we’d probably do better just to make up some of our own.
I agree. GamerGate is stupid and frustrating and angry-making. But PUA posts just make me sick with dread that people are literally teaching each other strategies for twisting the human inclination for love and intimacy into a horrible nightmare, and that one of them might manipulate their way into my life.
A common reply to the argument that abusers have strategies for abuse and aren’t just “flying off the handle” is that abusers aren’t that smart; they don’t go and rub their hands together in fiendish glee coming up with clever ways to hurt women. But that is exactly what some of these PUA and MGTOW types actually do.
A lot of people here and in other feminist spaces like to say that these tactics would never work. And some of them don’t. But more of them would totally work on the right woman, if the guy does it in the right way. And that’s what this kind of PUA is about, teaching the right way to abuse a woman into sleeping with you, dating you, or marrying you.
BUTT-INs: “betas” under the terrible influence of nincompoops
-cough-
Yes I’m having too much fun with this acronym business…. 😀
I do have some GOOD gamergate news: Internet aristocrat, the ass responsible for the original quinnspiracy video and GG figurehead has nuked his own accounts on various social media sites.
AND NOTHING OF VALUE WAS LOST
West End Games made up a bunch of jargon as flavor for their rules for Alliance Special Forces characters in their Star Wars RPG. It included plenty of acronyms, such as UCT (Universal Cutting Tool, or lightsaber).
And yet I would be less ashamed to use such terms in public, where folk can hear me, than any of the terms defined by Mr. Dragon above.
SHITTERS: stupid hotheads terribly telling everyone rape’s superficial
I literally laughed out loud.
“Any thought derived from societal programming that monogamy […] is pleasant and/or permanent in the modern era.”
This really annoys me, since it implies that this Black Dragon sees himself as polyamorous. Here was me thinking that polyamory was about trust and communicating with partners about seeing other people. No, polyamory is clearly just a fancy way of saying that you cheat on people. -_-
@WWTH “Why yes. Sometimes people who want monogamy will break up with someone who doesn’t. Is this supposed to be a surprise?”
Red Pill types claim that all women love men who have high partner counts. Basically, they’re convinced all women are like spoiled children who only want to play with a toy when someone else has it. So it doesn’t shock me that they decided to give it a name, since the concept of women leaving a man who makes it clear he ‘has options’ (AKA doesn’t want monogamy) goes against such an obvious feeemale biotruth.
I’m actually surprised the definition noted it as a ‘common occurrence.’ I get the feeling that part was only added to make the writer (and other RPers) feel better about rejection without outright admitting that any of their biotruths and double standards might be wrong. It totally only happens because women want a beta to spermjack and he’s too alpha for them, it’s not like there’s anything wrong with him!
Even then, if it’s that common for women to break up with him, I highly doubt it’s because he’s not enough of a pushover or because he has a high partner count. (Unless we’re defining ‘pushover’ as ‘not a raging asshole,’ of course.)
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I agree and I sniggered a bit.
Wolverine
Huh. Do you know of any reason why (beyond the obvious, I mean)?
Ah, I have no doubt now that PUAs have become a cult! Not only they hold strange believes that causes eyebrow-raising for outsiders, they now have their own “secret” cult-related symbols in a form of abbreviations.
I would give anything to be able to frantically wind up a run while a bongo drum noise played! Seriously, I’ve wanted to be able to do that since I was a kid.
“Betaization – The slow process by which a woman transforms a man she’s in a relationship with from an Alpha to a beta, usually by means of drama, demands, rules, sex (giving or withholding), or threats. Betaization is a completely natural part of a woman’s biological makeup … .”
Wait… Wait, isn’t this definition describing a sort of social training? Then it’s socializtion that brings on the betaization, right? So, what does any of this have to do with BIOLOGICAL makeup? It makes even less sense that this is the biological makeup of the person DOING the training!
Honestly, I wish these dudes would just come out with it already. They just need to admit that they despise women already. Stop making excuses, it’s getting old.
Hey, we ladies have a term for that, too. It’s called “I Never Want to See Your Sorry Ass Darkening My Doorstep Again, You Douchebag.” INWTSYSADMDAYD-bag, for short.
That’s funny, throughout that entire age group, I was looking to have sex but unable to find anyone I WANTED to have it with. I came out the far end of it still a virgin. And it sure wasn’t for lack of sleazeballs trying to get around my (cough) “ASD”, either. I guess even a VVYW or an UGG (Underage Giddy Girl) still knows creepers when she sees ’em, eh?
There’s nothing wrong with acronyms in and of themselves. On westeros.org, the most popular A Song of Ice and Fire fan forum there are so many acronyms we use that there has to be a glossary for newbies. CotF, ToJ, R + L = J; those are all nonsense outside that fandom. Acronyms are common is any group. What’s mock-worthy about these particular acronyms is that they’re pretentious, stupid and unnecessary and based on bullshit fact free concepts.
That’s a keeper.
PS: Jian Ghomeshi has been arrested and is facing four charges of sexual assault, and one of “overcome resistance — choking”. And on a somewhat germane note, Julien Blanc has been barred from Singapore.
“Never forget that these people hate women and think we exist only to make them feel strong and powerful.” weirwoodtreehugger
Will do. Not that that’s too difficult to remember. It’s like the First Law for these fellows.
@falconer West End’s Star Wars game was, from all I’ve heard, pretty much great except where it had problems. Like all the other PnP RPGS. You should totally talk more about that.
DHV: Dick Head Vocabulary.
I worked in the federal civil service for over twenty years and didn’t deal.with this many acronyms. It sounds like the leetspeak PUAs use to disguise the nastiness of their ideas.
grumpyoldnurse:
Hee-hee. Awhile back, David did a post on a very creepy PUA named Fisto. Fisto had a blog, on his blog was this picture: an image of an oval-shaped orange pill + an image of a male lion = an image of Sean Connery. He’d obviously just did a Google image search for “red pill” and randomly picked an image without knowing what it was, because that oval-shaped orange pill was clearly colace. So it looked like he was saying that if you give a lion enough stool softener he’ll poop out Sean Connery. But yeah, according to Fisto, the red pill is a stool softener.
And, for some reason, I decided to check out Black Dragon’s blog. He calls “Lincoln invaded the south to free the slaves” as an example of “false” “societal programming.”
So much wrong. I wish these guys would stop pretending they know history. Or that they know anything about relationships or dating or men or women or human nature or biology or science. I wish these guys would just stop, period.
CUNTS: Conservatives United with Nerds Tools and Shut-in’s.
So…not only sexist, but racist AND miseducated? The mind, it boggleth that one can be so stupid, and still live.
PRATS – Pretentious Right-wing Assholes Teaching Stupidity.
Often subscribe to the philosophy of WARP – Women Aren’t Real People.
That was sort of fun. ^^
Damn, and here I thought Comfort Bombardment would be a pillow fight.
These halfwits don’t seem to realise that a Hard Next, aka disappearing from our lives, is second only in desirability to never appearing in our lives in the first place.
“Guy-Disney” – my husband would like to have a word with these morons. (Well, metaphorically: nobody not a douchebag actually wants to talk to them.)
I may be in a minority but I am hugely relieved to have a non-GG thread. There really is only so much I can take of the whole subject and I’m long over that limit.
ktherantingredhead – your acronyms are things of beauty. 🙂
ryohji, please don’t use gendered slurs – that one is still insulting women, and insulting men by comparing them to women’s genitals.
I’ll be more careful next time, my bad.