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Melbourne hotel boots pickup artist advocating emotional abuse and physical assault. #TakeDownJulienBlanc campaign continues

Julien Blanc, also known as RSD Julien, is a self-described “executive dating coach” seemingly without a conscience. In expensive seminars held in hotels around the world the Real Social Dynamics instructor teaches men to “Make Girls BEG To Sleep With You After SHORT-CIRCUITING Their Emotional And Logical Mind,” as his breathless promo material puts it.

What this means in practice? Manipulation, mind-fuckery and in some cases outright physical assault — none of which he makes any attempts to hide.

Indeed, a video Julien himself put out in September showed the “dating” guru working his particular magic on unsuspecting Japanese women — by putting them in headlocks and/or pushing their heads to his crotch.

In footage from one of his recent workshops, he told a roomful of hopeful creeps that in Tokyo,

if you’re a white male, you can do what you want. …  I’m just romping through the streets,just grabbing girls’ heads, just like, head, pfft on the dick.

After discovering a video featuring some of this footage — the one I’ve embedded at the top of this page —  feminist activist Jennifer Li set up a petition on Change.org urging the Como Melbourne hotel, and other hotels hosting Real Social Dynamics seminars, to boot Julian and his comrades, charging them with “[making] a living by teaching men how to violate women through physical and emotional abuse.”

Li also started up the hashtag #TakeDownJulienBlanc in order to spread the news and organize opposition to Julien’s seminars.

It worked. The video featuring Julien’s abusive tactics went viral, racking up a quarter million pageviews on YouTube, and the petition quickly garnered nearly fifteen thousand signatures.

And the Como Melbourne hotel listened:

[UPDATE: RSD quickly rescheduled the event at a different location.]

Li and the other #TakeDownJulienBlanc organizers are now aiming their sights on hotels hosting other RSD events in Seattle and Austin, Texas. Anonymous has also gotten into the action.

It’s easy to see why the  #TakeDownJulienBlanc campaign has spread so quickly. Pickup artists are a sleazy, manipulative and generally pretty amoral bunch  But “RSD Julien” takes PUA creepiness to a whole new level, teaching his acolytes a form of “pickup artistry” that bears a strong resemblance to domestic abuse.

In his promo material, he boasts that his approach is

Offensive, It’s Inappropriate, It’s Emotionally Scarring, BUT IT’S DAMN EFFECTIVE

He tries to pass this off as a joke, but it’s really not; his techniques are clearly abusive.

I pointed out some of his bizarre gaslighting tricks in a post last year. But if anything he seems to have gotten worse since then.

Indeed, Julien recently Tweeted a picture of the Duluth Power and Control wheel, a tool used by anti-DV activists to highlight abusive behavior, declaring it to be a handy “checklist” of techniques to use to “MakeHerStay.” (Another sleazeball pickup guru I’ve written about a lot, Heartiste, also claims to have found inspiration in the Duluth wheel.)

And then there’s what Julien calls the “Choke Opener,” which he has documented in a series of pics showing him with his hand around the throats of assorted women, all of which he’s helpfully tagged with #ChokingGirlsAroundTheWorld.

rsdchokeAs Julien sees it, these, er, pickup techniques enable men to, as he declares in all-caps on his site, to

DEVELOP PANTY-DROPPING MASCULINITY WITH THIS ROCK-SOLID STRUCTURE TO SELF-GENERATE THE POWERFUL EMOTIONS GIRLS CRAVE

Well, he’s generated some powerful emotions, all right, though I don’t think anger and disgust were the ones he was going for.

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Zolnier
Zolnier
10 years ago

I’m feeling quite proud to be an Australian right now. Now all we need to is legalise gay marriage, which for some reason our last prime minister, a childless agnostic coinhabiting with a man she wasn’t married to, was against because it wasn’t “traditional”.

Lea
Lea
10 years ago

Another asshole who thinks assaulting women makes him a Real Man.

What a disgusting person.

He should do some time for this.

titianblue
titianblue
10 years ago

So this guy is going around filming himself sexually assaulting women? What a charmer.

ddan
ddan
10 years ago

Damn it damn it. This is so sad and horrify to see!

KR
KR
10 years ago

You have a typo in the activist’s name – in the 5th paragraph (after Blanc’s first blockquote) it’s “Lin” but later it’s “Li”.

BarnBurner
BarnBurner
10 years ago

There must be a connection to Paul Elam and crew somewhere. Maybe its MGTOW with passports…

Howard
Howard
10 years ago

At least he has the courtesy to document his crimes.

