There are a lot of good reasons why the words “creepy” and “expat” end up together so often. But sometimes the word “creepy” really isn’t strong enough.
Take the latest post on Random Xpat Rantings, the blog of an especially creepy 50-something expat living in Bali. “Xplat’s” posts are almost always skin-crawlingly awful, but he’s really outdone himself with a sexually explicit ode to cross-generational, er, “romance” titled “The value of being the center of religious devotion.”
He’s not big on self-awareness, this guy.
He starts off with this doozy:
Many people, men included, can’t seem to wrap their minds around why on earth a man would date a teenager 30 years younger than himself.
No, I think pretty much everyone knows why you’re “dating” a teenager – in a country with a per-capita income one-fifteenth that of the United States.
An 18 year old is capable of extreme crushes, and can be brought into a religious reverie of constant devotion towards her man.
Like I said, he’s not big on self-awareness.
Especially if she’s given regular doses of intense sex. Intense physically, erotically, emotionally, violently, romantically, exhibitionously, and any other ly. Just intense experience in which it feels as if you share the same emotional and physical worlds.
Exhibitionously? (Not a real word.) Violently?
After some vaguely Buddhist pseudo-profundities on the nature of “love,” he launches into a grotesque and explicit discussion of how the young woman he calls “N18” pleasures him sexually “with frenzied devotion.” We’ll just skip past that and move on to this:
I am the center of her world, and when we are together you will see her spend all her attention on trying to make me happy. I don’t dole out love constantly, but she relishes each burst of it, and patiently waits around for the next dose.
His hot-and-cold approach to doling out “love” is of course a classic abuser tactic.
This is not just a matter of blow jobs on command. This is loving devoted passionate blow jobs.
That’s why an older man would date an 18 year old. Because they make excellent devoted sex slaves.
I’m speechless.
Even after four years of writing about the “manosphere” I’m still amazed and appalled by the ways these guys manage to outdo themselves in awfullness.
Sounds like some SE Asian Muslim guy who’s pissed that rich non-Muslim foreigners not only come and take “their” women but also do it in a highly promiscuous manner, “spoiling” a relatively large number of women. IDK know if he doesn’t see a problem in age/power disparity, or if he just doesn’t have the language for expressing that.
Maybe he thought being polite would be the most effective way to make a statement. Or maybe that’s a local way of expressing “Go back to America you [ethno-religious slur], you should be hung by balls.”
Fortunately this asshole doesn’t get a lot of commenters, but there’s one comment on the OP that almost made me hopeful until it went off the rails. It starts off hoping that God will forgive Xsplat…for his promiscuous race-mixing, of course. Apparently God is cool with this guy abusing teenagers, as long as they’re the right race. *shudder*
Or, like predators who operate in their homelands, they simply don’t go around announcing that they’re predators. How many times have we seen the friends and neighbors of an accused rapist say “but he’s so nice!” and “he’s just a normal guy”?
It’s almost impossible not to mix with other expats, in a place where there aren’t very many of you. The predators are there, they’re just playing nice in front of the people who they know won’t approve.
Ah, it warms the very cockles of my heart when I hear two bigots arguing with each other. It also makes me pleased as punch when a white racist encounters racism from another race and is shocked…shocked!…to find that not everyone considers Western culture to be superior.
On the other hand, I don’t want this guy pursuing white women (or, more accurately, white teenage girls since they seem to be more his type) anymore than I want him pursuing Indonesian women (or Indonesian teenage girls, as seems to be the case in reality).
Today in racism http://gawker.com/django-unchained-actress-mistaken-for-prostitute-accos-1634555094 Apparently the only reason a black woman and a white man would be kissing is if she’s a sex worker :/
WWTH, I just…can’t….even…Ugh!
Handcuffed and thrown in a police car for kissing her husband.
I am so ashamed of my country. And so pissed off at people who say there’s no more racism in the USA. Really?
Nice to know that police can accost you, handcuff you, and throw you in a police car without having to keep any record of the incident.
Or for kissing–well–anyone who comments to be kissed by the kisser?
Comparing this scum bag to pubic lice is insulting to the pubic lice. Pubic lice at least are only following their instinct to survive. This asshole is more comparable to a weasel, the only animal that maims and kills for pleasure other than a human.
Bogdan: far from the only one. Domestic cats, domestic dogs, orcas, chimps…
I think the problem is is he’s a peculiarly human kind of atrocity, no matter how much we wish he weren’t. Man, is, after all, the rationalizing animal.
From David:
“Off topic, but is anyone having trouble getting to WHTM? Say, getting security messages saying the site has been “reported as unsafe,” the reason given being that you’ll be “exposed to malicious links or payloads?”
Yes, when I was at work earlier in the week. I got the “Reported as unsafe message,” which was weird. At home, no problem.
I wasn’t actually angry at what the cops did there. At least she’s not dead or beaten for kissing a White man, which is a step up in my book. I am kinda pissed off at the assumptions of the buttswipe that called the police in the first place. I guess in their mind, the only possible reason any White man would kiss a Black woman is if he were paying her money. I just know when I see people kissing in public I don’t automatically assume that one of them is a sex worker.
The police can at least be looked at as acting on what they were told and did the usual overreaction. (Admittedly, my bar for police behaviour is pretty damned low.)
MrE! Welcome! Do you have a chemise du jour?
I’ve had no trouble accessing the site.
I’d say there is at most a 1% this guy is shunning the other expats. It seems likely that he has zero interest in real friendship or engagement with the locals, so who else could he socialize with?
On Firefox, I’ve had no trouble connecting.
Yeah, no problems here, using Firefox/Win7.
Dude…I’m just a rent-a-cop, and I can tell she’s not a prostitute.
Not that I would really care if she was, other than to worry about her safety, because sex work is a dangerous, nasty job.
…Ugh. I’d call the cops involved jackasses, but male donkeys are actually sweet animals.
May he fall suddenly and completely and incurably impotent, and may all the Viagra/Cialis/Levitra/whatever in the world prove ineffective against it. And may his urologist be just as stumped as he is. Failing that, may he fall naked facedown on a floor full of Legos.
PS to David: Nope, no problems here, even with my hopelessly out of date Firefox.
Slight change of subject, but Cracked released another great article attacking bad causes (mostly MRA causes.) And the author seems to be a fan of this blog (he uses one of Daniel’s pics, and credits this page, on page 2, Question 5.)
http://www.cracked.com/quick-fixes/a-90-second-guide-to-determine-if-your-internet-cause-bs//?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=fanpage&utm_campaign=new+article&wa_ibsrc=fanpage
Say, getting security messages saying the site has been “reported as unsafe,” the reason given being that you’ll be “exposed to malicious links or payloads?”
In my experience, that usually means an adroll was acting as a malware vector.
Of course the comments on the Cracked post are full of whiny white dudes. Lots of “this used to be a good site but now you’re infected with SOCIAL JUSTICE WARRIORS! Nooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!”
Ikeke35… I mean, yeah I guess it’s good that nothing lethal happened to her (she did get a cut on wrist). But it still was really messed up and upseting and basically a clear case of racial profiling, you know?o
Yeah. (*le sigh*)
My complaint is more along the lines of a “smiling to keep from crying” sort of thing.
Well…fuck. 🙁