Respects is Earn: A meme is born

And since he *doesn’t* have reasonable expectations… people don’t do what he expects, and so he doesn’t think they deserve any respects.

I’m rhyming now, I guess. This is what happens when I post while I’m tired. :/

There’s also professional respect, which is what Wu is insisting on, which we might define as ‘a basic level of acceptance that, while I don’t pretend to be right about everything in the world ever, I’m speaking from a position of knowledge and the experience and probably know more than someone who doesn’t have comparable knowledge and experience.’ Which isn’t about courtesy, it’s about acknowledging basic reality.

And a female professional knowing better than an amateur male geek? CANNOT BE! When a guy bases his masculinity on his geek-hood and vice versa, a woman who out-experts him and doesn’t use that expertise to validate him is the end of the world.

I looked at that conversation and of course, he’s the one being shrill and stupid and Brianna is calm and like, normal.

I was thinking last night about some of the conversations I had during my years working in HIV. It was 88-91so still lots of politics and fear. I dealt with plenty of homophobes and addictphobic people as well as health care folk who were freaked out and had the occasional phone call but there was no social media so no screen to hide behind. It makes a huge difference in what most people are willing to say if they have to look you in the eye. Maybe things were said behind my back, I’ll never know and I don’t care. Like Brianna, I was and still am proud of my role then and I know I helped people as she will.

She is not far from here actually.

{waves}. You go girl!!

Respect and earn, two weasel words that weasel great together.

@seraph4377, nail, head, BOOM.

and while “beaten down” is usually limited to harassment and threats, those harassment and threats wouldn’t have nearly as much bite if literal violence wasn’t a distinct possibility

Absolutely. The only thing these guys respect is physical power. Ideas mean nothing to them. A woman can completely pwn them verbally, smack them down, destroy their flimsy logic and morally empty arguments, and they still won’t accord one iota of respect. Instead, they’ll retaliate with a horrendous torrent of threats and insults and abuse to demonstrate their own physical power. Whereas Chris Kluwe gets a free pass for saying exactly the same things, because he can bench press a house and punt a football 50 yards.

There is something called common courtesy

I googled a bit on the KKK operation and would you know it…

The threat comes in response to the campaign Anonymous began online, to name KKK members in the Ferguson and St. Louis area after it was discovered that the KKK members have been distributing fliers. The fliers warn Ferguson protesters of the consequences of a continuation of their fight, stating they have “awakened a sleeping giant,” and that they [KKK] will use “lethal force” against protestors if they continue. The fliers handed out justify the lethal force as a form of “self-defense.”

sounds like the kind of language GGers are using.

I love how the same people who sneer at me that “Respects is Earn” turn into whiny children when I refuse to respect them because of their refusal to even give me the common courtesy of not being an absolute jerk to me.

This reminds of the time there was actually an argument about trigger warnings on my dash. One person, who owned a business frequented by several people I followed, posted a rant about how trigger warnings were weird and useless and that no one should use them. (Yeah, on the official tumblr for his shop; how classy.) And then someone I followed reblogged this rant to agree. While using bullshit to explain why people who have triggers should not be allowed on tumblr (and therefore, why they refused to tag triggers on any post they reblogged), they stated “being treated with kindness is a PRIVILEGE that you have to earn!”

Never unfollowed someone so fast. e.o

Dear GamerGomers: DISrespect is earned. And you have earned all of mine.

Fuck you very much.

Sooner or later, it had to be done.

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I love how the same people who sneer at me that “Respects is Earn” turn into whiny children when I refuse to respect them because of their refusal to even give me the common courtesy of not being an absolute jerk to me.

The hilarious thing is, these Gomers are all “Respect Mah Authoritah” types themselves. Excuse me, boys, who is being shrill and demanding, again?