Emmy Rae
Emmy Rae
10 years ago

He does say women have logical minds, so he’s more progressive than some of the “writers” whose work you’ve featured on this site.

estraven
estraven
10 years ago

I just don’t understand why I’m not cynical enough yet to be horrified at this kind of thing.

estraven
estraven
10 years ago

*not* be horrified

idledillettante
10 years ago

God damn PUAs are the worst. Mike Cernovich wrote a bunch of blog posts about choking women as well on his fitness site, even to the point of unconsciousness. These dudes come off like serial rapists, all of them.

Full disclosure: I briefly dated a PUA last May and hated it. Wouldn’t kiss me & played cell phone games at the restaurant.

sorceressensorcelled
sorceressensorcelled
10 years ago

He says that “girls crave” this sort of behavior… Is he too stupid to understand how abuse works, or is he being deliberately hurtful because he knows how it works and will do anything to get laid?

My money’s on the latter…

idledillettante
10 years ago

You know; this fellow also reminds me of Sam Pepper, the guy Laci Green took down on Youtube for groping women in public as a “prank”; and all of those other dudes who saw Pepper’s video and made copycat tapes.

How many of these assholes are there, man?

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

Yeah, too bad many women are socialized not to make a fuss in public. Also, he’s picking on the young, he even calls them girls. These assholes love vulnerability. But sooner or later he’s going to get punched. Hell, he probably already was.

idledillettante
10 years ago

sorcerer: That’s a cornerstone of PUA rhetoric; women subconsciously crave being dominated/assaulted/choked and doing it against their will will unlock some kinda animal sexual mindset. It’s a way of making superfluous actual consent. What’s worse is they back it up with BDSM; which they don’t practice. If they did they’d know good BDSM is all about consent.

Elektra Kenway
10 years ago

Since English is not my native language, I ignored what “gaslighting” meant (we just call it “deniers” in Spanish, I guess), so I looked for it… and got triggered really bad.
It’s what my abuser did to me even while I was in the hospital, barely alive. I escaped that hell only 1 year ago.

I only hope this guy… gets caught or stopped or something so he can’t hurt anyone again, because I’m sure he can be a lot worse than this.

I hope he’s exposed everywhere so every person on Earth knows what he’s like and everyone stays away from him to keep themselves safe.

I don’t wish that on anyone.

grumpyoldnurse
10 years ago

A shout out to the Como Melbourne Hotel. Booting this creep was truly righteous!

OT; does Australia need nurses?

titianblue
titianblue
10 years ago

Sorry you got triggered by this, Elektra Kenway. Jedi hugs if you want them.

titianblue
titianblue
10 years ago

Anyone else seeing similarities between this and the accusations agains Jian Ghomeshi?

grumpyoldnurse
10 years ago

@ Elektra Kenway – Really glad that you escaped. I also sincerely hope that you are staying safe and strong.

I haven’t even watched the posted video, as I suspect that I would be triggered, too. This guy is vile, and the fact that other creeps are willing to pay him to learn how to up their creep skills is so far beyond the pale that I really need to get a copy of “How to Even for Dummies”.

grumpyoldnurse
10 years ago

@ titianblue – everything in that sewer smells pretty much the same to me, so, yeah. Creepy creeps are creepy.

BarnBurner
BarnBurner
10 years ago

Sam Pepper is evil. One of his ‘friends’ likes to mock and cheapen American women:
http://youtu.be/bWxT08QfRUw

grumpyoldnurse
10 years ago

@ BarnBurner – All the ewwwwww! Also yuck.

Is it too late for me to take Little Ms.Grump and move her to a feminist utopian island somewhere? Naw, that wouldn’t work because I’d hate to leave Mr.Grump and MasterGrump at home (they’re good guys).

AltoFronto
AltoFronto
10 years ago

Ugh, there are so many disgusting layers to this man’s behaviour.

It’s awful – the women in that video are clearly shocked and uncomfortable. That cashier looks as though her mind is racing through whether she can do anything to make this creep stop touching her.

Not to mention just how fucking racist it is that he thinks the “pikachu” and “tamagotchi” are the only words he needs to communicate with people in Japanese.
Some dude comes up to you, repeatedly says the name of a children’s TV character, and grabs you by the neck? I know I’d be too surprised to struggle much.
Anyone who isn’t concerned about acting this inappropriately in public is clearly fucking dangerous.

I can say with 100% certainty that this man has raped somebody before. Other people’s boundaries are not something he acknowledges. He doesn’t think verbal communication is necessary at all. He ignores his victims’ obvious fear. He thinks the universal gesture of “I’m attempting to murder you right now” is a chat-up line…..

EW EW EW EW EWWWW!!!!

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

Ugh. This asshat probably looks up to BTK as a role model. Disgusting.

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