Julien Blanc, also known as RSD Julien, is a self-described “executive dating coach” seemingly without a conscience. In expensive seminars held in hotels around the world the Real Social Dynamics instructor teaches men to “Make Girls BEG To Sleep With You After SHORT-CIRCUITING Their Emotional And Logical Mind,” as his breathless promo material puts it.
What this means in practice? Manipulation, mind-fuckery and in some cases outright physical assault — none of which he makes any attempts to hide.
Indeed, a video Julien himself put out in September showed the “dating” guru working his particular magic on unsuspecting Japanese women — by putting them in headlocks and/or pushing their heads to his crotch.
In footage from one of his recent workshops, he told a roomful of hopeful creeps that in Tokyo,
if you’re a white male, you can do what you want. … I’m just romping through the streets,just grabbing girls’ heads, just like, head, pfft on the dick.
After discovering a video featuring some of this footage — the one I’ve embedded at the top of this page — feminist activist Jennifer Li set up a petition on Change.org urging the Como Melbourne hotel, and other hotels hosting Real Social Dynamics seminars, to boot Julian and his comrades, charging them with “[making] a living by teaching men how to violate women through physical and emotional abuse.”
Li also started up the hashtag #TakeDownJulienBlanc in order to spread the news and organize opposition to Julien’s seminars.
It worked. The video featuring Julien’s abusive tactics went viral, racking up a quarter million pageviews on YouTube, and the petition quickly garnered nearly fifteen thousand signatures.
And the Como Melbourne hotel listened:
Following an objective review, we are in the process of advising Real Social Dynamics of our decision not to proceed as their event venue.
— The Como Melbourne (@ComoMelbourne) November 4, 2014
[UPDATE: RSD quickly rescheduled the event at a different location.]
Li and the other #TakeDownJulienBlanc organizers are now aiming their sights on hotels hosting other RSD events in Seattle and Austin, Texas. Anonymous has also gotten into the action.
It’s easy to see why the #TakeDownJulienBlanc campaign has spread so quickly. Pickup artists are a sleazy, manipulative and generally pretty amoral bunch But “RSD Julien” takes PUA creepiness to a whole new level, teaching his acolytes a form of “pickup artistry” that bears a strong resemblance to domestic abuse.
In his promo material, he boasts that his approach is
Offensive, It’s Inappropriate, It’s Emotionally Scarring, BUT IT’S DAMN EFFECTIVE
He tries to pass this off as a joke, but it’s really not; his techniques are clearly abusive.
I pointed out some of his bizarre gaslighting tricks in a post last year. But if anything he seems to have gotten worse since then.
Indeed, Julien recently Tweeted a picture of the Duluth Power and Control wheel, a tool used by anti-DV activists to highlight abusive behavior, declaring it to be a handy “checklist” of techniques to use to “MakeHerStay.” (Another sleazeball pickup guru I’ve written about a lot, Heartiste, also claims to have found inspiration in the Duluth wheel.)
And then there’s what Julien calls the “Choke Opener,” which he has documented in a series of pics showing him with his hand around the throats of assorted women, all of which he’s helpfully tagged with #ChokingGirlsAroundTheWorld.
As Julien sees it, these, er, pickup techniques enable men to, as he declares in all-caps on his site, to
DEVELOP PANTY-DROPPING MASCULINITY WITH THIS ROCK-SOLID STRUCTURE TO SELF-GENERATE THE POWERFUL EMOTIONS GIRLS CRAVE
Well, he’s generated some powerful emotions, all right, though I don’t think anger and disgust were the ones he was going for.
I’d like to just put my “I’m sorry you went through that” to everyone on this thread abused or assaulted or not helped by the police. Barrel of hugs if anyone wants one.
Oh God, look what the Daily Mail published in June of this year:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2672287/Meet-pick-artist-charges-men-3-000-learn-secret-tricks-work.html#article-2672287
Yikes. I saw an excerpt from that over at freethoughtblogs, but I never actually read through the thing. It’s the Daily Mail, so I’ll ad hominem away, but I honestly can’t tell what the tone of the piece is supposed to be. The “techniques “didn’t work for the writer (apparently), but he seems to paint it as a reflection of his own failings rather than of the technique. It’s almost like a product review.
