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Melbourne hotel boots pickup artist advocating emotional abuse and physical assault. #TakeDownJulienBlanc campaign continues

Julien Blanc, also known as RSD Julien, is a self-described “executive dating coach” seemingly without a conscience. In expensive seminars held in hotels around the world the Real Social Dynamics instructor teaches men to “Make Girls BEG To Sleep With You After SHORT-CIRCUITING Their Emotional And Logical Mind,” as his breathless promo material puts it.

What this means in practice? Manipulation, mind-fuckery and in some cases outright physical assault — none of which he makes any attempts to hide.

Indeed, a video Julien himself put out in September showed the “dating” guru working his particular magic on unsuspecting Japanese women — by putting them in headlocks and/or pushing their heads to his crotch.

In footage from one of his recent workshops, he told a roomful of hopeful creeps that in Tokyo,

if you’re a white male, you can do what you want. …  I’m just romping through the streets,just grabbing girls’ heads, just like, head, pfft on the dick.

After discovering a video featuring some of this footage — the one I’ve embedded at the top of this page —  feminist activist Jennifer Li set up a petition on Change.org urging the Como Melbourne hotel, and other hotels hosting Real Social Dynamics seminars, to boot Julian and his comrades, charging them with “[making] a living by teaching men how to violate women through physical and emotional abuse.”

Li also started up the hashtag #TakeDownJulienBlanc in order to spread the news and organize opposition to Julien’s seminars.

It worked. The video featuring Julien’s abusive tactics went viral, racking up a quarter million pageviews on YouTube, and the petition quickly garnered nearly fifteen thousand signatures.

And the Como Melbourne hotel listened:

[UPDATE: RSD quickly rescheduled the event at a different location.]

Li and the other #TakeDownJulienBlanc organizers are now aiming their sights on hotels hosting other RSD events in Seattle and Austin, Texas. Anonymous has also gotten into the action.

It’s easy to see why the  #TakeDownJulienBlanc campaign has spread so quickly. Pickup artists are a sleazy, manipulative and generally pretty amoral bunch  But “RSD Julien” takes PUA creepiness to a whole new level, teaching his acolytes a form of “pickup artistry” that bears a strong resemblance to domestic abuse.

In his promo material, he boasts that his approach is

Offensive, It’s Inappropriate, It’s Emotionally Scarring, BUT IT’S DAMN EFFECTIVE

He tries to pass this off as a joke, but it’s really not; his techniques are clearly abusive.

I pointed out some of his bizarre gaslighting tricks in a post last year. But if anything he seems to have gotten worse since then.

Indeed, Julien recently Tweeted a picture of the Duluth Power and Control wheel, a tool used by anti-DV activists to highlight abusive behavior, declaring it to be a handy “checklist” of techniques to use to “MakeHerStay.” (Another sleazeball pickup guru I’ve written about a lot, Heartiste, also claims to have found inspiration in the Duluth wheel.)

And then there’s what Julien calls the “Choke Opener,” which he has documented in a series of pics showing him with his hand around the throats of assorted women, all of which he’s helpfully tagged with #ChokingGirlsAroundTheWorld.

rsdchokeAs Julien sees it, these, er, pickup techniques enable men to, as he declares in all-caps on his site, to

DEVELOP PANTY-DROPPING MASCULINITY WITH THIS ROCK-SOLID STRUCTURE TO SELF-GENERATE THE POWERFUL EMOTIONS GIRLS CRAVE

Well, he’s generated some powerful emotions, all right, though I don’t think anger and disgust were the ones he was going for.

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cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I protest french toast on the grounds that it tastes too much of eggs.

marinerachel
marinerachel
10 years ago

I adore good French toast. A lot of French toast is not good French toast. Some is soggy, some is eggy, neither is acceptable.

Kim
Kim
10 years ago

@gilshalos

tell me more of these real hash browns. I doubt I’ve actually had real ones, though the hashbrowns I have had have been good. Is there a recipe? Or is it a particular brand?

@Pallygirl
You could always move to Australia. They took away our fireworks long ago.

@Shaun Day
I don’t like coffee with flavour – mostly I think because coffee with sugar in it takes yuck to me. I am good with cold flavoured coffee though because that is essentially a caffeinated milkshake.

Also, scones. With jam and double cream.

msplasmatic
10 years ago

The amazing Asher Wolf is live tweeting the protest that is currently underway.

https://twitter.com/Asher_Wolf

(sorry, I’m kind of new so still not sure about the link protocols, but yes, this is my home town and am super proud of the quick response of everybody here to make this dude and his supporters painfully aware of just how unwelcome their views and practices are.)

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

So the PUAs ran off to hide on a boat? Needs more pics.

msplasmatic
10 years ago

Lol, you seriously can not make this shit up.

pallygirl
pallygirl
10 years ago

I got a shout-out to this video, not sure if anyone has posted. Language NSFW. Cool piercings.

http://youtu.be/yQ9n5wPFi7g

kittehserf - MOD
10 years ago

I wish we had banned the damn things apart from professional displays. I assume that tonight people will still be letting them off until 11.30pm.

