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Melbourne hotel boots pickup artist advocating emotional abuse and physical assault. #TakeDownJulienBlanc campaign continues

Julien Blanc, also known as RSD Julien, is a self-described “executive dating coach” seemingly without a conscience. In expensive seminars held in hotels around the world the Real Social Dynamics instructor teaches men to “Make Girls BEG To Sleep With You After SHORT-CIRCUITING Their Emotional And Logical Mind,” as his breathless promo material puts it.

What this means in practice? Manipulation, mind-fuckery and in some cases outright physical assault — none of which he makes any attempts to hide.

Indeed, a video Julien himself put out in September showed the “dating” guru working his particular magic on unsuspecting Japanese women — by putting them in headlocks and/or pushing their heads to his crotch.

In footage from one of his recent workshops, he told a roomful of hopeful creeps that in Tokyo,

if you’re a white male, you can do what you want. …  I’m just romping through the streets,just grabbing girls’ heads, just like, head, pfft on the dick.

After discovering a video featuring some of this footage — the one I’ve embedded at the top of this page —  feminist activist Jennifer Li set up a petition on Change.org urging the Como Melbourne hotel, and other hotels hosting Real Social Dynamics seminars, to boot Julian and his comrades, charging them with “[making] a living by teaching men how to violate women through physical and emotional abuse.”

Li also started up the hashtag #TakeDownJulienBlanc in order to spread the news and organize opposition to Julien’s seminars.

It worked. The video featuring Julien’s abusive tactics went viral, racking up a quarter million pageviews on YouTube, and the petition quickly garnered nearly fifteen thousand signatures.

And the Como Melbourne hotel listened:

[UPDATE: RSD quickly rescheduled the event at a different location.]

Li and the other #TakeDownJulienBlanc organizers are now aiming their sights on hotels hosting other RSD events in Seattle and Austin, Texas. Anonymous has also gotten into the action.

It’s easy to see why the  #TakeDownJulienBlanc campaign has spread so quickly. Pickup artists are a sleazy, manipulative and generally pretty amoral bunch  But “RSD Julien” takes PUA creepiness to a whole new level, teaching his acolytes a form of “pickup artistry” that bears a strong resemblance to domestic abuse.

In his promo material, he boasts that his approach is

Offensive, It’s Inappropriate, It’s Emotionally Scarring, BUT IT’S DAMN EFFECTIVE

He tries to pass this off as a joke, but it’s really not; his techniques are clearly abusive.

I pointed out some of his bizarre gaslighting tricks in a post last year. But if anything he seems to have gotten worse since then.

Indeed, Julien recently Tweeted a picture of the Duluth Power and Control wheel, a tool used by anti-DV activists to highlight abusive behavior, declaring it to be a handy “checklist” of techniques to use to “MakeHerStay.” (Another sleazeball pickup guru I’ve written about a lot, Heartiste, also claims to have found inspiration in the Duluth wheel.)

And then there’s what Julien calls the “Choke Opener,” which he has documented in a series of pics showing him with his hand around the throats of assorted women, all of which he’s helpfully tagged with #ChokingGirlsAroundTheWorld.

rsdchokeAs Julien sees it, these, er, pickup techniques enable men to, as he declares in all-caps on his site, to

DEVELOP PANTY-DROPPING MASCULINITY WITH THIS ROCK-SOLID STRUCTURE TO SELF-GENERATE THE POWERFUL EMOTIONS GIRLS CRAVE

Well, he’s generated some powerful emotions, all right, though I don’t think anger and disgust were the ones he was going for.

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Kim
Kim
10 years ago

Waffles are better than pancakes.

thebewilderness
thebewilderness
10 years ago

Waffles are the correct food to eat. Pancakes are round sponges.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

TEAM PANCAKE 4 LYFE.

contrapangloss
10 years ago

Belgian Waffles with Strawberries > Pancakes >>>> My sad little griddle’s version of Waffles

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

I like caramel flavored coffee.

contrapangloss
10 years ago

Pancakes are more delicious than all but the bestest of waffles.

kittehserf - MOD
10 years ago

Only time I’ve eaten waffles was on Catalina Island. Pancakes are more common here.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Salted caramel coffee is my favorite.

thebewilderness
thebewilderness
10 years ago

I was one of those kids who ate the crust of the bread and left the yucky center so waffles were obviously invented with my sort in mind. All crust and no yucky center.

Kim
Kim
10 years ago

I have a waffle maker that makes waffles in the shape of penguins.

Lee
Lee
10 years ago

I really wanted pancakes earlier today. I should have done that for dinner instead of getting a boring old sub. 😛

Policy of Madness
Policy of Madness
10 years ago

Gingerbread pancakes. I made them this morning.

emilygoddess - MOD
emilygoddess - MOD
10 years ago

Is there some sort of Tell Us Your Kinks When No One’s Asked drive going on lately that I missed a memo on? NO 1 CURR.

On threads about actual rape and assault, no less. There’s normal kinkster oversharing, and then there’s these assholes.

emilygoddess - MOD
emilygoddess - MOD
10 years ago

Goddamn, now I want pancakes.

Policy of Madness
Policy of Madness
10 years ago

If you came to my place, I would stuff you full of pancakes. I love making pancakes. 😀

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

Mmm, I never had salted caramel coffee before, hellkell. Sounds awesome.

Devin Parker
10 years ago

*gasp!* Pancakes! That sounds pretty good right now.

I have these molds I bought on sale a year ago that let you make pancakes in the shapes of X-Wings, TIE Fighters, Millennium Falcons and Death Stars. Tried them once, but messed them up terribly – they stuck to the molds, or bubbled out underneath them, or got burnt. I still haven’t figured out the right way to employ pancake molds…

emilygoddess - MOD
emilygoddess - MOD
10 years ago

While everyone else was squeeing over pumpkin spice latte season, I’ve been counting down the days to salted caramel hot chocolate season. It’s the only thing that makes me WANT to go to Starbucks.

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

Maybe if you sprayed them with Pam?

Policy of Madness
Policy of Madness
10 years ago

@Devin Parker

Get a silicone basting brush and some peanut oil. Heat up the mold and use the brush to smoosh oil around in them until they are slick. Then pour in batter. Re-oil whenever you remove a pancake before you pour in another one.

Policy of Madness
Policy of Madness
10 years ago

Obviously if you are allergic to peanuts, some other oil would be needed, but peanut has a really high smoke point and is slicker than snot, and it imparts zero flavor to the food.

AL3H
AL3H
10 years ago

Team crepes reporting!!! They are delicious, especially folded up with with icecream, sliced strawberries and chocolate sauce … although I wouldn’t turn down a breakfast pancake with butter or a nice waffle.

grumpyoldnurse
grumpyoldnurse
10 years ago

I drink my coffee at home black, but when I go out for coffee, it’s salted caramel all the way.

Pancakes, waffles, crepes, French toast, meh, it’s all good. And by good, I mean nom nom nom nom.

kittehserf - MOD
10 years ago

Oooh yes, crepes. I like them even better than pancakes.

Can’t have any of that right now but toast with melted cheese is doing nicely …

Kim
Kim
10 years ago

My weekend coffee place does the best french toast with apples and cinammon and cream and maple syrup. Though it varies in quality because it’s not always the same chef.

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