The best comment I remember was from someone who said something along the lines of “If you feel extremely awkward about interrupting a woman’s day to try to chat her up and sleep with her, maybe it’s because you recognize that it’s wrong.”
kirbywarp sez:
Like alternative medicine. For tragically neglected wangs.
@saphy, sounds like something http://everydayvictimblaming.com/ (@EVB_now on twitter) might be interested to see and might help you to take action on.
@A. Noyd:
Oh god, now you’ve got me imaging a shouty infomercial for PUAs.
“ARE YOU TIRED OF WOMEN NOT TOUCHING YOUR WANG? INTRODUCING… PUA! A PATENTED SYSTEM GUARANTEED TO MAKE WOMEN TOUCH YOUR WANG! JUST LISTEN TO THESE TESTICAMONIALS!”
“I always found approaching random women on the street in the off chance they might want to shag terrifying and awkward. But now, thanks to PUA, I don’t. Thanks PUA!”
“I tried PUA last night, and after six hours I finally got a woman to give me her number. My wang is going to be touched tonight!”
“I recommend PUA to all my friends with untouched wangs. It’s the perfect gift for the holidays!”
“PUA WILL INCREASE YOUR CONFIDENCE, DECREASE YOUR SHAME AND EMPATHY, AND GET YOUR WANG TOUCHED! CALL TODAY!”
warning:PUAmaycontaincoercionabusesexualassaultorrape.Possiblesideeffectsmayincludealcoholinthefaceslappingnauseaupsetstomachdegredationofinterpersonalskillsandbecomingahugedouchebag.ContactyourdoctorifPUAlastsmorethanthethreesecondsneededtoconcludeitiscompletebullshitandthescourgeofthedatingworld.
“ORDER PUA TODAY, BECAUSE WITH PUA, YOUR WANG WILL BE TOUCHED TODAY!”
@Shaun DarthBatman Day: Thanks. That mental image was extremely entertaining. He would really hate that.
@kirbywarp
Hahahahaha! Love the warning.
@Fibinachi
People would rather fantasize about teaching those abusive creep a real lesson with violence and pretend that there are sensible, doable steps all women can do to avoid being a victim. Apparently willful delusion is empowering.
“Wallowing in victimhood”?
Kevin, consider this your official mod “fuck you”. The only reason I haven’t screened your crap is that I don’t have my modly powers on my phone. But I have emailed David and advised him to mod you until you cut your victim-blaming, mansplaining bullshit.
Kevin, this is another mod warning. You’re well on the way to being moderated on this thread at the very least.
Stop ignoring women’s experiences. Stop telling us what to do. Stop telling us what the reality is for female assault victims. Stop pretending police do their jobs and don’t further victimise women in too many instances. Stop pretending there’s no risk of women being raped BY police they call.
Shut the fuck up, leave this thread, and go think very hard about the male privilege and mansplaining you’re displaying here.
Kevin, the mods warned you, you didn’t listen. you’re banned.
They can’t hide it long, can they?
Didn’t Kevin have a few close calls with this before, or am I thinking of someone else?
‘as a white male, you can do what you want’
Hmmmm
I’m white myself, but I happen to think east asian men are more attractive than white men. I would be sexually aroused if random chinese or Japanese men grabbed me in the street, but I am also into BDSM and I’m not normal.
I’m sorry Julien but you don’t give me the tingles.
Lee, yes, he had.
Honestly? Any random man chinese or japanese? That is literally all that matters?
Thank you, creepy cupcake, but we are not in need of further updates from your libido at this time.
From mansplaining to libido updates. What a thread this is.
Yeah, we could really do without anyone’s explicit boner updates, whatever their sex, kthnx.
Racist fetishising updates no less.
… I’m going to submit an “I like pancakes” to this thread.
Not in the “My libido likes pancakes” way, but in the “pancakes are delicious and I am hungry” sort of way.
And in the “I want to avoid further libido updates” kind of way.
Pancakes are particularly good with sliced banana and syrup.
Christ this topic is bad enough without Kevin’s bullshit. Kevin, have fun fucking off forever.
As to the OP, if some guy choked me, I’d hopefully remember to punch him so I could get away. How is this asshole with no social skills not in jail?
Is there some sort of Tell Us Your Kinks When No One’s Asked drive going on lately that I missed a memo on? NO 1 CURR.
Pancakes! I had pancakes with caramelised bananas, strawberries and honey last week.
nom nom nom