Brianna Wu — game developer, #GamerGate target #3 — got a Tweet sent to her yesterday announcing that “respects is earn not shrilly demanded.”
Mangled grammar aside, this is an “argument” we hear a lot from misogynistic men as a way of explaining away their lack of respect for women as a gender. Wu thought this inadvertantly lollcatty version of this cliche was too good to let vanish in the internet ether, and suggested that the phrase “respects is earn” be immortalized in a meme.
Can someone make us a meme for, "Respects is earn?" pic.twitter.com/7aLGokbOwk
— Brianna Wu (@BriannaWu) November 17, 2014
And so it was. The cat above is @RobIsAWriter’s interpretation; here (after the bump) are a few more.
— christina #BlackLivesMatter #VoteNoToFacists (@cwodtke) November 17, 2014
— Jonathan Hardesty (@movieguyjon) November 17, 2014
— Ashley 🇨🇦🏳️🌈 Black Lives Matter (@beforeyouknowit) November 17, 2014
— SKENK (@CaelynEllis) November 17, 2014
— Jon Biles (@Redswipe) November 17, 2014
— Peter Durfee (@Durf) November 17, 2014
— …the.mojo.wire… (@themojowire) November 17, 2014
Obviously, Aretha Franklin needed to be a part of this:
— Jonathan 🏳️🌈 (@StingRay02) November 17, 2014
Even if we set aside the misogyny for a moment, it seems to me that “respect is earned” is a rather backward way of looking at it. Shouldn’t the default be respect instead of not respect? That is, shouldn’t we treat everyone with a basic level of respect to begin with, downgrading this only if the person in question says or does something that makes them less worthy of respect? And even then give them at least a minimal amount of respect for simply being human?
Oh, and before any #GGers get indignant about it, the @GGer who Tweeted “respects is earn” is clearly a native speaker of English; go through his timeline to see.(In some of his Tweets since this meme got going he’s deliberately using lolspeak.)
H/T — r/GamerGhazi