Wouldn’t do any good. We banned the bloody things years ago, but you still get gobshites letting them off. I’m amazed nobody tried it around here last night.

msplasmatic – hi from another Melburnian, thanks for posting that link! 🙂

Kim
Kim
10 years ago

OK, I’ve never had a real hashbrown then. I will have to try making some, because that looks fantastic.

mildlymagnificent
10 years ago

I adore good French toast. A lot of French toast is not good French toast. Some is soggy, some is eggy, neither is acceptable.

One of my favourite cafes does a fabulous breakfast of French toast with grilled Beurre Bosch pears (the brown ones). (They serve it to most people with maple syrup but I hate the awful stuff.) It’s divine.

katz
10 years ago

PUA conference that turns into boat chase is the best thing I’ve seen all day.

Kim
Kim
10 years ago

Does it end with the boat being chopped to pieces by a huge propeller like in Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade?

Shaun DarthBatman Day
10 years ago

Potato pancakes! Finely grate potato (and squeeze to drain as much liquid as possible) and apple, add finely minced onion and extra finely minced garlic, toss with flour (pea flour is absolutely the best for these), shape into pancakes, fry slowly until nicely browned and serve with apple sauce and sour cream. MMMMMMMmmmmmmmmmmmmm……..

I know the combo seems odd, but it works so well. I think I’m making this for supper now. With bacon and eggs because reasons.

twincats
twincats
10 years ago

A. Noyd:

It’s probably not a cultural difference but employees not getting paid enough to deal with that shit and a matter of cost of enforcement to the company.

Yeah, I know this was pages ago, still catching up and all. As a U.S. retail wage slave of over ten years, I can tell you that in most retail environments, trying to intervene in shoplifting beyond being a deterrent (as in asking if shoplifter ‘needs help finding anything’ to ‘let them know they’ve been noticed’) is actively discouraged by policy. In fact, it can get you fired. Which would be fine and all if not for the “40% of retail theft is done by store employees” trope. Even though we are *required* to report suspected co-workers and we can’t leave work without a bag check, I’ve only heard about maybe three people being fired for theft.

Also, I want to go to Kim’s for penguin-shaped waffles! No worries, Kim, I’m a totally unaffordable 12-hour plane ride away.

Chronic lurker
Chronic lurker
10 years ago

Damn it, now I need to go down to the Waffle House. This discussion is making me crave delicious breakfast food.

strivingally
10 years ago

Kirsty Mac blooged about being part of the protest. It seems the boat never even got away from the pier. Damn shame that.

Bina
Bina
10 years ago

No hotel in Melbourne would take them. They had to meet in secret. Their boat never left Southbank dock and their seminar was cut short and completely distracted by chanting.

W00t! Faith in humanity majorly boosted!

Way to go, Melbourne!

msplasmatic
10 years ago

kittehserf: Hiya!

Also, I love waffles but Australia doesn’t seem to waffle enough…..it’s a bloody outrage, it is! I remember the Pancake Parlour used to do really delicious ones with this chocolate fudge sauce, but then they took them away 🙁

Waffles. Always waffles.

A. Noyd
A. Noyd
10 years ago

twincats sez:

I can tell you that in most retail environments, trying to intervene in shoplifting beyond being a deterrent […] is actively discouraged by policy. In fact, it can get you fired. Which would be fine and all if not for the “40% of retail theft is done by store employees” trope.

How typical and ridiculous. Why do we like capitalism so much again?

Skye
Skye
10 years ago

RSD being forced to do the seminar on a boat and do a walk of shame past cameras and protesters is simply beautiful. Made my day.

Skye
Skye
10 years ago

Where I worked retail, we were allowed to call the cops for shoplifters but were not supposed to physically intervene. To be honest, this policy seemed to make sense from a ‘don’t get injured over stolen junk’ perspective.

booburry
10 years ago

How does everyone feel about hollandaise sauce? I finally tried it recently and am slightly addicted/worried about it solidifying my arteries.

booburry
10 years ago

Where I worked retail, we were allowed to call the cops for shoplifters but were not supposed to physically intervene. To be honest, this policy seemed to make sense from a ‘don’t get injured over stolen junk’ perspective.

I think it also has to do with insurance. I had a manager overstep one time when someone was shoplifting and he got fired because of it. I imagine the stores aren’t so evil as to not care about you getting hurt over merchandise but I think they are more worried about getting sued or something like that.

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

Jezebel just wrote about this and the gross PUAs are all over the comments section. I kind of feel like puking now. http://jezebel.com/julien-blanc-fans-ladies-are-just-mad-because-pickup-a-1655568103/all

I’m glad they’re there and not here though!

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